The Love Fix

Carla and Sherry kick off the show sharing their dream places to travel, along with a shout out to all the international listeners. They then take a Love Fix question from someone who is losing their friends and family because they decided to take back a toxic ex, and then they welcome Arielle Schwartz, Ph.D. and licensed clinical psychologist, EMDR therapy consultant, author, and somatic psychotherapist. Arielle talks about her Post Traumatic Growth guidebook and defines what post-traumatic growth is. She talks about how the journey of trauma recovery is an awakening of the spiritual heart, and how trauma can give us an opportunity to grow and become even stronger.

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• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Dr. Arielle Schwartz

Website | Books | Facebook

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What is post-traumatic growth?
• What does it look like in someone's healing when they have had the right type of support vs. they still need help with getting the tools to help?
• How can post-traumatic growth change the way we act in relationships, both with ourselves and the people around us?
• Resilience is actually a sign that we have gotten the right support.
• How can love and dating change after we have grown from trauma and gotten to know and trust ourselves a little bit better?
• Gain access to Arielle's guidebook, the Post Traumatic Growth Guidebook, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How to take the first step in healing and growing from trauma.

Sherry and Carla start off with some favorite recipes, and Carla promises Sherry a homemade meal whenever she comes to visit. They then welcome Sarah Peyton, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication, Constellation facilitator and neuroscience educator, and author of Your Resonant Self Workbook. Sarah travels the world to help people learn how to use language and self-compassion to heal trauma, and how to use self-guided meditations and exercise to engage the brain's capacity for healing. Sarah talks about how disconnection from our primary caregivers can set the stage for disorganized attachment, and how stress can change our attachment style. Towards the end of the episode, Sarah shares real-life examples of what gentle self-compassion can look and sound like.

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• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Sarah Peyton

Your Resonant Self | Facebook | YouTube

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question - how do I get my boyfriend to listen to me without saying that I'm overreacting?
• Research shows that more than 50% of people in the United States are securely attached - so where are they?
• We can move from secure to anxious or avoidant if stressed and stuck in a consistent trauma response.
• What are some of the greatest gifts that come when you are in a relationship where you can be vulnerable and open? What are some challenges that may pop up on the road to getting there?
• What makes us most resilient to stress is self warmth and self-accompaniment.
• What happens to our brain when we give ourselves compassion and when we get compassion from others?
• Gain access to Sarah's workbook, Your Resonant Self, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• Sarah shares an interesting fact about traumatic and disorganized attachment starting from how our primary caregivers reacted to our emotions.
• Yes, people who are securely attached can find themselves in disorganized traumatic and violent situations, even with the best of intentions.

Are you an extrovert, introvert, or somewhere in between? Carla and Sherry start this week talking about which one they are, and then take a Love Fix question staying friends with an ex. Then, they welcome Kristen Boice, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private counseling practice in Indiana, and host of the Close the Chapter Podcast. Kristen talks about the healing tool of EMDR and why it's so successful, what brainstopping is and how it's different from EMDR, and how EMDR can be a great resource for someone dealing with attachment and abandonment issues. Carla also shares her personal story with EMDR and how it helped her with deep trauma work.

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Get 1:1 Dating & Relationship Coaching
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Kristen D. Boice

Close The Chapter | Website | Instagram | Facebook

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Carla's version of coffee is hanging out with people! Sherry can play like an extrovert, but her social battery can drain energy fast.
• A Love Fix Question of the Day from a listener who may need to say goodbye to a guy friend she used to date.
• One of the biggest indicators of an avoidant or anxious attachment is someone who feels the need to stay connected with a ton of their exes.
• What is EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), and who may need it? How is it different from Brainspotting?
• How EMDR works with both hemispheres of the brain and connects our thoughts and feelings in a way that can release stuck energy from our nervous system.
• How can EMDR help someone dealing with codependency, fear of abandonment, and attachment issues?
• Find out how to listen to Kristen's podcast, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Abandonment issues and trauma can go as far back as in-utero and birth.
• Why would someone still do trauma work even when they are in a secure relationship?
• Dating can trigger fear, shame, and grief and stir up things even though we worked through it.
• There are more trauma responses than you may have heard of beyond flight or fight!

