The Great Man Within

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Jayson Gaddis is the founder and CEO of The Relationship School, whose mission it is to help you build safe, sexy, and successful romantic relationships.

He runs The Relationship School Podcast which has millions of downloads and marquee guests such as Gabor Mate (a Tim Ferriss favorite and also an advisor to The Relationship School) and Bessel Van Der Kolk (author of The Body Keeps the Score, regarded as the #1 book in the world on trauma).

He is the author of upcoming book Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships

This Episode is for You If:

• You have a pattern of bouncing around from relationship to relationship
• You've been in a long-term relationship and need an infusion of new life force energy
• If your communication skills needs improvement (particularly during times of conflict)
• You've ever struggled with shame around your dick

In this Episode:

• The #1 bullshit fantasy men believe in that sabotages relationships
• How to cultivate more aliveness in your long-term relationship
• Why a man brings his Warrior Energy to all areas of his life…and leaves it on the sidelines in his relationship…and the downstream effects of that
• A listening and communication technique that you're gonna want to hear that will help you avoid and diffuse many future relationship conflicts
• And of course, we can't have an episode without 15 minutes of dick talk
• Jayson's viral blog post – a Letter to my Cock (linked below)

Jayson Gaddis' Resources:

Book: Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-relationship-school-podcast/id997215878

"A Letter to my Cock" blog article: https://www.jaysongaddis.com/a-letter-to-my-cck

Website: https://relationshipschool.com

Free Course for Men: https://relationshipschool.com/men

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaysongaddis/?hl=en

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I've pulled my 6 most popular posts on Instagram – as liked, commented on and shared by the women in my community – relating to what women want in the bedroom.

In this episode I read the 6 posts and share the responses I've gotten from the women who follow my account.

If you are intimate with women – follow me on Instagram @DominickQ. You'll see which content that I post that women resonate with most…which will give you a direct line of sight into what's important to them in the bedroom.

-DQ

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One of the traps we can fall into sexually is figuring out what we like, and then turning the fulfillment of that desire into a mechanical series of repetitive experiences.

Over time, what was once exhilarating becomes rote, dull, and mundane.

If you're a long term relationship, you may perceive that as a failing of your partner and begin fantasizing about others as a way of bringing more diversity into your sexual experiences.

If you're single or dating, you may be enjoying a diversity of sexual partners, but if you're constantly leading them down the same path…you're shortchanging yourself by failing to explore the universes of sexual pleasure available to you.

So what if you were equipped with a simple practice, a technique, or a game even…that allowed both you and your partner a simple and safe way to explore more of your desires and ask for more of what you want in the bedroom?

Well, our guest today, Lila Donnolo, is going to equip you with one such game that Bryan and I can't wait to bring to our partners.

Who is Lila Donnolo?

• She's the host of the Horizontal with Lila Podcast, which was recently named by Marie Claire as one of the Top Sex Podcasts of 2021
• She's a sex and intimacy coach for those who long for more pleasure and desire a sexier more fulfilling romantic relationship
• She's a master facilitator of exercises and games – one of which you'll learn today – to help expand sexual pleasure and deepen intimacy both in and out of the bedrooms
• She's expert in enthusiastic consent communication skills

In this Episode:

• How to cultivate a treasure trove of knowledge about the sexual desires of your partner
• Why having a sexual "ledger sheet" is a surefireway of killing sexual magnetism
• Language you can use to build trust and deepen intimacy in and out of the bedroom
• One killer game you can play with your partner to unlock entirely new dimensions of sexual pleasure (and to enhance the pleasures you already know you enjoy)

RESOURCES

Lila's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/horizontal-with-lila/id1238031115 Lila's Website: https://horizontalwithlila.com Lila's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/horizontalwithlila/?hl=en

Our interview on Lila's Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/horizontal-with-lila/id1238031115?i=1000435506161

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As men, we want access to our deepest reserves of strength.

But there's a price of admission to access that depth of strength.

Here are 4 different ways you can "pay" to access that strength:

#1. Taking the reins where leadership has been abdicated.

#2. Embracing adversity as a training ground to build strength.

