Every time around this year, we have this debate about Kink at Pride. When I say "we", I guess I mean the acronym. Even though I don't entirely feel I'm part of the acronym, even if I am on paper, I felt I'd share my perspective as an active BDSMer who has fairly strong opinions about when BDSM is appropriate and inappropriate. To me, consent is at the forefront of BDSM and public BDSM negates that in most situations, but to ignore how important the Leather community has been to gay folks survival is a bit much... What's your True Tea? Call in Next Tuesday to give me your brew. 

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During a previous stream, a commenter posed a very interesting question: Why are "Down-Low" men cowards for not claiming Trans Women, but Trans Women aren't cowards for not always revealing that they are transgender. Bot scenarios are about survival and the ability for a person to be taken with dignity and respect. However, in this episode, I push back on that question because while it's true that men who openly date trans women face bias, I can't say that bias is comparable to the violence trans women directly face in a society that rejects them. 

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After recognizing that this conversation is felt very differently bi bisexual folks of different genders, I decided to split my call-in show up and specifically have conversations with folks who were designated female at birth, who react quite differently to this conversation. In this call-in show, we have some really amazing conversations about how bi women are fetishized by men and often erased by other women and the alienation many bisexual women face when they feel that there isn't a place for them in either the straight or the queer community. These callers really widened my own understanding and I am so thankful to them. 

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So, I decided to open up the lines to bisexual men, who were the target of some of my frustrations, to discuss the topic of whether or not bisexual folks have so-called "straight passing privilege". We had a fascination conversation about privilege, social ineptitude and the biphobia bi men experience when they share their sexuality with their partners

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This is part 1 of the 3 part True Tea Call-In show for the episode, "Do Bisexual People Have Straight Passing Privilege", a conversation that started when Lindsay Ellis' old blogs about her own feelings about her bisexuality resurfaced. In this segment, I quickly go over my own feelings on the matter and then Lindsay Ellis herself calls in to discuss and clarify her statements. We both discuss the odd feeling you have when you're technically part of the acronym, yet still feel like you can essentially choose when to engage in discourse around it. 

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My Amazing followers call in and discuss the previous episode of True Tea where we discuss whether or not Trans Women have "male privilege". Specifically in the context of women like Caitlyn Jenner, who managed to amass wealth using her image as a quintessential, White, American cis man. I don't think "privilege" is the right word, but there's a lot to discuss about passing as a man in a patriarchal society. 

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Lindsay Ellis was recently in some heat for some comments she made about Disney's new movie, Raya; but part of that so-called "cancellation" brought to light some previous comment she made about bisexual people having "straight passing privilege"- This idea that bisexuals are able to essentially protect themselves from homophobia because they are in relationships that seem heterosexual to others. As a transgender woman who identifies as heterosexual, but prefers dating bisexual men, I have a lot of thoughts about this because I often have felt as though the bisexual cis men I prefer will always ultimately prefer the most socially acceptable option that prevents them from being in a situation where they'd have to defend their relationship with me. 

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Caitlin Jenner recently commented that transgender girls should not compete with cisgender girls in sports. I don't have a full opinion on that specific question, but it struck me that Caitlin Jenner has never been a teenage transgender person wanting to participate in sport. Instead, she lead a life where her athletic achievements and fame were built during a time in her life where she was known as a cis man. Even if that wasn't exactly the case, in this podcast, I talk about whether or not "male privilege" is an apt way to describe Caitlin's experience.  

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