The Irreplaceable Man Podcast

Episode 282 is about innovation.

Don't judge a book by its cover. When Dave Selinger was an early employee of Amazon, he led the research and development arm of Amazon's data-mining and personalization team. He co-founded Redfin, which helped change the status quo in real estate. Now he has his own company called Deep Sentinel. David is on the autism spectrum but he never let that stop him from living life to its fullest potential - instead, he harnessed what talents and skills came naturally to him. In order to devote time to both work and home life, David makes sure his family gets all of the love they deserve.

Do you want to know how to innovate yourself? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:06:35 Dave's first computer

00:07:29 Trouble connecting with others

00:11:18 Noticing patterns in my life

00:14:19 Fitting In

00:15:43 Epiphany at 9 years old

00:16:36 High Functioning autism

00:20:44 Social norms and adverse effects

00:23:49 Parental support and issues

00:28:15 Meeting your kids where they are

00:30:34 Dialing in your response rates to people

00:37:46 Leaving college to work for a startup

00:39:51 Definition of loss and failure

00:44:29 Work is important, it's just not everything

00:48:15 I'm going to work my ass off, just won't let it poison my family

00:52:43 Amazing years - working with Jeff Bezos

00:54:13 Joining amazon

00:59:45 Starting Redfin and disrupting the RE market

01:02:47 Encouraging my kids to be engaged with the world

01:05:37 Morning exercise is a budgeting exercise

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#innovation #discipline #creativity

Episode 281 is about moving forward.

You're not defined by your mistakes. Dr. Fred Moss - a physician, coach, and psychiatric expert. - found his calling. He wanted to make an impact on the world by helping people. Thus Welcome to Humanity was born; it's a movement about empowering others for change through healing themselves. Communication, connection, creativity, and conversation seem to be at the heart of all healing for Dr. Fred; without these aspects people just don't heal. And with them? Miracles happen on a daily basis. Voices can heal - listening can too. It seems like whenever we're connected to one another in some way things are better because we're finally accepting our true selves for what they really are - something worth listening to!

Do you want to know your inner self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:02:09 Fred's story

00:04:04 Words and communication center of human connection

00:07:44 Quitting college because of lack of communication

00:12:17 Bringing communication into psychiatry

00:15:07 The introduction of prozac

00:16:58 Hard to go against the status quo

00:19:07 Not all doctors have earned the respect that the MD brings

00:19:59 So many people doing things out of integrity

00:21:08 Out of alignment is a state of mind

00:22:27 Taking people off medication

00:26:11 The medicines perpetuate the conditions they are supposed to treat

00:33:22 My heart was more important than my job

00:34:35 Relinquishing the responsibility for our lives

00:35:42 Being accountable for your self sabotaging behavior

00:38:22 Speaking our true voices

00:39:49 Being inauthentic provides protection

00:41:36 The power of environment

00:44:51 Don't be a prisoner of your past habits

00:46:19 Knowing where you are misaligned and when

00:47:48 Authenticity vs genuineness

00:49:11 The creative 8

00:51:58 Easing someone's burden, pain and restrictions

00:53:16 Help someone do anything to ease their pain

00:54:59 The power of podcasting

00:55:44 Authenticity overtakes agreement

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#healing #discipline #power

Episode 280 is about knowing your why.

Knowing your ‘why’ is knowing your purpose. Cole Rodgers, after being addicted to substances turned his life around when he found out his why. He met the right people, read the right books, did the right habits and listened to the right podcast. His ‘why’ was to be a better person for his wife, children and brothers. Cole followed The Man's Ethos and applied it in his life. And a man he truly became. Join us in this episode where we will explore how you can find yours too!

Do you want to know your why? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/ 

Quick Timestamps

00:04:17 Deep level convo

00:06:34 Men aimlessly walking through life

00:09:56 Men's Ethos

00:12:16 Intentionality is a rear trait

00:13:58 Dont mistake movement for progress

00:16:09 Unhealthy addiction to validation

00:16:57 The self sabotage ride

00:21:12 Chronic masterbation and sexless marriage

00:23:59 Being addicted to the achievement ride

00:28:21 Breaking through the programming of the past

00:32:00 Cognitive Dissonance

00:35:24 How does your partner let go of past resentment

00:37:48 Dealing with being unconditional output

00:38:47 Atlas shrugged passage

00:42:39 Getting out of the attachment of business making you significant

00:43:59 Stop giving yourself unearned rewards

00:45:30 If you dont stand for anything you will fall for it

00:45:52 Reprogramming self talk

00:48:24 The addiction spectrum

00:49:13 Get into the right network whose living at a different frequency

00:52:44 Better men are focusing on what matters the most

00:54:08 Ian explanation of getting into action

00:55:20 Going through the fire not just reading the book

00:55:43 Taking action to get traction

00:56:34 Aim small, miss small

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#selfcontrol

Episode 279 is about knowing your why.

Commitment is the single most important key to a successful relationship. With a background in business administration and information technology, AJ Grossman now practices law as a result of an internal force - his calling. He knows what he wants from life: to help people turn around their marriage for the better so that kids can grow up with happy parents.

