The Love Fix

Sherry and Carla kick off this week describing all the fun set to happen in their Love Fix Program and then welcome Toxic Relationship Specialist Sarah Kay Ramsey. Sarah is the best-selling author of the book Becoming Toxic Person Proof, and host of the globally acclaimed Toxic Person Proof podcast. Sarah discusses the multi-step approach she uses when working with women who have experienced toxic relationships and how they work together to get out of the cycle of pain and shame. She talks with Sherry and Carla about setting the example for how we want our kids to be, and hope for bouncing back while rebuilding after a toxic relationship.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• It is common for people to not know what to do with all the free time they have once they don’t have to research narcissism and toxic partners three hours a day!
• Toxic relationships can be romantic, but they can also very much exist in the workplace. Sarah helps women deal with the toxic relationships they have that may be their boss or even someone in a lower management role than they are.
• More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
• Sarah walks us through her three-step process for toxic people proofing your life.
• What is “Smart Girl Syndrome” and how does Sarah see many successful and talented women fall prey to it?
• Interested in connecting with Sarah? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What are the common feelings of women who are currently wrapped up in toxic relationships?
• Sarah discusses how her program reconnects women with what is right with them. Then, the next phase is becoming toxic person proof.
• What can we do when our ex is running a smear campaign against us?
• How can you be kind without having your kindness used against you?
• Sarah shares getting rid of guilt and leading by example when it comes to being a role model for your children.

Tweetables:

• “In my career, when I give more time, energy, and effort, I do better. In toxic relationships, you give more time, energy, and effort, and life is worse.” - Sarah
• “When you are beaten down, you’re no longer conscious. You are now in complete denial and just trying to survive.” - Sherry
• “Get your own damn life. Build that out. Your kids and other people will see it around you. And if you have children, you're that role model for them. - Carla

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Sarah K. Ramsey

Website | Instagram | Becoming Toxic Person Proof Book| Toxic Person Proof Podcast 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry kicks off this week explaining her love/hate relationship with acrylic nails, and then she and Carla welcome Sara Kuburic, existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. Sara specializes in identity relationships and moral trauma and explains how cheating can affect our identity and self-perception. The group discusses how not to blame the partner that got cheated on, why setting boundaries upfront is crucial, and Sara gives a glimpse into her new book out next fall.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla discover they have yet another thing in common — a latex allergy!
• More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
• From an existential perspective, it’s hard to separate your morality from your identity. So how can cheating affect how an individual sees themselves?
• Cheaters often have to reconceptualize who they are as a person and come to terms that they can do something as hurtful to their partner as cheating. The dissonance of who they think they are and their actions can cause trauma. 
• What do you say to a cheater?
• Why Sara, Sherry, and Carla don’t necessarily agree with the notion that people can’t change, and how that can be a self-fulfilling prophecy.
• Interested in connecting with Sara? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Reflection question: should you bring up cheating if it’s only one time?
• Cheating is a symptom of something in the relationship as well, but the partner that got cheated on should not blame themselves.
• Setting boundaries and discussing what is and is not cheating with your partner is very important.

Tweetables:

• “Cheating is a symptom of something in the relationship as well.” - Carla
• “It’s really really important to be explicit.” - Sara
• “Someone is only going to change if they want to. There’s nothing you can do to make someone else change.” - Carla
• “Conflict is never the issue. It’s how we handle the conflict that is the issue.” - Sara
• “My whole career is based on the premise that people can change.” - Sara
• “Cheating can be about the relationship, but it can also be indicative of the relationship you have with yourself.” - Sara

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Dr. Laura 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Sara Kuburic 

Website |Instagram | Newsletter 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Leading Narcissist Recovery Coach Annie Kaszina joins Sherry and Carla this week to talk about narcissists and how we cannot fall prey to giving one our time and energy. She first talks about the importance of correctly diagnosing narcissism rather than throwing the term around too lightly, and shares the experience that has informed her unique way of helping thousands of survivors build their lives back better. They discuss signs that you may be dating a narcissist, how to build up your gut instinct after it’s been shattered, and why to not blame yourself if you have been caught up with a narcissist before. Annie is also the author of the Best-Seller, Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband?

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Feng Shui can be way more than just arranging furniture or a fountain a certain way. It can be about freeing up energy and space in a way that brings about more flow, abundance, and positivity in our space.
• More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
• A Love Fix Question — life can be messy, but what is too messy when it comes to arguing and bickering in a relationship? 
• Annie shares her own experience as a survivor of narcissistic abuse in a relationship.
• Interested in coaching with Annie? More information on how to connect, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• What qualities in people do narcissists usually seek out in relationships, and why are some people more likely to fall prey to them?
• Narcissism is very real and there are definite patterns, but we need to be careful when we label someone as a narcissist.
• What things to look out for when dating, such as a narcissist blowing hot and cold, acting intrusively interested in you, and making you doubt your own gut feelings.
• How can you begin to trust your own judgement after it’s been wrong?
• Narcissists are playing a numbers game. They will go with the one who seems to be most impressionable and vulnerable.
• Victims of narcissists tend to know a lot about them, but not a lot about themselves.
• What is trauma bonding, and how does Annie help her clients overcome it?

Tweetables:

• “If you are resolving issues together as a team, you are probably okay.” - Sherry
• “Conflict is so constructive. It can also move you forward.” - Carla
• “Even their victim story can be a hero story.” - Annie
• “Find a person that is relationship-ready.” - Annie
• “Narcissists leave people with that crazy feeling, not trusting your gut.” - Annie
• “A narcissistic systematically dismantles your personality.” - Annie

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Annie Kaszina 

Website | Facebook | Do You Choose Your Dog More Carefully Than Your Husband? 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla start the episode with each of their opinions on Halloween festivities, and then welcome Emmy Marie, Certified Trauma-Informed Coach. Emmy specializes in helping her clients that have endured trauma or abuse create relationships with both themselves and others that help them feel safe and respected. Emmy shares her personal journey in getting out of abuse and stepping into her power. She also talks about surviving narcissistic relationships, toxic shame, and how we can tune into our body to begin building trust within ourselves and the world around us. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

•  Sherry and Carla seem to have almost everything in common, except for their take on Halloween costumes and Thanksgiving sides. 
• More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
• How did Emmy overcome her trauma from being in a narcissistic relationship and codependency to create a thriving life for herself? 
• What is toxic shame, and why does it hold us back so deeply? 
• What does a trauma informed life coach do? How does it differ from therapy? 
• A few great free resources from Emmy’s workshops and programs, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• Can someone really heal after doing trauma work? 
• Emmy describes the Neuro Affective Relationship Model for treating complex trauma. 
• How does shame impact our ability to have safe relationships? 
• Is it really possible to live a happy, joyous life after going through trauma? 
• What are the most common ways Emmy sees her clients repeating their cycle of trauma in dating? 
• What “personality trails” can really be unresolved trauma responses?

Tweetables:

•  “Trauma can make us live in the future or past, so coming back to the present moment is so important.” - Emmy 
• “What is one small thing you can do for yourself today?” - Emmy 
• “Notice what it feels like in your body to have a yes, or a no.” - Emmy 
• “People still do not understand the link between codependency and abuse.” - Sherry
• “People pleasing is a trauma response.” - Carla 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Emmy Marie 

Website | Blooming Relationships | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Aces Test 

Sherry and Carla get into a quick debate on leg washing, and then announce their first program together, The Love Fix Coaching Program! They welcome Monica Berg, author, podcaster, and Chief Communications officer at The Kabbalah Center. Monica shares how her many years of Kabbalastic study taught her lessons about life and love, and why so many of us are stuck in half commitments. Monica talks about the characteristics in our potential love partners that we really should be looking for, and how to trade perfectionism for presence in our lives.  

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla announce their first program together - The Love Fix Coaching Program! They will get into all kinds of issues including love addiction, codependency, toxic relationships, and much more. Plus, it will be super interactive. Sign up to get on the waitlist! 
• What are the benefits of group coaching? 
• What does it mean when we are “living in the land of almost”? 
• Are you in what Monica calls a half commitment? What does that look like, and what can you do about it? 
• Monica is the Chief Communications Officer of The Kabbalah Centre. How did she get into kabbalistic study, and what are the tenets of the practice? 
• Some great tips from Monica’s book Rethink Love,  along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• It’s not about asking too much, it’s about asking for the right things. 
• Monica shares how we can both not settle for someone or something we don’t want, but also not expect perfection in ourselves or the people we love. 
• What characteristics really are important when it comes to finding love? And yes, smelling nice can be one of them. 
• What are some steps that someone can use to help create more presence in the relationship? 
• Monica shares some common self sabotage behaviors. 
• It sure may be fun to get, but giving really helps the giver more than the receiver. 

