The Honor You Podcast | Practical Tools for High Performance in Life, Careers, & Relationships Without Self-Abandonment

By Melissa Coloton | Life Coach & Sales Consultant to High Performers and Businesses || 15+ Years in Corporate || Over $1B in Career Sales || Built Multiple Six-Figure Businesses || Certified Coach || SpeakerHealth & Fitness Mental Health Religion & Spirituality Education Self-Improvement

The Honor You Podcast | Practical Tools for High Performance in Life, Careers, & Relationships Without Self-Abandonment episodes

November 03, 2025Using the seasons as a guide to life: how to get unstuck, deal with triggers, and live life peacefully with Dr. Adam Gries and Laura Gries
In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa sits down with Adam and Laura Gries for a powerful and perspective-shifting conversation about using the seasons as a guide to life.
Drawing on Chinese medicine and Taoist philosophy, Adam and Laura share how the natural rhythms of birth, growth, maturity, decay, and renewal can become a framework for navigating both the calm and chaotic moments of our lives. Together, they explore what it means to honor the season you’re in, whether you’re in a period of rest, rebuilding, or full bloom, and how resisting change often leads to the feeling of being “stuck.”
This conversation unpacks how to release attachment to outcomes, let go of what no longer serves you, and reconnect with your inner rhythm so you can move through transitions with more grace and clarity.

Who This Episode is For:
This episode is anyone who feels stuck, out of sync, or disconnected from themselves. If you’ve been pushing through life, clinging to what’s working (or avoiding what isn’t), this episode offers a grounding reminder that you are part of a larger cycle, and that every season has a purpose.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
I Choose You by Adam Gris
Awakenings Online Program by Adam and Laura Gris
Dr. & Laura Gries’s website
The Awakenings Program
Magic Seed Podcast
Grief Coma episode mentioned
The Honor You Lab coaching program
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
Marianne Williamson’s book Divine Compensation

Additional Free Resources:
My NEW Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself?
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here

In This Episode, We Talk About:
How the natural order of life mirrors our emotional and personal growth
Why we get “stuck” and how to move through it with awareness
The difference between goals and purpose—and why confusing them creates frustration
How to work with, not against, life’s seasons of stillness and change
The importance of letting go continuously to make space for what’s next

STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

About the Podcast:
The Honor You Podcast explores what it means to live in alignment with your purpose, values, and truth. Through honest conversations and practical reflections, host Melissa Coloton invites you to honor who you are right now, and create space for your own becoming.
54 min
October 27, 2025Why Purpose is Important: 7 Main Functions of Purpose That Nobody's Talking About
In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa dives deep into the true meaning of purpose and why it’s essential for living an aligned, fulfilling life. She introduces her brand-new quiz designed to help you discover where in your life you may be most out of alignment and shares practical steps to take action once you know. Melissa explores the seven key functions of purpose, from creating focus and urgency to allowing pivoting, growth, and alignment with your soul’s desires. She shares personal stories and real-life examples, offering a roadmap to clarity, self-honor, and living your fullest, most purposeful life.

This episode is perfect for anyone who has ever asked themselves, “What’s my purpose?”, whether you’re feeling stuck in your career, navigating life transitions, or simply looking for more alignment and fulfillment. Entrepreneurs, overachievers, parents, and soul seekers, this episode will empower and inspire you.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
My NEW Quiz: Where Are You Abandoning Yourself?
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
Previous Episode Referenced:
How To Honor Yourself As A Mother
In This Episode, We Talk About:
How purpose creates focus, urgency, and reduces distractions
The flexibility and permission purpose gives you to pivot in life
How purpose frees you from shame and guilt while honoring yourself
Unlocking your true potential and becoming different versions of yourself over time
Staying open to life’s possibilities and messages from the universe
Breaking old behaviors and patterns by living with soul-aligned purpose

STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

About the Podcast:
The Honor You Podcast is dedicated to helping listeners live in alignment with their authentic selves. Each episode blends insights on purpose, self-honor, and personal growth to help you stop churning through life and start living intentionally. Past guests and content provide actionable guidance for anyone ready to step into their soul’s desires and full potential.
33 min
October 13, 2025The Most Underrated Key to Happiness
Episode Description
Is happiness something that just happens when everything falls into place, or is it something you can actually build from within?

