The Intimate Lifestyle

Technology has enabled us all to make leaps and bounds in different facets of our lives. From the most extraordinary feats to the seemingly mundane ways that it is making things easier on our day-to-day. From engineering, transportation, government intelligence, forensic sciences, to medicine, health, dating, and even sex.

Bryan Stacy is one of the pioneers who decided to use technology to spark a change in how we see sexual health and how it impacts our relationhsips. He battled and overcame testicular cancer a few years ago. It is this experience that motivated his passion to raise awareness on sexual health. He co-founded Biem – an app that empowers people to take control of their sexual health and use this information to aid their dating game.

Some of the topics we've explored in our discussion are:

• How discovering that he has testicular cancer and chlamydia changed the trajectory of his career (03:00).
• Coping with testicular cancer by blogging about the ailment’s emotional toll (06:48).
• The early beginnings of Biem, its goals, and crazy ideas they had to achieve their goal (09:05).
• What is smart sex, and an overview of what the app does and provides (12:43).
• How the app makes it easier for people to have the conversation about sexual health (18:13).
• The design of the phone application that secures user data privacy (20:11).
• Getting information into the app, improving app features and content, and simplifying the information for its users (26:38).
• How the LGBTQ community are trailblazers in when it comes to sexual health transparency (29:46).
• Integrating Biem with dating apps, and a few dating apps that we recommend (31:56).
• Moving away from society's stigma about being tested positive for certain STD/STIs (42:37).
• The level of people's sexual health awareness based on demographic segments (49:54).
• The various health complications resulting from STD/STIs and vaccines available for specific STD/STIs (53:17).
• Opening up the sexual health conversation between parents and their children (1:02:19).

This is an immensely educational episode – and Bryan’s story on his bout with testicular cancer and chlamydia… that can be another episode! Stories of people’s experiences and struggles driving them to make innovations and be the change the world needs are always inspirational. And in this case, it is even practical.

To know more about Biem, visit their website BiemTeam.com or reach out to Bryan via Twitter. Biem, the app, is available for both Android and iOS.

Getting people to talk more about sexual health is imperative. Contribute to getting that conversation started by sharing this episode with as many people you know!

I am always grateful for the time you take to tune in to the show. Slowly we can raise awareness on the myriad of issues and topics surrounding sex, relationships and dating. (Add something about the hiatus here?)

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When you hear the word sex worker, usually the first thing that comes to mind are prostitutes, and most of the time, they’re women.

Modern SexTalks has significantly covered the topic of healing sex work with a variety of guests – most of them, however, are female. This time around, we’re looking at sacred sex service from a man’s point of view – and we have James Randall Smith as our guest resource.

James is the founder of Sky Dancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts. He is a sex worker-slash-healer, working with both men and women – aged 18 to 88. As a sexual healer, his aim is to have people awaken their potential for bliss through sacred sex.

Today we discuss his backstory, shifting careers, the concept of sacred sex and understanding life doing sex work. We also just downright bro’d out. Extra, extra! For our male listeners, tune in if you are interested in a secret to prolonging sexual stamina.

Areas we covered in our discussion include:

• Transitioning from a career in the music industry towards the spiritual path of sexual healing (06:26).
• The early beginnings of his sexual awareness and exploration (09:06).
• An interesting first date that became the gateway to finally transitioning into the spiritual path of sexual healing (12:49).
• What is MDMA therapy and how it impacts cognitive, emotional and sexual perspectives (14:20).
• How things started lining up for during his career shift, and how things went in the first few years of it (18:13).
• Where he places himself in the gender-sexual spectrum (19:53).
• Engaging sexually with someone you are not necessarily attracted or attached to (23:07).
• The unfolding of James' sacred calling of providing spiritual sexual pleasure (32:24).
• Personal challenges in a career that involves physical contact (35:58).
• What it means to awaken people to bliss, and the different ways to tap into this (38:10).
• The various methods and techniques James keeps in his toolbox as a sex worker (43:51).
• What scared sex is and its difference to the regular, typical sex that majority of society is accustomed to (44:32).
• What clients want and expect in James' sacred sex sessions and what actually happens in them (51:08).
• Special elixirs he uses to keep things in tip-top shape (58:32).
• What he wants his clients to have as a key takeaway from sessions with him (1:02:39).
• His advice to people who might be considering a similar path to take (1:05:03).
• The profile of his female clients and what they're looking for (1:08:07).
• Getting the buy-in of someone who might not necessarily be into spirituality (1:11:14).
• How can women distinguish and find safe and legit sex service providers (1:12:24).

To get in touch with James, or check out his services, you may reach him through the following links:

SkyDancer Tantra Massage and Healing Arts

[email protected]

James Randall Smith | Facebook

Having been surrounded by divine feminine energy a lot with my roster of female guests, it is refreshing to hear a man’s point of view from time to time. This a whole new perspective to sex work, and I indeed enjoy talking to James about it. So much that I forgot to ask him some questions. Good thing he was nice enough to allow me to ask him a few more even after we "finished" the initial conversation.