Tweetables:

•  “I see a lot of people living in the land of almost.” - Monica 
• “You really know if you are compatible with someone during the hard times.”  - Monica
•  “When you are truthful, honest, transparent and vulnerable from the beginning, then you can fully show up.” - Monica 
• “You can only change when you decide you are going to make a choice to do so.” - Monica 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Monica Berg

Spiritually Hungry Podcast | Rethink Love | IG | Kabbalah Centre 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla kick off the week discussing their thoughts on if candles are a generational thing and take a Love Fix question on how to know what it is you really need when you’re focused so much on your partner. Then, they welcome Certified Counselor Marquita Johnson, who has over 10 years of practice and a large set of tools to use to help her clients heal and realize their potential. She talks about what millennials are doing wrong in love, how we can use technology to our advantage, and why we need to be accountable for what baggage WE bring into the relationship.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Millennials don’t want the relationships their parents had, so what is it that they really want?
• What are some telltale signs that it is time to say goodbye in a relationship?
• Stop trying to convince someone that you are worthy!
• We have the responsibility of working on our own baggage and wounds, so it isn’t an endless cycle of both people getting triggered by one another.
• You define love on YOUR terms, not by society’s or even by the people around you.
• Want a fun way to explore your relationship? Check out Marquita’s relationship conversation cards,  along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• What we can learn from J-Lo and her love life!
• Someone can add to your life, but it’s important to take responsibility for your own happiness and security.

Tweetables:

• If someone is having a need or a fear, it’s not about you. - Sherry
• Expectations are resentments waiting to happen. - Carla
• We can not change someone’s mind or convince someone that you are worthy. - Marquita
• If someone can’t see your worth it doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy, it means the person just can’t see it. - Marquita
• Even if you are not codependent, you are taught to fall in love with fantasy. - Carla
• I can’t make someone responsible for unpacking my bags that I came into the relationship with. - Marquita

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Marquita Johnson 

Website | Being The One | Instagram

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about the difference between a therapist and a coach, and take a Love Fix question on how to fully grieve the end of a toxic relationship and not repeat the same patterns. They then welcome Trina Leckie, coach and host of the popular Breakup Boost podcast. Trina shares her most successful and proven tips for getting out of a stuck relationship and hurtful breakup, what traps she sees her clients fall into when it comes to splitting up successfully, and practical steps to disconnecting from your ex to focus on yourself and a brighter life ahead. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

•  The difference between therapy and coaching, there is a place for both, and you may possibly benefit from one more than the other at specific points throughout life. 
• A Love Fix question about how to get out of a toxic relationship and fully grieve the process. 
• Trina is like the best friend you have always wanted helping you get through the breakup. She’s not going to sugarcoat it, but she will also give it to you straight. 
• The more we try to avoid pain, the more it will stay buried and stuck in our life. You have to feel the pain, be alone and do the work, and then things will start to shift. 
• Trina’s popular podcast, Breakup Boost, explores all angles of a breakup. What are the things that Trina hears people most affected by after a split? 
• How do you know when it’s time to break up? 
• How can you break up kindly and respectfully with someone? 
• Is there an appropriate amount of time to stay single after entering into another relationship after a breakup? 
• Is a breakup really a failure, or is there another lesson you can learn? 
• Need some 1 on 1 personal advice from Trina? Check out her coaching,  along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• Trina’s all star advice: stop focusing on the beginning and chasing the drug of the beginning of your relationship, stop instagram-stalking your ex, and take him/her off the pedestal! 
• Being attracted to your partner is so important, but even more of a priority is finding someone that matches your mindset. 

Tweetables:

•  “If you really want to meet someone, try everything.” - Trina
• “What is repressed will be expressed.” - Sherry 
• “Social media has made people so much less social.” - Trina 
• “You have to be honest with yourself, or you are just going to keep yourself stuck.” - Trina
• “When you can stop caring about what people are going to think, you will have a new level of freedom.” - Trina 
• “Confidence and independence are the biggest gifts you can give yourself.” - Trina 
• “People need to take their relationship and ex off the pedestal.” - Trina 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Trina Leckie 

Break Up Boost Podcast | Instagram| YouTube 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about the difference between openly sharing your life and oversharing on the internet. They then take a Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during an argument and welcome Sandra Brown, M.A., field pioneer, author and former psychotherapist. Sandra talks about the rerelease of the award-winning and highly popular book, Women Who Love Psychopaths. She talks about what traits typically make up a psychopath, why some women tend to be drawn to them, and advice on treating trauma after healing from a relationship with one.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• You can be an open book, but it’s important to respect your partner’s privacy if they aren’t as open to sharing their life details.
• A Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during and after an argument with your partner.
• Sandra has worked her whole career of 30+ years with narcissists, anti-social, and psychopaths and the women and children who have loved them. What are the patterns she has seen time and time again?
• Her book Women Who Love Psychopaths is updated from the 2008 first edition and explores the real-life relationships and stories between survivors of trauma and what exactly makes a psychopath.
• What are personality trait elevations that are a risk factor in potential pathological relationships?
• What led Sandra to become interested in what she calls “Danger Zone personalities” or lower conscious individuals?
• Are psychopaths aware of what they are doing?
• With 1 out of 100 people being a psychopath, you probably know one. Hopefully, you haven’t yet dated one.
• How is psychopathy usually created? Is it nature or nurture?
• Is there a type of person or characteristics that tend to date psychopaths?
• Resources to learn more from Sandra about Women that Love Psychopaths, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• What type of treatment for women that have trauma for dealing with psychopaths?

Tweetables:

• “I’m an open book, and I’m okay with that.” - Sherry
• “Psychopaths are sicker than we are smarter. If we aren't on top of who will be targeted, we are still at risk.” - Sandra
• “If there is one thing I want you to learn to trust, it’s the presence of cognitive dissonance.” - Sandra
• “It’s important that we as therapists differentiate. How you treat codependency, or how codependency is different in working with someone’s personality to raise awareness of trait elevations.”  - Sandra
• “What a psychopath can do to someone psychologically is way more than your average jerk.” - Sandra

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Challenge. Join the FREE Toxic & Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge 

Find Out More: 

Olivia Rodrigo 

Melody Beattie 

ACES Quiz 

Rosenberg Self Esteem 

Finding Competent Care 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Sandra Brown 

Women Who Love Psychopaths | Website 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Carla and Sherry reveal each of their biggest fears and then answer a Love Fix question on how to recognize the green flags in dating. They then welcome Dating Coach Anwar White, who combines his ability to speak to both men and women easily with his love of statistics to help his clients become the best person and partner possible. Anwar shares the biggest dating hurdle that his smart and successful clients face, and why we need to expand our net and focus less on checking off boxes when it comes to looking for a potential partner. What really holds women back from finding the love they want, need, and deserve? Tune in to find out.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question on how to recognize the “Green Flags” in dating.
• Anwar White is a certified personal and dating relationship coach and founder of the Get Your Guy Coaching Program and Podcast.
• Self-described as “super gay,” Anwar has helped men and women understand each other from a young age and it’s his superpower as a coach!
• Resources to get a free consultation with Anwar, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• What are the biggest pitfalls in love that Anwar sees his super smart and successful women clients face?
• In order to get what we want out of love, we must first be clear on what we need.
• Why your checklist of traits may be holding you back from really connecting, and how to identify what really matters when looking for love.
• Most women narrow down their search to end up open to just .1 percent of the male population!
• How does our relationship with our parents relate to what we need from our partners?
• The importance of vulnerability.

Tweetables:

• “If it doesn’t work out — it’s okay! You had a social experiment.” - Sherry
• “If you can’t accept yourself there is no way you can accept another person. And if you can’t do that, you can’t be in a long-lasting healthy relationship.”  - Anwar
• “You never stop getting to know somebody, even if you are married.” - Carla
• “You can’t possibly connect with another if you’re not connected with yourself.” - Sherry
• “Dating is about becoming the best person you can be, the best woman you can be, and the best partner you can be.” - Anwar

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Challenge. Join the FREE Toxic & Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge 

Find Out More: 

Arachnophobia

10 Things I Hate About You 

Brene Brown 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Anwar White 

Website | Get Your Guy Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla kick off this week tooting their own horn and then take a Love Fix question on self-care and why it can be extra hard during a relationship. They then welcome Dr. Betsy Chung, clinical psychologist in Southern California with over 10 years experience as a clinician in the mental health field. They discuss self-esteem: what it looks like in relationships, what a lack of it can do for our life, and how to get more of it. Dr. Betsy also talks about how to begin gaining your own self esteem and self worth even after a difficult and not so supportive upbringing.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question about practicing self care throughout the ups and downs of a relationship, and why codependents tend to struggle with self care.
• Going through something? Don’t see it as a setback — try to see it as an experience that is shaping the next version of you and giving you resilience and confidence.
• Dr. Betsy shares her definition of self-esteem and personal story of becoming independent and free of self doubt.
• When you have a healthy self esteem, you can be your true self and not have to hide behind a facade.
• The difference between self esteem and self worth.
• Resources to connect with Dr. Betsy, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• How does someone find themselves when they have very critical parents?
• What does a lack of self esteem typically look like?
• Most clients come in acknowledging that they have self esteem issues, but it takes a while for the buy in to happen.
• When Dr. Betsy’s clients are able to see what a respectful and healthy relationship looks like, they can see that they deserve good treatment and it starts changing the barometer of what they expect from relationships.

Tweetables:

• “When we are kids we assume that it’s our parents' way or the highway but no, we just didn’t know any better.” - Dr. Betsy
• “Every experience is a layer to the next version of yourself.” - Sherry
• “It’s so empowering to tell your story and to release that.” - Carla
• “Having self esteem is really the glue to your guiding self in a healthy relationship.”  - Carla
• “Nothing in our head is absolute truths, it is just things we got used to saying.” - Dr. Betsy

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Join Sherry’s FREE 5-day Codependency and Toxic Relationship Challenge.  Join the FREE Toxic & Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Betsy Chung 

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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.