The Hilarious Hypnotist

In this episode, we continue working with Jeff and begin going through each of the things that caused panic attacks; driving, exercise, and then flying (the big one!). Traci explains to Jeff that the panic attacks are actually trying to protect him (and possibly distract) him from the real issue, which is the loss of control of his life. It's his body's way of saying that he's not safe and that something needs to change, only when it finally speaks it's when Jeff is doing something like driving, exercising, or flying...and then Jeff naturally equates the panic attacks to those activities instead of the real issues. Traci and Jeff work through driving and exercise, leaving only 9 minutes for flying...which means Jeff gets to come back in a future episode. KEY POINTS:

• Jeff and Traci work through the panic attacks and exercise, with Jeff watching himself in a movie starring Gabriel Iglesias aka "Fluffy."
• Jeff worries about being politically incorrect during his session, so Traci has to switch tactics.
• Jeff begins to see the connections, and is able to let go.
• When working on exercise, Jeff is able to work his issue down enough that he can contain "the flames" in a box that says "In case of emergency, break glass."
• Traci and Jeff begin working through his fear of flying, before running out of time.
• Jeff got a lot out of the session.

QUOTABLES: "My lack of control over my situation, that was the problem." "If that panic attack didn't happen, your life would be completely different." "Definitely some thoughts dancing around in there but I think for the most part, it's much better now than it was the first time around." "It's not only keeping you safe, but it's keeping you from enjoying life." "Physical aspects of my body chemistry are finally getting into alignment." "I envision myself with a hammer and a glass case with a little piece of wire." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

While at Hypnothoughts, the world's largest hypnosis conference where The Hilarious Hypnotist was presenting, another hypnotist came by and said "I'm going to refer someone to you...because you have some things in common." Sure enough, we did, and after chatting for a few minutes I knew I wanted Jeff on the podcast because he is afraid of flying, to the extent that it causes panic attacks. Jeff begins sharing his 22-year history of panic attacks, and The Hilarious Hypnotist begins to see a pattern unfolding. Over the years, the panic attacks seem to evolve and then resolve, only to attach themselves to something else. It started off with driving, then exercise, and now airplanes. Traci begins to examine what was going on behind the scenes in Jeff's personal life and begins to unravel a pattern between the panic attacks and control issues. KEY POINTS:

• Jeff shares his story about his first panic attack, and how he ended up in the hospital.
• Jeff relates his story about his panic attacks related to exercise.
• Jeff tells a horrendous story about his fear of flying, and how his last flight ended in disaster with his girlfriend getting sick on take-off.
• Traci digs into what was happening around the same time these panic attacks rooted in his behavior and begins to notice a pattern of losing control in his personal life.

QUOTABLES: "People are predictable in some way, shape, or form." "Panic attacks are a way for someone to keep themselves safe; they feel threatened in some way." " I do not like to be not in control. And I don't like to feel like you are controlling me." "You are there for those you love no matter what." "I want my ribs back!" PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

TRIGGER WARNING!!! This episode discusses BDSM, beatings, self-harm, and possibly other issues that may trigger listeners/viewers who are sensitive to these topics. In this episode, Katie discusses a little more in-depth about her connection with BDSM and that she and her Dom are into "impact play." Impact Play, for those not into BDSM, can range from light spankings to being beaten with an object. Traci has extensive experience with impact play and explains that sometimes people get their pain and pleasure wires crossed. For most people, pain is pain, and pleasure is pleasure. Sometimes people find relief or release in pain and actively look for this "pleasure" in unhealthy ways, such as self-harm. Katie admitted to cutting herself, and Traci points out that the ways self-harm is tied to self-worth and pleasure. Traci then helps Katie break apart the ties to all of these, so she can still seek "pain/pleasure" and it's separate from self-harm and self-worth. KEY POINTS:

• Katie illustrates her childhood connection to pain = pleasure.
• Katie identifies other triggers and memories she has regarding her childhood.
• Traci explains how some people are wired a little differently, that pain = pleasure instead of pleasure = pleasure.
• Traci and Katie discuss self-harm, self-worth, and the pain/pleasure connection.
• Traci gives Katie several techniques to help manage her "Switch Flips".

