"The Fruit Snacks Podcast" with Emily Wardrop, the T1D Moms Coach

It's Day Two of the New Year!! 

Are you a whole new person since switching out the calendar?

Did everything you resolved to do daily without fail, fail on day one? Me too. So, let's just throw in the towel, shall we? Why not, that's how most years go. Let's just add one more to the failure pile...

No! Let's not do that. Let's come up with some realistic expectations of ourselves this year instead, eh? 

You do not have to be perfect overnight. It's not a new you from Dec 31 to Jan 1 but rather, what "new you" would you like to see in the mirror on Jan 1 of 2024?! 

That is something we can work towards! We can't white knuckle will power our way through the whole year. Change is not an overnight one and done process. It is slow and has ups and downs. So let's plan to fail forward instead of messing up and giving up this time. 

I propose that you resolve this year to the meta skill of believing you ARE a Good Mom!! This will help you with all the other goals you have for your parenting, I promise! And in this episode I explain a little more about how that works. 

Perhaps you've resolved to be more kind and patient and loving to your "hardest" child. How many minutes on January 1st were you able to do that? You woke up with the same brain that has the same memorized patterns. It takes time effort and especially compassion to change those patterns. I'd love to help you do that. Don't beat yourself up that you'll never change and that all because the date changed, you weren't able to. Yet! Change is possible and actually quicker than you might expect but your brain is stuck in its own lies that it has developed lots of evidence for over the years. A coach can help you navigate all of that. 

Sign up for a FREE Relationship Boost Call (RBC) and let's get started! In just 20 minutes on zoom, I can help you change your relationship with that hardest child! dropthewar.com/appointments You can be a new you this year. You can live into the Good Mom that you've always been. One relationship boost at a time! 

My Coaching Origin Stories Series Part 3

Tyson Bradley 

I always wanted to be a Mom and after Jody helped me love living my happily ever after, I decided to combine what she'd taught me with the parenting coaching from many different coaches and experts over the years and become a Peaceful Parenting Life Coach. Then after Crystal helped dig me out of layers of shame about my own parenting, I was ready to get back to my commitment to my business.

I always wanted to combine Jesus, Jody, and parenting skills. But I wasn't doing it at home or in my coaching practice. I knew that the life coaching tools and the parent coaching tools fell flat when they weren't backed by the actual enabling power of Jesus Christ but I was still trying to figure out how that actually works and how to share it. 

Enter Tyson. Tyson was doing it! He started a group called Entrepreneurs of Christ and he was talking about Jesus and business together. Just like I wanted to be doing with parenting. Partnering with Christ to build and grow a business. And he seemed as awkward and uncomfortable as I was feeling but he was doing it anyway! So I decided to join him in his journey and our business calls felt more like sunday school lessons on steroids than funnel building and ad improving. And I loved it!! 

So I've been in on the ground floor and seen how Christ has been transforming Tyson's message and that has helped mold my message also.

He transitioned from Entrepreneurs of Christ to "Inherent Identity" and as we all worked on remembering who we Inherently ARE, I could feel in my heart and soul that I AM a Good Mom! It's who I have always been and as my identity, it didn't matter anymore what "a mess" as a Mom I was, I knew my inherent worth and nothing I did or didn't do could change that. 

Growing up in Primary we learn that we are Children of God and in young women's I firmly believed that I was a Beloved Daughter of Heavenly Parents who loved me and I loved them. I didn't start to forget what that identity meant for me until I got married and had kids. Irony of life since that, I thought, was supposed to be God's whole plan for me! 

It's easy to believe we are good and loved when we are doing good but what about when we make mistakes? Does that affect/effect our worth in the sight of God? No! Of course not. We still are as 100% valuable on our good days as on our not so good days. Or moments. 

Once I really started believing that! wow!! the magic really started! 

It's as simple as "the model" really. When we think "I am a good mom" then we feel confident and show up in the ways that we want to and our result is that we are a good mom. But we are usually in a shame model from the lies that our brain feeds us that whatever we did or didn't do makes us a terrible mom and then that is our result. 

I understood that. But adding on the inherent identity process from Tyson really solidifies the truths and helps me chip off the lies daily. 

None of this work is "one and done". Every single day I need to connect to Heaven and be reminded of my worth and that I am a Beloved Daughter. 

And then showing up as the Mom I want to be and the Good Mom that I've always been is so much easier!! 

All of this came together for me through the ground breaking work that Christ has been revealing to Tyson and he is about to launch the Inherent Identity Family on New Years's Day so if any of this resonates with your soul also, please come join us! We hold loving space for each other to be able to safely tap into the powers of Heaven for help in your life! In whatever areas you are needing help with. Get all the information you need at InherentIdentity.com and I'll see you there! 

