The Happily Never After

In this conversation, Heather McG interviews ultra endurance athlete Manika Gamble, who shares her journey from sprinting to ultra running, the challenges she faces in endurance sports, and the importance of finding one's 'why'. Manika discusses her experiences in the Namib race, the lessons learned from DNF (Did Not Finish) experiences, and the joy she finds in pushing her limits. She emphasizes the significance of igniting strength in others and the balance between grit and knowing when to quit, and the benefits of choosing to live with adventure in mind.
TAKEAWAYS

• Endurance sports require a strong mental 'why' to push through tough moments.
• How to get through moments of doubt.
• Finding joy in the journey is crucial for endurance athletes.
• DNF experiences can offer valuable lessons all on their own.
• Manika aims to inspire others to step out of their comfort zones.
• Training to succeed
• Faith in the fact that most things work out.

CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Manika Gamble05:37 Finding Your Why in Endurance Sports11:31 The Challenges of Endurance Training17:25 The Joy of Endurance Sports23:35 The Balance of Grit and Knowing When to Quit29:36 Life's Endings and New Beginnings
ABOUT MANIKA GAMBLEManika is an international ultra endurance athlete who takes on bold challenges and breaks barriers. She showcases the power of the human mind and body in hopes to inspire others to get out of their comfort zone and try something bold.

• Follow Manika on Instagram at @manikaruns

ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow ⁠⁠⁠@thatheathermcg⁠⁠⁠ on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at ⁠⁠⁠https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/⁠⁠⁠
• Learn more about Heather McG at ⁠www.heathermcg.com⁠

In this conversation, Kit Morgan, a licensed clinical social worker, shares their journey of healing from religious trauma and the impact of growing up in a fundamentalist Christian environment. They discuss the complexities of family dynamics, the process of grief and healing, and the power of finding joy and gratitude in life. Kit emphasizes the significance of self-discovery, empowerment, and the challenges of navigating estrangement from family members. Kit highlights the importance of community and support in the healing process.
TAKEAWAYS

• Kit Morgan specializes in helping those with religious trauma.

• Leaving Christian fundamentalism can require deprogramming and unlearning of inherited beliefs.
• Grief is a non-linear process that can lead to greater meaning in life.
• Trust in relationships is built on actions, not faith.
• Estrangement from family can be a necessary step for healing.
• Joy can coexist with pain in the healing journey.
• Gratitude can transform one's perspective on life.
• Empowerment involves nurturing the younger parts of oneself.
• Community support is vital for those healing from trauma.

CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Kit Morgan and Their Journey02:51 The Impact of Religious Trauma05:44 Endings and Beginnings: A Personal Reflection08:41 Grief and Healing from Religious Upbringing11:46 Navigating Family Estrangement14:38 Finding Empowerment and Trust17:13 The Complexity of Family Dynamics20:15 The Journey to Self-Discovery23:16 Joy and Gratitude in Healing26:18 Advice for Those in Pain28:59 Closing Thoughts and Resources
ABOUT KIT MORGANKit Morgan is a licensed clinical social worker, educator, and psychotherapist in Upstate New York. He specializes in religious trauma work and adverse childhood experiences in the 2SLGBTQIA+ population. Kit’s work is centered around dismantling oppressive ideologies, integrating tried and true healing practices, and cultivating inner wisdom.

• Follow Kit on Instagram at @theliberatedporch
• Read The Liberated Porch on Substack at https://theliberatedporch.substack.com/
• Learn More about Kit at https://www.theliberatedporch.com/

ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow ⁠⁠@thatheathermcg⁠⁠ on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at ⁠⁠https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/⁠⁠
• Learn more about Heather McG at www.heathermcg.com

In this conversation, Kyla Fox shares her personal journey of overcoming an eating disorder and how it led her to establish The Centre, a virtual eating disorder recovery center in Toronto. She discusses the complexities of eating disorders, the importance of community in recovery, and her approach to parenting in a way that fosters a healthy relationship with food and body image. Kyla emphasizes the need for honesty and support for those struggling with eating disorders and offers hope for recovery.
TAKEAWAYS

• Eating disorders often stem from deeper emotional struggles.
• Recovery from an eating disorder can be a complex process.
• Community plays a crucial role in the recovery journey.
• Parents have a responsibility to foster a healthy relationship with food in their children.
• Honesty is vital in supporting someone with an eating disorder.
• Kyla emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and understanding in recovery.