#3. Being the island of calm amidst the storm.

#4. Surrendering to a power greater than yourself.

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We're about to head into some dark territory.

Depression and suicide are some of the heaviest topics known to man.

…and ironically, I suspect you will find this to be one of the most enjoyable, humorous and informative interviews we've ever done.

And that's all thanks to the magic of our special guest, who I'll introduce in a few moments.

The National Institute of Mental Health reports that in 2018, 48,000 Americans lost their lives to suicide. That number is expected to potentially double during last year's pandemic era.

Every 9 minutes, a person takes their life…which means by the end of this episode, 5 or 6 more people will no longer be with us.

Chances are very good that you know someone who's either taken their lives…or have someone close to you who's considered it.

Chances are nearly 100% that you know someone who deals with some form of depression, whether they've revealed it to you or not.

Having an open, candid dialogue about these darker subjects is essential to create safe environments for those who feel like their depressive or suicidal thoughts are unsafe to express…for fear of judgment, not being understood or triggering someone else's discomfort. One of our principles of being a Great Man is to create environments where we and those we care about can thrive. That includes creating safe spaces for the people in our lives who struggle with depression and suicide to be able to open up to us, feel seen and heard and supported.

Our special guest today, Frank King, does an incredible service in equipping us with practical guidance on how to do exactly that…all while having a few laughs along the way.

Who is Frank King?

• Frank is a mental health comedian specializing in depression and suicide
• Performed with the likes of Jim Carrey, Dennis Miller, Ellen DeGeneres, Rosie O'Donnell and Adam Sandler
• 6-time TEDx talker and coach for how you can land your TEDx talk
• Corporate keynote speaker
• He himself has Major Depressive Disorder and Chronic Suicidal Ideation and has come so close to taking his own life that he says, in his own words, "I know what the barrel of my gun tastes like."

In This Episode:

• What NOT to say to a person who has revealed their depression to you
• What TO say to a person who has revealed their depression to you
• What TO say to a person who reveals they are suicidal
• 3 staggering statistics on how many people contemplate, attempt and succeed in suicide
• How the Pandemic caused "Situational Depression" to explode onto the scene
• Frank's 5-step self-care process that helps him fortify his inner foundation

Resources Referenced in this Episode

"A Matter of Laugh or Death" (Frank's TEDx Talk): https://youtu.be/aBUXND5BD4M

Hire Frank to Speak: https://www.thementalhealthcomedian.com

6 Things That Will Kill Your Chances of Getting a TEDx Talk (Free PDF): https://www.yourtedxcoach.com

"Guts, Grit and the Grind" Free Audiobook: https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/su/1nH4mhj/audiobook

Mental Health Resources: MentalHealthFirstAid.org

Text or call Frank (If you are on the edge and need support): 858-405-5653

Another Episode on Depression, Suicide and Men's Mental Health

Episode #98 of The Great Man Within Podcast: Calling for a Men's Mental Health Revolution w/Sam Webb

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Book referenced in podcast:

The 12 Week Year: Get More Done in 12 Weeks Than Others Do in 12 Months by Brian Moran

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Time is the one non-replenishable resource that most of us do a terrible job of managing optimally.

Today I'll be diving into two systems that have revolutionized how I – and my clients – invest our time:

#1. Time Blocking

(referencing Strategic Coach's entrepreneurial time system as well the book The 12 Week Year)

#2. Greatest Energy

(a concept from my book On Purpose Leadership)

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One of your favorite episodes is #122:

Find Your Potential Through these 43 Challenges featuring Ben Aldridge.

Ben was a guy living a fairly mundane existence who became bored with his life.

He started craving that feeling of inner fire…so he decided to turn his life into a game.

He dedicated a year of his life to pursuing 43 crazy challenges – like learning how to pick locks, solving a Rubik's cube in under one minute or memorizing a deck of cards after seeing it only once.

That year turned his black and white life into one of living color – finding joy, mystery and excitement in a life that was previously rote and predictable.

You guys have told us you loved that episode because it inspired you to get more curious and creative about how you take on challenges that could expand your life and live that Great Man Within you.

