LIFE AFTER LOSS
Doug Lawrence on Grief, Love & Finding aWay Forward
What happens when somebody deeply woven into our life is suddenly no longer physically there?
In this deeply human conversation, Garon Green sits down with author and International Certified Mentor Doug Lawrence to explore grief, love, identity, loneliness, PTSD, mentoring, vulnerability and what life can look like after profound loss.
This isn’t a conversation about telling somebody how they should grieve. It’s about listening. Remembering. Connection. Love.
And what it might mean to continue living while still carrying somebody who mattered enormously.
Doug also discusses the ideas and experiences behind his books:
The Gift ofMentoring
You Are NotAlone
and:
Grief: TheSilent Pandemic
CONNECT WITH DOUG LAWRENCE
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Doug’s books
The Gift ofMentoring
You Are NotAlone
Grief: TheSilent Pandemic
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LISTENER NOTE
The conversation is intended for reflection and general information and is not a substitute for individual counselling, psychotherapy, medical advice or other professional support.
Please take care of yourself while listening and seek appropriate support if something discussed feels difficult to manage alone.
FINAL THOUGHT ON GRIEF
Before we close I want to leave you with one final thought.
Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross changed the way the world talkedabout death, dying and grief.
Many people know her work through the five stages:
denial...
anger...
bargaining...
depression...
and acceptance.
But perhaps one of the most important things to understandis that grief was never meant to be a neat staircase.
You don't complete denial and graduate to anger.
You don't reach acceptance and suddenly stop missingsomebody.
Grief can move backwards.
Sideways.
It can disappear into the background for months...
and return because of a song, a smell, a birthday, an emptychair - or simply because, for one second, you forgot they were gone.
And perhaps that's because grief isn't evidence thatsomething has gone wrong with you.
Grief is evidence that somebody mattered.
The person may no longer walk beside you in the way theyonce did...
but the love, the memories, the lessons, the laughter - andthe parts of you that were changed because they existed - can remain.
So maybe healing isn't about reaching the final stage andclosing the door.
Maybe it's learning how to carry both things:
the pain of losing them... and the privilege of having loved them.
And if you're listening tonight and wondering why you'restill grieving...
please don't measure your love against somebody else'stimetable.
There is no stopwatch on grief.
There is no deadline on missing somebody.
And there is no shame in saying:
“They mattered to me.
They still matter tome.
And I’m learning howto carry their absence while continuing to live.”
Because moving forward doesn't have to mean leaving somebody behind.
Sometimes...
we carry them forwardwith us.
And perhaps that is one of the quietest forms love takesafter loss.
