The Jerry Banfield Show

Hear how I discovered an amazing lie that I have been telling everyone about not liking to read books! The fact is I read books every day and that for around ten years I have been telling people and believing that I did not like to read but that I did enjoy listening to books on Audible. When I look carefully at my life both recently and all of the past I remember, I see a consistent love for reading books. I have read more books than I can count in my life probably thousands. Every day I listen to books on Audible and every day I read at least two soft cover or hard cover print books. Why then was I just about to tell my friend Joseph Delgadillo last night while I was talking to him that I do not like reading books? Thankfully after telling this lie so many times I caught it coming out of my mouth in shock and told Joe that I did actually enjoy reading. How long have I been telling people that I do not like to read and then resisting, ignoring, and giving away any books people got me? For years my mother bought me books BECAUSE SHE KNEW I LOVED READING! Meanwhile I consistently put those books in the closet and then eventually gave them away. After telling the lie that I did not like to read books so many times, I eventually believed and acted on it despite years of evidence that I did. When did I start telling this lie? Maybe it was something like where I lied to my friends in college about not being a virgin. They were all sharing about the first time they had sex and I said that I had lost my virginity at 15 which was a total lie because I was a total virgin at the time. If I had to guess, I would say that I started lying about reading books in the same way. Either some girl I was dating or some guy I was friends with said they did not like reading books and I must have just said it too. To make sure no one caught me lying, I then just kept telling the lie for years to everyone I had told it to until JUST YESTERDAY I figured out the reading lie. Thankfully I told my friends about the virginity thing like a year ago and they didn't care. Apparently I am the main one that suffers from these toxic stories I tell and today my exercise is to keep looking to see if and when the next one comes out. The first step to being free of toxic stories and lies like this is to see that they exist! Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy this episode of Happier People podcast!

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Hear how volunteering and making $25,000 a year produces the same amount of happiness as earning $70,000+ a year! After years of practicing giving generously and seeking today as my exercise to find a new way to do it, I am grateful that I was shown the power of giving by others. While many people said I was crazy or stupid to give so many of my online courses away just days after I made them, the free coupons I gave out to my courses resulted in millions of dollars in sales. Sharing the best strategy I had found after two years of working online to make money and get Facebook likes got my into the position to make a YouTube channel with hundreds of thousands of subscribers and to teach online courses. Giving a little money away every day helps me feel wealthy and in feeling wealthy the universe continues to give back more to me. My goal is to give everything I have and trust that I will receive back just what I need. I am happier today than I have ever been and I work to keep that by giving away everything I am learning that is assisting me with being happy each day here in this podcast. For today my exercise is to make sure I see the next opportunity to give generously because I love the life I have today and want to continue sharing that joy with you. Thank you very much for reading this and I hope you enjoy this episode of Happier People podcast!

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Hear the story of the gambler who died and thought they went to heaven which I hope acts as a parable showing that winning League of Legends or any game in life all the time would be no fun. Applying this to my business is helping me understand that each failure or loss is exactly the experience I need to do better. Why do we think in life we should be able to pick the perfect partner or the right job or a fun hobby or the best investment on the first try? When I hear many people talk bad about online dating, I often discover they went out with one or two people before giving up. With dating I understand that I needed to fail as many times as necessary to get it right which took 8 years and hundreds of painful failures. Every time I would get excited when I was messaging a girl and every time it did not work out, it hurt again. Just days before meeting my wife after another failure, I wondered if I deserved to have a good life and just liked not having things work out. In some way, I found a deep spiritual truth that if everything just worked out all the time and we just got everything we did right on the first try, there would be no joy in anything. My exercise today as I try getting my music production studio setup is to be grateful for each learning experience as something goes wrong. In the middle of any frustration arising, I hope to remember what I have shared with you here today and see that this is my opportunity to be grateful for a day in heaven rather than a day in hell where everything always goes my way. Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy this episode of Happier People podcast!

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Why is it every baby I see looks perfect? When does that change? As a scientist, I think it is critical to establish a clear point of "birth" or "death" where the perfection in a child becomes transformed or forgotten into something else that we then end up calling a person, an employee, a statistic, a criminal, a success story, or any of the other labels we apply to each other that seem more important than everything else. For example, my daughter now is a year and four months. Seeing her shows me all of the beauty of the world as does seeing any other baby. If in 30 years she is talking to her therapist about her problems, when would the change have happened from the baby I see now into the person being described to the shrink? I ask this after having went through the exact same change. 30 years after being a beautiful baby love to my mother, I was talking to a rector at my church explaining all of the sins I believed made up who I was. He helped me see my essential nature had never changed and that throughout my life the perfection I came into this world with was never lost! His words helped me remember that Christ or Love or Perfection or God or Being or a Beautiful Baby Love or Whatever You Call It is who I really am which is easy to see with a baby but hard to see sometimes with the child, teenager, or adult. My exercise for today is to see a chance to remember this in a place where I am attempting or in the act of forgetting it and believing something else. Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy this episode of Happier People podcast!