In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton shares what she believes is one of the most underrated keys to happiness: how you talk to yourself.
She explores the subtle but powerful difference between listening to your mind and speaking to it, noticing when the mind’s chatter is rooted in fear, judgment, or old programming, and learning how to consciously shift that inner dialogue toward self-respect and compassion.
Drawing from her own experiences, coaching conversations, and real-life moments of frustration and growth, Melissa explains how your emotions act as messengers from your soul, showing you where you’re out of alignment and what your deeper truth is asking for. She reminds us that happiness isn’t about perfection or constant positivity, but about choosing presence and kindness toward yourself, especially when life feels messy or uncertain.
This episode is both a grounding and empowering invitation to recognize that happiness doesn’t come from external circumstances, but from how you relate to yourself through them.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
In This Episode, I Share:
Why learning to talk to yourself instead of just listening to your mind can shift your whole experience of happiness
How to notice when your thoughts are rooted in fear, habit, or comparison, and how to redirect them
What your emotions are really trying to tell you (and why you shouldn’t judge them)
Why happiness often comes from acceptance, not achievement or external praise
Practical ways to create more inner calm, clarity, and compassion in everyday life
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

About The Honor You Podcast
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and reconnect with your true self. Through honest conversations and soulful insights, Melissa helps you honor your emotions, realign with your purpose, and live from a place of authenticity. If you’re ready to release old narratives and start creating a life that feels like your own, this podcast is your guide.
34 min
October 06, 2025How To Know If It's Your Mind or Your Soul Speaking
Episode Description
Do you ever feel torn between what your mind thinks you should do and what your soul is trying to tell you?
In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton explains how to listen to your soul and how that can guide you toward choices that feel authentic and aligned, rather than relying on the logic or “safety” the brain can present. Melissa shares how to pause, pay attention to emotional cues, and experiment with small steps that reveal what’s truly aligned for you.
Drawing from her own life, coaching sessions, and everyday experiences, Melissa shares how to test ideas in real life and pay attention to how your soul responds. She explains how to notice the difference between fear, habit, or external pressure and the guidance coming from your soul. She uses the seasons to illustrate the natural rhythm of trying, growing, releasing, and reflecting, emphasizing the importance of noticing what comes up in each season without judgment can guide your next steps.
Whether you’re navigating career decisions, personal relationships, creative projects, or simply feeling stuck, this episode gives actionable guidance for understanding your inner signals, trusting your emotional responses, and taking steps that feel aligned rather than forced. Melissa emphasizes that your soul isn’t quiet or mysterious, it communicates through feelings you can notice, track, and use to make decisions that support your growth, clarity, and fulfillment.
By the end of this episode, you’ll have practical strategies to differentiate between the chatter of your mind and the guidance of your soul, helping you honor yourself, act with confidence, and live in alignment with your true desires.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
In This Episode, Melissa shares:
How to tell whether a feeling or thought is coming from your mind or your soul
Why your emotions are the language of your soul and how to pay attention to them
Distinguishing fear, habit, and external pressure from true inner guidance
Testing ideas in real life and noticing how your body and emotions respond
Using the metaphor of seasons to understand the natural rhythm of trying, growing, releasing, and reflecting
Practicing awareness and noticing without judgment as a way to honor yourself
STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCAST
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be. If you’re looking for insightful stories, practical strategies, and inspiration to honor yourself and live authentically, this podcast is your guide.
39 min
October 01, 2025Outsourcing Your Life Leads To An Unrecognizable You
Episode Description
Are you living a life that feels like it’s not entirely yours? Wondering how you got here and who you really are beneath all the external expectations?
In this reflective episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton dives into the idea of “outsourcing your life” and how it can lead to an unrecognizable self. She explores why so many of us follow external pressures, from parents, society, and even technology, without checking in with our true desires. Melissa shares personal stories from her career transition, coaching sessions, and casual conversations, illustrating how losing touch with our authentic selves can happen slowly over time.
Through this episode, you’ll learn how to reconnect with yourself, honor your soul’s desires, and start “insourcing” what it is you truly want. Melissa walks you through practical steps for noticing your emotions, building a relationship with yourself, and taking action, even when your mind resists change.
Entrepreneurs, career-driven individuals, overachievers, and anyone feeling stuck or disconnected – this episode will give you tools to reclaim your life, your choices, and your joy.
Resources Mentioned in This Episode:
The Honor You Lab – join the waitlist to access the next cohort
My Free 3-part “Introduction to Honoring Yourself” email series - get it here
In This Episode We Talk About:
How outsourcing your choices can lead to feeling unrecognizable
Why our 30s and 40s bring deep identity questions
The role of emotions as an access point to your soul
Practical tools to start insourcing: listening, feeling, and taking action
How the mind reacts to change and how to navigate its resistance
Using natural cycles (spring, summer, fall, winter) to honor your soul’s desires without attaching expectations
Reclaiming agency in career, relationships, and life choices

STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCAST
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be. If you’re looking for insightful stories, practical strategies, and inspiration to honor yourself and live authentically, this podcast is your guide.
Don’t forget to subscribe for more conversations about purpose, fulfillment, and self-honor.
37 min
September 21, 2025Stay True to You: Jessica’s Inspiring Journey Through Divorce, Relocation & Reinventing Her Career
Episode Description
On this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton sits down with Jessica Graham, a personal narrative coach who helps women rewrite their stories, reclaim their power, and step into their most authentic lives. They explore the challenges of navigating toxic relationships, major life transitions, and societal expectations while honoring your true self. Jessica shares her journey from moving abroad to leaving a difficult marriage to leaving a career that did not align with her any longer to building a career aligned with her purpose, including her work in personal narrative coaching and transformational storytelling.
They also discuss how storytelling and self-reflection can help you heal, grow, and embrace personal empowerment. This episode is packed with actionable advice on overcoming shame, setting boundaries, rebuilding self-trust, and creating a life that truly reflects your values.
Who this episode is for:
Anyone feeling stuck in old patterns or limiting beliefs
People navigating life transitions or big decisions
Those looking to build self-trust and confidence
Anyone seeking practical ways to honor themselves and their journey
People ready to release past stories and step into authenticity

RESOURCES & SHOW NOTES
Connect with Jessica:
https://jessicagrahambrandstudio.com/
Jessica’s ReWritten Program
Melissa’s Free Resources:
Grab my freebie → Learn the Honor You Method, my story, and the basics of honoring yourself.
Sign up for the Honor You Lab Priority List
If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms → schedule your 1:1 discovery call
Free 3-Day Challenge → Kickstart Your Journey to Finding and Doing Work You Love.
Get my ebook → 3 Secrets To Unlocking Your Personal Purpose

In This Episode, We Talk About:
How to honor yourself even in difficult circumstances
Turning shame and past trauma into tools for growth
Strategies for rebuilding self-trust and personal boundaries
Insights on navigating life transitions while staying true to who you truly are

STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show

ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCAST
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be. If you’re looking for insightful stories, practical strategies, and inspiration to honor yourself and live authentically, this podcast is your guide.
1 hr 3 min
September 16, 2025Diminishing Ourselves or Our Wins is One of the Biggest Ways We Abandon Ourselves
EPISODE INTRO
Do you ever catch yourself downplaying your accomplishments or brushing off moments when you truly honored yourself? Maybe you’re achieving milestones in your career, relationships, or personal goals, yet something still feels off. Host Melissa Coloton dives into one of the most common ways we unconsciously hold ourselves back: diminishing our wins. Learn why celebrating even small victories is essential for personal growth, confidence, and living in alignment with your authentic self. If you’re ready to stop people-pleasing, overcome self-doubt, and finally honor your emotional, mental, and spiritual needs, this episode is for you.

EPISODE SNAPSHOT
In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, Melissa Coloton explores how minimizing our achievements or stepping back from celebrating wins trains our brains to stay small and keeps us from living fully aligned lives. Drawing from real coaching conversations in the Honor You Lab, she shares practical strategies to stop diminishing yourself, embrace your victories, and honor your boundaries. Listeners will discover how to overcome self-doubt, stop people-pleasing, strengthen self-expression, and create a life rooted in authenticity and confidence. This episode is packed with actionable insights for high achievers, recovering people-pleasers, and anyone seeking personal growth, mindset shifts, and the tools to step fully into their purpose.

THIS EPISODE IS FOR
High achievers, recovering people pleasers, and anyone ready to stop minimizing their wins and start honoring their authentic self.

