101 to be exact. 

In this confession corner I am explaining why and what it has to do with you.

So, cheers! I hope you enjoy this quick "confession".

How do you find happiness when it doesn't come easily for you?

For a long time, I felt like something was wrong with me because happiness did not come easily for me. It left me feeling defeated and like I was doomed to live a life with a constant internal struggle to find joy. 

I'm going to be perfectly honest with you - I still work for my happiness despite all of my personal growth.

AND I don't let that define me or stop me from experiencing massive amounts of joy. 

If happiness doesn't come easily for you or if you know someone who navigates depression, I hope you will tune into this conversation. 

There is nothing wrong with you. You are not your depression. AND you can absolutely create and experience more happiness in your life with a little shift in perspective.

 

You can check out the emotional frequency chart I reference here:

https://triadhealthcenter.com/programs/emotional-release-therapy/what-is-the-emotion-code/emotion_frequency/

You can find my current offerings here:

https://linktr.ee/freelysarahheredia?fbclid=PAAabuex4j59WrwHXX9UmFKo6jIVrhwcC1fh-8K2jc-pEKMIIhOMVlwhI3ctk_aem_AQXrUF-tpkLlC8QdaskG02ot1ZxMcUD3r0Fq9hX_2_EdqCLV5OzOrLcXYSqtwf3jRE4

This week, I was forced to take an uninvited pause. In the moment, it felt like the last thing I wanted to be doing, but in retrospect, it was such a meaningful time of reflection.

Unfortunately, most of us aren't going out of our way to reflect on our lives as a whole. It often takes a life-changing event or something traumatic to really put our current reality and the choices we are making into perspective.

This episode is meant to facilitate a pause for you. An opportunity for you to take a deeper look at how happy you are with your current reality, the way you are showing up, and the things that are important to you. 

And of course, I am sharing more on the forced pauses I have taken in my life + the lessons learned.

For those of you wanting to learn more about my body of work + retreat details, you can find all of that here:

https://linktr.ee/freelysarahheredia

See part 1 for a full description of these episodes. 

This is a two part podcast because there was a lot to cover! I have left topics and times below if you want to dive into specific areas that speak to you.

0:50 The way that Angel triggered me by saying "if you need a break from your kids - what is actually wrong with you?!?"

6:48 How our past impacts the way we mother today

10:05 Healing your own shit so it doesn't bleed into your motherhood

11:00 Feeling like we can't be the type of mother Angel is because we live a more "traditional" life style and it is just not possible for us

19:31 My personal mom guilt that was tied to my career

21:09 If you are working a 40 hour a week job and sending your kid off to school are you doing your children a disservice? Angel's inital response was yes - because it is a choice and your motherhood should be sacred

25:00 Letting go of the guilt and focusing on the mom you want to be NOW

27:11 Playing with ALL of the options you have as a mother and choose what you want

29:18 Forgiving yourself in your motherhood and accepting that your children are actually here to teach you these lessons - not to feel guilty

30:40 Choosing what you want out of your motherhood to be satisfied

31:25 How we are constantly sacrificing for what we want later rather than living in the present moment

33:08 Your kids aren't having a beautiful childhood if you are miserable

35:22 Angel's view on parenting roles of mother vs. father

36:21 Finding what is natural in motherhood

39:25 Angel admits she doesn't "fit in" and she's ok with that

39:50 The secret to unlimited patience in motherhood

43:56 Communicating with our children and others in our lives when we are going through something

48:50 Finding our purpose and magic in motherhood

50:51 Does Angel feel judged in her motherhood

1:02 Your willingness to stand in what you want and listen to what's next. Angel asks "how satisified are you in your life?"

