The Love Fix

Sherry and Carla kick off the new year with a fun solo episode where they interview very special guests — each other! They grill one another on everything from who they are, how they got to their career and how they met, to their own experience overcoming codependency and heartbreak. Plus, they share what the exciting future of Love Fix holds, and a fun rapid-fire of personal Q&A.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Believe it or not, Sherry and Carla are human too and they make mistakes. What experiences have they learned from in life both personally and professionally?
• Rapid-fire questions on their favorite word, favorite foods, and personal heroes.
• What have Sherry and Carla learned that helps them have their own healthy relationships now? How did they learn that a healthy relationship with someone else starts with yourself?
• When will Sherry and Carla finally meet up IRL?
• What do they each like to do for fun when they aren't podcasting?
• Find out more about ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.

Tweetables:

• "In healthy relationships, you provide emotionally and in a supportive way. There's ways to provide and show up for a relationship that don't have to have a monetary value to it." - Carla
• "This is part of recovery, right? We all have our own journey, and our own story." - Carla
• "I wouldn't be here today if I didn't take a step back and actually work on myself. I wouldn't know what a healthy relationship is. I would say it starts with me." - Carla

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• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

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Barbara Walters

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John Gray

Sherry

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Carla

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla share their intentions for the New Year and take a Love Fix question about how to know where to even begin where there are so many trauma treatments out there. Then, they welcome Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Trauma Specialist Dr. Heidi Green. She discusses why it's so important to recognize and work on our trauma, and how every one of us has some type of trauma from our experience with family or just being out in the world. Dr. Heidi also talks with Carla and Sherry about how we project our trauma onto romantic relationships, trauma bonding, and what anxious and avoidants really need from each other to heal and grow.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Sherry and Carla set their intentions for 2022. What are yours?
• A Love Fix Question: where do you even begin when looking for trauma treatment and therapists?
• Dr. Heidi talks about the misconception that trauma is reserved for big events. If you've made it to adulthood, you've definitely survived some trauma.
• Why does everyone have at least some element of trauma, and how do we recognize it?
• What is relational trauma?
• How does experiencing infidelity and betrayal in our relationships affect us, whether we intend to stay in the relationship or find a new partner?
• How does trauma change the way we see everything and create a lens through which we see the world from?
• Find out more about Heidi's workshops and services, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How do the relationships that we have early in life affect us in our attachment style early on?
• What do anxious and avoidant attachment styles really need from one another?
• How can you start to build a secure attachment with yourself and others, even if you had a traumatic upbringing?
• How to recognize your negative core beliefs and trauma bonding situations.

Tweetables:

• "If I were to really think about it, the intention of life is always to keep coming back to serenity." - Carla
• "We find people who are about as emotionally dysfunctional as we are." - Heidi
• "Trauma changes the way that we see everything." - Heidi
• "If you've made it to adulthood, you've definitely survived some trauma." - Heidi
• "It's almost like you put on these lenses, these trauma lenses, and now this is what you see the world through. Trauma changes the way that we see everything." - Heidi
• "It's your job as the anxious person to not keep seeking safety from your avoidant partner. It's to seek safety within yourself." - Heidi
• "When you start trusting yourself and stop second-guessing yourself and have that relationship, you have a much better chance of finding someone with a secure attachment." - Sherry

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery - $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/

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Find Out More:

Sherry

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Carla

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Dr. Heidi Green

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

At the top of the episode, Sherry and Carla talk about what “breadcrumbing” is in dating, and what to do if you think someone is just offering you crumbs. Then, they take a Love Fix Question on how long it takes to unlearn codependent habits and welcome Conscious Codependence Coach Cheryl Fidelman to the show. Cheryl talks about her mission to eradicate trauma from the human condition, one nervous system at a time. Cheryl developed her attunement practice called Feeling Without Thinking to help her clients heal from trauma and become the person they were inherently born to be. She talks about the three tenets of co-dependence, how to give yourself compassion if you have been or currently are co-dependent, and why self-love is the North Star for true independence and healing.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question: how long does it take to get over being codependent?
• Cheryl started focusing on codependence 6 years into her work, as she saw it was an epidemic that plagued so many of her clients. 
• What are the signs of conscious codependency?
• What are the three tenets of co-dependence?
• The importance of having compassion for yourself if you did end up in a relationship with a narcissist or if you are codependent.
• Dating is a great way to practice our skills, but should we wait to heal ourselves before diving in?
• Find out more about Cheryl’s Conscious Codependent Listening Program, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How do our romantic relationships mimic the environment we grew up in as children?
• How is codependency rooted in unhealed trauma?
• Recovery doesn’t mean you never have any codependent actions, but that you are conscious of what you are doing, and are mindful about your patterns and actions.

