The Light Inside

We are joined today by Mark Scherer - Founder and CEO of Encompass Life. Mark is a life coach who has created a coaching strategy called the Quantum Leap Technique - a system which focuses on the energetic impact our chosen words have on our day-today experience of life.

The program brings specific awareness to the significance within the word “Not” - and how repetitive use of this one word, is directly related to the amount of anxiety one experiences throughout their lives.

At times - it can seem as if life is somehow destined to challenge us. And at times we question this notion, seemingly on almost a daily basis.

Our motivated thinking and projected constructs aside, as we each address our daily circumstances, there are times when we turn towards coping mechanisms to address such feelings as anger, contempt, disgust, fear and sadness.

Perhaps chief among these - is a desire to complain.

Complaining is referred to as expressing discontent or resentment. While we may think we are just “venting”, in reality, complaining has significant impacts on our brains and our happiness.

Input from this data shows that most people complain once a minute during a typical conversation. Complaining is tempting because it feels good, but like many other things that are enjoyable -- such as smoking or eating a pound of bacon for breakfast -- complaining isn’t good for you.

Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus -- an area of the brain that’s critical to memory, problem solving and intelligent thought. The study found that engaging in complaining or simply hearing someone complain for more than 30 minutes could physically damage our brains.

Your brain loves efficiency and doesn’t like to work any harder than it has to. When you repeat a behavior, such as complaining, your neurons branch out to each other to ease the flow of information. This makes it much easier to repeat that behavior in the future -- so easy, in fact - that you might not even realize you’re doing it.

Words, being expressed as sound ; have an energetic vibrational frequency. Perhaps then, as we consider the frequency of the words we express, we can see the correlation between the feelings and thoughts we each share - helping us to understand our relationship with ourselves and others.

If you joined us last week, you learned how our biases influence so much of our reality. Shaping and moving how we each see things.We also talked a bit about that great classic movie - the Wizard of Oz.

The Wizard of Oz is a fantastic movie that tells an allegorical story with many different layers and symbolism. Whether intentional or not - It was a great reminder that everything I need I already have if I only look within.

-To see that light that already shines inside.

What can we learn fro The Wizard of Oz…. Stuff like dream interpretation, the nature of our hidden fears and what constitutes ‘rational reality’. We hold the power to create the life we desire; while taking time to truly look within and reconnect with who we are and our heart’s desire -Embrace change.  Change and facing our fears can be scary.

Just like the witch and tornado that Dorothy faced, we too will face challenges and change. These things are neither good nor bad.  We simply need to see them for what they are —  An opportunity for growth.

We revisit our conversation from last week with Michael Hynes to discover… the rest of the story.

Michael and I explored additional insights discussing how as a result of our biases; our stories often become myth or fable.

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GUESTS:

Michael Hynes

https://michaelhynes.ca/

https://whatistallpoppysyndrome.com/faq

Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound

Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio

Production Manager: Anna Getz

Today we look at the psychological aspect of Magical Thinking and the role it plays in the introspection illusion of social influence.

Explaining perhaps why the idea of social influence is based in naive realism. And how the focusing effect leads to foundational attribution errors, observation discrepancies and various forms of subjective biases 

-And how our need to find fulfillment in the external validations of others often leaves us feeling unhappy. 

Our intention is to establish the role our self concepts play in forming how we connect and relate to the world around us.

Are these patterns rooted in one's sensing of internal identity conflicts and underlying insecurities; rather than an aware, informed and empowered sense of volition and authentic self concept?

In a social age, creating a powerful public persona is no longer a choice. Those who master the art and science of attraction leap out from the crowd, amass large followings, create lucrative businesses around their knowledge and personalities, and enjoy lifestyles of fulfillment and contribution.

Those who don’t; are seen as somehow falling behind - a lesser voice in a faceless crowd. This group is about breaking through the noise and transforming yourself, your ideas, your message, story and expertise into a brilliant business and life that you absolutely love.

We examine the role our social illusions and raised constructs play in our social interactions. Not only do we measure ourselves by this false yardstick - we do it to evaluate and judge others as well.

"It’s not about ego—it's about evolving into the person you always thought you would be—now, instead of some day; and making a profound difference in the world."

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Full Episode Transscript HERE!

GUESTS: 

Segment #1

Fundamental Attribution:

Michael Hynes

https://michaelhynes.ca/

Segment #2

Overachievement Identities:

Dr. Sharon Grossman

https://drsharongrossman.com/burnoutchecklist/

Segment #3

Tall Poppy Syndrome:

Douglas Garland, MD

https://whatistallpoppysyndrome.com/faq

Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound

Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio

Production Manager: Anna Getz

Leigh Hearl had a secret. A secret which filled her with guilt and shame… A secret, which nearly killed her. As we’ll soon find out - speaking her truth not only liberated her from this guilt and shame — It saved her life.

You see, Leigh was living with the burden of discovering her husband had been living a hidden double life. As she clung to his secret, her husband becoming emotionally abusive.Riddled with the guilt and shame - it devastated Leigh. Leaving her feeling hopeless and immobilized. In an effort to numb herself and block her painful suffering - she shut out the world, closing the doors where others might have learned of her story and offered her compassion and loving support.

Society often tells us, learn to bite your tongue - to repress what it is we feel inside. And Sometimes, as we shut out the world - important stories go untold.  Some people are silenced by laws- while others wish to protect the privacy of the ones they love. Upon closer examination there are those who, when faced with the unyielding burden of harboring a secret-  cannot bear the pressure and judgement of public life. For many, an echo of their own fear, doubt or shame silences them.

