Hear my list of the top 20 behaviors, reactions, and ways of thinking I will no longer tolerate in this life I am creating here with you today! I hope listening to this will be helpful for you as you look at making your own life exactly how you want it. Thank you to Tony Robbins for inspiring me to make this list based on having made it yourself when you were seeking to improve your own situation!

1. Getting mad, judging, and being mean to my wife, daughter, and anyone in my life.

2. Feeling like I am a bad person for my thoughts.

3. Being ashamed or feeling it is wrong to look at someone.

4. Focusing so much on what I want later that I forget what I need to give now.

5. Avoiding my feelings especially with work.

6. Withholding love and affection.

7. Condemning my dogs and other people's pets.

8. Feeling superior or inferior because of what I do or have.

9. Cramming my day so full I am afraid of failing to do everything.

10. Choosing less productive activities over more useful ones.

11. Making my schedule more important than what needs to be done now.

12. Fear of trying something new with the purpose of learning or giving.

13. Hesitating to look inside.

14. Forgetting my creator, my love, and my gratitude for living.

15. Expecting things to go my way.

16. Not making time to read and listen to books each day.

17. Fighting with commenters online.

18. Checking daily how many people are watching my videos and listening to my podcast.

19. Withholding my generosity and always demanding I get a good deal.

20. Placing the past or future above now.

Thank you very much for reading this because I hope this is useful for you in having a life filled with happiness, joy, and productivity today!

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Hear the story of how I went from expecting to earn less money in 2017 to changing that story into one of planning for making a greater profit than this year! When I discovered recently that my core financial belief for 2017 was that I was going to have a difficult year for my business while maybe going bankrupt or certainly making less money, I was shocked! At what point did I choose this damaging and limiting belief? After I was banned from Udemy, at some point out of fear I must have figured that I could not possibly do as good without my huge revenue from their website and despite my best efforts to do more, my belief stayed the same. I became aware of this belief in listening to Tony Robbins's book "Money Master the Game" as he encouraged me to think about the future of my finances. During a call with my mother, I realized that I was acting as if 2017 was going to be worse than 2016 despite NO EVIDENCE or REASON! As of December 24, 2016 I have NO DATA on what 2017 holds. The question is what will I plan for? I have learned in my business online that what I plan for and act as if is going to happen is what I get. I am grateful for the help I received in becoming aware of this damaging financial belief and now changing it to one of prosperity. I now believe 2017 will be even better for my profit than 2016 was because I have made a better business system designed to help more people for free and to eliminate me wasting my time in email and making sales. With a better belief, I am now free and inspired to build the business system that I expect will produce even better results! My exercise today is to explore my life for more unconscious beliefs like this and question any that are not working to my advantage! Thank you for reading this and I hope it is helpful for you!

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Hear the story of how today I am finally at a healthy weight after 14 years of ranging between overweight and morbidly obese all while telling myself I was athletic or not as fat as others. You might like hearing what finally worked to break my cycle of trendy diets and huge weight gains followed by a big effort to lose weight that ended it being fatter than ever. The last time in my adult life before recently I was at a healthy weight was when I was 18 years old as a freshman in college. My parents raised me to eat healthy balanced meals and as soon as they opened a Zia juice on my University of South Carolina campus, I did not have a healthy weight again for 14 years. The Oreo elation smoothie I got there on a daily basis helped add 10 pounds to my weight by the end of the year and no matter how much I exercised, I simply ate too many calories to burn it all. When I started drinking alcohol every week as a sophomore, my chances of maintaining a healthy body dropped to nearly zero. Through the next ten years I tried losing weight different ways and benefited often from heartbreaks and living at home with my parents for the best weight loss in my life. By 2014, I was certain that I was going to drink myself to death which motivated me to seek help. In learning to live a sober life, I started to review all of my problems with my extra pounds being one of the first to come up. While I hoped just stopping drinking would do the trick, I ended up plateauing into still obese by the end of 2014. As the holidays approached, I decided counting calories would be the solution. For over a year, every single day I counted all the calories from all the food I ate with most days having used MyFitnessPal to track the actual foods I ate. I was shocked when I started to see I was often eating over 3,000 calories a day. A year later my daily goal was 2,150 plus exercise and I was down 20 more pounds but still overweight. As my calorie counting failed to bring me into a healthy weight, I grew desperate for a solution that would help me keep shrinking. Thankfully I had a fungus which produced a rash over a two year period that showed me how poorly I was managing my eating on my own. I asked my Uncle Joe who is a primary care physician what I should do. He recommended seeing a specialist for the rash and reading the book "How Not To Die" for my health because he recommends that to all of his patients on their first visit. Fortunately for me my first visit was at a family barbecue. While I was considering reading the book, I ate a huge breakfast with my wife at the Detroit Metro airport. Within a few minutes of the meal being digested, my thoughts dropped to nearly suicidal depression. I was so shocked that I suddenly realized what had happened. The meal I ate CAUSED the bad mood! The moment this realization hit me I was overwhelmed with motivation to do whatever it took to learn how to eat better starting with reading that book. As I listened to the book's research on the plane, I committed to having a diet based on whole plant foods which is easiest to describe as mostly raw vegan. It was REALLY challenging getting started and thankfully getting sober had been so difficult I knew I could get through this eating change which by comparison was easier. I messed up several times with eating undercooked beans or way too much fiber which produced a horrible bloating pain for hours on several occasions. Today my wife and family help me on a daily basis with preparing foods that I can eat and thinking of how I can participate with the eating during the holidays. My big motivation for doing whatever it takes to eat healthy is to feel good today and do the best I can to live as long as my wife, family, and you need me. I hope this story is helpful for you in your journey today through life! My exercise for today is to look at the little miracles around my eating today!