Tweetables:

• “All of our unhealed trauma can be found in the filters through which we listen.” - Cheryl
• “Codependency is an epidemic. In almost every one of my clients, I could see big, red blinking lights of codependence.” - Cheryl
• “I think it's very empowering as a codependent to not victimize yourself. Because then you recognize you have choices.”  - Carla
• “Codependency goes beyond being with an addict or alcoholic. It could also be someone who's attracted to a narcissist or could be people-pleasing and needing validation.” - Sherry
• “I focus through the lens of trauma healing because I look at codependence as one of the most obvious ways that we demonstrate our unhealed trauma in relationships.” - Cheryl
• “Codependency is incubated in some kind of wound that you had. It starts with that inner child wound and you're reacting to triggers related to those wounds. Whether it was that your parents neglected you, you were invisible, you were abused or you were abandoned.” - Sherry

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member - Codependency Special - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Holiday Special: Sign up for Sherry’s Inner Circle for 1/2 off and get 6 months FREE!

Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Cheryl Fidelman

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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about why you may want to go on that second date, even if the first one didn’t blow you out of the water. Then, they welcome Licensed Clinical Psychologist Dr. Quincee Gideon to the show. As an advocate and doctor for trauma recovery and co-dependency, Dr. Quincee is adamant about helping people live their full and most meaningful life despite a history of trauma or chronic people-pleasing. She discusses the importance of building trust in yourself and being in your body, her virtual education platform called Traumastery, the Big and Little “T’s” of trauma and why both matter, and how trauma comes in all shapes and sizes. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question on what to do when you notice avoidant tendencies popping up immediately after the first date. 
• Dr. Quincee’s story of trauma work started with trauma. She suffered the traumatic death of a roommate and loved one, and then spent time traveling and working in a war zone in Africa. 
• What is “Big T” and “Little T” trauma? How are they similar, and how do they differently manifest in our body and emotions? 
• Dr. Quincee explains complex PTSD, and discusses how whichever modalities work best for you to help you heal from the trauma, is one to keep doing. 
• Find out more about Dr. Quincee’s Course in Co-Dependency, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Why do trauma survivors tend to be empathic and have a strong intuition? 
• How do those who have suffered trauma begin to trust their own choices and get realigned with their needs and feelings?
• Why slowing down and giving yourself the gift of time is so powerful. 
• What stored trauma in the body can look like.

Tweetables:

•  “Feelings aren’t facts.” - Sherry 
• “My story of trauma starts with trauma.” - Dr. Quincee
• “We've got to move from from fear to faith - Sherry 
• “I think that's why codependent love addicts are so obsessive, because they don't allow themselves the time and go right to obsession.” - Sherry
• “Time and slowing down seem to be so helpful. If you can allow yourself, it's like the biggest gift you can give yourself is time. - Dr. Quincee 
•  “Trauma happens in different sizes and shapes.” - Dr. Quincee 
• “We’ve got to get reacquainted with our bodies instead of being enemies with ou bodies.” - Dr. Quincee 
• “I find that relationships are so powerful in helping us understand our dynamics.” - Dr. Quincee 
• “I would say for trauma survivors, particularly those with complex PTSD, getting close to themselves is the most terrifying thing that could be offered along the way.”  - Dr. Quincee

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Holiday Special: Sign up for Sherry’s Inner Circle for 1/2 off and get 6 months FREE! 

Find Out More: 

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Sherry

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Carla

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Dr. Quincee 

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Woven Trauma Therapy 

Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla get real about the ups and downs of the holidays, and then welcome OBGYN and Media Personality, Dr. Drai. As a highly respected board-certified OBGYN, he is nationally recognized as the go-to expert on women’s health and transgender health issues. Dr. Drai talks about how he got into the field of women’s health, his pride in working with the trans community, and the best protection he recommends against STIs. He also talks with Sheri and Carla about the importance of pleasuring yourself, a few of his favorite toys, and what makes his Feel the Moment line so special and unique. Dr. Drai’s personality and energy are one of a kind, so get ready to both laugh and learn!