I hope you enjoyed this episode. If you think other people – specifically other men – can benefit from this episode share it with them. If you know other individuals living an off the beaten path who can be a guest… email me at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com with your suggestions!

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Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP192: An Ex-Dominatrix Shares Her experiences of various Kinks with Red Robin.

This week’s guest is Robin Beatch, aka Red Robin, and she identifies as a genderfluid, polyamorous switch. She was previously a stripper, professional dominatrix, and a nurse.

All these past experiences integrated into her present profession. She currently teaches alternative sexuality. She supports and educates different communities through body acceptance, experimenting with sexuality, among others.

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The Intimate Lifestyle yearns to help everyone in finding their ideal relationships, fixing existing ones, and simply understanding one’s self better. We’ve provided in the past few episodes the best resources to aid with dating, matchmaking, and even breakups. This time, we have a key resource joining the show to dig a little deeper into our belief systems.

I’m honoured to have Julie Turner – life coach, matchmaker, and hypnotherapist – on this episode. We will talk about our motivations in life and the unseen things which causes the challenges we encounter. Somewhere along the mix we also professed our love for Ford and discussed our musical abilities (mostly her abilities and my lack thereof). Listen until the very end as I share a secret to getting girls (not my secret though, some other guy’s).

Topics that sprung up on this longer than usual conversation include:

• How our ego is a protective mechanism that keeps us safe but could also result in our fears and anxieties (02:44).
• Kids' process of understanding and its relationship to Neuro-Linguistic Programming for adults (08:06).
• How Julie got interested in hypnotherapy and integrating with her existing coaching career (11:54).
• What hypnosis really is and what it does to our consciousness (14:01).
• Resisting hypnosis and the best candidates for hypnosis (19:58).
• Why I prefer using the term unconscious when referring to the subconscious (21:22).
• The beginnings of a belief system, how it can sabotage your relationships, and listening to your authentic self (25:16).
• The process of developing your life's metanarrative and the fallacy of generalization (28:08).
• Overcoming being victimized by our belief systems and how the universe conspires so we see things clearer (31:17).
• A story that illustrates how the ego "protects" an individual based on one's learned behavior (34:21).
• Distinguishing ego from intuition, and the perils of labeling everything (39:16).
• Blurring relationship labels and how the concept of forever can be ruining human relationships (43:58).
• Applying hypnotherapy to help people to get the relationships they truly want or fix current ones (49:56).
• The importance of ruffling some feathers and challenging the status quo (59:14).
• How unhappiness is brought about by assumptions and expectations (1:02:20).
• What Julie sees as the general difference between men and women's approach to relationships (1:06:09).

I enjoyed talking to Julie so much! It is kind of uncanny how much of our thoughts and beliefs matched. I like her so much I unleashed my creepy virginal teenage boy persona on her… I might have a crush on her (or is she the female version of me?).

As an advocate of self-love and personal growth, I am fully endorsing Julie’s services. If you feel like you need her in your life, visit JulieTurnerMatchmaker.com. There you can find the full menu of the coaching, matchmaking and workshop services she is offering. If you want to keep updated on upcoming events where Julie is featured or she is hosting, follow her Facebook page.

I would appreciate it if you can share this episode with your network, if they need help sorting their inner stuff out – or if they just need a good laugh. For feedback, suggestions, and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I’d love to hear from you.

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Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP190: Is Your Relationship to Conflict Ruining Your Relationships? with Vienna Pharaon.

Our guest for this episode is Vienna Pharaon, and conflict is one of her specialties. Vienna is a licensed marriage and family therapist and is behind New York Couples Counseling where she helps individuals, couples and families traverse different issues.

People are afraid to face conflict and avoid it as much as possible, yet it is inevitable. Vienna, however, welcomes conflict and sees it as a gateway to deeper connections and better relationships. This is what we deep-dived into in our conversation.

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Ever heard of sex magick? It doesn’t involve cutting up body parts and making it whole again, disappearing sex partners after being bondaged, or sex toys being pulled out of a hat. It’s a lot more meaningful than that.

I’ve invited someone who can educate us better about what sex magick is all about. I personally am very interested in sex magick for some time now and I’m stoked to have someone to geek out with.

Laurie Handlers is a sex and happiness coach, radio host, movie producer, actor, and the best-selling author of the book Sex and Happiness. She joins us to provide an introduction to sex magick - with more than 2 decades worth of experience in this field and I think she’s one of the best source out there.

Laurie and I talked about everything from her workshops, personal beliefs, a phenomenon called the little death, immortality, to George W. Bush. There’s a lot that we deep-dived into including:

• The one thing that the Bush administration did right and how it impacted her life (03:43).
• What sex magic is, and how it can help you manifest your intentions one orgasm at a time (06:52).
• The reason why sexual energy is so powerful (10:19).
• How Laurie fuses atheism, immortalism, sex magick, and science to create the life she wants (14:01; 19:23)
• Our theory on the concept of deity as religions' attempt to control people and mankind's refusal to take responsibility for their lives (15:47)
• Dissecting our personal beliefs and how a Simon and Garfunkel song describes the human journey (25:11).
• What solo sex magick is and how to do it (31:17).
• Insights on partner sex magick practice, energetic orgasms and ejaculating (36:16).
• How to use bodily fluids as elixirs and objects of manifestation (40:41).
• The types of success people were able to attract and manifest through her sex magick workshops (42:46)
• Practicing sex magick and how it impacts our lives (46:02).