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The unlimited power I have available now is to make the decision to create the life I want to have. I am grateful for each person that has helped me see the real choice I have each moment is heaven or hell. Life or death. Joy or pain. As I write this, I choose life again to be of service here to you with the hope of passing the same message I receive each day forward so that I may be prepared to receive it back. When I was unaware of the decisions I was making, I felt helpless, sick, and alone. It took a lot of unconditional love from people just like you to help me see the seemingly insignificant power I had to decide to do something this moment offered me everything I needed to make the life I wanted. Today after years of suffering in the life of my creation, I now am committed to making the best life I can here with the purpose of being useful in showing you the way and helping you show me the way. Hear stories of how I yelled at my parents wishing I had never been born and how I had some peace even in the depths of depression. See that you are not alone in your life and the power of decision you have at this moment is all you need to have everything you want. My exercise for today is to look this moment at the choice I have to love unconditionally or to condemn. To live and grow or to decay and die. Thank you for reading this and I hope this podcast episode is useful for you!

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Hear how I just discovered the opportunity to eliminate one activity I do daily and have done most days for the last twenty years! Playing video games has been part of the foundation of my life, the idea of who I am, and an activity I have spent probably 20,000+ hours on in my life. Within the last 24 hours, I just have been given the vision to see that my life might be better if I stopped playing any video games at all. No mobile games, Xbox One, PlayStation 4, or League of Legends! Just 48 hours ago I had committed myself to playing one game of League of Legends every day, one podcast episode a day, and one online class created every day. Clearly something had to give because I also have a wife, daughter, service commitment in my community, and the need to sleep. For months on some subconscious level I have suspected that my time gaming might be ending which might be why I have consistently made efforts to increase it. Why has it been so difficult for me to see my life might be better without video games even when more than 5 years ago I started my business to help people with video game addiction? What might you be missing in your own life today? While I hate saying I am busy, I have been feeling overwhelmed recently with doing too much. With no 10 to 20 hours a week eliminated out of my schedule, I feel a level of freedom I have not experienced in a long time. I feel free to read more books every day and to completely disengage fantasy from my life! So many people including my mother, friends, and even the haters online have helped me to make this change. I gave away a code for Riot Points which is the in game currency in League of Legends on my stream the other day. At the end of the stream, the guy I gave the code to called me a scammer because on his first attempt to enter it, he was not able to get it to work. In the moment, I realized that I was wrong. I was doing something that was not bringing more joy to the world and it was not the giveaway itself. It was the entire activity surrounding the giveaway which was the gaming. Within a minute, he came back and said he got it to work. I meanwhile got the openness to receive a new way of living without video games. With one thing after another being removed from the idea of who I am, I am excited to see what my life is today with this new freedom. I hope sharing this with you is helpful today! My exercise is to look at my life free from gaming. For your exercise, would you repeat this process with me? Would you find one area of your daily life where you would be better off eliminating in? Thank you for reading this and I hope you enjoy this podcast episode!

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Hear my list of the top 20 behaviors, reactions, and ways of thinking I will no longer tolerate in this life I am creating here with you today! I hope listening to this will be helpful for you as you look at making your own life exactly how you want it. Thank you to Tony Robbins for inspiring me to make this list based on having made it yourself when you were seeking to improve your own situation!

1. Getting mad, judging, and being mean to my wife, daughter, and anyone in my life.

2. Feeling like I am a bad person for my thoughts.

3. Being ashamed or feeling it is wrong to look at someone.

4. Focusing so much on what I want later that I forget what I need to give now.

5. Avoiding my feelings especially with work.

6. Withholding love and affection.

7. Condemning my dogs and other people's pets.

8. Feeling superior or inferior because of what I do or have.

9. Cramming my day so full I am afraid of failing to do everything.

10. Choosing less productive activities over more useful ones.

11. Making my schedule more important than what needs to be done now.

12. Fear of trying something new with the purpose of learning or giving.

13. Hesitating to look inside.

14. Forgetting my creator, my love, and my gratitude for living.

15. Expecting things to go my way.

16. Not making time to read and listen to books each day.

17. Fighting with commenters online.

18. Checking daily how many people are watching my videos and listening to my podcast.

19. Withholding my generosity and always demanding I get a good deal.

20. Placing the past or future above now.

Thank you very much for reading this because I hope this is useful for you in having a life filled with happiness, joy, and productivity today!

