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On this episode, I sat down for a much-needed chat about learning differences with an amazing guest.Ms. Choyce Simmons, is an author, certified grief support specialist, educational therapist, and CEO/Founder of Beautiful Minds LLC.

Key Stats:● One in five children in the US has learning and attention issues like dyslexia and ADHD.● Students with learning differences are more than twice as likely to be suspended as those who do not and the dropout rate for students with learning differences is 18.1%, nearly three times the rate of all students.

Key Takeaways:

● Children with learning differences just have differences, not disabilities● Symptoms of learning differences may include attention issues, poor executive functioning, behavior issues, and difficulty focusing.● Dyslexia is hereditary, so it's important to know your family's medical history● BIPOC children may be more often mislabeled with ADHD or a learning difference due to cultural and environmental factors, as well as biases in diagnosis and treatment.● Labels may be necessary to get the services that a child needs, but parents have the right to call meetings and ask for documents to be amended and changed● Educators and parents should not treat everyone the same because everyone learns differently and has unique strengths and weaknesses.● Smaller classroom sizes, co-teachers in classrooms, and individualized curriculums can help reach every child.● Parents should start early in learning how their children learn and advocating for them.

Guest Contact Info:

Choyce Simmons:https://facebook.com/choyce.simmons[email protected]

About Guest

Choyce Simmons Author, CEO, Certified Grief Support Specialist, Educational Therapist, Mother,Born with a purpose and a plan. It was after the loss of my mother that my purpose was revealed. My name is Choyce Simmons, author of "Live, Learn, Love, Embracing your Inner You," a book of motivational words and poetry. I am also a co-author of "When Queens Rise," released Dec. 2023. My chapter "From Grief, Through Pain, To Purpose", shares how grief caused me mentally, physically, and emotionally Illness. It gives a message of hope to overcome grief and find hope after loss; as the CEO/Founder of Beautiful Minds, LLC, an Educational Therapy, Advocacy, and Consulting company that assists children with learning differences and their families to navigate special education in both public/private school sectors with grief support services both in an individual/group setting and with the extended professional development services provided; educators in Anne Arundel County Public Schools have access to our grief customized courses. As an expert and Certified Grief Support Specialist, Grief Facilitator with over 7 years of experience and a double  Master’s degree in Human Service Counseling with a concentration in Grief Counseling and a Master’s in Education with a concentration in Educational Therapy; I am grateful to serve families as they overcome grief to live full lives and navigate Special Education to get their children the services and support they deserve.

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I had the opportunity to have a kandid chat on the hot-button topic of emotions and

managing your emotions. I was joined for this discussion by a Clinical Psychologist, Blogger,

and Author of "Emotions as Tools" & "Beyond Anger Management," Dr. Ed Daube aka “the

Emotions Doctor.”

Key takeaways:

• Emotions are often not taught in our culture, leaving us to struggle with understanding and managing them.
• The emotions as tools model help us to understand and use emotions to improve our lives and relationships.
• Anger can be seen as a signal that something needs to change.
• Emotions automatically put our body into fight-or-flight mode
• Every emotion has a message, and understanding that message allows you to master your emotions as strategic tools.
• Fear is a present-based emotion that signals a real threat, and it is always best to validate that fear and get out of the situation for your safety.

• Anger management tends not to work because it teaches you to control anger, vs. learning to control your reaction and response, not the emotion itself.
• Identify the physical sensations that tell you when you are experiencing an emotion, such as anger, anxiety or fear.

• Practice managing your emotions to make them a habit.

By mastering our emotions and understanding their message, we can use the information they provide to move forward positively.

