The Hidden Power

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
I hope you are familiar with the term homesickness. When you are away from home, no matter the reasons, it can be for travel, military services, university or any other reasons you miss your home and experience a mental ache to go back home.  Destination sickness is the opposite of homesickness.  You go for a travel, job, achieve your dream life, or any other reason you feel sad to come back to your routine home life is called destination sickness.  The destination sickness is just the opposite of homesickness. 
 
If you are on a trip for weeks to your favourite destination and it's time to come back home, you feel sadness slowly set in, you feel down and moody as your wonderful journey came to an end.  You will start to think there is so much to explore and visit various places and travel from one place to another. You think your time away from home doing your best interesting things gave you the best feeling in the world.
Once you returned home, your mind will be focused on going on another trip. 
 
When some people feel homesick and uncomfortable leaving their current job or status, those who suffer from destination sickness constantly feel moving to the next destination of success – whether it be professional, financial, social, politics, studies, or travel. Limelight jobs can create severe destination sickness in you.
 
Like homesickness, destination sickness also must be tackled well.  People consider those who suffer from destination success as adventurous, fearless, constant risk-takers and dream seekers.
 
Homesickness is your possessiveness feeling to come back to your home's comfort and lead a predictive routine systematic and comfortable work pattern. Destination sickness is your urge to do more adventurous and new things in life and design and achieve more dreams.
 
Those who are suffering from homesickness will not be able to achieve success in other areas of life, which require staying away from family. Those who are suffering from destination sickness will constantly be thinking about new destinations to conquer. In that spirit, you may ignore other major areas of your life.
You feel home as an unexciting place or comparatively less important as your destination is calling you constantly. Being conscious about your destination sickness and give reasonable time to family and other key areas for life is the best way to handle it if you suffer from destination sickness.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Only Appreciation and No Criticism or Only Criticism and No Appreciation can make Jack a Narcissist
Today many motive speakers say you don’t bother about what others say.  Many follow that and reject what others say about you. Today’s parents learned to give appreciation to their child and not criticism, not even genuine feedback. If you only give appreciation and never listen to criticism, you will be developing a narcissistic personality disorder. If you avoid criticism, you reject the opportunity for a self-evaluation which is a key element in forming your self-esteem.  Only appreciation leads to high self-importance and arrogance.  You need to develop strong self-confidence and self-esteem. To develop high self-confidence and self-esteem, you should accept and manage appreciation, feedback, and criticism well.
Let us take an example of a veggie packet you bought.  When you open it, if the entire content is rotten, you throw it into the bin. You may feel upset, but you don’t dwell on it. If it is not entirely rotten, you will take the good ones out and throw the rotten ones.  Criticism must be handled in the same way. When you receive criticism, check for what can be useful for you to change or improve life. Throw the rest to the dustbin.  Never take any rotten criticisms and once thrown out, never be bothered about it. When you know that a particular shop sells spoiled veggies, you never buy from them. Similarly, if you know that certain people only give you spoiled or rotten feedback, stay away from them.
It is essential to listen to criticisms, feedback and appreciation to shape your character and personality in the best way possible. Never ignore criticism and it is criticism that helps you understand your hidden talents and abilities than appreciation.  Many parents and gurus have succeeded in creating gem-like personalities by helping their disciples to handle criticism, feedback and appreciation in the right way.
Parents and teachers should train the kids to accept and handle criticism, feedbacks and appreciation as key life skills. Never make your child appreciation and validation focused as it can create an unhealthy ego, self-importance, arrogance and narcissistic personality disorders.  Only criticism and no appreciation can create low self-confidence, low self-esteem and narcissistic personality disorder. Parents should learn how to use appreciation, criticism and feedbacks sparingly to create a healthy personality in kids.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
You can see people lead a minimalist life or maximalist life. Minimalism is when you live intentionally.  You have clarity and purpose for everything you do.  You intentionally plan your life. If you are a minimalist, you buy stuff that is absolutely necessary.  You will never have anything that is not useful at home. You keep only the valuable and useful things and remove everything that is not of value and use.
A minimalist house will be organized with minimum things with maximum efficacy. This will create free space at home to enjoy. With more free space, you feel stress-free and energetic.
Maximalists keep buying things they are interested and will not be bothered about its use or value. A maximalist’ house will be full of things that are not used for months. You will see that they just keep stacking things. They want to maximise everything. As a result, they live in congested rooms.
A minimalist will have a meal with minimum items such as one main dish with two or three side dishes and a maximalist will have a table full of dishes. If you are a maximalist, you will buy more and waste more and a minimalist, always buy the required minimum and never waste anything.
A minimalist believes that less is more and a maximalist believes that more is more. It is advisable to check whether you are a minimalist or a maximalist before teaching your children not to waste food or buy unnecessary things. Remember, children will copy. Be a minimalist with maximum efficiency
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Yes, it will but only if your life is blind that spoils your kids. Your kids want love, but you should not get blind in your love. When you are blind in your love, you see only the pleasure you and your child get from the loving relationship your both share. It can spoil your child and deviate from attaining the right level of growth and development. You tend to give everything your child wishes to have and struggle to give your kids a hassle-free life. It can make your child a self-centered and selfish person. You may overlook any problem behaviour or ignore the pain their reckless behaviour causes.  It can make your kid get away with any misbehavior as you are blind in your love. You will never hear others' feedback or criticism as you go deaf in your blind love towards your child. You take any nonsense from your child as your all senses get jammed with your blind love. Your kid gets away with the mean and harsh behaviour as you become blind to life values and morals.
You tend to make everything comfortable and cozy for your child as you don’t want to see your child suffer disappointments and pain. You allow every pleasure your child indulges in even though you are pretty sure that it can damage your child’s life in the long run. You tend to rationalize all his bad behaviour, nasty attitudes and inappropriate emotional outbreaks because you know that the behaviour is the aftereffect of your blind love. You will forget a parent’s key responsibility as a tough mentor when you are blind in your love.
Love your child abundantly but never be blind in your love. As a parent, you have enormous power; understand the hidden power within you. You are a powerhouse of human energy - Sense it, feel it, and make use of that energy in shaping your child’s future. Trust me; your parental energy has all the potential to transform lives. Make good use of it.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Your mindset decides the nature of your life's success.  The right mindset can create wonders in your life.  You can have either a strength-oriented or weakness oriented mindset, which can subsequently make you a strength-oriented or a weakness oriented thinker. 
If you possess a strength-oriented mindset, you will focus on your strengths and generate strength-oriented thinking. You will be able to see the opportunities in life to build yourself and achieve your goals.  You will be able to handle risks and challenges confidently.  You will understand your weaknesses and work on those weaknesses by learning new skills. 
If you possess a weakness oriented mindset, you will focus on your weaknesses and generate weakness-oriented thinking. You will not be able to see the opportunities in life as your mind will be clouded with doubts and worries.  You will see risks and challenges are not something that can be removed and your weaknesses will keep you in the dark of impossibilities, and every opportunity will pass you easily as you never see them. You will consider yourself a weak person with all those weaknesses and never come out of your struggle state.
The weakness oriented person will see risks in opportunities and a strength-oriented person will see opportunities in risks. Therefore, be a strength-oriented person in life.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach, and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Your mindset decides the nature of your life – its success.  You can have either possibility or impossibility mindsets in life
The possibility mindset leads to abundance and the impossibility mindset leads to scarcity.
To have a possibility mindset, you need some goals in life.
Let us understand the benefits of the possibility mindset in life.
A possibility mindset leads to possibility thinking – what is possible? The opportunities, resources, skills, etc.
Impossibility thinking leads to impossibility thinking  - what is lacking in achieving something
Both lead to result-oriented thinking
Possibility thinking leads to success-oriented thinking, which brings success and happiness
Possibility thinking leads to action-oriented thinking. You will experience motivation, growth and progress, learning and experience, self-efficacy and self-esteem, confidence, joy, freedom, value, credibility, satisfaction, purpose and positivity.
 Whereas, Impossibility thinking leads to failure oriented thinking, leads to failure and suffering
There will not be any action and you will quickly give up. As a result, you will experience, lack of motivation, growth, self-sabotage, low self-confidence, shame, hurt, blame, jealousy, humiliation, guilt, lack of respect
Everything starts from your mindset and, therefore, always get your mindset right to get what you want in your life.
If you have a lack mindset, you will experience scarcity in life and if you have an abundance mindset, you will experience surplus in life.  When things go off the road, please get your mindset checked and corrected.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
The base of the theory is ‘life is nothing but Demands and Problems’
Principles of this theory are:
Principle 1 Failure is an integral part of your life. Life is failure-prone; therefore, you cannot avoid failures.
Principle 2 - Your failure is important only for you and not for others – For others, it’s only your success. No one is affected by your failure more than you
Principle 3 – sambhavami yuge yuge means ‘whatever supposed to happen will happen.’
Principle 4 – pravruthiyami dhine dhine (keep doing what you supposed to do (your karmam)
Principle 5 – There are no time constraints to rise and shineb
Principle 6 – Make use of your today wisely as your past created you today and your today will create your future
Principle 7 - Never surrender to your fears. See fears as a sign of your care towards what you do and how important is that for you.
Principle 8 -  Accept your situation and be committed to rise and shine. Break all the barriers. Build your courage and skills to build you more strong.
Application:
Your life is a continuous process. This theory is applicable only if you take responsibility for your life path. The universe designs your life path when you are born with various possibilities. The universe takes 50% control of your life.
There are two life paths – 1) Fate directed         2) Self-directed
In the fate directed life path you don’t take responsibility but lead your life as it comes.  You may or may not achieve success.
In the self-directed life path you accept the 50% of fate and take responsibility for the other 50%. It has two choices 1) destructive  2) constructive
If you choose the destructive one, you will suffer shame, guilt and suffering. If you choose the constructive one, you can rise and shine confidently.
Therefore choose your life path wisely. Apply the rise and shine theory to rise and shine from your situation so that your light is visible to others 
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
In this episode, I would like to discuss the Effects of imposter syndrome as I see it in many of my clients suffering from this syndrome and diminished their self-worth.
Imposter syndrome is a psychological pattern in which individuals doubt their own accomplishments. Suppose you are a person suffering from imposter syndrome you will devalue your abilities and talents. In that case, you will attribute your success to luck or deceive or if in a group activity give credits to others hard work and devalue your own contribution.
You will exhibit fear of evaluation, fear of not continuing success and fear of not being as capable as others. When things go wrong, you blame yourself, and when things go fine, you give credit to external factors.
In relationships, you often feel like you do not live up to the expectations of your parents, partner, friends or loved ones. You experience feelings of being unworthy or of not deserving the beneficial relationships you possess.
In a contest - You will compare with others and evaluate you always as a low performer. You will question the grounds on which you have been accepted into a program. You will perceive that your achievements are because of external factors and not from your personal ability or intelligence.
Imposter syndrome is a belief you form during your childhood years from the influencing personalities’ teachings in your growing up years.
Imposter syndrome is not a mental illness, but it can strongly affect your functioning.  It can be treated with cognitive behaviour techniques by giving emphasise on self-esteem. 
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
I have always asked myself why some are successful in their career, and others are not. I am a business psychologist specialised in organisational and industrial counselling and behaviour. I have helped many people to reach the success of their careers.  When working with them, I have noticed many factors that stopped them from being the best version of their career personality.
Let me take the story of the hare and tortoise to explain what is vital in success. To be successful, you should be consistent in your efforts.  In a career, nobody checks who came first or who is last. There, reaching your destination of success only matters. How fast or slow is not that big deal.  You should be either slow and steady or fast and consistent – so consistency matters, not the speed.  Steady and progressive is the mantra for success.
In the story of hare and tortoise, the race was conducted on land.  Have you imagined if it was performed in the water who would have won the race - the tortoise.  In the race of success, you should be choosing the field wisely.  If the field is not suitable for you, you may lose the race or finish it last.  So be clear about your career field.  Never try to run on somebody else’s field as you will find it difficult to win.
For success, you should be consistently progressive; speed is as you choose and ensures you are in the right field. You will reach definitely reach your success.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!

