The Interracial Couple

Body shaming affects both men and women. While there are so many movements that have come up to protest women being body shamed, male body shaming is an insidious issue that is not given the attention it deserves. This may be compounded by the fact that it's not socially acceptable for men to talk about their feelings being hurt.

This is partly why even Trump being body shamed had become fair game. Granted the outgoing president did body shaming more than anyone else in pubic office.

On Episode 40 of The Interracial Couple Podcast, Matthew and Cera discuss:

1. Female vs male body shaming

2. How marketers create and exploit our body insecurities

3. Men dying of breast cancer and other consequences of denying male body shaming is real

4. Why body shaming is prevalent in social media

5. How radical self love differs from self obsession and can be the immunity against body shaming




BIOS

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

How much does your partner know about your past -or just your day? What do you choose to share with your partner and what do you withhold? How do you choose these?

On this week's episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, Cera and I discuss:
1. The definition of withholding and causes of withholding
2. The conditions that make sharing a necessity and cultivating the trust
3. Our commitment to creating a safe space for each other to share about our pasts and experiences
4. The harm of TMI in a relationship
5. The challenge of being a withholder in a relationship with a conceder/ open book

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What you wear is most times tied to your identity. So what happens when your partner tells you they don't like what to wear? How can they comment on your dressing style without putting you on the defensive? 

That's what happened with me and Cera. When we met, I used to wear a rugged mustache, torn boots and everything that didn't look out of place with these. For sure I was ready for the wardrobe upgrade. So when Cera called for a complete make-over, I heard no reservations and let her take care of how I look.

On this week's episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we dive into:

1. Who do you dress for? Do you dress to impress your partner/ others? Or do you dress to just feel good about yourself?

2. Can you tell your partner how to dress? At what stage of the relationship can you have this conversation?
3. Fast fashion Vs. Second hand clothes

ABOUT US

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb. com

Is sharing phone passwords with your partner really a mark of trust or an innocent mistake? What about sharing bank account details with your spouse? Where do you draw personal boundaries in a relationship?

On this week's episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss whether phones should be private in a relationship. This is following a conversation we saw on Facebook about why sharing passwords with your partner is rarely a good idea. While some people held valid reasons for wanting to keep their devices and partners separate, Cera and I are of the opposite opinion.

Sharing phones and bank account passwords is a sign of trust. And should your partner start snooping through your phone to monitor your communication with others, then there is a bigger problem in the relationship that is not being addressed our loud.

BIOS

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products. 

Do you and your partner share household chores or you divide labour along gender roles in your relationship? 

A Pew Research study shows that couples who share household responsibilities have healthier relationships. But how easy is for a couple to do away with traditional gender roles and have men and women share equally housework just as the other responsibilities? Why do we feel resentment whenever we're doing more for the good of the relationship?

Cera and I have always believed in a relationship of equals, so both of us contribute to every sort of responsibility that needs taking care of. For instance, I usually do the cooking, while she does the weed whacking now and then. Not roles traditionally assigned to men or women respectively. Even so, we both started growing resentful doing the chores we used to enjoy doing for each other. What were the underlying reasons?

On this episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss:
1. the benefits of sharing chores and other household responsibility
2. the advantages and disadvantages of specializing in gender assigned role
3. is equality the same as scorekeeping?
4. how lack of appreciation breeds resentment and feelings of exploitation while performing household chores
5. how equality in handling housework builds intimacy in a relationship

Kindly share your thoughts and question below

BIOS

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products. 

There are things that every couple must do before getting engaged and married. They are essential regardless of the culture each comes from. 

On this week's episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we discuss the five things that have helped us test our compatibility and readied us for marriage life ahead:

1. The Sex conversation

2. Money, debt and personal financial habits

3. Traveling as a couple

4. Staying with the family

5. Discuss the timing and type of wedding


BIOS

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products. 

Anger is a natural part of our lives. Yet anger is perceived in different ways by different people. For instance, while it is allowable -even encouraged in boys and men as part of being stoic, women are not allowed to have a temper. Moreso, black women like myself in fear of fulfilling the stereotype of the angry black woman.

On this episode of The Interracial Couple Podcast, we discuss anger. How we have dealt with it at individual levels, and how anger can be expressed in a way that is healthy for both partners and the relationship. 

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who has anger issues? How did/ do you manage to not be damaged by their rage? How does it affect the course of your relationship?


ABOUT US

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecoduniais not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

Hair shapes our identity either as individuals or as a people. So when Cera  shaved her head bald over the weekend -it was a big deal. It's the first time in her adult life that she's shaved it this short. Why is that?

On this week's episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we dive deep into:

1. Why a hair make over is the most natural means of self reinvention

2. How Cera came to affirm her own beauty and confidence in her body

3. How Matthew was in denial of his baldness until Cera came into his life

4. Is letting go of our identities really that bold a statement?

Kindly share your thoughts on how hair shapes our identity in the comments section.

ABOUT US

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecoduniais not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

Whenever I get into a disagreement with anyone, I always have this urge to prove I'm right by all means. But this week I decided to let go of this desire to be right. Cera had crippling pains in her leg, while she believed it was a critical injury, I believed it was just muscle spasm.

On this week's episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we discuss:
1. What to do when both partners in a relationship can prove they are right
2. Is it better to be happy or right in a relationship?
3. The impact of one partner being the type to be excited by challenges
4. How to make it easy for each other to admit it when wrong

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ABOUT US

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.

There is no perfect family. We never get perfect partners and sure we never get to have perfect in-laws. For that reason it is destructive to a relationship when all we notice are the flaws in our partners' family and start to shit talk them.

On this episode of 'The Interracial Couple Podcast', we discuss how my stay with my in-laws in LA has been.  Yes, I got to have another session of the RedTable Talk with Cera's adopted family. It was important that we got to have that council as everything was put on the table.

The things that came up were:

1. What do you do when your partner and their family fight?

2. How do you handle things when an in-law steps on your toes?

3. How do you cultivate a healthy relationship with your in-laws or other family? Or do you leave it to happen automatically?

4. What happens when you shit talk your partner's family?


BIOS

MATTHEW started his career as an accidental filmmaker. He wrote a “practice script,”  hoping one day he could write one that he could sell or produce. That script became his first film, “Senses of Place,” which went on to win awards on the film festival circuit and was distributed by FilmBuff. 

Matthew then moved to Hollywood where he eventually made nine feature films, eight documentaries, and worked with actors Carrie-Anne Moss, Zac Efron, Edi Gathegi, Melora Hardin and many more. He worked with producers Kevin Costner, Bill Borden – Academy Award winner Francis Ford Coppola and Oscar-nominated director Mike Johnson. He has even shared the screen with Josh Brolin, Neil Patrick Harris, Kane Hodder, Naveen Andrews, and many more.

Last year, he released the documentary film, “Hardball: The Girls of Summer.” Currently, he lives between California and East Africa, writing and developing new projects, while consulting on film and TV projects. 

Visit his website to see his work – or check him out on IMDb.com

CERA graduated from UCLA with a degree in International Development and Entrepreneurship in 2018, after living in Los Angeles for eight years. 

She grew up in rural Kenya and at the age of nine, she lost her childhood home to civil war. That forced her to move to a Nairobi ghetto, where she experienced a different kind of poverty.

This experience shaped her mission. She returned to Kenya to start Ecodunia, a social enterprise that makes a difference in the lives of the poor by creating work opportunities and educating girls from under-priviledged communities. Ecodunia is not only driven by profit, but with a mission to lift people out of generational poverty, while making beautiful, useful and sustainable products.