• Suffering can lead to personal growth and compassion.
• Hope is essential for those struggling with eating disorders.

CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Kyla Fox and Her Journey01:56 The Catalyst of Eating Disorders04:55 Understanding the Mindset of Eating Disorders09:50 The Complexity of Recovery12:02 Hitting Rock Bottom and the Decision to Recover15:21 Facing the Truth in Recovery17:23 The Duality of Suffering and Growth19:55 Founding the Center for Eating Disorder Recovery22:25 Understanding Eating Disorders: A Spectrum of Challenges24:36 The Importance of Community in Recovery24:37 New Chapter29:48 Generational Perspectives on Body Image and Parenting36:31 Messages of Hope for Those Struggling38:39 Reflections on Healing and Personal Growth
ABOUT KYLA FOXKyla has established herself as a visionary and innovator, when it comes to re-framing the way Canadians think about and treat eating disorders. As someone who struggled herself with an eating disorder, Fox identified care gaps and fundamental flaws in the treatment and recovery approach. Kyla is a Master’s-level clinician with degrees from both the University of Toronto in the Master of Social Work program as well as an Honours Bachelor of Arts Degree in Women’s Studies. She is a member of the Ontario Association of Social Workers and is registered with the Ontario College of Social Workers and Social Service Workers. She is also a member of the Academy of Eating Disorders and the National Eating Disorders Association. With such deep and varied experience in the field, Kyla is regularly called on by Canada’s top media outlets as a special commentator on a broad list of topics, including eating disorders, self-esteem, women’s health, body image, pregnancy and body confidence and more.

• Follow Kyla on Instagram at @kylafoxrecovery
• Learn more at www.kylafoxcentre.com

ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow ⁠⁠@thatheathermcg⁠⁠ on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at ⁠⁠https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/⁠⁠
• Learn more about Heather McG at ⁠⁠https://heathermcg.com/

Today, Heather McG and Brian Recker explore their shared experiences growing up in fundamentalist Christianity and the journey of deconstructing their faith. While Heather became and atheist, Brian has forged the path to a kinder, more universal faith. They discuss the challenges of navigating identity, shame, and the impact of evangelicalism on their lives. Brian shares his personal journey of leaving the pastorate, the struggles of divorce, and the importance of finding a supportive community. They also delve into the intersection of spirituality and politics, emphasizing the need for love and compassion in faith practices.
TAKEAWAYS

• Evangelicalism can rebrand fundamentalism without changing core beliefs.
• The journey of deconstruction can lead to a more authentic self.
• Shame is a pervasive issue in evangelical culture.
• Leaving the pastorate was a liberating yet challenging experience for Brian.

• Community support is crucial during times of change.
• Spirituality should focus on love and acceptance, not punishment.
• Politics and spirituality are intertwined in meaningful ways.
• Healing from shame takes time and self-compassion.

CHAPTERS00:00 Journey Through Fundamentalism09:22 The Awakening: Questioning Beliefs18:16 The Impact of Identity and Community Loss26:50 Embracing Change and Personal Growth28:58 The Politics of Jesus35:46 Finding the Genuine: A Journey to Self-Discovery
ABOUT BRIAN RECKERBrian Recker, M.Div, is a public theologian, speaker, and writer on Christian spirituality without exclusionary dogma. The son of a Baptist preacher and an alum of the fundamentalist Bob Jones University, he spent eight years as an evangelical pastor before deconstructing his faith to find a more inclusive spirituality. He now speaks about following Jesus without fear of hell on his popular Instagram account and his Substack, Beloved. He lives in Raleigh, North Carolina, and has four children as well as a rescue pup named Maev. He is also the author of Hell Bent, scheduled for release in Fall 2025.
ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow ⁠@thatheathermcg⁠ on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at ⁠https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/⁠
• Learn more about Heather McG at ⁠https://heathermcg.com/

In this engaging conversation, Heather McG interviews Clothilde Ewing, exploring her nonlinear career journey from producing for Oprah to her current role in nonprofit communications and as an author of children's books. They discuss the importance of being open to change, the impact of significant career endings, and the inspiration behind Clothilde's Stella series. The conversation also touches on motherhood, the vulnerability of sharing personal stories, and the lessons learned through life's transitions.
TAKEAWAYS

• Being open to change has led to more fulfilling opportunities.

• Finding meaning in work is essential for personal fulfillment.