In a marriage, there needs to be an equal balance between both partners. Otherwise, the marriage will fail. However, if you know what you want from this relationship from the start—that may help you decide whether or not to stay. It's vital that people can take care of themselves first before they are able to take care of others.

Do you want to know your why? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:04:45 AJ's story

00:08:33 I felt like I fit

00:12:28 How are we going to separate ourselves

00:12:51 Going with the flow of things

00:16:50 Idea on marriage

00:17:20 Getting married too young

00:17:49 Core values

00:19:24 Recognizing your own contribution to a failed relationship

00:21:01 Lenses we look at the world through

00:21:50 Every failed relationship is an opportunity

00:26:43 Cheating doesnt have to end in divorce

00:29:26 Seeking opportunities

00:31:00 Adverse childhood experiences

00:34:01 Getting married later in life

00:36:18 Stale marriages

00:40:29 Distractions in marriage

00:43:44 Fear of the unknown

00:44:17 Using marriage as identity

00:46:08 Self worth and esteem in marriage

00:48:39 Doing things to fit in vs align with purpose

00:50:18 Aligning with the true you

00:52:38 Victims picking themselves up after divorce and thriving

00:54:01 Victimhood is self created

00:56:06 How do you know divorce is most serving

01:03:53 Holding your standards too high

01:06:54 Marriage vs partnership

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#purpose #divorce #marriage

Episode 278 is about finding your authentic self.

Yin and yang. The light and dark. The balance of life. Bill Huffhine left his corporate job because he finally realized that wasn't what he wanted to do. After years of questioning himself, he found out that there were stages in life and he named these five seasons of life. Out of this revelation came a coaching practice, not from money-seeking but from the genuine desire to help others find who they really are and create successful businesses using their own reclaimed purpose. Come and join us on this enlightening episode!

Do you want to find your authentic self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:08:00 Bill's Background

00:09:12 5 seasons of my life

00:11:10 The Season formation

00:12:45 The person we are becoming

00:13:52 The season of commencement

00:16:57 Cognitive experiential Dissonance

00:19:03 Getting your world view shaken-up

00:20:56 The season of undoing

00:25:48 Not knowing what to believe about my life

00:27:43 Liminality

00:29:55 The circle of light and darkness

00:35:06 4 impulses of circle of darkness

00:37:59 My breaking point

00:39:27 I need to figure out who I really am

00:39:49 The season of revision

00:41:17 Realizing my purpose and who I really am

00:42:41 Battling Imposter syndrome

00:43:29 Arresting the dark, embracing the light

00:45:41 Its not about money its about people

00:48:34 Season of authenticity

00:53:03 Pushing through my limiting beliefs

00:55:54 Our process of our lives and the seasons of our lives are all ours

01:03:20 Its not about finding your purpose, its about becoming the most authentic operator of that mission

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#authenticself #lifepurpose #seasonsoflife

Episode 277 is about finding your authentic self.

Damien Fahey is a writer for the television show Family Guy who grew up as a DJ in his 20s. Having to cope with ADHD and struggling to connect with his father, who came out gay after staying closeted throughout most of Damien's life was not easy for him to get through- even when he has a successful career. It’s challenging, but it shouldn't be impossible. This episode won't be filled with jokes and laughter; instead we'll be delving deep into what it takes to find your authentic self and own your feelings.

Do you want to find your authentic self? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:05:42 Damien's Story

00:09:57 Diagnosed with ADHD

00:13:23 Special education

00:16:52 Growing up in the 80s

00:20:39 Lonely childhood

00:22:17 My dad came out gay

00:27:57 People pleaser

00:31:23 Feeling of inadequacy

00:34:09 Authentic you

00:38:00 Foundation of freedom in therapy

00:40:27 Learning from being wrong

00:41:41 Programming of a man

00:43:11 Curated version of yourself in social media

00:46:18 Life is temporary

00:51:24 Being gay in the 50s, 60s

00:56:33 Channeling emotions

00:58:50 Getting into MTV

01:08:25 Life After MTV

01:11:05 Being confident

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#purpose #community #commitment

Episode 276 is about soul searching.

We are not humans experiencing life for ourselves; we are eternal spirits living a human experience. Robert Althuis, author of “Never Enough It's: Getting What Money Can't Buy”, shares his own experience that money is just one part of success. As a child, he had all the trimmings: money, houses and cars too but something felt amiss. There was a deep-rooted emptiness inside him waiting to be filled. He discovered that what matters most is what satisfies our souls—those intangible things that make us feel alive from within. Soul, the core of our existence. If we don't nourish the soul, nothing is gonna happen to us. We don't know our purpose and our calling. Join us in this enlightening episode as Robert expands on this topic.