1:05 Where you can find Angel's work

You can find Angel's magic on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@Thewildmamaangelrockwell   Or on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/wild_mama_spirit_medicine/

 

 

 

 

Angel Rockwell is a healer, a coach, a spirit channel, and most importantly - A WILD MAMA. Angel is a friend, and someone who I am often in awe of in her motherhood. Angel has tossed the rule book aside and is doing things unapologetically her way which happens to include a baby on the boob a majority of the time, frolicking naked in her backyard, creating medicine from the earth - and I just LOVE that about her.   Something I would have said prior to this conversation is "motherhood is hard". If I'm being honest, I have been in a season that has felt this way AND after this conversation, I am choosing to change that story.   As you will hear, Angel beleives that our motherhood is sacred and that many of us have lost sight of that in the midst of the stress we associate with it, our own need to heal, and wearing our mom guilt like a badge of honor. Get this - Angel doesn't even BELIEVE in Mom guilt nor has she experienced it! What a freaking concept!   Angel describes becoming a mother as the moment in the Wizard of Oz where everything comes alive with color. While that might seem like a stretch for some of us in the season we are in, I couldn't help but think - why can't that be my truth too?!?!?   I hope that this conversation allows you to reflect in your motherhood. I also hope that Angel opens your eyes (as she did mine) to just how good our motherhood can feel when we stop making it a source of pressure to get it right and make it more about OUR KIDS and THEIR NEEDS. And while you may not agree with everything she shares, I can almost guarantee, something in this episode will speak to you + inspire you in your motherhood.   This is a two part podcast because there was a lot to cover! I have left topics and times below if you want to dive into specific areas that speak to you. I do ask Angel about her childhood because I always find it fasicnating to see the decisions we make as adults vs. what we were shown as children. If you want to go straight into motherhood, you can skip to 18:40 where Angel talks about not wanting to kids to suddenly having her Wizard of Oz moment.   7:29 Angel describes her childhood and how it was vastly different than she chooses to raise her babies   12:12 Are you actually doing the best you can? Are you satisfied in your motherhood?     18:40 Not wanting kids to the Wizard of Oz moment that changed Angel's life   20:47 Where we go wrong choosing how we want to parent based on OUR past   21:48 Being a mother isn't about YOU, it is about what your kids need   23:12 Your kids simply want to be wanted   25:22 Our role is to guide them to be them - Angel's kids are allowed to do what they want. She describes them as wild and free   27:49 Angels trigger - seeing children be blamed by using our kids as a scapegoat for OUR stress   29:34 Every women is a mother regardless if you choose to step into it - it is who we are born to be   32:00 Why are you crying alone in the bathroom?    32:38 Reflecting on your child after you become a mother   36:28 We all know that we remember how ppl made us feel, but we are out here constantly over explaining to our kids and our words are coming from fear and lack and our own pain   37:40 ANGEL DOES NOT HAVE MOM GUILT AND YOU SHOULDN'T EITHER   42:09 How do we make emopowered choices in our motherhood and help to guide our children   45:40 Letting our kids make their own conscious decisions and dream   46:49 Know what you are responsible for as a mother   Be sure to tune into the juicy part 2 where we talk about how Angel triggered me in my motherhood and what I have learned from that trigger.   You can find Angel's magic on YouTube at: https://www.youtube.com/@Thewildmamaangelrockwell   Or on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/wild_mama_spirit_medicine/

What is an Ego Death anyway and will we all experience it in our lifetime?!?!?!

Well, if you are on a path of growth, you will inevitably come to a point where pieces of your ego must be left behind in order for you to continue to move forward. This can feel overwhelming, confusing, and stir up all sorts of emotions (and I hope you already know, I am speaking from experience on this one).

When we are "IN IT" we can feel defeated or like we will never get to the other side. But what we will gain in these moments is SO MUCH clarity on what is required of us and the qualities/habits/patterns/beliefs/external validations that no longer have a seat at the table. 

I hope this episode allows you to:

1. Indetify when you are (or already have) experiencing an Ego Death yourself
2. Learn to embrace these moments by becoming a witness and celebrating your growth

Last but not least, if you have been on a personal development journey for awhile, be sure to stick around until the end where I talk about personal development vs. spiritual development. You already know I LOVE personal development, and I believe that spiritual development has to be addressed as well.