Guest contact info

[email protected].

https://theemotionsdoctor.com/

Books

Emotions as Tools: A Self-Help Guide to Controlling Your Life, Not Your Feelings

https://www.amazon.com/Emotions-As-Tools-Controlling-Feelings/

Beyond Anger Management: Master Your Anger as a Strategic Tool.

http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Anger-Management-Master-Strategic/

About My Guest

Dr. Ed Daube is a renowned clinical psychologist and author who is widely known as The

Emotions Doctor. He holds a PhD in clinical psychology and is an Amazon best-selling

author of two books, "Emotions as Tools: A Self-Help Guide to Controlling Your Life, Not

Your Feelings," and "Beyond Anger Management: Master Your Anger as a Strategic Tool."

Both of his books are available on Amazon.com.

Dr. Daube is a Senior Adjunct Professor of Psychology at the University of LaVerne in

Southern California, where he specializes in making complex subjects, such as emotions,

understandable. He is highly skilled at helping individuals gain a deeper understanding of

their emotions and how they can effectively manage them. Through his writings, Dr. Daube

aims to help people become more aware of their emotional patterns and develop strategies to

manage their emotions effectively.

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I was joined for this discussion by, CPA, licensed massage therapist, Kraft Beer Barowner, creative copyright writer, black belt martial artist, a homeschooling parent, and host of the "Lifeand Love in the Q" podcast, Jillian Abby aka "Ask Queer Abby!

Key takeaways:● Compulsory heterosexuality appears in our lives in many ways, including conversations, thegendering of everything, and toys.● Listening to other people's stories is one of the best ways to learn and change our perceptionsof LGBTQIA+● We don't always have to understand the how or why behind everyone, but if we can see thehumanity in them, we have less to fear.● When we don't know things, we fill in the blanks with assumptions, which can be harmful.● There is no bullet list of what to say or not say to LGBTQ+ individuals, but connecting withother humans, especially ones that aren't like us, can help us understand and see theirhumanity.● Homophobia still exists because the queer identity is still sometimes seen as taboo, scandalous, ordirty.● It is essential to educate everyone, especially queer kids, on sexual health.● Having open and honest conversations is crucial in understanding and accepting people whoidentify differently from themselves.

By having open and honest conversations and connecting with others who are different from us, wecan move towards a more inclusive and accepting society for all.

Guest Contact Infohttps://www.tiktok.com/@askqueerabbyhttps://queerabby.com/

About GuestJillian Abby is a risk-taker who has pursued a diverse range of careers, including being a CPA,massage therapist, bar owner, copywriter, homeschooling parent, and martial artist. Her most recentjourney has been as a proud lesbian and advocate for the LGBTQ+ community.  Jillian participated inevents like Tampa's first inclusive homeschool prom and the LGBT Chamber of Commerce.She supports others through her blog QueerAbby.com and TikTok @AskQueerAbby. Jillian lives inTampa Bay with her partner, two children, and a rescue cat.

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On this episode, I had the chance to sit down for a much-needed chat about food freedom and our relationship with food, with an amazing guest.

Dr. Trina Dorrah is a physician, binge-eating coach, and the host of the popular podcast "Diet Culture is BS.

Key Stats:

According to the World Health Organization, worldwide obesity has nearly tripled since 1975, with more than 1.9 billion adults 18 years and older being overweight and over 650 million being "obese" in 2016.

Key Takeaways:

• Obesity is preventable.
• Overeating can be a coping mechanism for unprocessed emotions.
• Restrictive attitudes towards food can cause overeating when certain foods are labelled as "bad" or "forbidden."
• Yo-yo dieting can lead to a long-term upward trajectory in weight and increase the risks of disease and mortality.
• Listen to your body's cues and feed it when biologically hungry
• Demanding professions, like medicine, can cause high stress and burnout, leading to disordered eating habits among physicians and other professionals.
• Children who are put on diets may develop a problematic relationship with food that persists into adulthood.
• The focus should be on improving the relationship with food and having "food freedom" to enjoy eating without obsessing over it.

Help is available for those struggling with overeating or a problematic relationship with food, and it's not found in diets. Stay tuned and enjoy!

