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About Becca: 

Becca Carnahan is a mom of two, writer, and career coach from Massachusetts. She is the founder of Becca Carnahan Career Coaching & Communications where she specializes in helping women find more joy and fulfillment in their work. She also writes and manages the working mom blog, With Love Becca, which helps women manage motherhood, manage careers, and manage to laugh through it all. 

Becca gained her expertise in the career development field over a 13 year career at Harvard Business School, where she still works as a career coach, and while earning her Masters Degree in Education from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. In addition to her career coaching work, Becca is also the author of Belinda Baloney Changes Her Mind, a fun and inspiring “when I grow up” children’s book and When Mommy Grows Up: A Guide to Parenting Yourself to a More Fulfilling Career (coming spring 2021).

Find Becca: https://beccacarnahan.com

Show Notes: 

Somewhere between women between 28 and 40 begin to reevaluate all of the choices they've made to this point. This is a transition point where women ask, 'What do I want to do and who do I want to be now?'

Women in careers begin to question what success really is. This is a normal and common experience! 

Becca guides moms through specific steps to figuring out what comes next. She initially asks women to: 

1. Identify overlap between interests and passions, skills and strengths and value add to others.
2. Make a list of your skills.
3. Ask: Who can you help? Who would hire you to help them?
4. What specific amount of money do you need to make?

Before you change careers, it’s critical that you go through a process of evaluation so you don’t end up swapping one career that doesn’t make you happy for another.

Sometimes you have to give yourself permission to ask the tough questions and change direction.

Doing the introspection isn't necessarily easy to do alone or to even carve out the time we need to do this important processing but, it's important to get the support we need.

Our happiness and satisfaction in our career directly impacts the quality of every other aspect of our lives. 

Success is different for everyone. You can consider:

• What does it look like for you?
• What are the goals for your future self?
• And, are the decisions I’m making aligned with my goals?

It’s also important to check your goals and make sure they are still taking you in the direction you want to go. You can change your mind along the way.

FIND BECCA:  https://beccacarnahan.com

Find Robin: www.quittingculture.com

Take the Parenting Archetype Style Quiz here and find out which of the 8 Archetypes you are! 

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Find Kenya: www.simplyfitandcurvyyoga.com

Find Robin: www.quittingculture.com

About Kenya: 

Kenya is a Wellness Coach who loves helping busy moms to create more balance in their lives while reducing stress by practicing yoga on and off the mat. In addition to raising two kids, she's  a Course Creator, College Professor, and Podcast Host of "From My Mat to Yours" (available anywhere you listen to your podcast).

Show Notes

There a number of styles of Yoga. Be sure to do some research and  find what works for you.

There  is Yoga for mindfulness, Yoga for a workout, Yoga with music and Yoga without.

There is Yoga that focuses on the energy centers (Chakras) and Kenya has found that really helpful in learning to be more present and understanding, especially with her children.

She has learned how to be more mindful of her thoughts which in turn, has helped her to teach her kids that, too.

Once we 'get it', we can help our kids with mindfulness and recognizing that there are always consequences (positive or negative) to our actions.

When we are more mindful, we can see that we have both choice and responsibility. This always applies to ourselves and to our children.

Some tips about what you should look for in yoga and how to make it a regular part of your week:

Find Kenya and her online classes at www.simplyfitandcurvyyoga.com

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Find Marisa: marisalupocoaching.com

In Facebook: Untying the Knots of Divorce Women's Group (private group, request to join)

About Marisa

Marisa is a certified life coach who has mastered strategies that empower women in her private practice to cultivate an authentic life overflowing with love, meaning and passion. After having checked all the boxes that she thought were going to lead her to the happiness she craved, something deep inside her was still missing. 

Purpose emerged through her most difficult time; an entangled divorce with two children, a very opinionated Italian family without much support. She developed tools and strategies to untie the knots of divorce that bound her and started living a life of freedom. 

In her coaching she guides women through untying the knots of divorce and teaches them how to emerge into their highest self. 

Show Notes

Women often make check lists of what they think they want when they're growing up and imagining their future.  But, those lists are often incomplete (simply because we don't know everything!).

Having a relationship with ourselves is often left off that list (cultivating love for ourselves and taking care not to lose ourselves in service to our family).

When we divorce, we experience a crisis of identity. "I'm no longer someone's wife".

 It can feel like we've lost ourselves. 

If you are considering divorce, do NOT make a decision from a place of reaction. 

Get a coach who can be neutral (not a friend, not a family member) and who can give you tools and processes to work through it. 

Get into a place emotionally where you can make good decisions. 

It is normal to feel isolated when you're going through a divorce. You may feel numb but you have to be willing to really look at what's happening and feel your emotions. Just like a caterpillar, you are in a transition and you have to go through it to emerge. 

A coach can help you learn to dismantle stories, defuse triggers and through unconditional love for yourself and others, find a way to forgiveness and freedom. 