QUOTABLES: "My belief is that you can embrace your wiring issue and find healthy ways to express it through BDSM." "When you were born, you were neutral." "Sucking up my whole life and getting my brain to be quiet seems like the better choice." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

Traci, The Hilarious Hypnotist, was flying home from and had a layover in Denver when she started up a chat with another couple, Katie & Scott. The couple had an interest in BDSM and polyamory and was looking for a hypnotist to help Katie get past some trauma. Traci gave them her business card, and a few months later they called for a consultation. After hearing Katie's story, Traci asked if she would be okay with sharing her healing journey on the podcast. Katie agreed, and then realized they'd be coming through Tampa to attend FetishCon in St. Petersburg, FL. They reconnected at Hilarious Hypnotist HQ and Katie shared the struggles she was having in her new "power exchange" relationship. Katie is a 24/7 submissive to her gentle Dom. She consciously knows she's SAFE in her current relationship, but occasionally she gets triggered by past trauma and without notice, "switches" to a Dominant role that violates their agreed-upon protocol, creating issues in the relationship. Katie is looking to figure out what her triggers are so she doesn't "switch" mid-scene and crash the relationship dynamic. KEY POINTS: Katie and Scott discuss their current situation, being in a 24/7 dominant/submissive relationship AND being polyamorous They talk about what happens when Katie "switch flips" the scene. Katie discusses being raise by alcoholic parents and their party lifestyle When her parents sobered up, things didn't get better. Katie didn't feel "safe" growing up and was often sent to her room for showing big emotions, feelings, crying, or sadness.

QUOTABLES: "It's time to let my unconscious brain meet my conscious brain and know that I'm safe." "Most of what comes up for me with that is through doing bodywork and it's like, fragmented." "Typically BDSM people are highly kinesthetic." "It's a great story for Netflix to create a story for Netflix. I own it."

PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, The Hilarious Hypnotist begins helping Matt work through his issues one by one. The tendency of ADHD is to avoid dealing with the issues at hand, and Traci calls Matt on it and begins working on each of the transactions. Traci begins throwing F bombs into the session, and Matt starts laughing explaining his aversion to use F bombs in most situations. He still finds them funny, so Traci begins changing her "fucks" into "ducks," "bucks," while "mucking" things up. The laughter works and the transaction love Matt felt dissolves. Traci learns one of the hardest things he had to do with his therapist, is take birthday money that was given to him and spend it on himself instead of his family. He bought himself a BB gun, and Traci takes those feelings and builds them up into a Purple Rider BB gun...and then transforms that energy into something he can take into the bedroom. She then helps him discover that people pleasing is not a one way street. Sometimes he needs to "take" so others can receive the pleasure of being able to give. KEY POINTS: - Matt continues to work through the words that kept him from being his best authentic self and doing things his way. -Matt takes in the importance that it's okay to receive; he doesn't always have to be the one giving. -Matt ties his good feeling to the Purple Rider BB Gun. -Matt is challenged in a good way, and thinks about living is life in his way. QUOTABLES: "What happens is that when you're constantly the giver, you are denying someone else the same joy that you experience by giving, because they can't give back to you." "I always wanted to theme My bedroom into something fun. Married. Oh no, no, no. It's supposed to look elegant, romantic. Whatever. My bedroom is now that I'm divorced. You're like this is all Nintendo. I have an incentive lamp. I have a Nintendo posters, everything. I even have a little bit thing but pillowcases. One of them says game over. Basically my my bedroom is always ready for player number two." "Muck this shit." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, we welcome Matt from Springfield, MO, who is dating another hypnotist. Matt is recently divorced with 3 teenage boys, one of which he's a foster parent for. Diagnosed with ADHD two and a half years ago, Matt has found a way to turn his ADHD into a super power. He keeps himself busy as a self-employed graphic designer, entertainer, ventriloquist, and puppeteer. He's a Southern Gospel / bluegrass music lover which may seem conservative to some, yet he's also polyamorous (many loves). As Matt explains his life to Traci, she begins to uncover that he was subjected to years of "transactional love" between his parents and ex-wife, a subtle form of manipulation used to get him to behave in a certain way. Everything he did came with "what will other people think about you?" This constant pressure of worrying about what others think can create adults who are severe people pleasers. It's easier to just do what others want them to do rather than risk losing the love and acceptance they crave. Matt has become a supreme people pleaser, and now this road is affecting him intimately. In Part 1, The Hilarious Hypnotist begins to weave through years of therapy and help Matt explore his fears of rejection. KEY POINTS: - Matt begins sharing where he's at now in his life, dating a hypnotherapist who referred him to Traci. - Matt talks about the positive aspects of his ADHD, and how he's embraced it as a super power. -Matt is recently divorced, a father of 3 teenagers, and a self-employed graphic designer with many other talents. He loves dad jokes, puns, and one-liners. - Matt discusses his transitional love with his parents and hints at a similar relationship with his ex-wife. - Matt begins to cut the strings to his transaction love, keeping the best of his parents and getting rid of the ties that keep him bound to pleasing others. QUOTABLES: "I know that because of my fear rejection, it also is a great motivator to be the better me. And I don't want to be that person that controls other people to be that jerk, right." "I'm going to let go of the guilt. I'm gonna let it go. I'm gonna let go of that transaction. That transaction is closed." "When you keep giving me generalities, that's your ADHD saying, "Fuck this shit, I don't want to deal with it." But we're going to deal with it, okay? Because this is how you fix your shit." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, we start to identify Rachael's triggers and begin using her past experiences to change those triggers from disempowering to empowering. Traci uses characters from a TV show she enjoyed at the time to change how Rachael looks at her past relationships. Traci shows the patterns and parallels in her life, and points out how she's much stronger than she thinks. At one point, Traci hands Rachael a rubber chicken to squeeze when she gets triggered, and the laughter finally comes. Rachael starts to hear the words of her ex differently and begins to emerge from the funk of her past...as well as her migraines. KEY POINTS: - Traci begins breaking down each of Rachael's triggers from her ex. - Rachael squeezes the rubber chicken whenever she's triggered, and starts laughing. - Rachael learns she's stronger than she thinks, realizing that even her own body tried to kill her (with asthma) and failed. - Rachael realizes her experiences with her ex make her very effective at her job. - Rachael learns that she needs to clean her energy field after working with other accident victims. -Rachel begins to realize the connections she made to music, names, and cars to her abuse are emotional connections she made to protect herself. QUOTABLES: "Okay, if that headache was a person who would it be?" "Alright, now what I want you to do in your mind is cut those strings that need to be cut. Okay. Go ahead. Pick the best bad ass pliers, scissors, flame thrower, dumb chucks, spinning little star, whatever, whenever cut, make it fly. " "Now you got loose ends hanging from you got those loose ends, I want you to reattach them to yourself. Knowing that when the right person comes along, you can attach and attach them to the person that's worthy of your love." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, we welcome Traci's neighbor, Rachael Zen, who has been experiencing horrendous migraines, for 20+ years. Traci kept reading Facebook posts where Rachael was feeling horrible, and never really getting any relief from the migraines. Traci's worked with other clients on migraines, and she asked if Rachel would be willing to share her healing journey as a guest on the show. 15 minutes into the session, Rachael begins talking about her ex-husband, when Traci notices a shift in her expression and "connects the dots" between her migraines and her past relationships. KEY POINTS: - Rachael is polyamorous and was involved in a triad and shares her complex relationship - Rachael experienced abuse in her past relationship and had several triggers which still haunt her -Rachael is a customer service rep for an auto insurance company and helps coordinate claims immediately after accidents -Rachael had a crush on Daphne from the TV Show Frasier, and Traci uses that to help Rachael see her past relationship differently. - Traci holds the space so Rachael can process her trauma without having to retell the story - Traci sh*ts a brick, wondering how she's going to get Rachael to laugh after crying QUOTABLES: "Sometimes people don't like the memory change, okay. But I, I use it a lot. Because what you hold on to is what you become. So if you hold on to a shit relationship, you can't get a relationship that's happy for you because you're stuck in a shit relationship. But if your past relationship was happy and positive, then now you've set your internal radio for something positive." "If you need to make it more intense, more vulgar. You feel free. Okay?" "In all the ways that my body or that motherfucker tried to kill me, it's safe to let it go." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, we wrap up with Andi, Traci's "pledge baby" from college. After wrapping up relations with her brother, Traci and Andi dive into her relationship with her ex-husband and begin making peace. We also discover a relationship from high school with her friend Nikki, who broke off communications with Andi after finding out she was going away to college. She spends a lot of time "traveling back in time" to let herself know that in 5 minutes, something life-changing is going to happen. She then gives herself the advice she needs to get through the ordeal of the moment. At the very end, Traci brings up Andi's mother, so Andi has the chance to clean up a few more memories in order to continue to make peace with her mother's passing. Watch the 2nd part of this powerful session, as Andi begins to find peace with her mother's passing. KEY POINTS: - Andi touches on the strained relationship she has with her ex-husband and the relationship he has with her boys. - Traci talks Andi through her relationship with Nikki, the friend who disappeared after Andi told her she was going way to college. - Andi begins to make peace with her mother's passing, and sees that her next step is to begin making memories for herself now that she's cleared many of the old ones. - Andi resolves to do some road trips with the Roadside America app and visit quirky tourist attractions. QUOTABLES: "Why make new friends, they'll just leave me like the others." "People I make a connection with end up disappearing." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4