• Just because work is meaningful doesn't mean it is the right path for you specifically.
• Vulnerability in sharing stories can lead to deeper connections.
• Owning one's truth can lighten the emotional burden.

CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction and Background02:05 Navigating Career Endings and Beginnings04:50 The Importance of Being Open to Change07:27 Reflections on The Oprah Show's End10:09 Finding Meaning in Work12:35 The Journey of Writing the Stella Series19:34 The Impact of Storytelling on Children21:44 Lessons in Parenting and Personal Growth23:07 Navigating Vulnerability in Creative Expression26:17 The Power of Connection Through Storytelling28:47 Creativity as a Journey of Imagination31:41 Embracing Change and Life's Endings33:41 What We Know for Sure About Growth36:46 The Freedom of Owning Your Truth
ABOUT CLOTHILDE EWINGClothilde has spent her career communicating through journalism, entertainment. politics and nonprofits. The throughline with all of these jobs is that she was doing her thing behind the scenes. That all changed when she had kids. She was inspired to start writing after reading a New York Times opinion piece by her now-editor, Denene Millner, titled: “Black Kids Don’t Want to Read About Harriet Tubman All the Time.” Her goal is for people to see more children of color in books that are not defined primarily by race or struggle, but belonging and joy. She lives in Chicago with her husband and two children.

• Follow Clothilde on Instagram: @clothildeewing or @stellalovesroger
• Find Clothilde online: https://www.clothildeewing.com/

ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow @thatheathermcg on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/
• Learn more about Heather McG at https://heathermcg.com/

In this conversation, Alex George shares her powerful journey of surviving Ewing's sarcoma, a rare form of cancer, and the profound lessons she learned along the way. From her initial diagnosis and the challenges of navigating the medical system to the emotional toll of chemotherapy and the unexpected loss of her job during treatment, Alex's story is one of resilience, humor, and personal growth. She emphasizes the importance of finding joy in small moments, the role of family support, and the transformative power of pursuing one's passions. Ultimately, Alex encourages listeners to embrace life fully, take risks, and believe in themselves, as life is too short to wait for the 'right' moment to pursue happiness.
TAKEAWAYS

• Alex's journey through cancer taught her the importance of resilience.
• Finding joy in small moments can be a powerful coping mechanism.
• The support of family and friends is crucial during tough times.
• Navigating the medical system can be challenging and frustrating.
• Humor can help lighten the burden of serious situations.
• Chemotherapy is a difficult process that varies for each individual.
• Sharing our stories gives hope to others that they can find their way home.

• Pursuing passions can lead to unexpected opportunities and fulfillment.
• We only get one life (as far as we know!), so make the most of it.
• Believing in oneself is essential for personal growth and happiness.

Chapters00:00 Introduction to Alex's Journey03:28 The Early Career Struggles05:09 The Health Crisis Begins10:43 The Diagnosis of Ewing's Sarcoma18:58 Coping with Cancer and Humor20:00 Navigating Family Dynamics During Health Crises25:09 The Power of Laughter in Difficult Times29:22 Understanding the Chemo Experience35:24 The Impact of Employment Loss During Illness42:16 The Weight of Shared Trauma44:54 Finding Hope Through Shared Stories47:17 Moments of Realization in Recovery50:06 Baking as a Healing Journey53:28 Turning Passion into Purpose56:47 Lessons from Adversity01:00:16 Embracing Life's Uncertainties
ABOUT ALEX GEORGEAlex is a baker, recipe developer, and content creator who is currently working on her debut cookbook! As a self-taught baker who abides by the philosophy that more is more, Alex wants to encourage people to be creative in the kitchen- go ahead and take a risk. Alex is ecstatic to join Heather for season 1 of The Happily Never After podcast. As a cancer survivor, she knows first-hand how life can change in an instant. For Alex, those changes led her to a whole new second life.

