The Great Man Within

#132: Meaningful conversations about race require lots of:

• Time
• Energy
• Emotions

3 things almost everyone is short of in modern society.

That's why it's so important to build racial stamina:

Racial Stamina is the ability to talk openly, constructively and civilly about race.

If more Great Men developed racial stamina, it's my belief that the anger, hatred and the polarization of our world…

…would give way to equality, connection and prosperity like we've never seen before.

I invite you to join me and Bryan in the gym today…

…so we can work on our racial stamina.

In this episode:

• Defining white privilege
• Why the term white privilege is not an attack on whiteness or you personally
• How you can use white privilege to do significant good…if you understand it
• The process our men's group went through to diversify an all white men's group.

Resources:

Anti-Racism Resources for White People

#131: "I'm afraid to stay silent…I'm terrified to speak up and be criticized…so what do I do?"

This is the #1 question I'm getting from white men.

White men, that is, who are feeling the urge to step off the sidelines and become actively antiracist.

But that first step – identifying oneself visibly – is proving harder than expected for many.

That's because many are feeling caught in a Catch-22:

• If I stay silent…I'll be criticized
• If I speak up…I'll be criticized
• So what do I do?

In today's episode, I address this question head on.

I'll walk you through a roadmap - informed by antiracist teachers, leaders and authorities - on how to speak up right now.

In this Episode:

• A roadmap for going from silent to active support
• The definition of racial stamina and how to develop it
• Why simply believing "I'm one of the good guys" carries no weight without doing your homework
• The reasons why some businesses who are speaking out in support…are getting criticized and cancelled (hint is in the next bullet)
• The difference between "performative allyship" and "authentic allyship"
• Why you need to learn how to listen deeply to the tone and tempo of the movement

Resources:

• White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin Diangelo
• Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F. Saad
• Performative Allyship vs. Authentic Allyship by Seerut K Chawla
• Anti-Racism Resources for White People

#130: More and more white men are coming to me with a version of the following:

"It's long overdue that I speak up against injustice and systemic oppression…

…but I don't know where to begin."

Now, I am not an expert or an authority in racial issues or antiracist practices.

But it is time to step off the sidelines.

So let's have a candid conversation about how to do that.

Again, because I am no expert, the vast majority of what you'll hear in this episode is me reporting from the experts:

• Authors
• Leaders
• Activists
• Anti-Racist Teachers
• And of Course, People of Color's Lived Experiences

In this Episode

• Why the racial travesties of the last few weeks "feel so different" to the white community than previous travesties
• Why white men need to come off the sideline and be actively antiracist
• Why your grandchildren would be ashamed if you stayed on the sideline right now
• The 4 antiracist principles – informed by people of color – that I'm using to guide my journey

Resources:

• Trevor Noah YouTube Video: George Floyd, Minneapolis Protests, Ahmaud Aubrey, & Amy Cooper
• Anti-Racism Resources for White People

#129: In my last 5 years of doing deep inner work with other men, it's become painfully obvious to me how men go about the most important parts of our lives…on our own.

• Grappling with existential questions about finding calling and living Purpose.
• Feeling stuck in a life that's not inspiring but not knowing what to do about it.
• Navigating the shame that comes with secretive compulsive behaviors.
• Complicated challenges within romantic relationships and the sex life.

There's an extraordinary opportunity to find support, guidance and inspiration within your group of male friends…

…if you're willing to summon the courage to bring a new level of depth to these friendships.

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself about the quality and depth of your male friendships:

1. Is your primary form of connection with other men limited to business, sports and activities that revolve around alcohol?
2. Do you have behaviors, stories from your past or secrets that you keep hidden from your friends (for fear of them looking at you differently?)
3. Do you have friends who truly listen to you when you have an issue…or are you surrounded by a bunch of advice-giving machines?
4. Do you have desires that you fear expressing to your group of friends because you'll be ridiculed?
5. Do you have friends who regularly speak to your best self and call you forward to a higher standard?

In this Episode:

• The 4 primary forms of connection for most men (I call these the 4 B's)
• 3 myths that prevent the forging and deepening of male friendships
• 5 questions to ask yourself about the quality and present-day depth of your male relationships
• 3 ways you can lead your friends to forge a deeper bond with one another

#128: I'm feeling light on words today.

