The Love Fix

The show begins with Sherry loving lavender in many forms and Carla sharing that she doesn’t drink coffee or alcohol! Then, we hear a Love Fix question on rebounding back after a break up and then welcome Lucia, author of “No Contact Secrets” and a Dating and Relationship Expert specializing in helping people get their ex back. She talks about why no contact is the best way to get your ex-back, how to decide if it’s even a good idea to get back together, and the three ladies each share their unique viewpoint on setting boundaries about cheating. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

•  Is rebounding and getting out there after a break up a good idea? How long should you really wait, and does someone else help you truly get your mind off your ex? 
• Lucia discovered that 60 Days was really the perfect formula for someone to reach out to their ex after a breakup. 
• Lucia shares her own story of going from heartbreak to having an ex chase her, and why she ultimately decided she did not want to get back together with him.
• When is it healthy to get back together, and at what point should you definitely NOT get back with your ex? 
• Some of the red flags to look out for when you are trying to get back together with your ex. 
• Resources to sign up for Lucia’s Coaching Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Lucia’s list of six questions to ask your ex before you get back together. 
• Why are people so afraid to be alone and would rather cling to bad relationships? 
• When you need a therapist rather than trying to get your ex back. 
• Some of the biggest challenges people face when trying to get back with their ex. 
• Cheating is something that should be discussed in the beginning of the relationship, and why partners need to have radical acceptance when taking back a cheater. 
• Is adultery really a deal breaker? 

Tweetables:

• “You don’t want to be walking through life still obsessed with the ex that you broke up with or who broke up with you.” - Lucia
• “You gotta be really radically honest with yourself and radically accept that person for who they really are if you are gonna go back with them.” - Sherry 
• “If you are hiding infidentaly from your partner, there is something missing within the relationship that needs to be repaired.” - Carla

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Lucia 

No Contact Secrets |The Art of Love |  Instagram 

Psycho-Cybernetics 

Esther Perel 

Sherry kicks off this week talking about how great exercise and movement have been for her mental health, and Carla couldn’t agree more. They take a Love Fix question about if it’s ever a good idea to take back a cheater, and then welcome psychotherapist Beverly Engel to the show. Beverly specializes in abuse recovery and is the author of 23 self help books and has been on Oprah! Starting over and many other TV programs throughout the years. Beverly talks about the difference between what she calls intentional and unintentional abuse, some red flags of both in dating, and gives her advice to those out there dating after an abusive relationship. She also talks with Sherry and Carla about how the way our date treats the wait staff matters much more beyond politeness. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• The gyms may still be closed or you may be shaking off the quarantine hibernation, but whatever it is - just move your body in some way every day! Working out can do wonders for not only your physical health but your mental health. 
• A Love Fix question on how to know when to give someone a second (or third) chance after they cheat. 
• The difference between what Beverly calls intentional and unintentional abuse. 
• The difference between a narcissist and abusive partner, and how we can distinguish between the two. 
• When is it time to say enough is enough when dealing with a narcissist? 
• Signs of emotional abuse, even when it’s sneaky.
• When you feel small and confused, it’s very hard to stand up for yourself and confront the abuser. What is Beverly’s advice for those feeling weak and unwanted? 
• Can you repair emotionally abusive relationships? 
• Resources to sign up for Beverly’s Hope For Healing Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• The three avenues to begin breaking away from codependent abuse: speak up, do something separate, and seek support.  
• Take your time. Make sure you are healed and don’t just jump in a relationship after another. 
• Trust your instincts and trust your gut. Most women don’t trust their instincts and go slow. 

Tweetables:

•  “You don’t have to be a narcissist to be abusive”. - Carla
• “The rule of a narcissist is that they really don’t care that much about you.” - Beverly 
• “Most emotional abusers are very good at deflecting and pointing out that you’ve done the same thing.”  - Beverly
• “Standing up is crucial, if you can.” - Beverly
• “You need to see yourself as an equal to any potential partner.” - Beverly 

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Beverly Engel 

Website | Books | I’m Saying No! | Instagram | Healing Your Emotional Self

Sherry and Carla kick off this week with a declaration to stop playing games when it comes to matters of the heart! They take a Love Fix question on not tripping out about the future and then welcome Mike Goldstein to the show. Mike is a Dating and Relationship Expert, founder of EZ Dating, and helps men and women make dating and relationships easy. Mike has a batting average of getting 83% of his clients into relationships within 3-4 months, and shares some of his secret formulas with us this week. Mike also discusses using your heart during a date and your brain once you’re home, his four step approach to “NAAB” your man, how to focus more on the values of who you are dating then getting a perfect outcome.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla call for no more games when dating! The ball isn’t in anyone’s court, so stop exhausting yourself and start having more fun.
• A Love Fix question on not “future tripping” and projecting too much about what is in store for your relationship and the timeline of taking things further.
• How Mike’s own heartbreak in his 20’s led him to dive into what really makes a relationship work.
• Using data from major data sites, Mike shares the winning ratio found that has women finding high quality matches in just a few weeks, that usually turn into a relationship by 3-4 months.
• A few of the fun success stories Mike has had through his EZ Dating Coaching.
• Mike teaches both on and offline dating techniques, and supports his clients with pretty much everything throughout the process (but not going on the actual date with the client, sorry ladies!).
• Mike’s tips for women doing circular dating.
• Mike, Sherry, and Carla’s favorite sites for dating depending on your age, and which is the most popular that Mike sees in his work.
• Resources to sign up for Mike’s How To Get A Man In 90 Days Webinar, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• How does Mike feel about being a single love coach?
• The four elements of “NAAB”ing your next man! Making them feel: needed, appreciated, accepted, and (sexy) boundaries.
• While on a date you should be focused on having fun and treating it like a science experiment. It’s when you get home that you can analyze whether or not this person is right for you, or even just worthy of a second encounter.

Tweetables:

• “There’s no ball in anyone's court.” - Carla
• “Even the best experts out there in the world make mistakes in their relationships.” - Carla

• “Once you realize you can be on your own and you are okay, it is such freedom.” - Sherry

• “We need to get strategic on our dates.” - Mike
• “If you want to get into a long lasting relationship, you need to have a system and get strategic.” - Mike

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Mike Goldstein 

EZ Dating Coach | How To Get A Man In 90 Days Webinar | Facebook 

Sherry and Carla kick off this week’s episode talking about embracing their weird quirks, and then take a Love Fix question on how long getting over a breakup really takes. Then, they welcome Kelsey Grant, Love, Intimacy, and Relationship Educator. Kelsey writes, speaks and teaches men and women the art of accessing greater alignment with themselves, one another and the essence of true love. Through The Legendary Love Academy and her podcast the Pleasure Portal, Kelsey has a wealth of wisdom to share about mismatched libidos, trusting your gut, and little ways to begin to cultivate appreciation for yourself and your partner. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla embrace their weird quirks, and know that our quirks tend to show up and bother us even more when we are stressed.  
• What is the average time to get over someone? Is it bad if we are still hung up on our ex months, or even years later? 
• Sherry and Carla’s advice on how to not only look back on your relationship with rose colored glasses. 
• Be gentle with yourself and allow time to heal during a break up. 
• Kelsey knew there was a need for more open conversations about sex based on her own interests and what she and her friends would always end up talking about. 
• Kelsey’s tips on cultivating a culture of appreciation in your relationship. 
• Desire is not all about physically wanting someone, it is a by-product of trust and openness. 
• How our family system plays a role in the dynamic we tend to seek out with our partners. 
• How we can begin to resentizie our body and get in touch with our intuition so we stop gaslighting ourselves and can see any potential red flags. 
• What does it mean if your partner’s libido doesn’t seem to match yours, and what does Kelsey think may be missing if you find yourself with what feels like almost too much sexual energy? 
• Resources to sign up for Kelsey’s Mutually Met Program, along with ways to work with  Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Advice on navigating your needs with your partner that are rooted in you feeling confident about what you want and deserve. 

Tweetables:

• “We always embellish the last relationship.” - Sherry 
• “Loneliness makes us do crazy things.” - Sherry
• “Most of the time we want to be good to each other, but we don’t often know how.” - Kelsey 
• “At the end of the day, your gut is always on point.” - Carla
•  “Creativity and sex energy, are literally the same thing.” - Kelsey 

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Kelsey Grant

Website |  Instagram | The Pleasure Portal Podcast | Facebook 

Sherry opens the show with some probing news about an upcoming doctor’s visit, and then she and Carla bond over the annoying nature of living with IBS. Then, they answer A Love Fix question about getting out of a victim’s mentality before welcoming Yasmin Ezomor, spiritual mentor, shadow work specialist, and relationship coach. Yasmin shares her story of hitting rock bottom at 21 that turned her life around to focus her energy towards inner healing and expansion. Yasmin explains what shadow work is, how it can be beneficial, and who it may not be right for. She also stresses the importance of having support around you as you do shadow work and opens up about how she personally is leading with integrity in her work after experiencing some emotional upheaval.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla bond over their IBS and how awful it is, and we cheer Sherry on as she practices what she preaches about self-care in the form of a colonoscopy!
• A Love Fix Question on how to stop living in a victim mentality.
• Yasmin’s mission is to support others on their spiritual journey by helping them uncover their wounds so they can attract meaningful relationships and opportunities.
• Yasmin talks about hitting her rock bottom at 21 and the spiritual awakening that led her down the path of inner healing and expansion.
• Why we should look at dating as a social experiment, rather than going in with a ton of expectations that later lead to resentments.
• What shadow work is and how we can use this amazing modality.
• What happens when we start to repress the shadow parts of ourselves, and how that turns into trauma.
• Surrendering to our feelings doesn’t mean just giving up, but going with the flow and accepting our current reality.
• Journaling is a really big part of being able to break down the shadow and our inner wounds.
• You have to be ready for shadow work, and there is no pressure to do it. If you don’t want to heal, that’s okay, but forcing yourself to do something is not going to be helpful. It’s important that you actually have the intention of WANTING to do it.
• Sometimes the shifts and breakthroughs in shadow work can be huge and super quick, while other times it is a slow progress that we need to refresh every so often.
• Ways to get more of Yasmin including her Humanity Feels podcast, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• How having a coach can help you feel supported and seen during your shadow work.
• What the shadow work outcomes may look like for someone who feels unlovable and goes from one toxic relationship to the next.

Tweetables:

• “It is not personal. You don’t know this person well enough for it to be personal.” - Carla
• “You have to date as a whole person, not as a half person.” - Sherry
• “The body keeps the score. If we are not conscious and self-aware, it catches up with us.” - Yasmin
• “We think the mind leads the way, but really it’s the body.” - Yasmin
• “Healing takes time. It’s not a one time fix.” - Yasmin

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Yasmin

Humanity Feels Podcast | Instagram 

Carl Jung 

Sherry opens the show sharing how although she welcomes love in all forms, she made the choice to also be good on her own, and she and Carla celebrate the work it took to get there. Then, they welcome Darren R. Weissman, D.C.  a chiropractic holistic physician, developer of The LifeLine Technique®, and best-selling Hay House author. Darren has been featured in the films E-Motion and the award-winning documentary, HEAL, and a series on GAIA. Darren talks about the power of our subconscious mind, and his 16 step process of working with people to discover patterns they aren’t even aware of that limit their love, life, and health. Darren shares the million-dollar question he wants us to ask to become aware of our choices, why it’s so important to dive into your subconscious, and how it can be a tool rather than a tormentor.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question about how to know if you are the narcissist in your relationship, or if your narcissist ex is just convincing you that you are!
• Darren’s passion is to teach people how to intentionally change the emotional programs of their subconscious mind.
• Darren’s advice on how to help a family member that is struggling with their obsession of getting a loved one sober.
• A few of Darren’s many resources for those looking to continue with his work, including The LifeLine Center,  along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Why our addictions and perceived weaknesses could actually be a portal to the next greatest version of ourselves, and what exactly that portal looks like!
• How Darren developed The LifeLine Technique®, an integrative therapeutic system that turns chaos into calm and confidence.
• How working with our subconscious can help enhance our body's natural potential to heal and thrive.
• Some of the ways that you know it’s time to make these changes and really address what’s happening in your subconscious.
• Everyone is healing from something and we all have things we are addicted to, whether it’s substance, love, work, etc.
• What Darren would say to those with a loved one facing addiction.
• The direct correlation between our thoughts and beliefs and our biology.

Tweetables:

• “Everything is a choice. We have a choice.” - Sherry
• “We can tap into the pharmacy within our mind for medicine. The mind medicine that we are capable of creating is beyond what most people can ever fathom.” - Darren
• “I really am fine either way.” - Sherry
• “The power to heal comes from within.” - Darren
• “There’s a spectrum to narcissism. Everybody has levels of narcissism, but, it’s a matter of whether you have empathy around it.” - Carla
• “What if addiction was a portal and doorway into another place, and that other place is the next great version of myself, relationship, behavior, and habits.” - Darren

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Darren Weissman 

Website | Instagram | Facebook | YouTube 

The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton

Mel Robbins 

Candace Pert, M.D.

Sherry and Carla open the episode talking about the fact that good sex and pleasurable experiences definitely do not have to dwindle later on in life! They then answer a Love Fix question about abandonment, and welcome Dr. Andrea Pennington to the show. Andrea is an integrative physician, acupuncturist, meditation teacher and a #1 international bestselling author. Andrea discusses the inspiration behind her #RealSelfLove Movement, through which she speaks globally to reduce the stigma of mental illness and to support people in building resilience and living authentically. They speak with Andrea about self love and how it differs from self care, a few surprising facts about orgasms, and how we can rewire our brain and body to be open for more pleasure and heightened sexual experiences. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• No, good sex doesn’t end when you hit 50! Sherry feels as though sex is wasted on the young, since we really get to know ourselves and what we like as we get older and wiser. 
• A Love Fix Question of the Day all about abandonment, the many forms abandonment issues can take on, and the trauma work and inner child work Sherry and Carla have seen be effective. 
• Andrea’s work is geared around helping people learn to love and express themselves. She has shared her empowering insights on holistic healing and resilience on the Oprah Winfrey Show, the Dr. Oz Show, iTV This Morning, CNN, the Today Show, and many more outlets. 
• Andrea shares how her experience of getting trained in acudetox in medical school, which led her to see the lack of self-love behind those who fell back into addiction or consistently sabotaged their own recovery. 
• Many people don’t have a clear answer of who they are and sometimes we need a little reverse engineering to get to the essence of our core, so that we can fully show up for ourselves and others. 
• Ways we can tap into our own sensual energy and revive stagnant “chi” or vital life force. 
• It is possible to reconnect the body and mind to become a more sensual person and reawaken the nervous system. 
• Andrea’s surprising statistics on orgasms - where they come from, how often we should have them, and why we may not be having them often or at all. 
• What self love is, and how it’s different from self care. 
• More about Andrea’s 21 Day program for people to connect with their bodies, and partners (if they have one) and turn back on their arousal system, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Advice for people finding themselves in repetitive patterns of dating the bad boy! 

Tweetables:

•  “In nursing homes, the number one problem they have is STDs.” - Carla 
• “I feel like I had an informational orgasm...if that’s possible?!” - Carla
• “I think sex is wasted on the young because we know so much more as we get older.” - Sherry
• “Orgasm does not happen in genitals. Orgasm happens in the brain. - Andrea 
• “Self love is not about self care.” - Andrea
• “Self love is unconditional self acceptance.” - Andrea 

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Andrea 

Website | Instagram | YouTube | The Real Self Love Handbook

Do we only have one true soulmate in our life, or are there many loves that can light us up? This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Kathryn Alice, bestselling author and one of the most successful life coaches in the world. Kathryn has changed countless lives with her work and has a “Wall of Marriages” to prove it. Kathryn talks about why she thinks there is a lid for every pot when it comes to love, how to stay patient when you are feeling very single, and getting out of what she calls “crazy love” into something more stable and secure. Kathryn also gives one simple tip that helps 80% of people get a second date, and her tips and tricks for being a magnet for the type of love you want as an independent, healthy, strong human. 

Kathryn has been featured in Psychology Today, Parade Magazine, The New York Times, and many more nationally known publications. She was featured as an expert in the feature film Secrets of Love, and directed Agape’s Crisis Support Team for six years. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

•  A Love Fix question about uncovering a consistent fear in your relationship - is it a fear of confrontation or possibly something else? 
• Kathryn is not only a best-selling author, but an extremely successful and sought after coach, speaker, and mentor to other coaches. 
• Kathryn was a single mother for several years until she got together with her soulmate Jon at 41 and went on to have her own children. 
• What is the difference between our soulmate and a twin flame? 
• What if our soulmate passed away or left us? Are we done forever, or is there hope of finding love again? 
• More about Kathryn’s books and Coaching, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• How to discern the difference between soulmate love and what Kathryn refers to as the “Voice of Attachment”. 
• Many women in their late 30’s and beyond fear never finding love, but Kathryn reminds us to relax and enjoy the moment. Love is on the way! 
• Kathryn has a “Wall of Marriages” in her office to remind her of all the success stories she helped facilitate. 
• When we can learn to enjoy being alone, we can be more authentic on our dates and show up more fully as ourselves. 
• The one easy trick that lands 80% of people a follow up date. 
• A great coach will help you get healthier and heal with a better template, but that also doesn’t mean developing a co-dependent relationship with them. 
• How we can best navigate feeling lonely, especially in this isolated time. 

Tweetables:

•  “There’s no limit on love.” - Kathryn
• “It’s pretty easy to become less socially awkward when you are around someone you like.” - Kathryn
• “Your future self is telling you to chill out. It’s fine. Love is on the way so just get ready and enjoy your last single days.” - Kathryn 

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents 

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Kathryn 

Website | Books | Instagram | Secrets of Love 

Dealing with a narcissist at home is bad enough, but what if you have to do it in the courtroom as well? This week, Sherry and Carla proudly welcome Rebecca Zung, Narcissism Negotiation Expert and one of the top 1% of attorneys in the nation. Rebecca is the author of the bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R. and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought-after major media contributor. Rebecca talks about the strategies to prepare and protect yourself while dealing with a narcissist, how we can understand how narcissists tend to win over courtrooms for their own advantage, and resources to negotiate with a narcissist should you have to take one on.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question on how to know if you are with the right partner, and does it mean it’s wrong when there is conflict to sort through?
• How Rebecca used her skills and experience as the top 1% of the attorneys in the nation to understand how narcissists operate and beat them at their own game.
• Why narcissists tend to get their way in the legal system, and how to protect yourself against this.
• Do narcissists even want to settle their legal issues and get peace, or do they get high from jerking you around?
• How to keep going when it feels like your drama with a narcissist will never end!
• Who really has control in the courtroom, and how to use it to your own advantage.
• Rebecca talks about the typical traits of narcissists, and how you can get skilled at unmasking that through her proven strategies.
• Tools such as Rebecca’s “Crush My Negotiation” Worksheet, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• When dealing with a narcissist, data, facts, and plans are your friends. Keep those receipts!
• What do you do to protect yourself when you aren’t ready to leave?
• Yes, there are female narcissists out there! Rebecca also helps show us how to get that person out of our space.
• How to best cope with PTSD and aftershocks that come after dealing with a narcissist.
• How to break free of the obsession that comes with dealing with a narcissist, no matter what stage of the relationship you are in.
• Options for people who broke up with someone and are being harassed by them.
• Our definition of co-dependents and empaths, and why they seem to be so drawn to narcissists.

Tweetables:

• “For narcissists, you are either for them or against them. Once they realize you are against them, you become enemy number one.” - Rebecca
• “Even if you gave them 100% of everything they wanted, it wouldn’t be good enough.” - Rebecca
• “Document, Document, Document.” - Rebecca
• “If I’m thinking about the drama, trauma, and chaos, I can’t be in creation mode. That is what you are meant to be doing and you can’t be in two places at once.”  - Rebecca
• “Detach with compassion.” - Sherry

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Rebbeca 

Website | Win Your Negotiation | YouTube | Books | Instagram | Narcissists Negotiators FB Group 

Sherry and Carla start this week with a Love Fix question about how to ease the feeling of emptiness, no matter what relationship you are in. They discuss the difference between feeling empty and feeling as though something is missing, and how self love is the remedy for both. Then, they welcome Dr. Shannon Chavez, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Shannon has a booming private practice, SHAPE (Sexual Health and Pleasure Enhancement) Center in Beverly Hills, and helps individuals and couples with integrating sexuality and spirituality, sex education, and sexual discovery towards personal growth. Shannon seeks to bridge the gap between the freedom of embracing sexuality and the more conservative ideals that may have been around a more traditional upbringing. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question about feeling empty no matter what relationship there is.  
• How to know when it’s time to see a therapist when it comes to your sexual questions and concerns. 
• How Shannon started her career as a Clinical Psychologist, and became a nationally recognized expert in the media. 
• A few of the most common sexual concerns Shannon hears time and time again, and why we should normalize the fact that so many people feel this way. 
• Shannon’s belief that sex addiction can also be tied to anxiety disorders, feeling out of control, emotional disregulation, and untreated childhood wounds. 
• More about Shannon’s SHAPE Center and how it can help both individuals and couples, along with resources from Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Couples often come to Shannon feeling a lack of communication, stuck, lacking desire, and unsure what to do next. 
• Why we should think of masturbation as an act of self exploration and self care instead of feeling shame or judgement towards it.
• If Shannon sees sexual concerns varying between populations and age demographics. 
• How we are raised has a lot to do with how we function sexually.  
• Are there red flags when it comes to sex and dating that we should take note of? 
• What does it mean to really be sexually compatible? 

Tweetables:

• “Trust your gut instinct. You’ll know when you are ready.” - Shannon 
• We have to be able to connect to your core before you can really connect with someone else. - Sherry
• “Everything is learned, so you are mirroring, mimicking and absorbing your parents behavior.” - Shannon
• What compatibility issues really are is someone not really open to feedback.” - Shannon 
• “It starts with intimacy of self.” - Shannon 
• “I want people to really enhance and find pleasure about. That is what erotism and sexuality is all about.” - Shannon
• “Think of masturbation as self exploration and self care.” - Shannon
• “Masturbation isn’t about just getting off or having an orgasm, but it’s really taking care of your body on such a mind, body, heart level.” - Shannon
• “See the body as a vehicle for pleasure.” - Shannon

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