• Follow Alex on Instagram at @lilypcrumbs
• Follow Alex on TikTok at @lilypcrumbs
• Learn more about Alex on her website at https://lilypcrumbs.com/

ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow @thatheathermcg on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/
• Learn more about Heather McG at https://heathermcg.com/

In this conversation, Julie and Yue tackle the evolving landscape of modern dating, emphasizing the importance of emotional availability and vulnerability. They share personal stories of heartbreak and the lessons learned from past relationships, highlighting the significance of intentionality in dating. The discussion also touches on the current love crisis, particularly among women, and the need to shift expectations in relationships. Ultimately, Julie and Yue encourage listeners to confront their fears of heartbreak and embrace the growth that comes from difficult experiences.
TAKEAWAYS

• People are increasingly looking for emotional availability in relationships.
• Gen Z is shifting dating norms towards more intentional relationships.
• Endings in relationships can lead to new beginnings and personal growth.
• Love alone is not enough to sustain a relationship; commitment and compatibility are crucial.
• It's important to avoid bringing baggage from past relationships into new ones.
• Intentionality in dating is key to finding meaningful connections.
• Women are increasingly choosing to remain single or avoid dating due to negative experiences.
• The narrative we choose to believe about dating can shape our experiences.
• Confronting heartbreak can lead to valuable life lessons and personal development.
• It's essential to recognize that not all past experiences define future possibilities.

CHAPTERS00:00Introduction to Modern Dating Dynamics01:56Defining 'Dateable' in Today's Context03:31The Impact of Generational Shifts on Dating06:28Navigating Breakups and Heartbreaks09:16Lessons Learned from Past Relationships11:40The Role of Commitment in Relationships14:57Transforming Endings into New Beginnings17:42Understanding Baggage and Moving Forward20:41Conversations About Cheating and Trust25:32Understanding Relationship Patterns29:20The Aftermath of Breakups33:11The Dating Landscape Today42:16Reflections on Heartbreak and Growth
ABOUT YUE AND JULIEJulie Krafchick and Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable and the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love, which was recently published by Simon & Schuster. Drawing on a decade’s worth of research from speaking to thousands of daters and world-renowned experts, Julie and Yue have learned what it takes to find love in today’s dating world. Their work has been featured by The New York Times, CNN, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more.
ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow @thatheathermcg on IG for related content and discussion.
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/
• Learn more about Heather McG at https://heathermcg.com/

In this heartfelt conversation, Ashley Desanno shares her journey through grief following the loss of her father. She discusses the complexities of anticipatory grief, the impact on family dynamics, and the lessons learned through the grieving process. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, the mind-body connection, and how to support children through loss. Both Ashley and Heather reflect on the different ways people grieve and the significance of keeping memories alive while navigating the emotional landscape of loss.
TAKEAWAYS

• Grief can manifest in unexpected ways, including physical exhaustion.
• Anticipatory grief can prepare you for loss but doesn't eliminate pain.
• It's important to allow yourself to feel and express grief in your own way.
• Family dynamics can complicate the grieving process, requiring understanding and respect.
• Creating memories and talking about the deceased helps keep their spirit alive.
• Self-care is crucial during grief; you can't support others if you don't support yourself.
• Grief is a personal journey; there's no right or wrong way to grieve.
• Children process grief differently; it's important to communicate openly with them.
• Support from friends can be more meaningful when it acknowledges the complexity of grief.
• Finding ways to fill the void left by loss with love and positivity can aid healing.

ABOUT ASHLEYAshley Desanno is a content creator (@lotsamiles), a mom, and a marathon runner. She is also the co-owner of a small business called The Creepy Book Club that she started with her best friend, and together they host a podcast called Books with Your Besties, building community all along the way. She tries to keep all the plates spinning—with coffee, laughter, and a lot of TMI.
ABOUT THE HAPPILY NEVER AFTERThe Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can offer an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow @thatheathermcg on IG for related content and discussion. 
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/
• Learn more about Heather McG at https://heathermcg.com/
  

Life is full of endings, isn’t it? Whether the endings were our choice or out of our control, they can set us spiraling. Sometimes they can even make us feel like a failure. However, whether we’re talking about loss, grief, heartbreak, a crisis of faith, or a big move, endings also push us to grow in unexpected ways. The Happily Never After is a podcast that features stories of big endings that led to personal breakthroughs. While endings can hurt, they also provide closure, provide opportunities to heal and grow, and sometimes, they even set us free. Endings can be an opportunity to begin anew, in a better way, and that’s what we’re here to talk about (alongside a good dose of humor too!)One thing we know for sure: if life is full of endings, it’s full of new beginnings too. Welcome to The Happily Never After, because sometimes the end is just the beginning.

• New episodes every Tuesday.
• Follow @thatheathermcg on IG for related content and discussion. 
• Read The Happily Never After on Substack at ⁠https://thehappilyneverafter.substack.com/⁠
• Learn more about Heather McG at ⁠https://heathermcg.com/