Every nonprofit wants more new donors. Patrick Kirby thinks that is exactly the problem. The people who already love your mission are where your major gifts, your bequests, and your steadiest support come from, and they are the ones we keep ignoring.
In this episode, Rob Burke sits down with Patrick Kirby, founder of Do Good Better Consulting and author of Fundraise Like a Fifth Grader. After 20 years helping nonprofits "suck less at fundraising," Patrick makes the case for going back to the basics: real human connection, one question almost no one asks their donors, and a phone call with no ask attached. He breaks down what to track in your CRM, how to get a reluctant board to open doors instead of fundraise, and how to fight the burnout taking down nonprofit leaders across the sector.
If you have ever felt like fundraising advice was written for someone with a bigger team or a bigger budget, this conversation is for you.
Chapters
00:00 - Don't Forget the Donors Who Loved You First
00:30 - Welcome and Meet Patrick Kirby
01:25 - From Losing an Election to Winning at Fundraising
02:52 - The Biggest Mistake: Skipping the Basics
05:28 - Why Retention Beats Chasing New Donors
05:52 - The One Question: How Do You Like to Be Thanked?
08:59 - Matching Gratitude to Communication Style
11:10 - Stewardship Is Showing Impact All Year
13:13 - What to Actually Track in Your CRM
16:22 - How to Get a Reluctant Board to Open Doors
20:31 - Burnout, Turnover, and Playing the Long Game
23:40 - Tactical Takeaway: Pick Up the Phone
25:37 - Patrick's Book and Where to Connect
Key Takeaways
- The most common fundraising mistake has nothing to do with budget or team size. It is trying to do everything and forgetting the basics. Technology should free up your time for human connection, not replace it.
- Retention beats acquisition every time, yet nonprofits do the opposite. Love the ones who have loved you longest. They are where major gifts and bequests come from.
- Ask every donor one question almost nobody asks: "How do you like to be thanked?" It unlocks a hyper-personalized gratitude plan and tells the donor you actually know them.
- Don't go a full year without connecting. Ask permission to send updates and notes with no solicitation attached, then steward consistently across the calendar.
- Track the right things in your CRM: last contact, communication preferences, how they like to be thanked, and the weird, specific details that prove you are curious about the person, not the pocketbook. You never ask for a major gift unless you know the name of the donor's dog.
- Stop asking your board to fundraise. Ask them for warm introductions instead, recalibrate expectations every year, and set a doable KPI (one or two names a quarter, not five a month).
- Burnout is the number one issue facing nonprofit leadership. Acknowledge it, treat fundraising as a long game, and find a peer community so you know you are not alone.
- The single best thing you can do today: pick up the phone. Call a donor to say thank you and share their impact. Make no ask. Let the CRM handle the back-end work so you can focus on the conversation.
Links
- Do Good Better Consulting: https://dogoodbetterconsulting.com
- Fundraise Like a Fifth Grader (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Fundraise+Like+a+Fifth+Grader+Patrick+Kirby
- See how DonorDock helps you build relationships and retention through smart stewardship: https://donordock.com