Carla and Sherry share hilarious Zoom fails and the unexpected silver linings from working online over the last two years. Then, they take a Love Fix question from a friend who thinks it's time for her friend to get married. What are the red flags in this question and in this situation, and is marriage as important as finding the right life partner? Then, they welcome Lauren Zoeller, CTA certified relationship coach, motivational speaker, and podcast host. She has achieved overwhelming success in helping high performing, female executives attract a dream relationship and life they crave. She is the creator of The Aligned Love Experience™, a cutting edge coaching program that teaches women how to attract love and Balanced Boss Academy™, a learning platform that teaches online coaches how to build and scale a business with heart. Lauren talks about how she incorporates ventral vagal work into her coaching, how trauma can affect everyone differently, and how to release toxic energy and sit with your biggest emotions.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Lauren talks about somatic experiencing and how she uses it to coach her clients through trauma and the early childhood experiences that keep them stuck in toxic relationships.
• Do people who keep picking emotionally unavailable partners have a more anxious or avoidant attachment style?
• The importance of learning how to sit with the big emotions so that you can first have a healthy relationship with yourself.
• Why you need to stop fooling yourself- and others- into thinking that you've got it all together.
• Find out how to connect with Lauren, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Toxic people and narcissists are addicted to the manipulation that fills their self-worth cup.
• Two ways to calm yourself in the interactions leading up and on a first date.
• Mastering the ventral vagal state in your nervous system allows you to respond the way you really want to in any situation.
• There's no one traumatic event that is more severe than another, and every brain responds to trauma in a different way.
• How to know if therapy, psychotherapy, or coaching is what you need now.

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Lauren Zoeller

Website | Instagram | Facebook

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Carla's big sister Stephanie jumps on at the top of the show, to give the good 'ole sister stamp of approval to The Love Fix. Then, Sherry and Carla take a Love Fix question from someone who is married, but things don't feel like they are improving, especially in therapy. Then, they welcome Brynn Cicippio, LMFT and recovery specialist. Brynn is the founder and owner of BCA Therapy, a group private practice that sees Pennsylvania clients and residents in both in-person and telehealth. Brynn talks about how she got into supporting individuals, couples, and families to recover from the trauma left after an affair, addiction, and narcissistic abuse. She talks with Carla and Sherry about how to learn to trust your gut, what true self-care looks like, and how to cut off a narcissistic of what she calls their "narcissistic supply".

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Brynn talks about her life as a former probation and parole officer, and how that set her on a course to be interested in working with the topics of betrayal, infidelity, narcissistic abuse, and toxic relationships.
• How can being with a narcissist actually change someone's attachment style?
• Yes, narcissists can know how to model empathy and pro-social behaviors instead of actually feeling those things. What are some red flags to look out for?
• Find out how to https://bcatherapy.com/, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• A lot of individuals who have experienced narcissistic abuse use alcohol and drugs as a coping skill in response.
• What does love bombing look like in a longer relationship?
• When it's necessary to interact with a narcissist, less is better. Make your meeting very brief, clear, and factual.
• Brynn describes what she calls "a narcissistic supply" where the narcissist needs validation from even more than one outside source, often resulting in many affairs.
• The three types of self-care talking to yourself with love and compassion.
• Bubble baths and paying your bills are great for self-care, but you really have to first look at how you are talking to yourself. If you are tearing yourself down, the nice things won't mean anything.

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Brynn Cicippio

Website | Instagram | Facebook

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla first talk about the importance of discernment when it comes to hiring the right coach or therapist and a few of the differences between therapists and coaches, especially when it comes to trauma work. They then welcome MIchelle Ferris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist. Michelle loves helping codependent people create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts. She talks about how to begin to trust your intuition as a codependent, narcissistic rage, and walks Sherry and Carla through a live round of tapping to give an example of a powerful tool that can help dissolve fear and anxiety.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Love Fix Question of the Day - What if you have been in toxic relationships in the past and now have a hard time trusting your gut?
• Until you release the old stuff and work on your trauma, it's hard to bring in anything healthy.
• How Michelle defines recovery, and how to begin learning self-trust and building up relationships built on trust.
• If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough. When we can really look at our relationship with ourselves, that's when things start to change.
• Find out how to connect with Michelle, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Michelle talks about the many forms that support can come in, including coaches, therapists, solid friends, and 12 Step Programs.
• How can we better learn to trust our intuition?
• How do our fears sometimes get in the way of us seeing the reality of our experiences in living in our truth?
• How is narcissistic rage different from someone just getting mad?

Tweetables:

• "You can be a therapist, but if you haven't had trauma training you really shouldn't be saying that you're doing trauma therapy." - Sherry
• "You really need to have some background in trauma therapy to say that you work in trauma." - Sherry
• "Recovery is the process of unlearning the behaviors in childhood that really hurt us and to really learn how to self-trust and build relationships that work on all the skills that go along with that."- Michelle
• "If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough, because it's going to be more intoxicating to look for the answer outside yourself." - Michelle
• "When we can really look at how we are in the relationship with ourselves, that's when things start to change." - Michelle
• "The narcissistic rage is 'I'm not getting what I want, so I'm going to hurt you in any way I can so that I can avoid my own behavior.'" - Michelle
• "The narcissist is going to make themselves right, so they don't have to do the work." - Michelle

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Michelle Farris: Website| Facebook | YouTube

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

International Coaching Federation

Al-Anon

CoDA

Carla and Sherry kick off this week talking about birth control and then take a Love Fix Question on how to fall in love with reality instead of just the fantasy when you are struggling with co-dependnecy. They then welcome the mother and daughter duo Candace Burch and Jess Suchan to talk about hormone health, testing your hormones, and why it's important to know and track your cycle. Candace and Jess also discuss how our relationships affect our hormones, and why there may even be a best time in the month to use (or not use!) dating apps.

Candace is a Hormone Health Educator with a Masters in Health Education and over 25 years of experience in the field. In 2017 she founded Your Hormone Balance as a 1:1 consulting practice and is now joined by her two daughters Ryan and Jess. Together, they help women around the world achieve better health and understand their bodies better.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question about co-dependency and learning to fall in love with reality.
• How can hormone imbalance negatively affect a person's mood and relationship?
• How are hormones a fundamental cornerstone of love and sex?
• Why are younger women experiencing shifts and fluctuations that disrupt their ovulation cycles?
• Candace and Jess discuss the different cycles of our menstruation, and how we can set ourselves up for success by matching the energy levels and building in time to rest.
• Find out how to work with Candace and Jess to test and rebalance your hormones, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How can our stress hormones such as cortisol affect how we relate to our partners? How can we support our adrenals?
• Why eating nutrient-dense foods is so important for hormone health.

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• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Work With Carla

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Candace Burch

Website | Testing and Rebalancing - use code LOVEFIX for $50 off any package

Jess Suchan

Website | Instagram

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

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Aviva Romm

Women Talking Frankly podcast

Sherry and Carla bond over aligned nervous systems, and take a Love Fix question about how to get back into the dating scene after losing a partner. Then they welcome professional Matchmaker, Talia Goldstein, who has found matches for 100's high-level clients including top executives and celebrities through her company Three Day Rule. Talia talks us through how she found her path on pretty much the coolest job ever as a matchmaker and walks us through the process of how it works. She talks about the broad range that Three Day Rule services, helping clients of all types from ages 21 to 80 who are looking for love.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Talia gives the lowdown on how she became a matchmaker after a successful career in Hollywood. After her matchmaking grew to parties with hundreds of attendees, she knew she was on to something.
• How does Three Day Rule find and vet its network of busy professionals, all looking for life?
• Find out how to join the matchmaking pool or work with Talia directly, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What are the compatibility factors that Talia and her team look for when matchmaking?
• Talia shares some client success stories, including one perfect example of rejection actually being redirection.
• What are some of the coolest parts of being a matchmaker?
• Talia shares how she "matched" herself with her current husband, and why she is so happy that she stuck around after a few mediocre dates.