RESOURCES & SHOW NOTES
Grab my freebie → Learn the Honor You Method, my story, and the basics of honoring yourself.
Sign up for the Honor You Lab Priority List
If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms → schedule your 1:1 discovery call
Free 3-Day Challenge → Kickstart Your Journey to Finding and Doing Work You Love.
Get my ebook → 3 Secrets To Unlocking Your Personal Purpose

IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT
How diminishing wins keeps you small and trains your brain to avoid celebrating
Why honoring your wins and boundaries is essential for self-expression and confidence
Practical strategies for overcoming self-doubt and people-pleasing
How to celebrate victories in everyday life to rewire your mindset
Using the Honor You Method to step fully into your authentic life

ABOUT THE HONOR YOU PODCAST
Hosted by Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast invites you to pause, reflect, and embrace practices that let you honor your true self. Each week Melissa shares conversations and insights to help you reconnect with yourself and finally become the person you were meant to be.

STAY CONNECTED
Instagram: @melissa_coloton
Facebook: Melissa Coloton
TikTok: @melissacoloton
LinkedIn: Melissa Coloton, Coach
Website: melissacoloton.com
Podcast: The Honor You Podcast
YouTube: The Melissa Coloton Show
13 min
September 09, 2025 How Societal Norms Keep Us From Being Who We Came Here to Be
Societal norms shape so many of our choices including marriage, career, money, family, often without us realizing it. But are these “shoulds” actually aligned with your soul’s desires?
In this episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton explores how cultural expectations can keep us from becoming who we came here to be.
She shares why listening to your emotions is the key to self-honor, and how to lead from your higher self instead of fear.
Through everyday examples and reflections, this episode offers guidance on shifting from following the rules to creating a fulfilling, authentic life.

👉 Click here to get your free 3-day challenge and start honoring yourself today!

👉 Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
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👉 If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living on your terms, Let’s connect 1:1—schedule your discovery call here.

Let’s connect!
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Website: https://melissacoloton.com/
26 min
September 02, 2025 Why You Stay Stuck in Cycles You Know Aren't Serving You
In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton examines a pattern most of us know too well: getting stuck in cycles that don’t serve us, even when we’re aware of them. Whether it’s overworking, reaching for sugar, pouring a nightly drink, skipping exercise, or falling into patterns that affect personal or work interactions, Melissa explores why we repeat behaviors that keep us stuck and what it really takes to shift them.
Melissa also shares practical strategies to connect with your higher self, change the small choices that reinforce these cycles, and take baby steps toward lasting change. She explains how recognizing the influence of your mind, body, and soul, and understanding your connection to a higher power, can help you move beyond self-limiting behaviors. Throughout the conversation, she ties it all back to The Honor You Method, showing how this framework can guide you in honoring yourself, creating healthier habits, and designing a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.
Whether your challenges feel light or heavy, this episode offers insights, tools, and encouragement to break free from cycles that keep you stuck and start living in alignment with your higher self.

Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
👉The Honor You Lab Priority Waitlist
Let’s connect!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissa_coloton/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissacoloton
Website:https://www.youtube.com/@melissacolotonshow/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Website: https://melissacoloton.com/

33 min
August 26, 2025 The Major Thing Missing When You're Triggered
In this week’s episode of The Honor You Podcast, host Melissa Coloton explores why being triggered is not a setback but a powerful opportunity to honor yourself and grow. Instead of avoiding those uncomfortable moments, she invites you to see them as signals that point to where healing, boundaries, and self honoring are needed.
Melissa shares real-life examples from work, relationships, and everyday life, showing how emotional triggers can signal opportunities for self reflection and personal growth. She also dives into why it’s normal to get triggered over the same things again and again, and how to respond in a way that honors yourself instead of adding shame or frustration.
Melissa will guide you through noticing the activation, asking what really bothers you, identifying what you need, and following through to meet those needs in healthy ways.
Whether you’re navigating work stress, relationships, or everyday frustrations, this conversation offers a different way to look at triggers and the chance to approach them with curiosity and clarity.
Get on the priority waitlist for the next session of The Honor You Lab
👉The Honor You Lab Priority Waitlist

Let’s connect!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melissa_coloton/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.c.fernandes.50/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@melissacoloton
YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@melissacolotonshow/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-coloton-coach/
Website: https://melissacoloton.com/
30 min

About The Honor You Podcast | Practical Tools for High Performance in Life, Careers, & Relationships Without Self-Abandonment

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You’ve checked all the boxes: career, relationships, responsibilities, yet something still feels off, which is why THY Podcast was created! Hosted by Tony Robbins–trained life coach Melissa Coloton, The Honor You Podcast helps anyone who feels stuck, restless, or unfulfilled move from burnout and self-abandonment to a soul-led life that feels deeply aligned and fulfilling. If you’re ready to reconnect with yourself, reset your energy, and start living on your own terms, this show is for you.

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