Feeling the pressure to make the holidays perfect? Hosting, planning, cooking, attending every event — all while staying cheerful and grateful? If the holiday season tends to trigger stress, people-pleasing, guilt, resentment, or emotional overload… this episode is for you.

In this episode of Loving That Midlife, Lori Buck, Master Certified Christian Life Coach, breaks down the Hidden Cost of “Shoulds.”
You’ll learn:

• Why your brain creates pressure and “should” thinking
• How to tell the difference between a Kingdom Should (rooted in love, calling, and compassion) and a Performance Should (rooted in guilt, fear, and expectation)
• How to set gentle but firm boundaries without being rude, selfish, or unkind
• How to create peace, emotional presence, and healthier family dynamics during the holidays

Plus, Lori shares real-life examples and simple boundary scripts you can use immediately — especially if you feel responsible for making everyone happy.

This episode will help you:

• Release holiday stress and pressure
• Stop people-pleasing during family gatherings
• Choose your “yes” and “no” with peace and confidence
• Love others without abandoning yourself
• Recognize when guilt is disguising itself as responsibility

Whether you are navigating caregiving, family expectations, hosting traditions, or just trying not to lose yourself in the holiday chaos — this conversation will give you clarity, grace, relief, and a grounded path forward.

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