• Talia talks about the trends that she is seeing a shift in those looking for love, including men and women being more open to long-distance due to working remotely.

Tweetables:

• "We are a great example of what works." - Sherry
• "We feel like the sky is the limit and your match can be anywhere." - Talia
• "Are your rules making you love avoidant?" - Sherry
• "A big part of the process is just trusting the process." - Talia
• "It's so much easier for us to match you than for you to match yourself online." - Talia
• "If you are remotely attracted to them and they seem like a nice person, go out again." - Talia
• "Rejection is redirection." - Carla

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

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Talia Goldstein

Three Day Rule | Website | Instagram

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Carla and Sherry start the episode talking about how much is too much when sharing vulnerable parts of your life on social media, and then take a Love Fix question on discerning what trauma is from the past or present in a relationship. They then welcome clinician, consultant, author, and internationally-recognized speaker Deb Dana, LCSW. Deb talks about the polyvagal theory and how it informs her work with trauma survivors, how we all have a biological need for co-regulation, and the importance of therapists being anchored in their own regulation before working with clients.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• How can oversharing be a trauma response?
• Love Fix Question: How do you tell the difference between past trauma and current trauma in your relationship?
• Deb explains what the polyvagal theory is, and how neuroception can play out in a relationship.
• Learn more about Deb's Rhythm of Regulation courses, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• The different ways our nervous system responds to how safe we feel, why it's important to regulate our nervous system.
• What happens when we interact with people and situations that make us feel unsafe?
• What happens to the nervous system with a codependent?
• How does early trauma show up in the polyvagal system, and is there hope for someone to learn how to self-regulate?
• How to support the safety of secure attachments.

Tweetables:

• "If you haven't resolved early trauma, then you probably are bringing old trauma into the relationship." — Sherry
• "I'm attempting to navigate the world of dating, finding a partner, and staying in a relationship, and what state I'm in is going to determine how I'm experiencing that moment in time." — Deb
• "The first rule of therapy is the therapist has to be anchored in that place of regulation." — Deb
• "These small moments add up. So notice the small moments." — Deb
• "Trauma survivors are exquisitely attuned to picking up those cues from other nervous systems." — Deb
• "I want to honor the way neuroception has acted in the beginning and continues to act." — Deb

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp

Deb Dana

Rhythm of Regulation | Anchored

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Brené Brown

Carla gets in trouble for coming to California and not seeing Sherry, and then the two talk about when they will finally see each other after a year of working together. Then, they take a Love Fix Question from a listener that can't seem to get past the first date, and welcome Dr. Christie Kederian, a nationally renowned relationship expert who specializes in helping clients create lives they love and find the love they deserve. Dr. Christie talks about her research-backed method for finding if the relationship has potential after 10 dates, if people can really have long-distance relationships, and why we should focus on compatibility over convenience.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question — I'm so single and can't seem to get past the first date. What am I doing wrong?
• Dr. Christie explains her perspective on dating and why the way we do it now creates burnout and dating fatigue!
• The three things that have nothing to do with compatibility.
• Why do men tend to use dating as their personal therapy, when they are fresh back on the market?
• What is the 10 Day to Soulmate Roadmap that Dr. Christie created, and how does it give a research-backed blueprint to measure how your relationship is progressing?
• Learn more about Dr. Christie's free training, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How can we be on the lookout for true emotional intimacy vs. love-bombing and a false sense of physical intimacy?
• How soon is it okay for a man to be back on the dating scene and how can you tell if someone is not emotionally available?

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
• Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership
• Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sherry

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Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp

Dr. Christie

Website | Instagram | Coaching | Twitter

Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

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