My Coaching Origin Story Series Part 2

Crystal Haitsma is "The Parenting Coach"

She was my parenting coach after I finished coach training and was drowning in imposter syndrome. 

I wanted to be a peaceful parenting life coach because I wanted to combine the life coaching world with the parenting coaching world that I'd been learning from and I didn't know of anyone who was doing that. But then when I learned about Crystal I thought," oh good. someone is doing it so I don't have to." Ha ha! Cause one coach can really take care of all the moms in all the world?! Not so much!

But I still felt way too off in my own parenting to be of any help to anyone else. Until she asked me this one life changing question.

What if you are a 10/10 Mom already? 

What? Surely, that couldn't be true. I long ago dropped the war on expecting myself to be perfect. No one on this earth except Jesus was ever perfect and that's obviously because He didn't have kids!! ;) So the thought took a while to seep in but when I changed the 10/10 from meaning perfection to just being a fact that I am a 10/10 Mom.... whatever my best is for today is the best i could do today and nothing has gone wrong here? Could that possibly be true?! 

Pair that with the Inherent Identity work with Tyson Bradly (episode coming soon!...) and i was off! In a good way this time. I finally had a message. I found a truth that I could believe and that actually did start changing things for me in my parenting!! 

Between Crystal's 10 out of 10 Mom idea and Tyson's "I Am Me" work, I birthed MY Belief that 

I AM a Good Mom! 

And believing that I inherently AM a 10/10 Mom, changed me. I am far from perfect still but I am so much closer to staying aligned with who I Truly AM more often and when I don't, I have so much more grace for my human self that is going to mess up. A lot. But I don't make those mistakes mean anything about my inherent worth anymore. I've peeled off so many layers of shame, I am finally free! The truth has set me free!! And now I AM ready to help other Moms break free also. By Believing that You too, my friend, YOU ARE a Good Mom!! You are inherently a 10/10 Mom!! Believe it to Be it! Cause you already are. Always have been. Always will be. It's just who you ARE. 

Still don't believe me? That's ok. I know the brain takes a while to believe new things. I have a prerecorded masterclass just for you. To step you through how to believe you ARE a Good Mom. Get it for free at dropthewar.com/believe 

And if you or anyone you know has kids with Type 1 Diabetes, I have content specifically for T1D Mamas at dropthewar.com/t1d I get it! I have two T1D daughters myself! And it is a wild ride!! 

Crystal has a really fun new offer CLICK HERE to get access to her new "Burn this Book" workbook that steps you through a daily self coaching routine. She has all of her best tools all in one place complete with QR codes to lead you to video trainings to help guide you through. If you've been interested in these tools but need more guidance, get this workbook today! 

And connect on FB and IG at Crystal the Parenting Coach and her website is https://www.coachcrystal.ca/

Jody was the first life coach I had ever heard of and she continues to be my life coach to this day, over 6 years later. 

She helps me love my life. What else would you expect from a life coach? 

My whole life, I always wanted to be a mom and once I finally got my "Happily Ever After" most days it felt more like a nightmare than living the dream. Everything was perfect, no actual problems. So why did I feel so terrible? What was wrong with me? Why couldn't I just enjoy my blessings?

When I was 11, I cross stitched a pillow that said "I can follow God's plan for me" and for decades I thought that plan was to get married and make babies.

AND what else?!

Did you know that it's ok to yearn for more?! It doesn't mean that you're ungrateful or unappreciative of what you have.

You are a person also, Momma! Not just a Mom. You ARE a Good Mom! And you ARE a Good Woman. What does she WANT to do? Who IS She?

AND what else? 

Enjoy your bounteous blessings this beautiful Christmas Eve AND allow yourself to dream big. To get what You Want! To let ideas flow. Open your heart to your true desires. Let those desires take root and grow and flourish. Be more of who you are. Who you've always been. 

If this sounds impossible or out of reach, I've got you! 

Start with a FREE RBC this year. Relationship Boost Call. Maybe it's your relationship with yourself that you want to boost. 

You can get more of Jody's amazingness at JodyMoore.com and on her "Better Than Happy" podcast.

Merry "Christmas Adam"!

I have an early Christmas Present for YOU! Yes, YOU!!

Relationship

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Now, on to our topic for today! The Purpose of Life!! That sounds a bit heavy but come on, it's me. We keep everything light and fun, right?

Episode Art: https://www.agospelcenteredhome.com/2020/07/30/the-plan-of-salvation-equals-love-family-home-evening-lesson/

I love stories. I love to hear people's experiences. To understand better where they are coming from. To get to know them better. 

Today I am sharing an overview of my coaching origin story. The quick google search definition of origin is "the point or place where something begins, arises, or is derived."

So in today's story I explain why I got into coaching, how it helped me, and then why I wanted to become a coach myself to pay it forward and help others. 

