Would you like to feel that the work you are doing today especially with your Facebook marketing and business online is good enough? Hear my thoughts today on how the need to build an impressive business often prevented me from doing good work for the people asking for my help. When is enough to feel like we have made it when making money, getting Facebook page likes, asking for post shares, and trying to make viral videos? I see no end outside of today. With over 2 million likes on Facebook, you can see I went on what felt like a never ending cycle of trying to get more people to follow me only to discover what a poor job I was doing being of service to them. Today I feel good enough about my business and work to be of service to you here each day.

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Hear how hard I worked to be a cheap person most of my adult life only to waste all of those gains and more on foolish large purchases. Listen to how I would waste hundreds if not thousands of dollars going out at the bar and then rationalize not tipping at a restaurant. Be inspired in seeing what works for me today to be more generous with smaller expenses and more intelligent with larger expenses. Know that while I am not perfect today, I have made better decisions in the last two years with my finances than I ever have since I could hold a dollar bill. When you hear my struggle with asking for help with money only to get the same cheap principles applied back on me, I hope you will have more love and patience dealing with the same in your life. It hurts to be on the receiving end of other people acting cheap while then wasting all of their hard earned money on decisions like buying a house that is barely what is affordable or not learning more about retirement planning. Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy this episode of happier people podcast!

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Hear the sleep routines I use that help me get eight or more hours of sleep consistently each night while allowing the sleep I get to be fully effective in healing my mind and body. To begin, I explain what I do an hour before bedtime to prepare for sleep and I share stories of the struggles I experienced as an adult back to high school in getting enough sleep. The most consistent mistake I made was getting in bed with a stimulated mind from playing video games, checking Facebook, or working on my business. Today I try to avoid doing anything that is mentally stimulating within an hour of bedtime because this greatly reduces the chance of me tossing and turning in bed. As I go deeper into getting good sleep, I explore the possibility that you might already know what to do to get good sleep and be powerless to do any better. You might wake up on not enough sleep every day and swear you will do better that night only to end up in the same trap again. Many people use alcohol, prescription pills, and illegal drugs to attempt to assist with getting what you can easily get naturally IF you are healthy enough to be able to make change in your life based only on having better information. I share with you how I was motivated to get help with my drinking after seeing that even though I knew everything I needed to know to stay sober, I would forget all of that when I was thirsty for an alcoholic beverage and only remember how good I felt after the first few drinks. With sleep, this same process may happen where you find it is again 4 am and you stayed up six hours past your target bedtime. You may completely lose hope and just give up even trying to do better. I think being part of a community that can help with your sleep and having a partner that has healthy sleep routines are essential for making change in this area of great health importance. Thank you for reading this and I hope this episode is helpful! My exercise for today is to check the sleep routines I am using today and look for areas of improvement!

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Hear how I get through a day today where I have been hurting off and on with the feeling of an empty hole inside me and feeling like a person that is not good enough. I hope as I share how outwardly there is no problem in my life while inwardly everything is awful you will be able to relate and feel not so alone next time this happens with you. Each person that has shared the inside of their feelings on a tough day like this with me has helped me out to avoid years of suffering through being open to crying the pain out and asking for help. Listen to how I minimize the damage from a bad mood with my wife in the morning and open my arms to letting my family heal me throughout a day where a customer service message sends me over the top! Throughout the day, instead of focusing on why, I consistently try to feel what I am feeling and ask what I am feeling instead because dealing with the what of how I feel usually effortlessly shows the why once it passes. Getting stuck trying to explain why I feel the way I do usually keeps me feeling the same way. Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy listening to what I shared here!

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Hear the story of the situation I faced today needing to go to the bathroom as a man while a women's restroom a stood open for me to use. I think you will enjoy listening to the entire thought process I went through as well as hearing the context I put this decision making into in terms of seeing my own mental conditioning and learning to selectively a step outside of it when the situation dictates a different and obvious good solution to a problem that my mind is not able to solve effectively through what I have been taught is in compliance with the rules. The exercise for today features a look into my life for more areas where my mind is making it something really simple into a difficult problem based on a conflict with my conditioning. I value your feedback on this episode today because I recorded it on my iPhone while vacationing in Orlando this weekend with my family and I hope you enjoy listening!

