Illness and injury are part of the game Your best bet to getting back in the saddle is to pick up where you left off by keeping your mental game strong.

So long as you are still here it’s still your mother fucking set until you say it isn’t. This is your life and you create your own reality.

At some point men need to make a decision about being valued, whether that’s at work, in a relationship or at home. Stop settling for being just an ATM, the guy who works Saturdays all the time, or just someone that gets yelled at when shit goes sideways. If you do not like being there, then don’t. Others will value you, I promise.

In this episode I talk about making concessions, allowing others to treat you with disrespect and stopping those things from happening to you. Every time you allow these things to happen you are slowly killing you, your self esteem, self confidence and self worth. You have the power to change it.

When you start improving, it hurts and it sucks but you’re motivated. You have to start, sometimes over and over again but your starting point has changed. You start from the experience of your previous attempt. When you get better, your life gets better and those around you get better. You have better friends because your old friends have been left behind and you earn the respect of those now around you. BUT, you have to START doing, over an over if you must. One day at a time and 1% better at a time. Let’s get fucking to it!

On the path to self improvement you are going to lose some friends because you’re improving. That’s ok, there’s room for those who are like minded and on the same path. These are your new friends. **To my friends who love and support me. You know who you are and you are the best.

Forgiving your self is an intricate part of moving forward. You must forgive yourself for things you didn’t know, messed up or didn’t do right the first time. It’s ok to mess up or not know something but it isn’t ok to keep doing it. You have an obligation to do better. Forgiving yourself is the first step.

You can use negative self talk constructively by having your “feels” about yourself and then figuring out what the fuck you’re going to do about it. The trick is being specific with it and narrow it down past “I’m a loser”. Ask yourself some follow up questions - how are you a loser? Get specific and then figure out how you’re going to conquer it.

You can feel the pain and suffering of living a life worth remember or the pain of regret later. Life is about choices and the choice is solely yours. — short sidebar on decision making that I think you will enjoy.

Are you froze in fear, feel underserving or just feel overwhelmed with the amount of information in the manosphere or in general? Take a listen on how to solve that puzzle.