The Intentional Advantage

Do you want freedom over your days and time? If you do, you'll need to learn how to set boundaries with those around you. If you've been craving the ability to have ownership over these two things, then I know today's episode will resonate with you. Today, I chatted with Donna, an entrepreneur, wife, and mother to two high school boys. She has been feeling tugged in way too many directions and overwhelmed with not having enough hours in her day to accomplish all she needs to. We took a look at how she's saying "yes" to everyone but herself and how she could change that. We discuss a strategy that will allow her to sit down with her family to determine where she can provide the most value, which will ultimately align her to say "no" to others so she can begin to say "yes" to herself.

What's In This Episode:

Struggling to have ownership over your day and time

Realizing that sometimes, less is more

Figuring out what is most valuable so you can determine where to say "yes"

Learning how to separate a request from the relationship

Using the sandwich strategy to say "no" with ease

Do you have a North Star? Sometimes understanding and defining your North Star can be a challenge. For most, it's easier to define your professional North Star but in reality, your North Star should be an extension of who you are and should embody the person you are at work AND at home. That's what today's guest, Amy, has been struggling with. She was feeling a disconnect between her mission statement for her work and home life. We dove into her life and had her reflect back on her childhood because often times we have to look back on the past fondly to move us forward optimistically. We discuss how to move from what she calls having a "north-ish light bulb" to a true North Star and how to dig deeper into the breadcrumbs to discover your North Star.

What's In This Episode:

How Amy hit a professional development crisis and wanted to discover her North Star

Creating a personal mission statement that feels more intimate to you

Doing a life map exercise and reflecting on high points in your life

Digging deeper into the breadcrumbs to discover your North Star

Shifting, evolving, and changing your North Star to fit who you are

I am truly ecstatic for this season of the podcast, which goes along with my book, The Joy of Missing Out. In season 12, we'll be doing something that we've never done before: a call-in style episode where you'll get to hear from women from all walks of life about finding their JOMO. Today, I preface the season by diving into the word "joy" and what it truly means. I chat about letting go of two of life's biggest hurdles: busy and worry. I dive into savoring the moments in life that bring you joy, taking the time to find yourself and exploring who you are and what you love to do.

What's In This Episode:

Choosing to create a life where joy and happiness can flourish

Learning the differences between being busy and being productive

Savoring the moments and maximizing our time for what brings us joy

Falling victim to the false belief that we should be doing more

Allowing yourself space and time to explore who you are and what you love

Taking the leap toward your biggest dreams can feel scary or even downright terrifying. There's a reason they call it "taking a leap" because we often are unsure of what the outcome will be. While there are risks that come with going after what you want, there are also a lot of risks that come from avoiding opportunity. Today, I'm sharing how to strategically make the leap so you can feel like you have a plan and know the risks involved. I'll dive into how to reverse engineer a plan with the end goal in mind, how to determine which risks are worth taking and how to assess the positive outcomes that could come with taking risks.

What's In This Episode:

Starting with the end in mind so you can reverse engineer a plan

Recognizing that you'll have to trudge through the highs and lows

Assessing positive outcomes that come with taking risks

How to know which risks are worth taking

4 things to consider as you are assessing risks and creating a plan

The question that we often truly need to ask ourselves is not, "Will I make an impact on the world?" but rather, "What kind of impact will I make?" In today's episode, we're discussing your blast radius and how what you say and do can have far-reaching effects on the world and those around you. We're not as small as we often tend to think we are and we have the power to choose to see the world from a positive point of view. I will share tips for making a difference in the world, being a catalyst for change, and how to reframe your life to focus on your impact.

What's In This Episode:

Realizing the far-reaching effects of chain reaction

Reframing your life to focus on the impact of what you do

Taking a step back and recognizing that you are a catalyst for change

This week, I'm giving you an exclusive sneak peek into a chapter of my book, The Joy of Missing Out, that's all about finding your yes. Oftentimes, the pledge of doing #allofthethings can lead us into spending our time doing things that we don't necessarily love or that don't actually matter to us. This chapter teaches you how to sort through the noise in life and uncommit to the things that don't bring you joy. I share what your yes should feel like, why quitting doesn't equate to failure, and how to prioritize ourselves by learning to say no.

What's In This Episode:

A sneak peek into chapter 11 of The Joy of Missing Out

The art of learning when your answer should be yes or no

My favorite yes, and the sacrifices my family and I made to get there

Being pulled in too many directions and how this hinders us from making the impact we want

Making a commitment to your schedule and what's important to you

Having a go-to phrase ready to give yourself space to consider opportunities

We have to start challenging ourselves and asking those tough questions if we truly want to make an impact. Today's guest is Amy Jo Martin, author of the NY Times best-seller Renegades Write the Rules and host of the Why Not Now Podcast. She shares how she started her first business, Digital Royalty, before exiting it in 2016 to pursue Renegade Brand Bootcamp, a mastermind for female founders and entrepreneurs. We chat about slowing down, unglorifying busy, and living at a sustainable pace. Finally, Amy Jo shares her experience of being a millionaire while feeling physically and emotionally bankrupt and why you need to take action on moments of bravery.

What's In This Episode:

Amy Jo's approach to slowing down and taking a sustainable pace

When Amy Jo recognized it was time to walk away from the chaos

Amy Jo's mantra "play full out"

How our life's experiences are meant to help others

Amy Jo's advice on putting mechanisms in place to hold yourself accountable

Taking action on moments of bravery

A boost in your confidence can be one small change that makes a huge impact on your life. Being confident can be the difference between jumping into something you're passionate about or sitting on the sidelines, wishing and dreaming about it -- but not doing anything to make it happen. Today, I'm sharing the 4 confidence killers hindering you from making an impact and the 5 Rs to battle those confidence killers. I'll share how to go from self-conscious to self-confident and why you should only focus on things within your control.

What's In This Episode:

The 4 factors that are getting in the way of your confidence

Learning to stand tall and hold true to yourself

Getting up and dusting yourself off after staying knocked down

The 5 Rs to battle confidence killers

Realizing you have the ability to do more than you think possible

When you're going through things in life, it's so valuable to have a good support system there to cheer you on and even roll up their sleeves to get in the trenches alongside you. Today, we're talking about the value and importance of having support systems in your life. We'll discuss how support systems can be diverse and the four different types of support that people seek. I share why you may want to look outside of your regular social circles when seeking a support group. Lastly, I also give you some real-world examples of support systems that I've designed in my own life.

What's In This Episode:

Recognizing that support systems can be diverse - and why they should be

The four different types of support that people seek

Diversifying your support groups and looking outside of your regular social circles

Being able to decipher when someone is sabotaging your potential

Real-world examples of the support systems I designed for myself

The world will be a much happier place if everyone did their part in helping one person every day. Today's guest, Chris Winfield, strives to do just that. Chris is a serial entrepreneur and co-founder of Super Connector Media, which he successfully built on the concept of helping one person every day, H-O-P-E. We discuss how small changes can have life-altering impacts, why you need to share your gifts with the world, and why he believes in calling himself out when necessary. He also discusses what led him to decide on this concept for his business and what he has noticed that all humans struggle with after working with many entrepreneurs, leaders, and celebrities.

What's In This Episode:

Two monumental changes that altered Chris's life

The importance of calling yourself out

What increases motivation

Why sharing your passion matters