In this episode, we meet a close, personal friend of The Hilarious Hypnotist, Andi. Traci and Andi met in 1990, when Traci was a "Pledge Mom" (aka Pledge Mistress) for her sorority, and Andi was a pledge. For over 20 years, she has been the mother of 2 boys and caregiver for both of her parents. This past year was tough on Andi, as her mother unexpectedly passed, and her father's health, while stable, continues to decline. She had a knee replacement last June, only to discover the problem was in her hip. She had a hip replacement in March. Her youngest son leaves for college in 2 years, and she wonders "what her life will be like" when she no longer has anyone to take care of. She consciously wants to get out and live again, but unconsciously finds good and her dogs are better company. Traci begins to go deep into Andi's past, and begins to uncover the pattern of Andi's relationships, while beginning to identify the feelings that are keeping her "stuck." Watch Part 1 of Andi's transformation! KEY POINTS: - Andi discusses her family background and the strained relationship she has with her brother. - Traci walks Andi through what her ideal next best life would look like. - Andi is not one to do online dating, and meeting a partner is not a priority now. - We begin to identify Andi's patterns of perceived rejection. - Andi begins to make peace within regarding her brother. QUOTABLES: "I had a rough time fitting in." "After taking care of my kids for 20 years, I don't know who I am and I don't know what I want." PRODUCTS / RESOURCES: To learn more about Wings Hypnosis and book a session with her, visit wingshypnosis.com OR follow Traci on: IG | @wingshypnosis - instagram.com/wingshypnosis/ YT | youtube.com/channel/UCXL-XQBxmgLL_NdYa_qN0zA IG | @tracikanaan - instagram.com/tracikanaan/ Get your own copy of "Hey" And Other Scintillating Mating Calls from the Online Dating World - audible.com/author/Traci-Kanaan/B0786F5GF4