The In-Between with Auzrielle

In today's episode, I talk about how hard it can be to set boundaries when you're insecure, an anxious attachment, or a people pleaser. These qualities tend to stem from childhood trauma that has caused us to put our worth into how we fit and show up in other people's lives. We blur the line between who we are and what we do, which is detrimental to our mental health and wellbeing. It's hard to say no when you feel you have to ride along with what people say or do in order to be liked, but I'm here to tell you that stops today. If someone doesn't like you because you won't compromise your character or value, that's a them problem, not a you problem. They're not the people you want in your life. Understand that you're worthy regardless of what other feel or do because you are separate of them. You are not in charge of their emotions and you don't have to change yourself or wear yourself thin in order to make them happy.

In today's episode, I talk about my experience with anxiety and overthinking, my struggles with it, and the things that have helped me. By all means, I haven't overcome these two strongholds in my life, but there are some things I've learned along the way. This isn't your typical definition of anxiety that everyday people deal with. This is for the smaller percentage that deals with anxiety almost every day and should probably seek some form of counseling for it. Sometimes the best thing to handle anxiety is to face it head on and sometimes the best thing is to not handle it at all. 

In today's episode, I discuss having patience and being gentle with yourself during goal-reaching and journeys. When you finally let go of the need for you and your journey to be perfect and allow the ups and downs, the destination will be much sweeter and greater to experience. You're also removing negative self-talk, and disappointment, and the journey will feel less hard as well. So ride the waves that the journey gives you. Hold yourself accountable and be stern with yourself when you get lazy or backtrack, but also know that those things are a part of life and inevitable. Nothing is linear. Growth is all over the place like a rollercoaster. So enjoy the ride!

In today's episode, I talk about the struggles I've been dealing with that are along the lines of stress, grief, loneliness, and sadness due to a recent event. My mission now is to find peace and do things and be around people that bring happiness and comfort. Life will always throw trials at you, whether they're personal or outward things we can't control. All we can do as humans is adapt and learn to find the rainbow that's at the end of the storm.

In today's episode, I talk about my toxic trait of defensiveness and how it stems from my low self-esteem. I am a very defensive person, and it'll make me either angry and try to clap back or it'll make me sad and feel bad about myself. And while it's fine to defend yourself when needed, having a guard up can be counterproductive. It causes arguments and it stunts your growth. I have a bad habit of closing my ears and opening my mouth, but the good news is, all habits are breakable. If you're like me, you need to realize it's really okay for someone to tell you something that in the long run can help you. You're not a bad person for someone having something negative to say. You've gotta learn to bring the guard down and open your ears.

In today's episode, I go into emotions and how they should be felt and regulated instead of hidden and forgotten. Everyone gets triggered every now and then, which is okay. Most of us are hurting from some sort of trauma, hurt, or disappointment. But as adults, it's up to us to find independent and dependent resources that help us heal and manage the negative emotions we feel. You can't control your emotions if you never allow yourself to feel them, so be vulnerable and truthful with others and yourself.

In today's episode, I highlight the importance of self-care. I break it down into 3 categories: mind, body, and soul. No matter what your life circumstances are, it's vital to take care of your mental, physical, and spiritual health. Chances are if one is off, it'll affect the others. You have to find what works for you and create a balance and routine that you can stick to in order to calm you down and make you feel saner in this hyper-productive society. I don't care how busy you are, you are never too busy to tend to yourself and your needs. Period. So, do nothing or do something that makes you happy in order to bring a sense of peace and relaxation to your being.

In this episode, I talk about inner-child healing and give 6 steps you can take in order to heal your wounded inner child. It's sad to say that most of us are wounded in a way and it's been carried into our adult lives. But, it's never too late to unlearn any skewed habits or mindsets that were created in our childhood from the dysfunction and neglect we may have experienced. It's never too late to love on and attend to our inner child that is hurt and needs us. It's now up to us, as adults, to tend to ourselves and our wounded inner child as if we were our own parental figure.