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Hear a method to see the truth about the people around you today with a parable featuring three men and one simple insight. Eckhart Tolle mentioned this in a recent talk I listened to and I liked it so much I thought to share it here with you. What I see today is that what I think of other people is what I think of myself. Other people for most of my adult life were just stupid jerks available for me to take advantage of. The problem with this view of the world is that deep down I believed I was a selfish idiot that deserved to be exploited. Now I see a world full of loving and caring people that have a lot to teach me. Wherever I go I see people that are kind and understanding. People have superpowers that they are using every day in ordinary situations which I am now excited to see and share! What motivated me to seek a different world was my inability to continue living in the hell world full of complaints and harsh judgements. Today my greatest opportunities often are those where me being loving, kind, and understanding will make a huge impact. As I encounter lost souls on a daily basis desperate for unconditional love that often approach in the way I used to approach with hate and criticism, I am grateful today to see what a huge impact I can have in their life with a little kindness and understanding. I see that it took a lot of people loving and understanding me to help me escape and stay out of the world of lying, cheating, and stealing. My exercise today is to look for my next chance to be of service to another person by having compassion for them and seeing them as they truly are in addition to how they see the world. Thank you for reading this and I hope it is useful for you today!

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Hear solutions I have found for overcoming the self-sabotaging behaviors that defeated my best efforts to improve for most of my life. Helping others seems to give me my best chance to not screw myself over in my business, relationships, and health. Getting help with my most destructive habits was possible after I realized I could not fix the problem on my own willpower. For me, drinking alcohol to excess was my top self-defeating behavior and I found help going to Alcoholics Anonymous. While the most toxic problem in your life might be different, I would guess finding a community where people are having the same problems as you will provide a chance to escape from your top problems. As a member of a community, family, and friendships, I find the more I share about my own self-harming habits, the more I learn from others both in helping them do better and in learning how to do better myself. Reading self-help books also gives me inspiration and practical tips. Even with all of that effort, I still sometimes wind up in a bad mood for no good reason and remembering what I have shared in this podcast often helps the feelings to pass faster. My hope is that this podcast is a helpful part of your ongoing learning because I know it is helping me escape my self-sabotaging tendencies! The exercise for today is to spot another opportunity to help and get help with my own destructive nature today! Thank you for reading this and I hope you have a great day!

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Hear what I put into the smoothie I make each day that you see me drinking on most of my live videos on YouTube and Facebook! You might enjoy the story of how I started making this whole plant food raw vegan smoothie on a daily basis after reading the book "How Not To Die" by Dr. Michael Greger. I read the book as a recommendation from my uncle Joe who is a doctor with 40 years of experience as a general practitioner. The reason I was even willing to see him was that I had a rash all over my chest and back for nearly two years that seemed to respond to what I ate. With everything I ate having around 30 ingredients, how was I ever supposed to diagnose a food allergy? While the rash turned out to be a fungus that responds to sugar, the motivation to learn to do better with my eating was invaluable! When I made the switch to a whole plant food diet with a raw vegan foundation, I realized I needed a good way to eat vegetables. My wife suggested I blend my fruits and vegetables together to make a smoothie which now is the foundation of my diet every day! After years of counting calories and going to the gym, I have now lost at least 10 more pounds on top of the 50 pounds I had already lost just exercising and counting calories with MyFitnessPal daily for over a year. The best part is that I just drink this smoothie every day and eat beans, nuts, and whole grains for the rest of my diet until I am full. This is so incredibly simple that my eating is now more enjoyable and effective than ever all with less effort! Thank you for reading this and I hope it is helpful for you!