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Hear how I dedicate my life to creating happier people by continuously learning how to be a better person myself by studying one new non-fiction self-help book at a time! I just started listening to Money Master the Game by Tony Robbins which is already helping me learn better ways to think about money. I already read Rich Dad Poor Dad and hundreds of other self-help books within the last five years which collectively have given me what appear to be superpowers in my daily life. As I listen to Tony Robbins discuss financial freedom, I am amazed today that even with the debt I have that my life clearly falls into having financial independence today because I have the ability to do what I love every day and get paid for it. That looks like a miracle today because when I started reading book after book about how to improve my life, I clearly did not have freedom from hardly anything. I suffered, I struggled, I fought, I complained, and I consistently added to the problems of the world. The power of reading this books is in becoming a well-rounded person able to effectively handle the challenges of every day life. How many people do you know that handle each situation in their life with dignity and grace? These are the people I want to learn from and I turn to on a daily basis. Combining learning from the people around me with learning from the world's best and bravest in books, I am finding that I have all the tools I need today available at a low cost to create exactly the kind of life I have always wanted. Each day I work to help you see the same in your life and appreciate the opportunity you have given me so much that I am willing to work today to help make sure you have the same!

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Hear how I was in a great mood one day while traveling and then after eating a big meal feel immediately into a very foul mood only to discover that the only change in my life had been what I just ate. Since then I have repeated the experiment many times and changed my eating to minimize triggering bad moods which then string together to form depression. In my life what would have often been called depression could easily be explained by having several meals every day which then made my body feel bad and I interpreted mentally as life around me being a problem. Now I rarely have that after lunch slump or after dinner depression that comes with overeating and just eliminating that from my life has prevented a huge number of negative thoughts and feelings. Taking the edge off of a big problem like depression with a completely natural solution in more healthy eating is amazingly simple, effective, and applicable to anyone today. Thank you for reading this and I hope this podcast episode of Happier People is helpful for you!

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Hear solutions to receiving bad news from a doctor about how long you have to live and about how living a life of expectation is consistently inaccurate. While any person can guess at your future, you have the greatest influence on what actually happens in your life. If the doctor says you have six months to live, that is just a guess the same as if I tell you that you have twenty years to live. We are probably both wrong and it is hard to say who is more right. I have learned that a life of expectation is based on thinking certain people know the future and that I also know my own future which has consistently proven wrong in my own life. When I look to see how little of my past I remember, I see the only thing I do know about the future is that everything passes. With everything passing, I find a great sense of peace about the future because it is uncertain and yet I will get to enjoy the beauty of it in one way or another. This conversation helps me highlight the big motivation for the life I live today because I want to make a world I would like to be born into again.

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When it comes to seeing people, why is it so challenging? My daughter is a little over a year old and she simply looks at everyone everywhere. She sees people seeing her and she interacts with the world without the heaviness that we have as grown ups. As I go out into the world today, I am so confused as to why interactions among people are so complicated. Why are most of us unable to simply see each other in a healthy way? Children have no problem seeing me and I have no issue looking at them. I notice what a child is wearing, eating, seeing, and am free to look into their eyes without judgement. Try this on an adult and most of them completely avoid me. The moment I start to notice most adults, they attempt to avoid being noticed. People often will go to great lengths to avoid being looked at ranging at a minimum from looking down to a maximum of an angry outburst asking "WHAT" or "WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?" At the gym is the most ridiculous place for this because everyone is that the gym to make looking at them more of a pleasure and yet almost no one wants to really be seen by another person without some icebreaker. Most of my life the only time I noticed other people was when I wanted something from them or when they were in my way. Many of us I think associate seeing people with wanting something from them. Kids are amazing because they look at us without wanting. They see us as you might imagine God would look at you fully appreciating the beauty of you. Meanwhile, adults are so conditioned that people only see you if they want something that the majority of people I see work hard to avoid being seen normally. Have you made it through an entire day out in the world without one person seeing you without wanting something from you? I have made it through many days of my life without seeing anyone that I did not want something from and today I try to do better. Today I am looking for my thought exercise for one single subconscious avoidance behavior of another human being. My hope is that I am really seeing people and I guess it is this that encourages so many people to see me!

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Hear how I use a third party point of view in my life to quickly step out of bad situations and turn what might become drama into a humorous situation instead. You might call this mindfulness, consciousness, presence, awareness of a higher power, or patience. Today I share a story of how I reacted after Twitter failed to verify my account when I expected that they should because my Facebook and YouTube accounts are already verified. When I got the rejection email, I shame triggered into all my old feelings of rejection and not being good enough. If you have a hard time understanding this particular feeling for me, just wait until the next time you get a message that you read as not being good enough and you will understand. After I share how I reacted after receiving that email, I explain how bringing the idea of sports announcers commentating on my life into my thought helps me to snap back into the present moment and to not get stuck in the hellish torture chamber of my mind. I explain how I learned to develop this third party awareness of my life by listening to other people share honestly about their lives and seeing how easy it usually is to provide unbiased and useful advice. Why then am I so blind in my own life? Using this one simple rule helps keep my vision restored and to fix the blindness quickly when it comes. Thank you for reading this and I hope the exercise of looking for a chance to be the announcer in your life today is helpful!

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