The Interracial Couple

It's easy to ignore the magic of the everyday, normal routine parts of our relationships as we seem to treasure the 'big' events we organize with our partners, no?

The guided prompts for Week 11 of The Lover's Journal reminded us to value 'the usual' parts of our day together as lovers. 

So on this episode, we cover:
1. The most recent event we had that we want to cherish forever
2. What little thing each of us does that makes the other feel warm inside
3. What each partner does that is expected and can sometimes go unacknowledged
4. The importance of authenticity in the genesis of a relationship

After our anniversary weekend I ended up in a funk. Drinking has that depressing effect on me sometimes. I tried all I could to get rid of the grumpiness: yoga, reading, Netflix, long showers... Nothing worked. Not even talking to my partner, Matthew.

Fortunately, he did not take it personal (and wondered how I could mark our anniversary with sorrows and questioning the choices I've made in my life) nor did he take it upon himself to 'fix' me.

It wasn't until we had our regular TikTok live and interacted with our online community there that my mood looked up. I did not do much apart from listening and sharing my experience with relationships. Yet by helping someone else make sense of their own blues, mine went away too.

How do you handle those moments of unexplainable sadness? How about your partner's unhappiness?

Expression of gratitude is essential in a relationship. This way a partner never gets to feel that their generosity is being taken for granted. This is not to say that generosity is done with the expectation of something being done in return.

In this week's episode, we discuss the things we're grateful to our for: from Cera's choice to adopt levity when tough times come, to Matthew continuing on with the morning kiss challenge from last month.
The Lover's Journal Week 10
prompts are:
1. List 6 things that your partner did this week that you're grateful for
2. Come up with one thing you can do to show appreciation for your partner this week
3. What is something you can do to bring pizazz and aliveness into your relationship this week?

Self discovery and self mastery are things you constant work on whether you're single or in a relationship. And needless to say, the journey to discover yourself and be in control of this identity is pretty hard. This is particularly difficult for people who date outside of their culture as any interracial couple will admit.

This week we meditated on the need to assess how much we've discovered of ourselves and partner since we started journaling, and how we can hold onto these in service of the relationship. This follows the journaling prompts for The Lover's Journal Week 10:
1. Whats one new discovery you've made about yourself since you started journaling?
2. Whats one new discovery you've made about your lover since you started journaling?
3. How can you remain open to your lover's needs while staying true to yourself?

Kindly share your thoughts with us

Do you remember your first date? How magical was it? Is the magic from your most memorable date still there in your relationship?

This week lets discuss our favorite dating experiences following The Lover's Journal Week 7 prompts:
1. What is your favorite date that you have ever been to with your partner?
2. What made it so?
3. What 1 thing can you do to bring some of that magic into this week?

Share with us your most magical experiences below

Why is it so difficult for us to forgive ourselves and others? is it because forgiveness connotes something too big than can be done everyday?

One this week's episode, we discuss forgiveness following The Lover's Journal prompts for Week 6:
1. Look at the last week,  or the last time, when your lover upset you and write about it from their perspective
2. Look at the last week,  or the last time, when you  upset your lover and write about it from their perspective
3. Take a deep breath. Forgive the other. Forgive yourself. How do you feel?

Share with us your take on the above prompts.

What does your partner do that makes you feel seen and understood? On the other hand, is there something you do that would make them complain they feel unseen and misunderstood?

Also I was super-excited after getting engaged over the Valentine's Day weekend, but now I'm already feeling overwhelmed with post-engagement blues. I thought we'd enjoy marital bliss for longer that a week? Is this normal?

On this episode of the Interracial Couple, we dive into one of the toughest sections of The Lover's Journal. This week we explore the dark sides of ourselves that need working through -following these prompts:
1. I Feel SEEN and UNDERSTOOD by my Partner When..?
2. I Feel MisUNDERSTOOD and UNSEEN by my Partner When..?
3. How can I share the first with Gratitude and the second one with non-accusatory compassion?

What came to mind when you read these prompts? Kindly share with us below

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Are all lovers predestined to meet? I believe Cera and I were predestined to meet and fall in love. I also believe it's predestined that today's the last day I call her my girlfriend. Are we breaking up?

On today's episode, we explore the question of predestination, the origins of the challenges featured in The Lover's Journal, and our entries to the journaling prompts for week 5:
1. What mutual goals would you like to accomplish with your lover this year?
2. What specific actions can you and your lover take to make these happen?
3. How can you remain open to your lover's need while remaining true to yourself?

On this week's episode we take on The Lover's Journal prompts for Week 4:
1. What are the things you admire most about your significant other?
2. What can you do to support your lover's dreams and goals?
3. What words do you want to hear from your partner this week?

The Lover’s Journal prompts for this week are:
1. What is your most treasured memory with your lover?
2. 1 thing you can improve in your relationship this week is?
3. What little thing can you do this week to bring more love into your relationship?

So on this episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast we discuss:
-How love is a journey with happy in betweens -not happy endings
-The memories of our first night in our Kenyan and California homes
-The need for partners to know how to handle each other’s struggles
-How our moods and attitudes towards challenges in life affects our relationships 
-Our vision to become better communicators

Share your answers to the above prompts with us below: