The Lost Art of Communication

This week we spoke with Fred Dust, the author of Making Conversation: Seven Essential Elements of Meaningful Communication.  This conversation got us laughing out loud as we realized how well our mission aligns with his.  Together we speculate causes of the loneliness epidemic and discuss the neurological impacts of technology on our day-to-day interactions. Fred gives tips on how to turn active listening into creative and joyful listening and teaches us that the tough conversations around divisive topics (such as politics or racial justice) can actually be the most spectacular.  

About Fred: 

Fred Dust was a Senior Partner and Global Managing Director at international design firm IDEO. A leading voice and practitioner of human-centered design and networked innovation, he helps organizations in media, finance, retail, and health confront disruption stemming from shifts in consumer behavior, social trends, economic pressures, and new technology. Prior to IDEO, Dust worked as an architect and spent eight years working with independent artists and major art organizations. He chairs the board of Parsons and sits on the board of the New School, NPR, and the Sundance Institute. He has written for Fast Company and has been interviewed by The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, USA Today, CBS Sunday Morning and New York’s NPR affiliate WNYC.  He lives in New York City.

Where to find Fred: 

Twitter: @f_dust

Instagram: @fdbrave 

Books Recommendations: 

Making Conversation: Seven Essential Elements of Meaningful Communication: https://amzn.to/3atFtjb

Giving Voice to Value: How to Speak Your Mind When You Know What's Right: https://amzn.to/34ve5Ob

LAOC GIFT GUIDE: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1HRfTaaOuxJ9lLNiQOTpv15ll_lTmAFklQ9pt1D1PCmA/edit#slide=id.gc6f83aa91_0_79



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We had the pleasure of interviewing an insightful and relatable guest who calls herself “The Millennial Therapist,” Tess Brigham, LMFT, BCC.  As millennials themselves, Molly and Tricia were able to ask Tess questions about personal struggles they’ve been facing both during and pre-COVID. Tess, Molly, and Tricia also hypothesize about what the world will look like socially post-COVID. Tess gives tips on how to communicate with those who are living with a mental health diagnosis and answers a listener question about toxic friendships and setting boundaries.  

About Tess:

Tess Brigham (LMFT, BCC) is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Board-Certified Coach and specializes in helping Millennials discover their unique life path so they can go out into the world and make an impact. With over 15 years of experience, Tess has helped thousands of people find their purpose, develop their confidence and create a life they’re excited about living. Identifying your issues is one thing, taking action to get past them is another. She has been featured on the TV show “The Doctors” and is a regular contributor at CNBC as “The Millennial Therapist.” 

Where to Find Tess: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tess_brigham/

Twitter: @MFTTess

Website: www.tessbrigham.com

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You’ve probably heard the term “gratitude” and may even have a gratitude practice of your own. Are you maximizing its potential, though? 

In this episode, Molly and Tricia spend time discussing what it really means to be grateful, how cultivating a deeper feeling of gratitude can create physiological changes (what up dopamine release?!), and how being thankful can impact how you communicate with the people in your life.  

Articles referenced in this episode: 

https://www.consciouslifestylemag.com/benefits-of-gratitude-research/

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/in-praise-of-gratitude

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Have you ever wondered how singer/songwriters are able to communicate such deep, meaningful thoughts in a 3-4 minute tune? In today’s episode, we sit down with the incredibly talented Lauren D’Abate, also known as XIMXIA (pronounced shim-shee-ya). She walks us through her transition from classical pianist to versatile Los Angeles performer, providing tips to increase confidence, change the way you see yourself, and achieve your dreams by embodying the type of person you want to become! 

Where to find XIMXIA: 

Website: https://ximxia.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/ximxiamusic/

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/3NI1p3IVpB8gWWnrSnpXz2 

Book Recommendation from Lauren: https://lauraday.com/product/the-circle/

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Curiosity is...well, curious. We may know the concept, but few of us take time to think about how to cultivate an attitude of curiosity in our daily lives. Today’s guest, Robin, believes we can’t foster a sense of connection and trust if we don’t appear curious about one another.

In this episode, we cover topics including the role of curiosity in romantic partnerships, work relationships, and friendships, specific language to use to help foster a curious demeanor, and how to be assertive rather than aggressive. In our current climate, curiosity can be a powerful antidote to bridge feelings of division or misunderstanding. 

Robin Barone is the founder of Diplomat Books and “Curiosity Conversations”, a newsletter and workshop designed to create better outcomes for the employee experience to increase innovation, employee engagement & retention, and overall productivity through increasing the amount of curiosity in company culture.  She is passionate about teaching curiosity to improve the employee experience. 

Curiosity is a life skill that can be nurtured and strengthened with knowledge and practice like a muscle. Increasing the level of curiosity in professional communications will lead to strong relationships built on trust, resiliency, and innovation. Strong relationships lead to increased collaboration and productivity of teams.

Curiosity Conversations: https://curiosityconversations.co/

Curiosity Course: https://curiosityconversations.co/the-course/ 

Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8jUA7JBkF4 

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As (currently) recovering “people pleasers,” we were so excited when Helen reached out to us to discuss how to say “no” to others in order to say “yes” to ourselves. 