As a result, we often withhold secrets which inhibit each of us from much needed healing. Even the tiniest of ‘white lies’ often keeping us from fully connecting with others; leaving gapping holes in our relationships. Our most important stories often untold as a result of the impact of secrecy.

The greatest lie - incidentally being the ones we frequently tell ourselves. Through her touching story and unique life experiences, Leigh Hearl is changing how we view the simple art of ’truth-telling’. In our segment, Leigh and I discussed the role harboring secrets plays in our lives - a fact none of us are immune from experiencing.

We find out how on The Light inside.

We lean in today, looking ay what it means to be neurodivergant - and exploring how both as a community and a society - we embrace these beautiful differences in our brains.

As we develop new paradigms - this task often requires a new language addressing it - this case can certainly be made as we approach the neurodiversity paradigm.

We do this, perhaps, by seeking to understand the entire 'picture' of the neurodiverse experience - of what, where, when, how, why, and who....Then we can see where society needs to fill the gaps.

The way we see things in life is often filtered by both the scope of our vision and the lens of our past experiences. Often turning into polarizing and hurtful biases.Under-appreciating the value of these differences often making it difficult for those who experience neurodiverisity to feel seen, heard, and accepted.

Guests in order of appearance:

Liz Weissman-Young

Shane Thrapp

Carla Rodgers-Smith

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Credits: Music Score by Epidemic Sound

Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio

Production Manager: Anna Getz

Change.

Its perhaps the one thing in life with any certainty. Inevitable in its being, and as a result, evolution and growth become possible. As human being, we often get stuck in our habits- the patterns of our belief and being.

Like moss on a stone, weighing us down. After two years of podcasting- we’ve been seeing and doing things a certain way. But now, thats about to change- and for the better.

Its time.

For new perspectives, to see things a little differently, to shine in a way which allows us to see things under a new light.

During this period of realignment, we’ll take a short break from our program.And when we return, relaunching with a new, more expansive format. Giving you a fuller, richer narrative from which to more fearlessly explore, learn, and  grow.

Investing even greater attention to research, study, and supporting data. Featuring a broader scope of guests- in each episode. And providing; what we feel will become further clarity into the behaviors and patterns driving us all!

Traversing the ever-expansive fields of Human Potential, Neuroscience, Psychology, and The Metaphysical.

We’ll explore a more prolific diversity of topics -such as reframing accomplishment, perceptual realities, post traumatic grief, and Neophobia - or the fear of learning. As we delve even further into what may, or may not; make us human.

Change is seldom about where you begin, where you end up, or even in how you view the ride…

Its about taking meaningful action!

We hope ours will inspire you to new heights of awareness and growth. Only those who risk going far, ever possibly figure out where they will go. We hope to take you with us- on this new journey….

Empowering you to discover even more of The Light Inside.

It’s not easy to know how we come across to others, especially when we’re meeting people for the first time.

Finding a commonality in others we perceive to be vastly unlike us can often become the great divide which separates us from forming more authentic and genuine bonds. Our first impressions of someone can shape how we perceive them. This forms every interaction we have with them as the relationship moves forward.

It's often the very first thing that separates us, creating adversaries and enemies. You’ll never get a second chance to make a great first impression.

What is the first thing you generally notice about a new acquaintance?

This episode, find out how you can turn enemies and adversaries into your closest friends by utilizing this information as we learn- How to Turn Enemies and Adversaries into Venerated Friends.

Musical Score by Epidemic Sounds

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Enoughness.

Perhaps one of our more persistent burdens in life, often becomes the tireless pursuit of improvement; of feeling the consequences of proving our very being and worth.

Venerated Poet, Walt Whitman reminds us- “I Exist as I am, and that is enough.”

Known as The Queen of Unstuck- Self Leadership coach, Megan Warren is here to free us from this tiresome burden which often keeps us stuck.

Remember, You are you.

Your light shines bright, and that is enough. Leaning in today, we discover confidence does not have to PROVE anything.

It just flows with acceptance…

Join us to find out how to release the unnecessary patterns and biases of the 'Self-Improvement Trap' on this episode of The Light Inside.

Episode 102

The Light Inside

“The Self-Improvement Trap: Surrendering Patterned Beliefs and Biases for Self-Acceptance with Megan Warren “

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Musical Score by Epidemic Sounds

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Our personal traumas.

They often leave an indelible mark; a scar to remind us of the very real and often heartbreaking pains experienced throughout life.

Our guest today, author, Lindsay Jewell shares such a story in her latest book, “Cycle of the 7's: My Souls Journey” serves as a signpost to help guide others through the often Hellish journey through Childhood Assault, Sexual Abuse, Mental Health and Addiction.

In part one of this episode, We explored the harrowing story of how Lindsay lived the mentally traumatic experience of childhood sexual abuse, at the age of six.

As we revisit the rest of her journey in todays episode, she vulnerably shares how additional incidents of sexual assault continued, and how these disintegrating effects moved her further into her downward spiral.

Today, we revisit this conversation to learn how she was able to find that light inside which empowered her to overcome her trauma and pursuit a more fulfilling life.

Tune on to find out how on this episode of The Light Inside.

Credits:

Musical Score by Epidemic Sounds

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Executive Producer: Jeffrey Besecker

Mixing, Engineering, Production and Mastering: Aloft Media Studio

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