The Jerry Banfield Show

Hear the story of the situation I faced today needing to go to the bathroom as a man while a women's restroom a stood open for me to use. I think you will enjoy listening to the entire thought process I went through as well as hearing the context I put this decision making into in terms of seeing my own mental conditioning and learning to selectively a step outside of it when the situation dictates a different and obvious good solution to a problem that my mind is not able to solve effectively through what I have been taught is in compliance with the rules. The exercise for today features a look into my life for more areas where my mind is making it something really simple into a difficult problem based on a conflict with my conditioning. I value your feedback on this episode today because I recorded it on my iPhone while vacationing in Orlando this weekend with my family and I hope you enjoy listening!

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Hear how I dedicate my life to creating happier people by continuously learning how to be a better person myself by studying one new non-fiction self-help book at a time! I just started listening to Money Master the Game by Tony Robbins which is already helping me learn better ways to think about money. I already read Rich Dad Poor Dad and hundreds of other self-help books within the last five years which collectively have given me what appear to be superpowers in my daily life. As I listen to Tony Robbins discuss financial freedom, I am amazed today that even with the debt I have that my life clearly falls into having financial independence today because I have the ability to do what I love every day and get paid for it. That looks like a miracle today because when I started reading book after book about how to improve my life, I clearly did not have freedom from hardly anything. I suffered, I struggled, I fought, I complained, and I consistently added to the problems of the world. The power of reading this books is in becoming a well-rounded person able to effectively handle the challenges of every day life. How many people do you know that handle each situation in their life with dignity and grace? These are the people I want to learn from and I turn to on a daily basis. Combining learning from the people around me with learning from the world's best and bravest in books, I am finding that I have all the tools I need today available at a low cost to create exactly the kind of life I have always wanted. Each day I work to help you see the same in your life and appreciate the opportunity you have given me so much that I am willing to work today to help make sure you have the same!

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Hear how I was in a great mood one day while traveling and then after eating a big meal feel immediately into a very foul mood only to discover that the only change in my life had been what I just ate. Since then I have repeated the experiment many times and changed my eating to minimize triggering bad moods which then string together to form depression. In my life what would have often been called depression could easily be explained by having several meals every day which then made my body feel bad and I interpreted mentally as life around me being a problem. Now I rarely have that after lunch slump or after dinner depression that comes with overeating and just eliminating that from my life has prevented a huge number of negative thoughts and feelings. Taking the edge off of a big problem like depression with a completely natural solution in more healthy eating is amazingly simple, effective, and applicable to anyone today. Thank you for reading this and I hope this podcast episode of Happier People is helpful for you!

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Hear solutions to receiving bad news from a doctor about how long you have to live and about how living a life of expectation is consistently inaccurate. While any person can guess at your future, you have the greatest influence on what actually happens in your life. If the doctor says you have six months to live, that is just a guess the same as if I tell you that you have twenty years to live. We are probably both wrong and it is hard to say who is more right. I have learned that a life of expectation is based on thinking certain people know the future and that I also know my own future which has consistently proven wrong in my own life. When I look to see how little of my past I remember, I see the only thing I do know about the future is that everything passes. With everything passing, I find a great sense of peace about the future because it is uncertain and yet I will get to enjoy the beauty of it in one way or another. This conversation helps me highlight the big motivation for the life I live today because I want to make a world I would like to be born into again.

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When it comes to seeing people, why is it so challenging? My daughter is a little over a year old and she simply looks at everyone everywhere. She sees people seeing her and she interacts with the world without the heaviness that we have as grown ups. As I go out into the world today, I am so confused as to why interactions among people are so complicated. Why are most of us unable to simply see each other in a healthy way? Children have no problem seeing me and I have no issue looking at them. I notice what a child is wearing, eating, seeing, and am free to look into their eyes without judgement. Try this on an adult and most of them completely avoid me. The moment I start to notice most adults, they attempt to avoid being noticed. People often will go to great lengths to avoid being looked at ranging at a minimum from looking down to a maximum of an angry outburst asking "WHAT" or "WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?" At the gym is the most ridiculous place for this because everyone is that the gym to make looking at them more of a pleasure and yet almost no one wants to really be seen by another person without some icebreaker. Most of my life the only time I noticed other people was when I wanted something from them or when they were in my way. Many of us I think associate seeing people with wanting something from them. Kids are amazing because they look at us without wanting. They see us as you might imagine God would look at you fully appreciating the beauty of you. Meanwhile, adults are so conditioned that people only see you if they want something that the majority of people I see work hard to avoid being seen normally. Have you made it through an entire day out in the world without one person seeing you without wanting something from you? I have made it through many days of my life without seeing anyone that I did not want something from and today I try to do better. Today I am looking for my thought exercise for one single subconscious avoidance behavior of another human being. My hope is that I am really seeing people and I guess it is this that encourages so many people to see me!

