The Friend School

The Friend School

By Matt + Paige CarlsonEducationSelf-Improvement
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The Friend School episodes

  • Getting Beyond 'How Are You?': Boost Your Question-Asking Skills | Episode 006

    Welcome to The Friend School podcast with Matt & Paige!

    It's time to discover your confidence and deepen your connections with others.

    In this episode, we’re diving into the art of asking questions and discovering how a little curiosity can supercharge your connections.

    Wherever you’re at on the “interested in others” scale, the good news is that you can grow! And that, my friend, is an incredible gift to offer others.  

    Let’s jump in!


    Breadcrumbs from Episode 006

    • The benefits of being genuinely interested in others 
    • Do we all suck at being enthusiastically interested in others?
    • The 5+ enemies of asking questions
    • Do you know the ME-monster?
    • How to actually grow as a interested, question-asking friend
    • Practical tips for enhancing question-asking skills
    • And more!

    • BONUS: You’re absolutely gonna want our List of Better Questions! Get it HERE.


      Connect with Matt & Paige:

      • Follow The Friend School on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Facebook⁠

      • ⁠⁠Join the Movement⁠⁠

      • Snag our FREE “List of Better Questions”

      • ⁠Free download: "The True You" devotional⁠


      • 38 min
      • The Gift of Curiosity | Episode 005

        Have you ever been on the receiving end of someone who is genuinely interested in you...someone who asks great questions, listens well, and is genuinely curious about your life? It can be so life-giving and such a powerful way to connect. If it IS so life-giving, why don’t we do more of that?

        The sad reality is that curiosity and interested people are rare…and honestly, friendships suffer and stall out because of the lack of curiosity in others. 

        Well, what if one of the most powerful secrets to connection wasn’t about talking endlessly about ourselves…but rather showing interest and curiosity into the lives of others?

        What if our interest and our curiosity was a gift we could give to one another? What would that do for our friendship and connection? What does that look like and how do we grow as curious people?

        Hey Friends! We're excited to have Dominic Nuncio with us to spill the beans and share his secrets on cultivating our curiosity and interest in other people.


        Welcome to The Friend School podcast with Matt & Paige! It's time to discover your confidence and deepen your connections with others.


        Key Ideas from Episode 005:

        - Why do so many people struggle to ask questions?

        - What are good questions to have in our pocket to practice curiosity? 

        - What is your mindset as you’re going into a conversation with a friend?

        - What to do when it feels one-sided


        Connect with Matt & Paige:

        • Follow The Friend School on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Facebook⁠

        • ⁠⁠Join the Movement⁠⁠

        • ⁠Free download: "The True You" devotional⁠

        • 36 min
        • Don't Host Another Party Until You Hear This! | Episode 004

          Have you ever been to a really fun gathering? A really great party? What made it fun? What made it memorable? 

          Have you ever been to a gathering that felt flat, dull, and just a little awkward and uncomfortable?  What was the difference? Chances are, the host had forethought and intentionality...or a severe lack of it.

          Hospitality is a gift! And the good news is we can grow in it and learn to create spaces and gatherings that cultivate friendship and connection. You’re about to learn how.


          Welcome to The Friend School podcast with Matt & Paige! It's time to discover your confidence and deepen your connections with others.


          Key Ideas from Episode 004:

          • What does a great host think about before, during and after a gathering?
          • What does UN-intentional hosting look like?
          • What a messy home indicates
          • How to know your gathering is going well
          • Misconceptions about hosting
          • The power of ONE conversation + more!
          • Connect with Matt & Paige:

            • Follow The Friend School on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Facebook⁠

            • ⁠⁠Join the Movement⁠⁠

            • ⁠Free download: "The True You" devotional⁠

            • 29 min
            • How 8 Minutes Can Transform Your Friendships | Episode 003

              You've heard the stats. Loneliness is on the rise. Life in a post-pandemic world hasn't solved the problem of isolation and loneliness...but it has exposed it. And according to the latest research, it's getting worse. Most of us inherently know the antidote to loneliness is friendship and connection with others, but there's another barrier we all deal with: busyness. We need connection, but connection requires time...and time feels like one of the things we just never have enough of. So what are we to do? Well, what if cultivating the connection we need didn't require the huge amount of time we think it does? What if we could pushback on the loneliness and foster life giving connection we need in as little as 8 minutes? That's right. 8 minutes might be all you need to extinguish the loneliness and experience deeper connection. Sound impossible? Well, let's get into it. School is now in session!


              Gain confidence in who you are:

              • ⁠Free download: "The True You" devotional⁠

              • Connect with Matt & Paige:

                • Follow The Friend School on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠Facebook⁠
                • ⁠⁠Join the Movement⁠⁠

                • 28 min
                • The GREATEST gift we can give our friends | Episode 002

                  Welcome to The Friend School podcast with Matt & Paige! It's time to discover your confidence and deepen your connections with others.


                  Key Ideas from Episode 002:

                  • A+ conversations from the last week
                  • How "belief dictates behavior"
                  • How self-view shapes behavior and impacts friendships and how neuroscience research supports this idea.
                  • Feeling awkward or frustrated often stems from seeking love and acceptance
                  • The importance of renewing the mind, a process that takes time and repetition.
                  • Free download: "The True You" devotional

                  • Connect with Matt & Paige:

                    • Follow The Friend School on ⁠Instagram⁠ & ⁠Facebook
                    • ⁠Join the Movement⁠

                    • 33 min
                    • Welcome to the Friend School | Episode 001

                      It's on! Welcome to the inaugural episode of The Friend School Podcast! Join Matt and Paige as they introduce The Friend School (what it is and what it's all about), and the need for bridging the gap between the freedom the gospel provides and the friendship it fuels.


                      Key Topics:

                      • The growing problem of loneliness and lack of deep friendships and connection in the church.
                      • Personal stories from Matt and Paige on their struggles and growth in friendships.
                      • The critical role of gospel identity in forming strong, healthy friendships.
                      • Discussion on the intrinsic nature of friendship to human existence and how it aligns with being created for connection.
                      • The longing for acceptance and love, and how the gospel addresses this by allowing us to live from a place of security.
                      • Practical implications: Being free to give versus take in relationships, and how to receive love genuinely.
                      • And more!

                      • Connect with Matt & Paige:

                        • Follow The Friend School on Instagram & Facebook
                          • Join the Movement

                          • 23 min

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