Our wants, needs, emotions, feelings are all a part of OUR boundaries. As they are for other people. When someone tells you no, it means that they are basing their decision on what’s best for them at that moment in time.  And it’s your responsibility to own your boundaries when you hear the no. If you’re sad, mad, frustrated, these are feelings you are choosing to feel. And I have good news — there is a way to get past this.

If there is ever a time when you feel you need to prove yourself, your worth, your knowledge about something, your wealth, your status, etc. then you can rest assured that your ego, that protective shell that has been crafted to make you look good and feel good, is in charge.

Ego needs to prove. Your true self does not. And it really is that simple to tell if ego is running the show or YOU. The real you. Learn more in today’s episode.

If you’re an empath or someone who feels empathy VERY deeply, you might find it hard to put boundaries in place. To empaths, a lot of times boundaries seem very uncomfortable and mean because we empaths feel it is our job to make everyone feel good. But guess what? That is NOT our job.

Boundaries can actually help you be more authentic and loving — and a key to your peace.

Have you ever looked at another couple and thought, man I wish my sweetie and I were like them, or I wish my husband was more like him?

When we are envious we feel like we need more and start becoming resentful that we don’t have it. This is dangerous territory. In a world where almost anything is acceptable now, I think as believers we can fall into that trap. No matter what is seemingly acceptable in 2021, I assure you we as believers are still called to a higher standard.

Our kids have been entrusted to us. They are watching us do everything and will base the way they speak, respond, react, love, argue, etc. on how we do it. That is a fact. Eventually they will grow up and have to become self aware just like we should be, but right now they are not mature enough or grown enough to be self aware, so we as parents are IT for their learning. Us taking ownership and responsibility over our stuff will go SO FAR in training our kids to do the same.

Remember, our kids don’t look at themselves as kids. In their mind they are whole people and feel that their thoughts, feelings, and emotions are just as important as ours, so that is even more of an indication that teaching boundaries from the beginning is essential to raising healthy humans that will truly change the world.

Over the last decade I have come to realize that a lot of our unhappiness stems from the burden to make everyone else feel ok. How did we end up with that burden? And how do we overcome it?

Self-awareness is key, always. Be honest with yourself and when you continuously are aware, you will start to let things you really don’t want to do go — and honestly it may make everyone so much happier!

As believers we are called to confront problems. This protects love and relationship. This includes our significant others. 

There are a lot of people out there (me included, just a few short years ago) that would rather push their hurts or disappointments down because they are afraid of losing that love, that intimacy, and the closeness. 

But confront our problems we MUST if we want to have the abundance of a peaceful and joyful life that God promised us. Let’s learn to confront in love.

Do you keep score in your marriage? Why? Because if we are honest, you know as soon as you put a point in your column, in a few days he will take that point right back. Because BOTH of you fail or make mistakes or forget things.

When it comes to the love of our life, the person we vowed to love and protect, why do we want to WIN? EGO. That’s why. Learn more in this week’s episode.

I believe teaching boundaries at home with the small and big things that happen can prepare them to handle things in a balanced and even way when they ultimately happen later.

Boundaries are life. You will encounter them with every person and in every situation. Let’s normalize it now. Let’s not be afraid of them, especially knowing they can create such healthy relationships.

How do we give those relationships that mean so much to us the best chance at a thriving future? Learn how boundaries can help you find balance in these relationships in this week's episode.