The Inner Work Conversation

When we are conditioned to always look OUTSIDE of ourselves for the answers, for confidence in ourselves, for the permission to 'GO'...it can be unnerving to  UNlearn this and start trusting yourSELF.  Giving yourSELF permission, validation, ok-ness.  It's OK to be OK. It's ok to source your OKness from within.  
...And that's exactly what this episode is about.  
Links:
Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout
Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme


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This one's for you if you fall victim to 'falling off the wagon' and feeling the pressure of mustering up the courage, discipline and motivation to "get back on the wagon".  I call BS.  And I want to give you a healthier & more supportive perspective & approach to taking steps towards goals that are meaningful to you. 

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

DM me on Instagram www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

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Look, my BS radar is finely tuned.  As is my support function.  So I KNOW when you say "I WOULD do that, but I just need more time..THEN I'll do it" that actually you probably DON'T need more time, but you probably DO need: 

1. More inner support


2. More focus


3. More celebration & self acknowledgement 

In this episode, I'm sharing HOW.  

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

Charlotte's "Content Repurposing Freeebie" link: https://www.charlottegoss.com/links

DM me on instagram www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

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*** LINKS & QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

IG post mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/p/ComVzwGjN1u/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

IG post mentioned: https://www.instagram.com/p/CYeBZZsD3YG/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

This episode is for you if you...

• Find yourself struggling and wondering why it's so hard for you 


• Find yourself overcomplicating & overcompensating


• Avoid things like price increases or upholding your boundaries 


• Sometimes wrestle with comparison 

Quotes:

"Don't diminish or overlook your natural talents & gifts just because they come easy to you - just because it comes easy to YOU doesn't make it less valuable for THEM ...OWN what you bring to the table"

"If you're someone who's been raised with the belief that work must be hard to be valuable, then don't be surprised if you overlook or diminish how much value you add simply by contributing what comes naturally, effortlessly and joyfully to you."

"There is usually a correlation between how willing you are to do the busy work and to what level of high regard you hold yourself - notice that s**t."

"When you don't value what comes easy to you, don't be surprised if you feel the need to prove your worth through doing more, being more or gaining more qualifications" 

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*** LINKS & QUOTES FROM THE EPISODE BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

In this episode, my plan is to:

• Explore how procrastination comes up when you’re doing things that require courage and / or discipline


• Help you understand WHY procrastination is happening


• Help you have a different relationship with procrastination and actually USE IT to your advantage

Quotes:

“You aren’t a procrastinator, you procrastinate - big difference”

“Usually procrastination isn’t about avoiding DOING something, but more often it’s about avoiding FEELING something.”

“When you start to identify as a procrastinator as though it’s part of your identity, that’s when you start to give your power away as though you no longer have any control.”

“Normally when you’re avoiding doing something, you’re getting to avoid the hypothetical fear that might follow on from you doing the thing.  And there is where the work lies.”

“What if we CHANGED our relationship with procrastination, so instead of seeing it as a negative thing - we actually saw it as a signal (a little bit like your smoke alarm will signal when there’s a fire) and investigate what type of support that signal might be telling us we NEED”

“When you go to do something that requires courage, don’t be surprised if suddenly the washing needs folding, or an E-Mail needs urgently responding to, or you need a snack.  Treat this as a sign that you need more support from yourself to do the thing.”

“I think it’s powerful to recognise that doing something ‘boring’ can feel energetically just as draining as doing something that requires courage, and we would support ourselves much more by recognising that”

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*** LINKS & TIMESTAMPS BELOW ***

Links:

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link  

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504 

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout 

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

Timestamps:

When you’re going after goals that are meaningful - thing you want to be do or have, you’re likely going to bump up against challenges & adversity.

Let’s talk about how that applies to your inner work.

In this episode I’m sharing the three most common ways I see my own clients f*cking themselves during the journey towards goals that are meaningful to them.

1. 8:30 not acknowledging your disempowering limiting beliefs


2. 15:30 Not being aware of the way you’re spending your time & acknowledging your current set of life circumstances


3. 21:10 Not developing a tolerance for uncertainty & complexity

Quotes:

“When you don’t acknowledge your underlying disempowering beliefs and try to pretend they don’t exist, best believe they’ll reveal themselves through your behaviour - particularly in the things you avoid”

“You have to acknowledge your reality.  Really look your current truth in the eyes - acknowledging the way your life is now, your obligations, responsibilities …all of it - and THEN set goals from that place.  Otherwise you’re just setting yourself up to fail”

“When you develop your tolerance for uncertainty, it enables you to let go of control.  Not because you are less ambitious or have less desire for things to work out - but because you have MORE SELF TRUST to navigate your way towards your goals THROUGH uncertainty”

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Do you find yourself getting stuck in wondering WHY you procrastinate? Getting stuck in figuring out WHY you can't just stop people pleasing? Or why you can't just DO the thing? Then this episode is for you.  

Today I'm talking about when the inner work becomes a vice for us to avoid the actual things that a) will require our courage and b) will actually be the things that help us to REALLY grow & evolve. 

"When you pray ...move your feet" ;-)

LINKS: 

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnerworkconversation/message

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nikkicross.substack.com

An overview of my services: www.instagram.com/p/Cockq4Qt32s/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

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Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theinnerworkconversation/message

This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nikkicross.substack.com

Link to the 50% challenge HERE: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/63e2514e781752946ff2b504

Link to the Thrive First Method HERE: www/tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout

Link to work with me 1:1 HERE: https://www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme

www.instagram.com/_nikki_cross_

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The signs of low self worth  

How to start noticing the things you BLAME for your low self worth 

How to take ownership of the steps to BUILD your self worth ...right now 

LINKS: JOIN the Thrive First Method HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/tfmcheckout 

Work with me 1:1 HERE: www.tlb.org.uk/workwithme 

If you're serious about working 1:1 and want to head straight to booking a consultation call (to see what's the best fit for you) book in a 20 min chat HERE: calendly.com/thrivelifeandbusiness/chat-with-nik Episode 48 - the last episode on 'Self worth' 

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