We walk through Helen’s journey from working in HR to becoming a boundary-centric relationship coach, discuss why people fall into the habit of “people pleasing,” and provide many tangible action items to help you learn to ask for what you need.

Helen is a trauma informed Relationship Coach who helps ‘good girls’ say ‘No’ by building boundaries, confidence and healthy relationship skills. Helen has been coaching for over 10 years, has a degree in Psychology from the University of Warwick and is qualified in transformational coaching and mindfulness. An award winning speaker, Helen has been interviewed on BBC Radio, at the Women's Economic Forum and been featured in Happiful magazine.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HelenSnapeCoaching/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/HelenSnape3

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helen.snape/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/helensnape/

Website: https://www.helensnape.com

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Calling all Boss Ladies (and gents)!!

Lyndsey Wright, the creator of Boss Ladies’ Blog, joins Molly and Tricia this week on the pod.  Our conversation begins with Lyndsey sharing her journey creating the blog and how it’s transformed her communication. She opens up about ways to embrace vulnerability as a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, even through simple means like fashion.

This is one to listen to if you need to find your fire or inspiration! 

We referenced the following blog post in this episode: https://www.thebossladiesblog.com/post/defining-your-non-negotiable-s

The Boss Ladies' Blog is for Boss Ladies by Boss Ladies. Owner and author, Lyndsey Wright is a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community, MBA graduate, and is passionate about helping LGBTQ women in business. The blog features vulnerable and personal recounts from Lyndsey's life as well as interviews with LGBTQ women and our ally's. The blog strives to be insightful, informative, and a bit humorous at times. 

Where to find the Boss Ladies’ Blog

Website: thebossladiesblog.com

Facebook: @The boss Ladies Blog

IG: @thebossladiesblog

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There is so much more to a menstrual cycle than chocolate, cramps, and crying! Dorit Palvanov, a nutritionist and female-centric health coach, walks us through the four phases of a menstrual cycle in order to help women capitalize on their strengths and get to know themselves.

In this episode we discuss the “taboo” topic of periods, ways to use feminine power to your advantage, and how to take control of your life. 

This episode is not exclusive to women!!! Men can learn a great deal about the women in their lives by understanding where they are cyclically. 

Dorit Palvanov is a nutritionist, female-centric health coach, the founder and voice of the weekly podcast for moms – Confident, Energized and Sexy Mama and the creator of the revolutionary health and mindset program for women, wives and mothers – ‘WHOLE FEMALE‘. She summarizes her work as, “I teach females how to be women.”

Where to Find Dorit: 

Podcast: https://doritpalvanov.com/category/podcast/

Website: https://doritpalvanov.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/doritpalvanovcoaching/

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Public speaking is a major fear for many. Brenden Kumarasamy, founder and host of “MasterTalk”, joins us today to share his insights on the topic.

In this episode we discover Brenden’s thoughts on why we fear public speaking, how to solicit honest feedback on your presentations, and concrete strategies (improv games, pacing, etc.!) to improve your public speaking performance.

"Brenden is the founder of MasterTalk, a YouTube channel he started to help the world master the art of public speaking and communication. He coaches purpose driven entrepreneurs on how to master their message and share their ideas with the world."

Where to Find Brenden: 

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBYFP4mZLQovr7W6Si6sueA

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/masteryourtalk/

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We’d love to hear from you about your thoughts, ideas, and stories! You can reach us at: [email protected]. Follow us on Facebook (@lostartofcommunication), Instagram (@lostartofcommunication), and Twitter (@LostArtofCommu1) for more updates.

According to the CDC in March, approximately 1 in 54 children have been identified with Autism Spectrum Disorder. With autism being such a prevalent diagnosis in our society, it is important for neurotypical people (those not diagnosed with a neurological disorder) to learn about autism and the autistic community. As our guest on the episode, Rachel Dorsey, says, “Autism cannot be cured. Autism is not bad, nor is it good—it just is. It is a different neurology and a different way of being human.”  

In this episode, Molly, Tricia, and Rachel discuss Rachel’s personal experience being autistic, ways neurotypical people can communicate with those with autism, and the mental health complications caused when autistic people “mask.”

Rachel Dorsey, MS, CCC-SLP is a late-diagnosed autistic speech-language pathologist who has worked in early intervention, preschool, and clinic-based settings. She is currently working in a private practice located in the greater Boston area and runs a consultancy, Rachel Dorsey: Autistic SLP, aimed at educating professionals about autism-friendly practices and coaching parents of autistic children. Her specialized interests include autism research, education, and advocacy, makeup styles and techniques, Sailor Moon, and cats. 

Find Rachel:

Website:  www.dorseyslp.com

IG: @rdorseyslp 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dorseyslp.

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We’d love to hear from you about your thoughts, ideas, and stories! You can reach us at: [email protected]. Follow us on Facebook (@lostartofcommunication), Instagram (@lostartofcommunication), and Twitter (@LostArtofCommu1) for more updates.