Guest Contact Info

https://www.foodfreedommd.com/

https://web.facebook.com/tridorr?_rdc=1&_rdr

https://www.instagram.com/trinadorrah/

https://dietcultureisbs.buzzsprout.com

About Guest:

Dr. Trina Dorrah is a practising physician who has made it her mission to help others overcome binge eating. With a deep understanding of the struggles that come with overeating, Dr. Dorrah is uniquely qualified to help those who have tried and failed to control their eating habits. In addition to her medical training, Dr. Dorrah is also a certified life coach. Her own experiences as a former binge eater have given her a compassionate and empathetic approach to coaching others. She knows what it's like to feel hopeless and frustrated when it seems like nothing will work to stop the cycle of overeating. Now, she shares that knowledge with other physicians who struggle with overeating as a way to cope with stress. Through her coaching, Dr. Dorrah is able to guide her clients towards a healthier relationship with food.

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I had the opportunity to have a kandid chat on the topic of imposter syndrome, a prevalent issue experienced by up to 82% of the population.

I was joined for this discussion by three incredible women who shared their insights and perspectives on the subject:

Kate Purmal, Business Intuitive and Author of “Composure: The Art of Executive Presence” &  “The Moonshot Effect: Disrupting Business as Usual.”

Kim Gross, Life coach, Creator of the Five-Step Power Pathway, and Host of the "Masks Off" podcast.

Melissa Chureau, Mindfulness teacher, purpose and mindset coach, and Host of the "Fully Mindful" podcast.

Key Takeaways

• Imposter syndrome is real and can manifest differently based on the situation due to a spectrum of variations. - Kim Gross
• Highly confident people who are good at what they do can also experience imposter syndrome - Kate Purmal
• Trauma is a root cause of imposter syndrome, and it is triggered by fear and high alert - Kim Gross
• Imposter syndrome is systemic in work cultures, and it affects underrepresented populations, including BIPOC and LGBTQIA+. -Melissa Chureau
• To change imposter syndrome patterns, it is essential to be aware of them, own them, and take responsibility for changing them. -Kate Purmal
• Reparenting the inner child is essential for developing compassion and healing from self-doubt. -Melissa Chureau
• Personal boundaries are important to protect oneself from getting triggered and succumbing to imposter syndrome. - Kate Purmal
• Doing inner work, such as mindfulness and somatics, can be powerful and transformative to overcoming imposter syndrome. -Melissa Chureau
• Seek support from a therapist, coach, or support group to help along the path. -Kim Gross

By acknowledging our own accomplishments and abilities, and learning to accept and embrace our imperfections, we can overcome imposter syndrome and achieve our goals with confidence.

Guest contact Info:

Kate Purmal

https://www.composurethebook.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-purmal-922133/

Kim Gross

https://kimgrosscoaching.com/

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https://www.facebook.com/kim.gross.104

https://youtube.com/channel/UCaWJfO7ZFd4aYBX3e-clj9Q

Melissa Chureau:

https://www.thefullymindful.com/

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About Guests:

Kate Purmal is a Board Director, Business Advisor, Executive Coach, author, and Senior

Fellow at Georgetown University. She advocates for diversity and has decades of

experience as an executive coach, CEO, and COO for start-ups and privately held

companies. Kate also researches gender equity in the C-Suite and is a guest lecturer at

several prestigious business schools. She authored The Moonshot Effect: Disrupting

Business as Usual.

Kim Gross is a Life Coach, Rapid Transformational Practitioner, and Motivational Speaker

who specializes in helping individuals overcome codependency, perfectionism, and people-

pleasing. With a passion for creating authentic and meaningful relationships, Kim guides

clients on a journey towards self-discovery and transformation, healing unhealthy thought

patterns and pain and empowering

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In this episode, I am thrilled to shine a very special author spotlight on Afsaneh Moradian, Founder of MLC Homeschool Coaching and the Author of the beloved picture book series "Jamie is Jamie."