Well what would happen if you dedicated a year's worth of time…not to 43 crazy challenges…but to one big hairy audacious challenge?

Michael Young, one of the leaders in our Great Man Mastermind decided to answer that question.

On January 1st of 2020, Michael set out on a grueling year-long mission to jump rope 1,000,000 times – that's 333 days of 3,000 skips apiece – in an effort to see what he was capable of (while raising $25,000 for the Leukemia and Lymphoma society).

In This Episode, we break down Michael's journey of how he dreamed up such a massive challenge, how he found the courage to begin, the grit to preserver and the discipline to see it all the way through.

This interview will serve as a textbook for you as you venture to take on any meaningful project in your life that requires courage, discipline and execution.

Who is Michael Young:

• Michael is a Leadership Coach and an anchor in the Great Man Mastermind
• In his 1 on 1 work, he specializes in helping people make big transitions in their life
• He spent 3 decades with CIGNA, one of the largest US healthcare companies
• He is a two-time Leukemia and Lymphoma Survivor
• A rabid Philadelphia Eagles fan

In this Episode

• The anatomy of executing a big challenge
• How to "Embrace the Void" when a major chapter in your life closes
• The Power of Publicly Declaring your Big Goals
• The major difference vs being Respected vs Admired

Why "what do I want to do" is a far less effective question than "who do I want to be?"

Contact

1 on 1 coaching inquiries: [email protected]

Instagram: @MichJYoung

Website: https://timeforbold.com

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What:

• 15 mornings X 15 minutes per morning
• 5 Minutes of Meditation (new meditation every 5 days)
• 5 Minutes of Breath-work (new exercise every 5 days)
• 5 Minutes of Journaling (new prompt every day)
• BONUS: 15 pushups to close each morning routine session

Every day you will receive an email and/or text from me with the guided meditation, breathwork exercise and journaling prompt.

Why:

• To bring mindful excellence to the first 15 minutes of your day
• To carry that excellence forward into the 16, 17, 18 waking hours that follow

Categories:

• Days #1-5: Productivity
• Days #6-10: Optimizing Energy
• Days #11-15: Optimizing Time

When:

• Thursday March 25th-Thursday April 8th

Kickoff Event

• Wed, March 24th 7:00-8:15pm

The Schedule

Days 1-5: Productivity (March 25th-March 29th)

Breathwork: Box Breathing (downloadable audio to be provided)

Meditation: Visualizing the Day (downloadable audio to be provided)

Journaling Prompts:

1. What is the one thing, that if you make sure it gets done today, will make this day a success?
2. What is one thing that's been hanging out on your "to do" list that you'll finally get done today?
3. What is one area of your professional life where you are drifting, and how do you plan to bring intentionality to it TODAY?
4. What could you accomplish if you didn't check your phone for 60-90 consecutive minutes today? THEN DO IT.
5. What is your intention for the day? What are 3 adjectives to describe how you want to show up today (ie focused, confident, patient)?

Days 6-10: Optimizing Energy (March 30th-April 3rd)

Breathwork: Breath of Fire (downloadable audio to be provided)

Meditation: 4 Dimensions of Energy Awareness Meditation (downloadable audio to be provided)

Journaling Prompts:

1. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate your physical energy over the last week. What is one area of your physical energy (sleep, nutrition or movement) that you will upgrade today?
2. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate your emotional energy (positive vs negative emotions) over the last week. What is one thing you can do today to upgrade your emotional energy?
3. On a scale of 1 to 10, rate your mental energy (your focus) over the last week. What is one area of your mental energy that you will upgrade today?
4. What time(s) of day do you have the least energy? What's one strategy you can employ to mitigate "the dip" and refresh your energy?
5. What is one energy-sucking habit that you'll curb today (ie social media consumption, breaking news consumption, sugar snacks at 3:00pm etc)?