My origin story includes three of my coaches whose influence helped me form the messages that I share with you today. There are countless other friends, family, coaches, and teachers who have influenced me and continue to do so. Many of them I have already shared with you. 

In the coming weeks I will share these three coaches with you in what I am calling my special "origin story series". 

So be sure to subscribe to the podcast so that you don't miss the incredible episodes I have coming up with Tyson Bradley, Crystal The Parenting Coach, and the original of the origin, the one and only Jody freakin Moore! 

Jody Moore started it all and was so gracious and generous to give me the Christmas Gift of an hour of her time yesterday to record an origin episode where she shares my story from her perspective. 

No more spoilers, gotta be sure to be subscribed to the podcast so that you don't miss when these incredible episodes drop. 

And don't forget to sign up for your FREE RBC as my Christmas gift to you! You can redeem your gift any time in 2023. Relationship Boost Calls for all! All you have to do is jump on a zoom call with me with a relationship in mind that needs a boost and you will come off the call feeling like a whole new person ready to enjoy that person like you never have before. 

Merry Christmas!

So, when you think that you're a terrible mom, that is a lie coming from your head. But drop into your heart. What do you feel inside? The truth that you ARE a Good Mom! Believe in what your heart is saying. 

It's a practice to get out of your head and listen to believe your heart. 

Believe, my friends!

Once you believe something, then you start seeing evidence for it everywhere.

You ARE Good. God is Good and He made you. God don't make no junk.

As Christmas approaches in a few days, remember that thanks to that Baby in the manger, You ARE Good. Even when you're not doing good. That doesn't change who you inherently ARE. And thanks to Jesus Christ, we can be forgiven of all the non-good and it can all be for our eternal good. 

Now that's a reason to celebrate!! What a Gift! 

And speaking of gifts, I have a Christmas present for YOU!! www.dropthewar.com/appointments to claim your FREE RBC (Relationship Boost Call) I would love to help you this year improve any relationship in your life that is struggling. I have a quick, fun, and easy 20 min process we do on a zoom call that will have you feeling better toward this individual in just one call. Why not give it a try? Merry Christmas! 

Merry Christmas! I want to give you all a gift! I want to gift you a better relationship! Who doesn't need that?!

AND on to our podcast for today!!

And to work with her further, you can check her out at:  

IG: https://www.instagram.com/lauradrycoaching/

Website: www.lauradrycoaching.com

7 days of confidence journal prompts  https://view.flodesk.com/pages/627bfc0cec932442485965fb

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-confident-moms-podcast/id

We've all heard of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Well, today we are flipping the pyramid on it's head! I think we need "self actualization" the MOST and it is the highest priority. And after we have charged those batteries, the basic needs fall into place. 

Especially with Faith in Jesus Christ! Because He himself told us in Matthew 6 to take no thought for the things at the bottom of the pyramid. He's got us! He has our air, food, shelter, water, even reproduction in His control. He tells us to seek FIRST "the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you"

So what does that mean exactly? Well, that is up to you to figure out for yourself but today I share some of my recent thoughts on the subject.

What is your job as a Mom anyway? Aren't we supposed to take care of our children's basic needs? And our own? And our husbands? Are we?

(and ps, check me out on Dr Paul's podcast here)

I propose that our number one job on this earth is to REMEMBER. Once we remember who we truly ARE, then we really start living. We aren't just bogged down by the earthly problems. We find meaning in the struggle and know that there is learning pains but that they have purpose. WE have purpose. 

Who are you? You are a beloved daughter of Heavenly Parents. What does that mean to you? For me it reminds me that I have a divine mission to help their other Daughters remember who they are also. That is my higher cause, the world needs self actualization. And not just as a tiny triangle at the top of the pyramid if we have enough bandwidth after stressing and worrying about our "lower needs". Flip the pyramid on it's head, my friends!

We can easily get lost in the weeds of the basic needs, especially with a house full of littles whose basic needs can take all day every day over and over. It's beyond a full time job just to keep these kids fed-especially with the T1D!! 

But God said to consider the lilies of the field and the fowls of the air. "for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.. and all these things shall be added unto you. Take therefore no thought.."

So you have permission to stop worrying and stressing about the basics. God will provide. Have Faith. Trust in Jesus.

Maybe our job is to trust Him, Rely on Him, and our number one job as a Mom is to Remember who we ARE. and then remember to BELIEVE it! 

Believe you ARE a Good Mom, my friend! I promise, when you flip the script, it will change everything for you!! 

GRIT is my word for the new year! 

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What is it time for for you? What resolutions are you thinking about setting? What goals do you have for 2023?

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You can sign up for as many of these free sessions as you want throughout the year! Absolutely no strings attached. I'm just ready! It's time!! Let's get serious about making the changes we've been putting off. 

This is YOUR Year also!

www.dropthewar.com/appointments to get started!