I just want you to listen to this episode.

Most men won't ever walk through this portal.

They will fail to access a level of mental toughness…

…that you will master.

-DQ

#127:

"Somewhere around 40 or 45, a movement toward the father happens naturally; a desire to see him more clearly and draw closer to him."

- Iron John, by Robert Bly

Over Memorial Day Weekend, I took a father-son trip with Dom Sr. to The Catskills.

I wanted to thank him for something he did for me at age 11…

…that is in part, highly responsible for my work in the world today.

The funny thing is, I only came to the realization within the last few weeks that my father forever altered the trajectory of my life in the most powerful of ways.

You see, if you're like me…

Your view of your father has likely become static...fixed...over time.

This holds true whether your father is alive, dead or alive and not part of your life.

There's a certain fixed lens through which you view him:

"That's just how he is…"

"He would never do that…"

"He always…"

It's as if you've seen all there is to see.

Known all there is to know.

When you view your father through a fixed lens…you limit him.

And in turn, you limit yourself.

Because whenever you view anyone through a fixed lens – let alone one of the most important relationships in your life – you yourself cease to grow.

When you view someone through a dynamic, growth-oriented lens…you yourself cannot help but grow.

It's Time to Get More Curious About Your Father.

• There are worlds within him that you know nothing about
• He's had impacts on your life to which you are presently oblivious
• Your present dynamic with him – whether he's in your life or not – has the potential to be radically upgraded

Today's episode is a call for you to get more curious about your father and your relationship with him.

You'll be amazed at the wisdom, insights, and potential healing you will find.

#126: I think a lot of guys who like to go hard with their workouts can relate to the experience of constantly having some form of pain, strain or even injury in the body on a regular basis.

It doesn't have to be that way.

3 years ago, I made a decision to prioritize "being injury free" right up alongside "looking and performing my best."

At 41 years of age, my body is free of strain, chronic pain and injury...

...all while I'm pushing my physical limits further than ever before.

So today, I'm bringing to you one of my favorite personal trainers – Chloe Corpuz – to train you on how to build a high-performance and injury free body.

Who is Chloe Corpuz:

• Chloe is a fitness trainer at Equinox
• She's an elite dancer: 2 years with the Los Angeles Lakers Girls and another two with the New York City Knicks Dancers
• She's performed on stages with Gwen Stefani (who's one of her idols), Wyclef, Ashanti, T-Pain and Fat Joe
• I've hired Chloe a few times to run zoom workouts for the men in The Great Man Mastermind and the guys love her

In this Episode:

• Chloe breaks down a typical 60 minute workout, and allocates how much of that time should be dedicated to the warm up, the workout and the cooldown
• The two most difficult areas of the body to activate, and why you need to activate them in your warm-up to facilitate your strongest and healthiest workout
• The three most common injuries and ailments that Chloe sees in her classes
• The difference between Dynamic and Static stretching (and why one belongs in your warm up and the other in your cool down)
• Chloe de-mystifies what fascia is and why foam rolling will save you many injuries down the road
• Why diversifying your workouts can reduce your potential for injury

Connect With Chloe:

On Instagram: @ChloCorpuz On YouTube: 30-Minute Full Body Tone Her Website: https://www.chloecorpuz.com/about

Hire Chloe for Private 1-on-1 or Small Group Zoom Workouts: [email protected]

#125: Do you want more energy? (Obviously…)

But what kind of energy do you want? (Hmmm…)

What would you use that energy for? (Double hmmm…)

According to the Human Performance Institute, there are 4 dimensions of energy:

1. Physical: The quantity of your energy
2. Emotional: The quality of your energy
3. Mental: The focus of your energy
4. Spiritual: The force of your energy

In today's episode of The Great Man Within Podcast, I dive into each of the 4 dimensions and help you unpack:

• Where you're rocking it
• Where you could use an upgrade
• How to pick the one dimension to focus on leveling up ASAP

#124: This past weekend, 21 men from The Great Man Mastermind came together (virtually) for two days to work on Accessing Their Greatest Energy…where:

• You are in your zone of optimal performance
• Your inner critic is on the sideline
• You experience a state of connecting to something beyond yourself

In today's episode of The Great Man Within Podcast, I dive into:

• The 4 key criteria that need to be met to access that Greatest Energy state
• Why you should prioritize orienting more of your life around what gives you your Greatest Energy
• Why "seemingly trivial" things are your prime sources for accessing Your Greatest Energy

#123: If this is your very first time discovering The Great Man Within podcast – or if you're a man who's just recently hopped aboard this train – this episode is for you.