Key Takeaways● The "Jamie is Jamie" series is about celebrating children as individuals and allowing them to be free to be themselves.● Homeschooling should be the opposite of traditional schooling, which doesn't always meet the needs of every child.● Homeschooling should be personalized and respect the needs of each child.● Each families' homeschooling style is unique, and what works best for one may not work for another.● Combining subjects into activities is a fun way to teach children, and it can be more effective than teaching subjects in isolation.● Homeschooling parents need to be adaptable and flexible, especially with teenagers.● An integrated approach to teaching, where different subjects are combined, is possible in a school environment through interdisciplinary project-based learning.● Standardized testing has made public education skill-based, focusing on drilling kids to get them ready for the test, rather than fostering creativity and real interaction with the topics.● It's important for adults to not put any limits or judgments on how kids want to play as long as it's safe and provide a safe space for kids to discover who they are.

Guest Contact Infohttps://www.mlccoaching.com/https://www.facebook.com/MLC.Homeschool.Coachinghttps://www.instagram.com/moradian.afsaneh/https://www.pinterest.com.mx/afsaneh_moradian/

About GuestAfsaneh Moradian is a children's author and educator with 20 years of experience. She hasdeveloped a proven framework to support families in creating a personalized homeschoolingexperience for their child, drawing on her expertise in teaching and PhD candidacy inEducation. As a homeschooling mom herself, Afsaneh understands the challenges andpressures of homeschooling and wants to empower families to create a joyful and connectedlearning experience. She is also passionate about advocating for LGBQT+ rights andpromoting self-advocacy.

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On this episode I had the chance to sit down for a much needed and important discussion onshame and guilt with two amazing people:

Author, astrologer and host of Grounded Spirits Podcast, Laura Alyn.

&Shame-guilt educator, Counselor, Filmmaker, and Author, Lois Hollis

Key Takeaways:● Shame and guilt negatively impact emotions and can lead to depression, anxiety,and hatred. - Lois Hollis● Saying no to shame and guilt helps to keep positive emotions like happiness, joy,and confidence. - Lois Hollis● Moving past shame and guilt is necessary to raise energy vibrations. - Laura Alyn● Shame and guilt come from various sources, including culture, religion, government,friends, and enemies.- Lois Hollis● Healing shame and guilt involves learning more about ourselves and settingboundaries.- Laura Alyn● We cannot talk to shame-guilt, we can only kick it out. - Lois Hollis● It's crucial to face emotions and learn how to move through them. - Laura Alyn● Unlearning the mindset of shame and guilt is essential. - Lois Hollis● Astrology connects shame and guilt to the fourth house, representing family life anddeepest wounds. - Laura Alyn● Collective trauma work can raise the collective consciousness level of humanity. -Laura Alyn

Learning to let go of shame and guilt can be a lifelong journey, but it's a journey worth taking. Acknowledging and working through our trauma, can raise our collective consciousness and help us evolve as a society.

Guest contact info:Laura Alynhttps://www.itslauraalyn.comhttps://www.instagram.com/itslauraalyn

https://www.facebook.com/groundedspirits

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Lois Hollishttps://www.loishollis.com/

https://www.facebook.com/lois3hollis

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About My GuestsLaura Alyn, a former academic, has transitioned into a fulfilling life focused on personal andsocietal growth through her company Bel-Esprit Productions. As the founder of thispublishing company, she aims to unlock the gates of knowledge through spiritual journeys.Laura is also the host of Grounded Spirits Podcast, which inspires future innovators toachieve & perfect self-expression by connecting with nature, creativity, and themselves.Laura's writing delves into the shadows of society and the human psyche. She has authoredspiritual novels, guided journals, and planners. Additionally, she has introduced a seriescalled “All About” which seeks to remove the stigma surrounding dark and taboo subjectsthrough engaging questions, games, and activities.In recent years, Laura has been studying astrology and is now offering Birth Chart Readings.For those interested in learning more about her, her companies, or booking a Birth ChartReading, please visit her website.