‘The Hidden Power,’ Host Dr Susan Koruthu
Parenting is the most challenging and highest rewarding job in the world.  Successful parents enjoy the feel of pride, joy, satisfaction, comfort and security.
Creating a functioning personality is every parents’ responsibility.  As long as the child is well behaved, well functioning and confident, parents are fine. But if they are not, parents are to be blamed.
In this episode, Susan highlights the saying ‘all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.’ This highlights the importance of play and relaxation together with work to build a healthy child. Only work and no play can create stress, performance anxiety, self-sabotage and confidence issues in the child.  He may feel burnout and create an apathetic self.  This saying is ulta in today’s practices.  ‘all play and no work makes Jack a doomed boy.’  Today most parents are busy with their profession or personal worries and problems.  Many parents do not have enough time to spend with their kids to give them proper guidance and mentoring.  As a result, the kids face various mental, physical, behavioural and cognitive issues such as laziness, worthlessness, depression, arrogance and self apathy.
Parents must be competent enough to build a responsible child who is leading a balanced life.  Everyone must do some work to get rewarded.  Most of today’s kids are not given the opportunity to be productive enough to earn their credits. They consider parents are just providers for their easy living. Every child must do their responsibilities well as a student, son or daughter, sibling, friend etc.  Parents should give care in building a confident functioning child.
Dr Susan Koruthu is a multifaceted life psychologist and mind wellness coach and author who helps build healthy and successful lives. Through her ‘The Hidden Power’ podcasts, she gives you insights into various vital areas of life and creates a magnificent life of your choice.
The Hidden Power podcasts will make your personal transformation easy and flawless. Listen to it often to empower your life.
May God bless us all!