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Find Crystal:   www.coachcrystal.ca

Podcast: The Freedom Moms Podcast

Monthly Membership at her website

About Crystal

Crystal is parent coach for moms and Canadian homeschooling mama of 4. She merges positive parenting concepts with life coaching tools to help parents manage difficult behaviors in their children, without time-outs, yelling or threats.

Show Notes

Crystal helps mom with positive parenting and loves to help parents of children who are  neurodivergent or whose behaviors are challenging. 'Neurodivergent' is a term that describes children who have learning differences including Autism, ADD, ADHD, ODD, OCD, etc...

Our expectations of our children can lead to our frustration. 

When we can show up with more curiosity we can be more compassionate toward our children. 

There can be more than 'one story' behind our child's behavior. 

There are 4 areas that impact our kids and their behavior: 

1. Food & Water
2. Connection with us
3. Screen time
4. Movement

Crystal recommends a 'screen reset' to help your family identify and reduce the addiction to screens. Start with yourself and see how your screen habits are effecting you. 

Our kids cannot self regulate when they are young. It's up to us to help them manage their screen time. 

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Take the Parenting Archetype Quiz!

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Find Christine: 

https://christinegrauer.com/

or Email her at [email protected]

About Christine

Moms who feel like pulling out their hair or kicking their teenager or young adult out of the home come to Christine for help getting their teen to listen and developing a more connected, meaningful, and respectful relationship with them. Christine is the author of the Amazon best-seller Project: LIFE – Stop Waiting for Your Happy to Happen. 

Although she studied spirituality for over 20 years and earned a Master of Science Degree as well Spiritual Life Coach and Energy Codes® Certifications, it was only through her past of loss, abuse, suffering, and illness that Christine could become the powerful and compassionate leader that she is today. 

Through her elaborate studies and learning from trial and error while parenting her own teens, Christine developed a proven system that's rooted in science, spirituality, and psychology so moms can stop feeling frustrated and worried about their teens and start enjoying a meaningful and connected relationship with them, like they used to when their kids were younger. Christine is a single mom of a teen, a young adult, and a chihuahua. She lives her passion-filled life of service in Waterloo, Ontario, Canada.

Show Notes

"What boundaries do you have in place today? Is it what you've chosen or are you just doing it because it's the way it's always been done?"  

There are two ends of the spectrum when it comes to parenting - Authoritative and Permissive. Neither really help our kids. 

We learn and grow from our experiences - and so do our kids.

We need to update our boundaries and not just inherit them from old parenting paradigms or from our parents. 

We have to be confident about the boundaries we choose and be able to own them. Then, we have to give ourselves permission to follow through with consequences and rewards. 

Consequences should closely match the boundary that was violated. 

Watching our teens grow and supporting them requires that we be present in their experience. Allowing them to go through tough experiences may save them from more hardship down the road. 

Remember, when things are tough, there is good in this. We can learn to be curious and ask ourselves, 'What could my teen be learning from this lesson right now?'

Christine has a series of mini courses coming up in 2021 for moms of teens.  Connect with her here:

www.christinegrauer.com

Sign up for the Mini-Course on Boundaries HERE

Would you like to be on The Liberated Life? Connect with Robin: [email protected]

Have you taken the Parenting Archetype Quiz? Take it here

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Find Paige: 

The Choosing Greater Health Community on Facebook

About Paige

After surviving pulmonary embolism and anoxic brain injury at 32, Paige channeled her innate resilience into recovery.  She searched for and found whole person therapies centered around bringing all systems into balance in a way that would fill in the pieces and complement allopathic medicine. This brought in Paige’s entrepreneurial vision of connecting other under-supported brain injury survivors with integrative, holistic, functional and bio-regulatory resources and practitioners, in addition to speaking and writing about her recovery path.

Show Notes

Paige says that many things can contribute to experiencing a brain injury. She attributes anxiety medication, acne medication, an unhealthy gut biome, and her career misalignment with being the perfect set up for her embolism. 

She has been committed to finding useful ways to improve her brain and optimize her recovery. She now works with people who have brain injuries or warning signs. She consults with them and has a list of therapies that can improve or enhance their quality of life. 

Therapies that Paige has used and finds helpful include:  

Paige's message is that we ARE resilient and we should do what makes us happy for as long as we can! 

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>>Take the Parenting Archetype Style Quiz here<< and find out what YOUR Mom style is! 

Find Dorina: www,CircleofEliteEntrepreneurs.com

Show Notes: 

Archetypes are 12 Personality types developed by Carl Jung. They are a very deep look into our psyche and are based on science. 

We each have a primary, secondary, and tertiary archetype, and they can change over time. 

Our Archetypes change as we mature, and often, new or secondary archetypes step forth after we become parents (or in times of stress or challenge). 

We are familiar with Archetypes because stories are written around archetypes - often the Hero and the Hero's Journey. Well known stories that follow the hero's journey are Star Wars, Harry Potter and the books by Tolkien (The Hobbit & The Lord of the Rings Trilogy).