Lois HollisLois Hollis RN BSN REV, at 79 years old, is a highly skilled shame-guilt educator, counselor,filmmaker, and author. Lois began her journey to understand and heal the body and mind atthe young age of 12 when she volunteered as a nurse's aide. She has since dedicated herlife to teaching others how to release shame and guilt from themselves and avoid it fromothers. Lois has written books, produced documentaries, and offers counseling services, allwith the goal of helping individuals overcome negative emotions. Lois' passion andexpertise in the field of shame and guilt have made a profound impa

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In this episode, we delve into the essential topic of communication and explore its significance in relationships.

I had the privilege of being joined by Dr. Heather Brown, a renowned psychotherapist, and coach who specializes in compassionate communication. 

Key Takeaways

• Connection is more important than mere communication in building meaningful relationships.The importance of offering compassion and empathy to others, regardless of their thoughts or feelings.
• Understanding and acknowledging the reality of the person we're communicating with can significantly improve our conversations.
• Effective communication should start with the understanding that the other person is essential and their feelings should be heard and honored.
• The relationship is always more important than the issue.
• The importance of self-reflection and the role of our thoughts and feelings in shaping our experiences. 
• Conversations should be well-prepared with a positive outcome in mind and the other person should feel heard and appreciated.
• Making the conversation appealing to the other person is essential for productive communication.
• The timing and outcome of a conversation are crucial and attacking, judging, or lecturing should be avoided.

Embracing experiences, sharing and spreading love, rather than striving for perfection and indulging in self-criticism, is crucial in fostering loving relationships and productive conversations. By infusing love and positivity into our interactions, we can strengthen our connections and cultivate a more understanding and compassionate community.

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Dr. Heather Browne

https://www.drheatherbrowne.com/

https://www.facebook.com/Dr-Heather-M-Browne-LMFT-106291192300705

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https://www.youtube.com/@dr.heatherbrowne

About Dr. Heather Browne

Dr. Heather Browne is a seasoned psychotherapist and mother with 25 years of experience. She is known as the "reframe queen" for her ability to help clients change their perspectives and tackle challenging situations. Her specialities include couples communication, grief and loss, spirituality, and life transformation. Dr. Browne uses humor, storytelling, and other techniques to connect with clients and foster growth. She has been published in various magazines and was selected as a relationship expert for a television series.

She also has an active online presence through her YouTube channel where she supports her community. Her ultimate goal is to help clients tap into their true selves, inner wisdom, and purpose.

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Let's get kandid about Toxic Forgiveness!!

On this episode, I was privileged to engage in a critical discussion about toxic forgiveness with the remarkable Michelle Agopsowicz. Michelle is a Counselor, Reiki Master, and the founder of Illuminated Path Counseling.

The Stats:

In a recent poll conducted in the Kandidly Speaking Facebook group, participants were asked if they felt pressured to forgive someone before they were emotionally ready. The results showed that 67% answered "Yes," 32% answered "No, I only forgive when I am ready," and 1% responded, "Maybe, not sure what that means."

Key Takeaways:

• Toxic forgiveness occurs in relationships where individuals feel pressured or manipulated to forgive
• Forgiveness is a personal and organic process and there should be no shame in not forgiving
• Some events may be unforgivable and sacred anger is a natural response to them such as racism, misogyny, war, sexual abuse, and physical abuse.
• Forgiveness is not always necessary to move forward, and one is not a lesser person for not forgiving
• Toxic positivity can result in denying one's feelings and negative physical and emotional effects such as depression, anxiety, anger, and bitterness.
• Healthy forgiveness is found on an individual's terms, it may take time to reach, and is different for everyone
• Setting boundaries and communication is important in forgiveness
• Forgiveness can come in unexpected ways 
• The importance of holding space for people instead of offering advice and trying to fix their problems.