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Hear the story of how I went from expecting to earn less money in 2017 to changing that story into one of planning for making a greater profit than this year! When I discovered recently that my core financial belief for 2017 was that I was going to have a difficult year for my business while maybe going bankrupt or certainly making less money, I was shocked! At what point did I choose this damaging and limiting belief? After I was banned from Udemy, at some point out of fear I must have figured that I could not possibly do as good without my huge revenue from their website and despite my best efforts to do more, my belief stayed the same. I became aware of this belief in listening to Tony Robbins's book "Money Master the Game" as he encouraged me to think about the future of my finances. During a call with my mother, I realized that I was acting as if 2017 was going to be worse than 2016 despite NO EVIDENCE or REASON! As of December 24, 2016 I have NO DATA on what 2017 holds. The question is what will I plan for? I have learned in my business online that what I plan for and act as if is going to happen is what I get. I am grateful for the help I received in becoming aware of this damaging financial belief and now changing it to one of prosperity. I now believe 2017 will be even better for my profit than 2016 was because I have made a better business system designed to help more people for free and to eliminate me wasting my time in email and making sales. With a better belief, I am now free and inspired to build the business system that I expect will produce even better results! My exercise today is to explore my life for more unconscious beliefs like this and question any that are not working to my advantage! Thank you for reading this and I hope it is helpful for you!

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Hear the story of how today I am finally at a healthy weight after 14 years of ranging between overweight and morbidly obese all while telling myself I was athletic or not as fat as others. You might like hearing what finally worked to break my cycle of trendy diets and huge weight gains followed by a big effort to lose weight that ended it being fatter than ever. The last time in my adult life before recently I was at a healthy weight was when I was 18 years old as a freshman in college. My parents raised me to eat healthy balanced meals and as soon as they opened a Zia juice on my University of South Carolina campus, I did not have a healthy weight again for 14 years. The Oreo elation smoothie I got there on a daily basis helped add 10 pounds to my weight by the end of the year and no matter how much I exercised, I simply ate too many calories to burn it all. When I started drinking alcohol every week as a sophomore, my chances of maintaining a healthy body dropped to nearly zero. Through the next ten years I tried losing weight different ways and benefited often from heartbreaks and living at home with my parents for the best weight loss in my life. By 2014, I was certain that I was going to drink myself to death which motivated me to seek help. In learning to live a sober life, I started to review all of my problems with my extra pounds being one of the first to come up. While I hoped just stopping drinking would do the trick, I ended up plateauing into still obese by the end of 2014. As the holidays approached, I decided counting calories would be the solution. For over a year, every single day I counted all the calories from all the food I ate with most days having used MyFitnessPal to track the actual foods I ate. I was shocked when I started to see I was often eating over 3,000 calories a day. A year later my daily goal was 2,150 plus exercise and I was down 20 more pounds but still overweight. As my calorie counting failed to bring me into a healthy weight, I grew desperate for a solution that would help me keep shrinking. Thankfully I had a fungus which produced a rash over a two year period that showed me how poorly I was managing my eating on my own. I asked my Uncle Joe who is a primary care physician what I should do. He recommended seeing a specialist for the rash and reading the book "How Not To Die" for my health because he recommends that to all of his patients on their first visit. Fortunately for me my first visit was at a family barbecue. While I was considering reading the book, I ate a huge breakfast with my wife at the Detroit Metro airport. Within a few minutes of the meal being digested, my thoughts dropped to nearly suicidal depression. I was so shocked that I suddenly realized what had happened. The meal I ate CAUSED the bad mood! The moment this realization hit me I was overwhelmed with motivation to do whatever it took to learn how to eat better starting with reading that book. As I listened to the book's research on the plane, I committed to having a diet based on whole plant foods which is easiest to describe as mostly raw vegan. It was REALLY challenging getting started and thankfully getting sober had been so difficult I knew I could get through this eating change which by comparison was easier. I messed up several times with eating undercooked beans or way too much fiber which produced a horrible bloating pain for hours on several occasions. Today my wife and family help me on a daily basis with preparing foods that I can eat and thinking of how I can participate with the eating during the holidays. My big motivation for doing whatever it takes to eat healthy is to feel good today and do the best I can to live as long as my wife, family, and you need me. I hope this story is helpful for you in your journey today through life! My exercise for today is to look at the little miracles around my eating today!

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Hear a method to see the truth about the people around you today with a parable featuring three men and one simple insight. Eckhart Tolle mentioned this in a recent talk I listened to and I liked it so much I thought to share it here with you. What I see today is that what I think of other people is what I think of myself. Other people for most of my adult life were just stupid jerks available for me to take advantage of. The problem with this view of the world is that deep down I believed I was a selfish idiot that deserved to be exploited. Now I see a world full of loving and caring people that have a lot to teach me. Wherever I go I see people that are kind and understanding. People have superpowers that they are using every day in ordinary situations which I am now excited to see and share! What motivated me to seek a different world was my inability to continue living in the hell world full of complaints and harsh judgements. Today my greatest opportunities often are those where me being loving, kind, and understanding will make a huge impact. As I encounter lost souls on a daily basis desperate for unconditional love that often approach in the way I used to approach with hate and criticism, I am grateful today to see what a huge impact I can have in their life with a little kindness and understanding. I see that it took a lot of people loving and understanding me to help me escape and stay out of the world of lying, cheating, and stealing. My exercise today is to look for my next chance to be of service to another person by having compassion for them and seeing them as they truly are in addition to how they see the world. Thank you for reading this and I hope it is useful for you today!

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