There’s so much more to uncover, and really, we were just edging on our conversation. Unfortunately, time is limited but we’ll try to connect again to get down and dirty on even more sex magick.

If you want more information about sex magick, reach out to Laurie via her website, Butterfly Workshops. You can also follow her on YouTube and Facebook for resources and updates.

Related Links

• WebTalkRadio | Sex and Happiness
• Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill | Goodreads
• Sex and Happiness by Laurie Handlers
• Sounds of Silence by Disturbed | YouTube

Thanks for dropping by and listening. If you have comments, questions or suggestions, shoot me an email at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com. I’d also appreciate it if you can share this episode to your social networks.

Catch you all next time.

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Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP184: An Ex-Stripper Reveals Her Life with "Maria".

Strippers are often perceived in society as promiscuous and sex thirsty women willing to get paid to show off their bodies, or even more…

 Maria – not her real name, is a friend and is/was a stripper for 6 years. She joins me as today’s guest as she shares her insights about stripping as a career, and to prove that some (if not most) strippers are actually happy individuals who are not broken and lonely.

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Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP182: Are You Addicted to Escaping Your Relationships? with Ben Goresky.

Ben Goresky is an addiction counselor, helping other men through Evolving Man, where he provides resources on relationships, masculinity, and health.

What's interesting with Ben was he suffered from addiction and was sent to rehab when he was just 15 years old. It is this personal experience that allowed him to coach and provide counsel to other addicts effectively and with credibility.

And it’s with this experience as an addictions counsellor that he’s able to now coach men with compassion, and without judgement, through the many challenges they’ve been faced with that hold them back in love and life.

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Every Tuesday on Modern SexTalks we come at you with Just the Tip Tuesday where we offer a 10 minute segment from a previous episode.  Our episodes can be a bit long sometimes, and it can be hard to remember everything, so this is an option to get bite sized bits of information on a weekly basis. Today's episode is a short segment from EP180: The Blessing of Death with Stephen Garrett.

There are few things that are certain in life – and death is one of those.

 Death has always been seen as the conclusion of life. But for Stephen Garrett, he sees new beginnings and opportunities in death to cultivate positivity and powerful change. Stephen is a death coach, but it hasn’t always been the case.

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Traditional society created a concept of specific roles for what is deemed masculine and feminine. From actions, emotions, and even occupations. Fortunately, today’s world already moved up from such framework.

Somehow, the idea that an individual can have both masculine and feminine traits is getting some traction. Also known as the polarity principle, this episode delves into the feminine and masculine dynamics, and how this plays out in relationships.

 Joining the show to discuss the polarity principle is Sister Moutique. Sister has spent the last twenty-ish years as a spirituality teacher through retreats, immersions, and coaching. She is also the author of the book The Gift of Expectation.

Sister delivers miracles by helping individuals and couples in their journey towards personal transformation. Part of the shape-shifting exercise she oversees for her clients includes a deeper understanding of the divine feminine and masculine and how it affects ourselves.

Some of the other points we discuss on this episode include:

• Her background and experience as a spirituality teacher (03:44).
• An introduction to the concept of the divine feminine and divine masculine (08:32).
• How understanding masculinity and femininity as energetic presence can explain how some individuals do not resonate with the sex they’re assigned at birth (10:21).
• How an awareness of the masculine and feminine energy manifests in decision-making, actions, and even posture (12:27).
• The concept of vulnerable masculinity and the importance of trust in allowing one’s self to embrace vulnerability (18:22).
• The consequence of two individuals with the same energy in a relationship (21:29).
• The difference in experience between her two marriages based on the energy of her partners (23:57).
• How the polarity principle works in same-sex relationships and identifying which energy is more predominant in an individual (32:54).
• The qualities we should be looking for in partners and how it aligns with the quality of life we want (44:53).
• How equality works by offering each of the energies’ expertise into the relationship (49:17).
• Harnessing and balancing the divine energies towards limitless possibilities (56:07).
• How the polarity principle is demonstrated in the bedroom (58:02).
• The idea of the blissful state as both the natural human state and divine state. (1:09:40)
• Sister’s advice on the importance of exploring who you truly are in a relationship (1:14:16)

Despite my prior knowledge of the divine feminine and divine masculine concepts, I was still able to learn new things from Sister’s point of view and experience.

To connect with Sister Moutique, check out her website and her book, The Gift of Expectation.

Understanding the polarity principle is one of those things that could enlighten those who are experiencing confusion with their sexual preferences, and even their emotions and behavior.

I would appreciate it if you can share this episode to your network so we can raise awareness and inform others too. For feedback, suggestions, and inquiries, give me a shout out at info [at] theintimatelifestyle.com – I’d love to hear from you.

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