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Is Sherry really a Christmas scrooge?!
• Why the holidays can feel extra stressful and difficult if you are also dealing with codependency issues.
• A Love Fix Question on how to stay sane, especially over the holidays, when you have an addict in your family.
• The mission behind Dr. Drai’s Sexual Wellness Company, Feel the Moment, is to make everyone feel accepted, educated, and confident about their pleasure and sex life.
• What are STIs, and how are they different from STDs?
• What are the patterns that Dr. Drai seems to notice from his client’s relationships that we can learn from?
• What was the moment Dr. Drai knew he had to switch from a path of Cardiology to OBGYN?
• How did Dr. Drai use his background in chemistry and working with all types of women, men, and non-binary clients to formulate products like lube and condoms?
• Interested in seeing America’s favorite OBGYN? Ways to connect with Dr. Drai, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What should we know about fertility in our 30’s and 40’s, and what does Dr. Drai think about freezing your eggs?
• What are some ways we can open up communication with our partners about what they like and what you like?
• Why it’s important to pleasure yourself, no matter what age you are. Dr. Drai gives advice for women post-menopause to feel their best.

Tweetables:

• “This is what I’m supposed to do. I’m supposed to bring life into the world.” - Dr. Drai
• “It’s important to invest in yourself because we have a part in all of it. It’s not just blaming your partner. It’s “how are you buying into the story?” because maybe you don't feel confident and you really are afraid about being alone and not finding anybody.” - Carla
• “I definitely believe in getting rid of those negative energies, which means bad relationships, toxic relationships, with whoever it is. Get rid of them so you can have a prosperous life.” - Dr. Drai
• “I don't believe in being a traditional doctor. I definitely believe in doing what you're supposed to do from a higher power.” - Dr. Drai
• “It's all about communication, and you have to know who you are, right? To be comfortable with who you are, and be able to articulate what you want for yourself and your relationship.” - Dr. Drai
• “I think as you get older, it can be a deeper, richer relationship because you're just so much more comfortable.”  - Sherry
• “The more you know your body, the more you're able to tell your partner what makes you feel good.”
• “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away!” - Dr. Drai

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Dr. Drai 

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Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Aleah Ava, Co-Founder of The Royal Path and host of the Addicted to Love Podcast. Through using many tools including trauma-informed emotional healing and her unique method called “emotional recycling”, Aleah supports couples and individuals who face love, sex, and relationship challenges. The three talk about the benefits of Primal Scream Therapy, tantric sex, the difference and similarities of sex addiction vs. love addiction, and the signs of sex addiction.  

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question from a listener tired of being single and feeling the challenge of loving life relationship free. 
• Aleah shares how she got into using tantra as a tool for growth, and how it can help us bring every issue and feeling to the bedroom. 
• How is sex addiction different from love addiction? How is it similar? 
• Interested in attending a retreat with Aleah? Ways to connect on your Royal Path to her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What is Primal Scream Therapy, and how can we use it to get stuck energy and unresolved pain and trauma out of our body? 
• What is a retreat with Aleah like, and how do the particpapants support each other’s wounds and vulnerability? 
• What are some signs that you or someone you know may be a sex addict? 
• What are some other types of somantic work which provides resources and tools for trauma therapy? 
• What are sex addicts typically running from at their core? 
• What are three ways we can get into our body and feel more grounded in and out of the bedroom? 

Tweetables:

• “Be present. Attune to the moment.” - Sherry
• “Sex can be either really, really traumatizing and just reinforce that wound of rejection or not feeling loved. Or, sex can be really nourishing.” - Aleah
• “As a woman, I really have to learn to listen to the tempo of my body.” - Aleah
• “Woman and pleasure is very different than men and pleasure.” - Aleah 
• “Tantra in itself is a way of living. It’s really about surrending yourself to what is, saying yes to the moment, and accepting it.” - Aleah 
• “It (tantra) is about giving up the idea of a goal, and having an understanding of where you want to go in sex together.” - Aleah 
• “It’s about union. The feminine and the masculinine together in the bedroom and forgetting that idea of separation.” - Aleah 
• “I always come back to the heart space. So if I can go in and really listen to it and understand that my body is my compass, it guides me.” - Aleah 
• “It’s all about loving yourself whether you’re in a relationship, single, or going through a breakup. That is where the happiness comes from.” - Carla 
• “Sex addiction or love addiction, it’s really an inability to truly connect.” - Sherry 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