 

There is a big difference between reacting and responding to the triggers in our lives. 

A reaction is our initial response that comes without much thought. For many of us, this can look like us losing our tempers, or maybe it's avoiding the situation in its in entirety, or shutting down emotionally. 

A response is a reaction that is rooted in mindfulness. It is a conscious choice to address the situation in a way that makes us proud. 

If we are contanstly reacting rather than responding, we can begin to feel like things in our life our out of our control. And many times they are, because we are just letting our conditioning react to one event after another rather than choosing a well thought out response. This is when life feels like it is happening to you, not for you. 

This conversation is meant to encourage you to look at the areas of your life that you are in a state of reactivity and have the awareness to choose something different by asking yourself one simple question. This has been a game changer for me and I think it will be for you as well. 

One of my biggest focuses of 2024 is to be seen. 

And let me be clear, it is not that I am not 100% authentic with you here - because I am. But wanna know a secret??? There is more to be said here. 

And I think that you have more to say too.

I spent YEARS of my life trying not to be seen. Trying to fly under the radar. To fit in. To just let what was be ENOUGH.

And you know what? I suffered.

The moment I started choosing my truth, and being brave enough to be witnessed in it....the rewards started flowing in.

Being ourselves is our superpower but we are all SO SCARED to be seen in our entirety. Because god forbid we admit that WE ALL HAVE OUR SHIT.

 It's time to OWN that. Because you are enough, just as you are. And the moment you believe that, everyting will change for you.

I loved recording this episode. I hope you love listening as well :)

AND if you want an opportunity to put this into practice in a SAFE SPACE, I still have room for you at my Winter Retreat. I would love to SEE you there. 

https://freely-you-llc.square.site/product/freely-you-winter-wellness-retreat/20

I know, it sounds basic AND I think it is a really important conversation to have.

I see many of us giving so much to our relationships or our careers, that we sacrifice our own needs in the process.

I also know many of us struggle to receive love, support, help, generosity etc. 

Today, I have Brie Bailey on to talk about this important topic. Not only is Brie one of my best friends, she is also one of the most generous people I have ever met. In this episode, we discuss:

• Why giving brings some of us so much joy
• The giving of energy vs. physical gifts
• The challenges that can come with generosity
• Creating boundaries personally and professionally when we have generous hearts
• Understanding when it is appropriate to give and when we need to receive
• Why receiving can be challenging for many of us

Also, if you have had your eyes on my retreat, be sure to listen to the end where Brie shares her firsthand experience of my Summer Retreat. You can also learn more about my Winter Retreat here:

https://freely-you-llc.square.site/product/freely-you-winter-

Perfection is an incredibly high standard that many of us set for ourselves and often, we don't even realize that we are doing it.

Emily Sheets and I are diving into the qualities of a perfectionist, how to navigate these tendencies, and why it's so important to love yourself through the moments that you don't get it exactly right.

Perfectionism can work in our favor, but it can also become a standard operating system that leaves us never feeling satisfied or like our best efforts are not good enough. In this conversation, we are focusing on how to make the most of this quality and recognizing when it is time to shift your perspective on your goals and the methods you are using to achieve them. 

If you enjoyed this conversation, you can tune into these previous episodes with Emily as a guest:

Ep. 5 Regulating your nervous system and WHY it is SO important w/Emily Sheets

Ep. 23 Retreat Recap - because RETREATS ARE A THING

Ep. 31 Is your independence working against you?

PLUS the recent bonus episode we did together on our women's community: Craving real connection and support? Learn more about The Nest Community

You can find Emily and her work on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/missionsoulignition/

Last but not least, you can learn more about The Nest or join us here: https://missionsoulignition.thrivecart.com/the-nest-womens-community/