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Hear how I use a third party point of view in my life to quickly step out of bad situations and turn what might become drama into a humorous situation instead. You might call this mindfulness, consciousness, presence, awareness of a higher power, or patience. Today I share a story of how I reacted after Twitter failed to verify my account when I expected that they should because my Facebook and YouTube accounts are already verified. When I got the rejection email, I shame triggered into all my old feelings of rejection and not being good enough. If you have a hard time understanding this particular feeling for me, just wait until the next time you get a message that you read as not being good enough and you will understand. After I share how I reacted after receiving that email, I explain how bringing the idea of sports announcers commentating on my life into my thought helps me to snap back into the present moment and to not get stuck in the hellish torture chamber of my mind. I explain how I learned to develop this third party awareness of my life by listening to other people share honestly about their lives and seeing how easy it usually is to provide unbiased and useful advice. Why then am I so blind in my own life? Using this one simple rule helps keep my vision restored and to fix the blindness quickly when it comes. Thank you for reading this and I hope the exercise of looking for a chance to be the announcer in your life today is helpful!

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Hear how I deal with physical pain in my life featuring a story about how a sudden cramp producing an intense pain in the butt helped me learn how to find the humor in the middle of the hurt. Listen to the story of how when the same cramp started last night I quickly paid attention to it and it never got serious. Learn about my back pain history and what worked to break the cycle of trying the numb the pain with muscle relaxers and Advil only to end up in the same pain again the next day. Most of my adult life I have had some kind of ongoing chronic pain whether it be headaches, backaches, sprained ankles, and most recently these random butt cramps. Now the difference is I rarely have pain that is recurring for more than a few minutes. Massages once a week help a lot to prevent the neck and backaches. The strategy for reducing pain I share in this episode I hope will help you see opportunities to get the pain you have in your life to pass quickly first from the mind and then from the body.

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Listen to the story of how my vision transformed from hell to heaven just with doing service work in an effort to honestly share the pain of my life and what I learned from it with other people like me. Hear how I grew up as an idealist seeing a world full of poverty, hate, and pain. As I worked in the middle of it, I turned into a callous critic of the world complaining from my armchair with no hope for the world. Now, I see that all the change I would like in the world must happen in me. My part of the collective means that every little improvement and bit of healing I give and receive makes an impact on the whole of humanity. Today I feel empowered to work hard each day to genuinely improve as a human being and to try to be a role model that other people learn from mostly in seeing how I live and how I feel because I have learned from so many healthy role models myself within the last two years. I seek daily to learn how people with happy and healthy lives act while getting help with replacing anything in my life that causes pain. The world now looks like heaven to me as I see that what I do is enough to make a real difference on all the problems of the world. While I take no pride in the harsh viewpoints I claimed in the past, I share them today to show you the amazing transformation that has happened within me and I continue to remember it today so that it will continue.

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Listen to my inspirational monologue today about learning to fix up the good things I have in my life already first instead of seeking something new to provide a solution. In my online business, I just have realized that all the work I need to do is in making a better business out of the one I already have rather than chasing the next big thing. In five years of failing to do business well most of the time online, I have seen that my tendency to value new customers over existing customers, new money over old, and to seek salvation in the great achievements has cost me a lot of opportunities to help the people that have already asked for and given me the ability to help.

In my relationships and living situation, I find the same is true. I would consistently try to get more friends on Facebook instead of being a friend to the friends I already have. I would fantasize about a bigger house instead of fixing up the one I already had. While I recognize sometimes life requires a move, a relationship change, or a pivot in business, most of the time the work from day to day is in making the best out of what I already have and that work will tend to produce bigger results than house shopping, adding new friends, or launching a new website.

The exercise for today is to find another area of my life where I still have the toxic mindset that I need something new rather than to keep doing the work of fixing what I already have. Thank you for reading this today and I hope you enjoyed it!

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Hear how on a day where I am sick I still show up to do the podcast because it is good for me to do it every day. Listen to a story of two antarctic exploration teams that had a long journey and the difference approaches they used with one team doing the same amount every day and the other doing the most they could every day. Can you guess which group died from exposure and which group completed their journey?

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