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Hear the strategy working for me to change behaviors I do not like from my dogs and child into actions I do like which eliminates the desire for me to yell, correct, discipline, and criticize. What I share is based on an understanding of positive and negative reinforcement loops. Most behavior begins as a harmless exploration of the world. From a dog, one bark or from a child picking up one item to play with it. When I provide loving attention in the form of praise, the behavior is likely to be repeated. The problem is that most of us want any attention so much that we are willing to behave badly to get it. We want to be seen even if it is in a bad way. At almost a year and a half old, my daughter plays with most of what she sees. She picks things up, pokes them, and sees what they can do. If I decide I do not want her to play with a certain thing and I try to fix that with any kind of negative verbal feedback, even if it is sweetly delivered Dolores Umbridge style rather than yelling, then the message I really send to my daughter is that "Daddy will notice you if you do that." This same message happens with my dogs when I used to yell at them to stop doing one thing or another. They hear "Hi I am seeing you right now" and for them this is better than going unnoticed. It used to drive me crazy to see how nearly everyone I saw had dogs that they had completely ineffective relationships with in terms of bad behavior. Now I understand that it only bothered me to see others yelling at their dogs pointlessly to stop barking only to have the dog do it again 30 more times within 10 minutes because I was using the same system to interact with my dogs even if it involved less yelling and more silent resentment on my part. Today I have freedom to see how to reward good behavior and replace what I do not like with positive attention to behavior I do like! Thank you for reading this and I hope it is helpful for you!

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Hear what I do when I am mad at a partner that helps me snap out of it faster which avoids the majority of the pain! This works with my wife, daughter, business partners, family, and friends. The basic strategy I use is to first notice that I am experiencing the pain of being angry and then to start focusing on remembering that the most important part of my relationship is that I chose to love the person. Most of the pain of being angry is in forgetting the most important part of the relationship with is how you feel about the partner. Instead of continually fueling the anger by reviewing what happened to "cause" the anger and what I am going to do about it, I shift the focus inside to see how much it hurts to be angry and focus on what I would choose to feel if I had a choice which is love. I use an example with my mother where I remember that I chose to be her son with the same being true for my friends, family, and wife. To be a good parent, I know it is critical to avoid being angry at my daughter because that is how I teach her to be angry. The less I teach her about how to be angry, the less she is likely to make that a part of her life. To reach my full potential, I try to use this with every person to realize my purpose in life is to learn how to love and when I am in anger I am lost. My exercise for today is to catch the moment I switch into anger and get to work even faster than I did last time I was angry on remembering my love for whichever partner I am angry at! Thank you for reading this and I hope it helps you in your life to listen and apply this episode as it has done for me!

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Hear how the questions I ask determine the results I get! For example, asking how do I make $10,000 a month in my business either fails to meet the objective or gets me the $10,000 in a way I do not enjoy. When I instead ask what I can do to make a business that helps you the most and gives you a way to give back to me, then the results are much greater than whatever I would have originally asked for. As a dog owner, I often have asked ineffective questions like how do I make my dogs stop barking or not knock the baby over. After I asked how could I be a better dog owner instead, I immediately got answers from my mother who is a veterinarian about how I could train my dogs first thing in the morning. It was easy for me to see once she made the suggestion that if I trained my dogs to go down on command, this would fix the problem of my daughter getting taken off her feet by the dogs running around. Empowered with better questions in most areas of my life today, the exercise I try is to find one more area where I could ask better questions. I found one right after this podcast where I was asking what should I do or what do I have time to do. Instead I tried asking what would be the most helpful and effective thing for me to do. From there I was motivated to do the live stream I am about to start now. Thank you for reading this description of my happier people podcast episode and I hope you enjoy it!

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Hear what works for me today to get the biggest results in my business in the last amount of time as well as having a happy marriage and good relationships with friends! The trick is that I look at my life as continually planting seeds for the future by giving the most I can in the last amount of time. This is the opposite of thinking about what I want, what will make me happy, how I can make money, and how I can get my partner to do what I want them to. Happiness I am learning is the byproduct of right living and I hope listening to this is helpful for you to live a life at the maximum level of happy for yourself today especially when working online and having a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, or fiancé!

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