For those working to overcome toxic forgiveness, focus on grounding yourself, reclaiming your energy through breathing, and setting boundaries in a gentle and empathetic manner. If you're trying to help someone, reflect on why you may seek toxic forgiveness from others, as it may come from your discomfort. If your goal is to assist, offer support by creating a safe space for the person and acknowledging their pain without trying to solve it.

Guest Contact information:

https://www.facebook.com/IlluminatedPathCounselling/

https://youtube.com/@illuminatedpathcounselling

https://www.linkedin.com/in/michelle-agopsowicz-a74672219

https://www.illuminatedpathcounselling.com/

About Michelle:

Michelle Agopsowicz holds a Master's degree in Social Work and a Bachelor's in Disability Studies, in addition to being a Reiki Master. Her counseling services and educational programs adopt a holistic and trauma-informed approach to wellness and balance. Michelle combines traditional counseling techniques with mindfulness practices, honed through her personal experience with autoimmune conditions, trauma, and anxiety.

She provides guidance to live a more fulfilling and genuine life with self-compassion. Michelle is a firm believer that trauma is a universal human experience that impacts the body, mind, and spirit. She believes that confronting our suffering leads to a journey that can be beautiful, and difficult, and ultimately transforms our understanding of compassion, humanity, and our place in the world.

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On this episode, I had the pleasure of having the long overdue kandid chat about the highly stigmatized topic of infertility. I am joined for this important discussion by speaker, transformational coach, bestselling author of "Overcoming the Emotional Stigmas of Infertility: Barren But Not Ashamed," and Founder of Heart Desires Fulfillment Coaching LLC, Frances Jones.

The stats

In the US, 19% (about one in five) of heterosexual women aged 15 to 49 years old, with no prior births, are unable to get pregnant after one year of trying. Additionally, 26% (about one in four) of the women in this group have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying a pregnancy to term.

Key Takeaways

• People experiencing infertility often face stigmas, embarrassment, shame, and fear of judgment and criticism.
• Many people who have not personally experienced infertility do not fully understand the daily struggles of those who are dealing with it.
• Infertility can be caused by a variety of factors such as heavy cycles, health issues like cancer, or other factors that can damage the body
• It is important to be aware of what is happening in the body and to do research and talk to doctors earlier if having children is a desire
• Infertility can have a negative impact on the mental health of individuals concerned, causing emotions such as negativity, anger, heartache, and withdrawal
• Male factors can cause infertility about half of the time

Action points for coping with infertility: 

Give room for truthful and open communication; discuss the emotions and experiences of each individual involved.

Dos and Don'ts when talking with someone trying or struggling to conceive:

• Do consider the receiver of the message, ask the person if they are willing to talk and how they want the conversation to go.
• Do ask how you can support them and check in with their emotions and willingness to talk about their struggles, do not force the conversation.
• Don't tell them to relax, it's not helpful and not what they need to hear.
• Don't ask when they're going to have kids, if they want kids or why they don't have kids, this is hurtful and insensitive.
• Do have compassion and sensitivity in your conversation and avoid giving unsolicited advice
• Keep in mind the person's state of mind and timing, it could be the right message but not the right time.

Keep in mind that everyone faces challenges, but there is hope and a light at the end of each one. Keep pushing forward, maintain your belief, and remember that nothing is impossible for you. The outcome may not come in the way that you expect, but with persistence and belief, you will find the peace, happiness, love, and hope you are seeking!

Guest contact info

Frances Jones

https://www.heartdesirescoaching.com/

https://www.instagram.com/heartdesirescoaching/?hl=en

https://twitter.com/heartdesiresfc

https://web.facebook.com/heartdesirescoaching/?_rdc=1&_rdr

https://www.tiktok.com/@author.francesjones

https://www.linkedin.com/in/francesjones1/

https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Emotional-Stigmas-Infertility-Ashamed/dp/173563400X

About My Guest

Frances Jones is the author of the book titled "Overcoming the Emotional Stigmas of Infertility. Barren, but not ashamed" that details her personal journey with infertility and how she found p

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