Days 11-15: Optimizing Time (April 4th-April 8th)

Breathwork: 4-7-8 Relaxation Breathing (downloadable audio to be provided)

Meditation: Honoring Your Time Meditation (downloadable audio to be provided)

Journaling Prompts:

1. On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate your effectiveness in managing your time? What is one strategy you can put in place today to upgrade that score?
2. How did you spend the last 20 minutes of your night (be as detailed as possible)? On a scale of 1 to 10 how much did those 20 minutes set you up for success today?
3. What time of day do you tend to waste the most amount of time? What's the one strategy you can put in place to upgrade how you use that time?
4. What area(s) of your life do you manage your time most effectively? What contributes to that effectiveness? (What's your mindset, what are your actions, habits etc).
5. Write out 3-5 standards for your own personal "time management policy." (ie I get my most important work done in the morning, and arrange my calendar to ensure success).

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Dr. Kien Vuu starts his TEDxTalk with a sobering statistic:

50% of the people in the United States have a chronic disease (like high blood pressure, diabetes, cancer, arthritis, obesity).

25% of the people in this country have multiple chronic diseases.

As a country, we have never spent more on healthcare, and we have never been sicker.

That's the bad news.

The worse news is the majority of these chronic diseases are caused by our own lifestyle choices around things like sleep, nutrition, movement, stress, relationships and purpose (or lack thereof).

The great news is these chronic diseases are caused by our own lifestyle choices.

Which means you have the ultimate authority to move your body's biology from stress/survival state to thrive state.

Dr. Kien Vuu has walked the walk. 5 years ago he found himself in a chronic survival state, being overweight, hypertension, diabetes and on multiple prescriptions.

In a period of 4-6 months, using the approach he outlines today, he was able to dramatically shift his state of being from survive to thrive.

Who is Dr Kien Vuu:

• He's a sought after medical doctor specializing in peak performance, human optimization and longevity
• Instead of helping his patients deal with chronic illnesses, which is where spent the majority of his career as the chief interventional radiologist at his hospital, he helps his patients focus on achieving chronic states of well being, or Thrive States
• He's the author of Thrive State: Your blueprint for optimal health, longevity and peak performance

In this episode:

• The important distinction between acute and chronic diseases
• The 7 pillars that make up your Bioenergetic State, which is the frequency/vibration that is broadcast to your cells that tells them whether you are in survival or thrive state
• A beginner's guide to the microbiome and an at home test recommendation
• A beginner's guide to epigenetics
• How identical twins, with the same genetic markers can experience vastly different states of well-being, all tracing back to these lifestyle choices
• And Byran shares the recipe of his morning well-being drink, which he calls The Shot of Terrible-ness

Resources

Dr Kien Vuu's Website: https://kienvuu.com Pre-Order his book Thrive State: Pre-Order on Amazon Dr Kien Vuu's TEDxTalk: You Are Your Best Medicine

Free Guide to Epigenetics: https://www.thriveto105.com/ebook

Microbiome at home test: https://www.viome.com

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Curious with Jake Podcast feat Dominick Quartuccio: Sexual Performance, Sexual Shame and Sexual Health

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Why do we only hear about men's sexuality when it's a problem?

Why do we hear SO MUCH about the sex lives of Donald Trump, Tiger Woods and the fuckboys of the world...

...yet we hear SO LITTLE about the sex lives of men who are genuinely doing it well?

We're all fumbling around trying to figure out our sexual selves.

Naturally, we look to others to find our way.

We take our cues from those we deem "sexually successful."

All too often those are the players, pick-up artists and porn stars.

Think about the implications of that for a minute.

That's dangerous.

That's unacceptable.

I'm here to play a part in tearing down the old model.

I'm stepping forward to help fill this void of healthy masculine sexual role models.

My sexuality was a problem for many years of my life because I had no role model to learn from or talk to.

I bottomed out and ended up in Sex Addicts Anonymous for 4 years as part of an intensive process to clean my shit up.

Now, my sexuality is one of the greatest gifts and most powerful forces in my life.

I don't know what you want to hear from me or how my story might help.

But I do know I've got more to offer than the players, pick-up artists and porn stars.

If there's something you want to see or hear more about...

...my lines of communication are open.

Come find me in: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin

(PS - thank you to Dr. David Ley for introducing me to the concepts of "sexual role model" and "why do we only hear about men's sexuality when it's a problem?")