This episode of The Heartbeat is with Natalie Stavola and it's such a good one! Natalie is a dating and relationship coach as well as actress, poet, and writer, and you can find her on instagram: @nataliestavola. Today we talk about redefining what it means to be "productive", taking things moment by moment, and just being a human / surviving this current time.

"We are in an intense and elongated fight-or-flight mode - these are raising cortisol levels. So if people are experiencing their skin breaking out more, that would be why. It's creating our ability to long term plan - that is shut down - and a lot of that is shut down because we don't even know what next month will bring. So it causes the fatigue, it causes the imbalance, and then when we want to fight it, when we want to go 'oh no there's something wrong with me' now we're going back into 'I'm not enough and I need to hide and I need to escape it', or 'there's something wrong and I need to fix it'."

"You're gonna be just fine. You chose those things because you were given gifts. You chose that path because you were given the strength that you needed in order to be the boss that you are today."

"Just because you are aware, too, and can intellectualize the things and figure it out, doesn't mean that it's gonna make it easier, or the journey easier. Still means that you have to put in the work and experience the emotions, and experience the doubt."

Welcome back to this episode of The Heartbeat with the incredible Jessi Kneeland who is a writer, iPEC certified life coach, clinical sexologist, TEDx speaker, and all around awesome human. Today we discuss topics such as body image, worthiness, conscious relationships, and the biggie for all of us - feeling enough.

"I think it was this massive feeling of like, once I did that - I did this scary thing that I was not sure at all was the right thing to do - and on the other side of it I realized 'I can trust my intuition, and in fact I MUST always, again, forever trust my intuition.' Cause it was right, and everyone else was wrong, and I'm the only person who can be an expert on me."

"People would be like, 'damn, how did you get your abs so flat?', you know, or 'I want my butt like that' or whatever, and I loved that. I felt so successful because we've been given this model of what success looks like for women, and it's to be as perfect and hot as possible, and so I felt successful. And what was really really hard as I made this shift, was to realize that I needed to give up the feeling of worth and success in order to do the deeper work of feeling worthy as a person."

"'No wonder I'm anxious all the time, no wonder my shoulders and neck are all bound up', you know? A lot of it was wanting the status, and wanting to look like I felt like I was supposed to look, wanting to look more perfect. And a lot of it too, I think on an unconscious level, was keeping me from feeling all the stuff that came out when I had to feel it. Because it was a lot of stuff that came out when I learned to breathe, when I learned to feel. That was not easy and there was a lot there. It was a lot of backlogged stuff around trauma."

Find Jessi on her IG @jessikneeland & at jessikneeland.com

Hello again, Lovebugs! Today's episode features Lisa Romano, a Narcissistic Abuse & Codependency Expert, as well as Life Coach and Bestselling Author who helps people renegotiate their perception and relationship with self and others. The big question we ask here is, "how do I really feel about myself inside relationships?"

Some highlight from the conversation:

"Codependency is a problem with identity - you don't know who you are, you don't feel good enough so you're seeking validation, and you're trying to get approval thinking, 'if I get approval from somebody outside of me, that means I'm enough.'"

"When you're codependent you feel like you need permission to feel your feelings."

"Once I was able to see, 'it's not me, it's my programming', I was able to dis-identify from the shame of not feeling good enough."

Lisa's platforms are @lisaaromano & https://www.lisaaromano.com/

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"Our hearts are being pulled open in ways that - for many people - it feels like a confrontation, and feels incredibly uncomfortable."

Welcome to this super enlightening discussion with Laura Brown on why a higher perspective and perhaps a whole perspective shift is huge during this time of Covid-19 and the big changes + uplevels going on in the world.

"Now all of our distractions, all of those things we would normally use to numb ourselves out, suddenly all of that is taken away and we have to actually sit with ourselves. We have to be present with ourselves. And that - for some people - is an incredibly frightening experience; they spend most of their days trying like hell to avoid it.

"When we're in the trenches, our perspective is so narrow. It's just basically what's right in front of us - we don't have that bird's eye view."

"While I know there's no going back, and while I know that the world will forever be changed because we haven't had an experience like this in the modern world, I can't help but wonder just how many people and how many governments are just gonna go back to where things were. Because the system was set up in such a way where certain people profited, and certain people didn't. I'm hoping that more of us stay awake."

Find Laura @intuituvealchemy.co & intuitivealchemy.co

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Today's guest is Adriana Bussi, a Certified Mindbody Life Coach and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Expert who was raised in an abusive household, and ended up carrying that trauma in her body without realizing it, until her mid-twenties when she finally took her health in her hands and made the SHIFT into recovery. Might sound familiar to many of you, so give this a listen as we discuss repressed childhood emotions, the fight or flight response and the Nervous System, why “just knowing about it” isn't good enough, and the inner work that finally sets you free.

Our physical bodies are the barometers of our subconscious, and even believing that some of our pain can be emotional is huge – but then what we do with that knowledge is most important.

It's the shift from “I have to repress my emotions to get love from my parents...or I will die.” to “It's safe. I'm safe if I express these emotions.”

Find Adriana on Instagram @letsgetyourshifttogether and on her website letsgetyourshifttogether.com

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