Do you want to find your sole purpose? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:06:15 Robert's Story

00:10:11 Bankrupted my soul

00:12:56 Dealing with Anger and Resentment

00:14:37 Trying to prove myself to my father

00:16:11 Parents instill beliefs

00:20:34 Dad Work

00:23:08 The color of the fishbowl we are swimming in

00:23:53 When I get to that level, ill be happy

00:24:21 Moving the goal post

00:24:57 The happiness never comes in that mode

00:27:20 Numbing the pain inside

00:33:25 Getting lost in doing

00:33:50 Transmuting the pain

00:41:39 Going through the dark periods

00:44:39 You don't have to carry the guilt and shame from past

00:47:25 Creating change inside of you by separating

00:48:06 We aren't the mind or body, only the soul

00:49:07 Giving away mental real estate

00:53:17 Duality vs Polarity

00:55:41 The same we are playing here

00:58:35 The role of competition

01:01:02 Finding the love for the game

01:03:01 Finding our unique gifts

01:05:07 Believing in yourself and your dreams

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#community 

#commitment

Society tells us that happiness requires material possessions: a car, house, money.

But in reality, you can be happy without those things. It's about the journey rather than the destination. Dr. Eric Holsapple learned this lesson after he chased what he thought would make him fulfilled - only to find himself lost and without purpose.

But after some time had passed, he discovered himself. He realized what his purpose was - to serve the people of this world and give back to the communities. His goal is to change the world by helping everyone who needs it. It's almost like a ripple effect; when you help one person, they'll go on and do things for others too, making it a better place for us all.

Do you want to find your purpose? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to find yourself. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

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00:06:51 Eric's Story

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#commitment

Episode 274 is about getting over your addiction.

Some addictive behaviors are harmless, but for the most part they're destructive. How can you break free from these patterns? Rob Lohman, previously an alcoholic and now turned to a great coach on addiction, deals with this topic. He explains this in his upcoming book Addiction Intervention.

Did you know that addiction is hereditary? Epigenetics has everything to do with it. Just because you feel there's something wrong with you, doesn't mean there actually is! What really matters most, though, is how we respond to our addictions; how they are transformed within us.

Do you want to overcome addiction? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to break these patterns. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:05:12 Rob's Story

00:08:11 Digging Deeper

00:08:54 Epigenetics

00:12:15 Is substance abuse genetic

00:16:01 Other people's agendas

00:18:30 Not about behavior modification its about transformation

00:21:25 How do you let go of something you know you need to

00:22:52 Aren't you tired of playing the game

00:24:10 Identity

00:24:40 Identity trying to please everyone else- people pleaser

00:27:10 Arguments against genetics and substance

00:28:07 Talking to kids about substance

00:29:41 Triggers - pushing the goal post back

00:30:26 Sober sections

00:32:43 High functioning victim

00:33:36 Treatment didn't work for me

00:37:20 Trauma - how to pinpoint what's at stake

00:38:07 Trauma and the stories

00:46:04 Evidence vs emotion

00:50:02 Being on purpose and doing the work

00:53:51 I'm the steward of the movement

00:54:32 Bringing others into your movement

00:57:14 It's not about quitting it's about evolving your behavior

01:00:34 The ever moving goal post

01:01:10 Ghost ending on the trail, setting unrealistic expectations

01:01:49 What's driving the addiction

01:05:59 Sharing authentically the bandaged cut not the open wound

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#change 

#transformation

Episode 273 is about trusting your intuition.

Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear. Eric Bigger—former superstar from the 13th season of The Bachelorette and entrepreneur turned coach—got over his fear to pursue what he wanted. As a child, Eric was observant; he didn't follow in the footsteps of his drug-dealing, absentee father. Instead, Eric listened to his intuition which guided him towards a more successful life. He started reading books, watching podcasts, attending masterminds and buying courses. In this episode, Eric will share how to tap into your intuition for success!

Do you want to overcome fear? Our Men on Purpose community can help you with how to conquer your fears. Follow us on this journey at https://ianlobas.com/podcast/

Quick Timestamps

00:06:07 Motivation has always been my anchor

00:08:58 How did you escape being a byproduct of a negative environment

00:09:27 The power of a great mentor

00:10:12 I was never a follower

00:11:05 People pleaser mentality

00:14:36 Constant curiosity of what else was possible

00:15:45 Don't get off my alignment and onto someone else assignment

00:17:09 How do you trust your intuition w/o evidence?

00:19:36 The world programs us to gather all the facts

00:20:02 How does someone tap into the intuition

00:23:56 You will never have certainty in uncertainty

00:26:21 Fear of pain in the present not greater than fear of regret in the future

00:29:24 If you don't follow your idea you are failing yourself

00:29:44 Pouring into yourself

00:35:15 How did you calibrate the down cycles

00:37:28 The way I get help is I take action

00:38:30 How to discipline yourself to have fun

00:41:02 Choosing your inner circle

00:44:25 Who are you without your exterior self

00:46:55 When you eliminate the things that are affecting you and why, your ideal life is there

00:50:29 I know who I am

00:52:35 Having integrity when no one is watching

00:53:06 Getting negative people out of the way

00:53:45 Acknowledging when you are wrong

00:54:21 You don't want to die with regrets

00:56:35 Its miracle season

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#intuition 

#fear 

#motivation