In this episode:

• What does "The Great Man Within" mean?
• What are the key characteristics of being a Great Man?
• What is the #1 enemy to living a powerful life?
• What is "inner work" and why is it essential for living a life of Purpose?
• Who are Bryan and Dominick (fyi, we're your co-hosts)
• What are some of our most popular episodes?
• What benefits can you expect from listening
• Where to find all of our recommended book lists and guided meditations

Resources

Our Website: www.DoInnerWork.com Free Downloads: https://www.doinnerwork.com/resources

Start With These 2 Episodes

• STOP DRIFTING - YOUR #1 ENEMY TO LIVING A POWERFUL LIFE
• DISCOVER THE GREAT MAN WITHIN YOU

Episodes on Purpose

• DESIGN THE NEXT YEAR OF YOUR LIFE
• HOW TO DESIGN THE NEXT DECADE OF YOUR LIFE (PART 1)
• 3 STEPS TO STOP DRIFTING AND TAKE COMMAND OF YOUR LIFE

Episodes on Masculinity

• JOHN WINELAND - THE ART OF MASCULINE LEADERSHIP
• MAN TALK WITH AN EXCEPTIONAL MEN'S COACH (FEAT. JOHN O'CONNOR)
• CALLING FOR A MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH REVOLUTION FEAT. SAM WEBB
• INTERVIEWING MY COACH AND GUIDE: DAVID WALDAS
• MODERN MANHOOD WITH CLEO STILLER
• BREAK THESE 5 RULES OF "MASCULINITY"

Episodes on Sexuality

• THE MAKING OF A SEX ADDICT (PART 1): DOMINICK'S 4 YEARS IN SEX ADDICTS ANONYMOUS
• LISA ANN PART #1: WHAT THE PORN INDUSTRY DOESN'T WANT YOU TO KNOW
• KEEPING SEX AND DESIRE BURNING DURING COVID FEAT ALEXA MARTINEZ
• HOW TO LAST LONGER IN BED: 5 PRACTICES
• HOW TO TAKE THE NO PORN CHALLENGE
• HOW TO KEEP YOUR DICK HEALTHY PART 1 (FEAT. DR AMY KILLEN)
• PORN: DOMINICK'S 4 YEARS OF ABSTINENCE* *this is the episode we reference "the 5 stages of a man's journey with porn"

Episodes on Honoring and Understanding Women

• 5 WAYS MEN LOSE CREDIBILITY WITH WOMEN (FEAT. MADELYN MOON)
• INSIDE SECRETS FROM A WOMEN'S SEX & INTIMACY COACH (WITH BLAIRE LINDSAY)
• A MAN'S GUIDE TO THE MENSTRUAL CYCLE (FEAT ALEXANDRA POPE AND SJANIE HUGO WURLITZER)

Morning and Evening Routines

• DESIGN YOUR MORNING ROUTINE (QUICK GUIDE)
• MORNING ROUTINES: 11 IDEAS TO DESIGN YOUR OWN
• 10 WAYS YOUR EVENING ROUTINE IS SABOTAGING YOU

Episodes for Your Left Brain:

• YOUR ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BOOKS: READING AND RETENTION (FEAT. JUVONI BECKFORD)
• ULTRALEARNING: HOW TO FIND YOUR PURPOSE THROUGH INTENSE LEARNING (FEAT. SCOTT YOUNG)
• 4 STEPS TO BECOMING INDISTRACTABLE WITH WSJ BEST SELLING AUTHOR NIR EYAL
• OPTIMAL MENS HEALTH WITH DR. MYLES SPAR