•  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

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Never Have I Ever 

Your Honor 

Dr. Arthur Janov 

John Bradshaw 

Sherry

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Carla

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Aleah Ava: Addicted to Love Podcast | Website | Facebook | LinkedIn 

Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Carla gives a shout-out to her brother-in-law’s impressive baking skills, and Sherry reminisces about the time she baked once. Then, the ladies welcome New York City based Teacher, Certified Relationship Coach, and Writer Jillian Turecki to the show. Over the past 20 years, Jillian has dedicated her life to researching and teaching others how to revolutionize their relationships both with themselves and with their partners. She talks about her holistic approach to the body mind connection, how to get out of just “me” thinking and focus on the needs of your partner, and why falling in love with being single is incredibly important. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

•  A Love Fix Question about how to handle shame in your relationship. 
• How does Jillian help her clients develop a deep connection with themselves first, so they can build a relationship with others? 
• It’s okay to desire love and intimacy and love being single at the same time. 
• The more we work on ourselves, the more we can uncover our own patterns and take accountability for our actions and their results. 
• So often, we are always thinking about “me, me, ME!” in a relationship. How can we get more in tune with the needs of our partner? 
• Want to go deeper in Jillian’s coaching? More info on how to work with her in her Conscious Woman Membership, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, a break-up, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How can you start to adopt the mentality that you and your partner are both 100% responsible, not 50/50? First, by realizing that the blame game never works. 
• Jillians talks about how she recognized and healed her own co-dependency in relationships. 

Tweetables:

• “If your vulnerability is being used against you, that is a major red flag right there.” - Carla 
• “You want a relationship to make you happier. And to enrich your life and to add value to your life not be your life, ultimately.” - Jillian
• “The only way that you can choose better is if you know yourself more.” 
• “We get so scared when we’re in a relationship, and oftentimes we forget that we are not in survival mode that there is another person in the relationship.” - Jillian 
• “If you want to have better and healthier relationships that have more peace and harmony, the first thing you have to do is be accountable for your behavior.” - Jillian 
• “I wish we could be in love with being single as much as people are so in love with having a partner.” - Sherry 
• The only way that we're going to be free, is if we stop blaming others.” - Jillian
• “People have so much armor that they forget the love.” - Jillian

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

•  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Michele Obama opens up about ‘tough times’ that led her and Barack to marriage therapy 

Tony Robbins 

Sherry

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Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Jillian Turecky 

Website | Instagram | Coaching |  

Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question on if you should call out your partner when you see narcissistic tendencies and then welcome NLP Master Practitioner and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach Tiara Thomas. Through her own process of healing and self-discovery, Tiara broke free of the codependent/narcissist cycle and founded the Self Love Method. She talks about how our core beliefs reflect the love we think we deserve, why self-love is so important when it comes to breaking patterns in relationships, and some subtle and overt signs you may be dating a narcissist.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Trader Joe’s people may seem weird on the East Coast, but it’s the standard on the West!
• A Love Fix Question — what should you do when your partner is displaying narcissistic tendencies? 
• Tiara herself dated a narcissist and went through a lot of pain, so she knows firsthand the feeling of being caught in a cycle of feeling hopeless.
• What are NLP and PsychK, and how can they help us get past the level of the conscious mind and into the subconscious mind?
• A large part of the process of getting over a narcissist is realizing that it’s not your fault.
• Should we have empathy for narcissists? Does it come from trauma?
• What are some red flags that pop up when we start dating a narcissist or while we are in the relationship?
• What types of people do narcissists prey on?
• Interested in learning more about Tiara’s Self Love Method? More info on how to link up with her and ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming.
• What if a narcissist says they will get help?
• Narcissistic people are predatory because they are looking for people who give.
• Why are codependents a magnet for narcissists?
• Signs that a narcissist is projecting onto you.