In business, if you know your Archetype (and Mind Type & Map of Reality), your messages are clearer and people can identify with you more easily.  You become relatable and more attractive to the right people. 

As a parent, knowing your Archetype lets you harness your superpowers, understand your challenges, avoid your triggers, and build more confidence in your choices. 

When you also know and understand the Archetype of your spouse or partner (and eventually your children), you can choose to align with the 'easy way' and intentionally avoid creating friction and frustration. 

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Find Janine: https://linktr.ee/JanineMcJannet

About Janine McJannet

Janine McJannet, Soul Empowerment Expert & Coach, Speaker, Poet, Host of the “Souled Out Speakin” Show, and the Founder of "The Souled Out Sisters Lounge” ... joins us to share some of her bittersweet journey. 

Janine was raised in a dysfunctional family system, with alcoholic parents at the helm. Born in Canada, and raised in Australia, she learned the then valuable trait of doing for others before she would do for herself. This led to life decisions that were not made from her heart, but from her busy people-pleasing perfectionist mind. 

She works with tired and wired women, guiding them to empower themselves by speaking their own truth and finding that innate strength to break the cycle of people pleasing and other dysfunctional traits that are no longer serving them - for the "soul" purpose of becoming the conscious relationships master of their own life. 

Show Notes

The 'Laundry List' can be found here:

Adultchildren.org

There are 14 Traits that are commonly experienced by children of alcoholics.  They include people pleasing, fear of angry people, isolation and the need to (re)create drama, and more. 

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Find Cindy: www.thrivetheclimb.com

Get her free 'Sanity Guide': When you’re first diagnosed, while you’re in treatment and even after you’ve received the ‘all clear’, people will say and ask things that will catch you off guard and take your breath away.  Empower yourself with the tools and methods to situations with elegance & empowerment.

About Cindy: 

Cindy, Breast Cancer Warrior and Mindset mentor, has committed her life to applying a spirit-based, warrior to life’s challenges.

Rivaling many obstacles in her life, she met her life time challenger of climbing the Pink Mountain when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Using all of her tools honed in previous triumphs, she chronicled her personal journey as a mission of empowering other women facing breast cancer.

Cindy supports women going through breast cancer by inspiring them to shift their perspective and tap into their inner strength beyond their imagination. Cindy is the author of 'The Pink Mountain, How To Stay Positive Through Breast Cancer, From Diagnosis To Treatment & Beyond.'

Show Notes

When you're facing a difficult diagnosis, the opportunity you have is to learn and understand from a bird’s eye view.  You can, with practice, learn to control your response and manage your mindset. 

When you’re struggling with a disease, and when you've gone through breast cancer, you are not the same  person as you used to be.  You are a new version of you. There are new pieces to you.  It’s a new puzzle.  

If you have a heartbeat, you still have a purpose in life.  It may even be that what you've experienced has had a meaningful impact on someone else. 

When you realize you have an expiration date, you also recognize a need for a change. You have to go through a series of steps to become more aware of your authentic self and help you get to the purpose you feel in your heart.

What Cindy wished she’d known about going through treatment:

  - How to be open & honest with family members about her diagnosis

  - Not to feel guilty about what she couldn't do.

 - You need time & space to heal.

 - Recovery is a very long process.

After breast cancer she realized:

  - My body will never be the same.

  - There are many changes that you experience  in your body and mind that require honesty with others around you.

Find Cindy: 

www.thrivetheclimb.com

Connect with Robin: [email protected]

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Find Art Giser: 

On Facebook: Energetic NLP 

www.ENLP10.com

www.ENLP7.com

Find Robin: www.QuittingCulture.com

About Art

Art Giser is the creator of Energetic NLP, a powerful synthesis of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), spiritual principles, and healing and transformative energy work. He is an internationally renowned NLP trainer, executive coach, intuitive, and healer. 

Art's unique and diverse background includes over 30 years working with Fortune 100 companies to develop exceptional leaders and teams, 11 years as a medical researcher, NLP, spirituality, coaching, transformative and healing energy work, and intuition development. Art has studied with a diverse group of healers, psychics, and spiritual teachers. He has had two empowerments from the Dalai Lama of Tibet.

Art is known for his humor, caring, miraculous remote energy work, and his ability to help people release energetic and unconscious blocks and limitations and open up their miraculous abilities.

Notes:

A unique feature of Energetic NLP is working with 'Your Miraculous Self'.

This is NOT the  same as the High Self. It is a combination of your spirit and your deep inner wisdom. 

Your deep inner wisdom isn’t always aligned with your spirit.  Your deep inner wisdom is concerned with your humanity where your spirit is the higher frequencies of the non physical self that sees the bigger picture. 

Energetic NLP brings the spirit and deep wisdom together to collaborate. When they collaborate, it’s Your Miraculous Self. 

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