Tweetables:

• “A big part of my process was understanding that it wasn’t my fault that someone was treating me that way, and having compassion for myself and knowledge and understanding.” - Tiara
• “I’m learning to not take things personally or internalize what other people are doing.” - Tiara
• “When you have a high degree of self-worth, you just don’t tolerate when someone treats you a certain way.” - Tiara
• “Have compassion if you ended up in a relationship with a narcissist. Part of that whole dynamic is gaslighting and manipulation.” - Sherry
• “Narcissism is created by trauma. And so it's okay to have compassion for someone who is operating solely from a place of trauma.” - Tiara
• “ That’s the whole narcissist, codependent dance. They're magnets for each other, because of the codependent giver and people pleaser, and the narcissist who will take.” - Sherry
• “When you see a red flag, you don't minimize it, excuse it, you know, or dismiss it, you push into it, and you put in a boundary or you, you know, called somebody out on that behavior.” - Tiara 
• “They have their own abandonment issues. So they find other people that have abandonment issues, but they just express it differently than the codependent.” - Sherry 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

•  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Do you trust your gut? Even more, do you know the difference between your intuition and what may be a trauma response or someone else’s version of the truth? This week, Sherry and Carla welcome Yasmin Ibrahim, Life and Business Intuitive and founder of the Soul School. Yasmin shares a few key tools for self-healing and ways we can access our intuition. She talks with Sherry and Carla about why we tend to shut off our inner voice, and how to learn to say “no” with confidence, strength, and kindness. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question: Are you in denial and staying with someone because you are afraid to be alone? 
• What does a “gut feeling” usually feel like, and what happens when we ignore it? 
• Why do empaths and sensitive people tend to fall for those with narcissistic traits? 
• How can we start to recognize our gut feelings, and what is being fed to us by society and those around us? 
• Interested in learning more about Yasmin’s Soul School? More info on how to link up with her and ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How can a person learn to say no in dating without feeling like they are missing the opportunity of a lifetime? 
• How to say no but still come across as direct and kind. 
• How do you know your intuitive nature or if it’s a trauma response? 
• Being present in your body is the only way to know what you really need. 
• Can you think of a time your intuition was trying to tell you something?  

Tweetables:

•  “The more you concentrate on what you want, the more you are going to get it.” - Yasmin 
• “The more direct you can be, the more grounded and intuitive you are.”                - Carla 
• “ The universe wants you to be your best self.” - Yasmin 
• The whole codependent way of thinking is I’m going to be fixed or fix others. It’s more a recovery. - Carla
• “If you are told growing up what your feelings are supposed to be, you don’t know your feelings and then you start second-guessing.” - Sherry
• “It’s not our job to fix someone else.” - Sherry

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Become a Member - Codependency Special (2020) - Wake Up Recovery  - $1 trial membership

•  Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group 

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Yasmin Ibrahim 

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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

At the top of the show, Sherry and Carla talk about the different forms that meditation can come in, and then welcome Licensed Professional Counselor and Relationship Expert Debra Fileta. Debra is also the host of the Love + Relationships podcast, and author of many popular books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, and Are You Really Okay? She discusses focusing on your own health to make your relationship better, a healthy way to move on from a toxic person, and the power of healing in a group or community.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• How do Sherry and Carla each meditate, and in what ways can you incorporate mindfulness into your life?
• A Love Fix question about what to do when your ex moves on and it makes you jealous.
• More about the Love Fix Program, set to launch soon!
• Debra shares her tips from working with hundreds of people on taking care of yourself from a holistic standpoint, which will help us attract another healthy person.
• If you are healthy, can you still attract a toxic person?
• Interested in connecting with Debra for some True Love dating advice? More info on how to link up with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• When we focus more on our own health, our relationships naturally benefit.
• Debra’s advice for those who tend to overgive in a relationship.
• Debra describes how the “better than average” effect can lead us to assume we are actually doing better than we really are.
• How can groups and finding a community help us?
• Debra’s work asks the reader to do an audit of themselves and do regular “check-ups”.

Tweetables:

• “The process of becoming healthy is also learning to identify toxicity.” - Debra
• “I'm thinking, what if we were to change the narrative and say, counseling is like going to the gym to work out your muscles? You would never shame someone for going to the gym, you would High Five them!” - Debra
• “When you begin to get healthy, it changes the dynamic of the relationship, even if that means I begin to set more boundaries.” - Debra
• “The difference between a healthy person and an unhealthy person is that a healthy person will recognize a crappy person much faster than an unhealthy person.” - Debra

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

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Carla

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Debra Fileta

Website | Books|Love and Relationships Podcast | Instagram 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.