The Love Fix

Do you say hi to your neighbors? Sherry and Carla start the episode talking about whether or not they say hi to strangers while out on a stroll, and take a Love Fix question from a listener whose partner can't stop bringing up their ex. They then welcome Laura Charanza, relationship expert and narcissistic abuse survivor. Laura is also the author of Ugly Love: A Survivor's Story of Narcissistic Abuse. Laura talks about her mission to help men and women navigate toxic relationships, and how it is possible to come out on the other side better than ever.

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Laura Charanza

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Laura shares her own story of surviving a relationship with a narcissist.
• What are the red flags both in others and ourselves that we can look for?
• What is the very step of someone as they seek to break away from a toxic relationship?
• Why finding a professional to help you wake up and become conscious about your patterns is critical.
• If you are worrying about being a narcissist, chances are you aren't.
• How do narcissists move in relationships compared to others?
• Check out Laura's book Ugly Love, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Women often want to find love so badly that they don't listen to their gut and fall prey to toxic relationships.
• Why it's important to become aware of your own triggers and trauma response.
• Some good signs that a relationship is healthy and based on a solid foundation.
• According to research, most people out in the dating world want a partner who is going to therapy.

Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.

Sherry and Carla start the show with a first, talking about Khloe Kardashian and her continued relationship with Tristan Thompson, along with what we can take away from their patterns. They take a Love Fix question from a listener who is dating someone who has a drinking issue that has gotten worse as the relationship has gone on, and doesn't know what to do next. Then, they welcome Johanna Lynn, Founder of the Family Imprint Institute, an International Private Practice. Johanna talks about how our generational past and imprints continue to influence us, and how epigenetics can release the past and break patterns.

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Joanna Lynn

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Why did Johanna start the Family Imprint Institute?
• How does our family imprint on us and how can we pass down generational trauma?
• Johanna talks about why it's so important to do the trauma work on both a physical and emotional level.
• The ways that our subconscious influences us to pick out certain partners for relationships, and why we tend to repeat patterns.
• The "click" we feel often has to do with what feels familiar in our family of origin.
• Check out Johanna's Services and Online Sessions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Sometimes you can be the first generation to stop a pattern that has been going on for decades.
• The more emotions we keep inside, the harder it is on our whole body system.
• What are integrative body psychotherapy and epigenetics?
• How can a couple deepen their relationship and intimacy through understanding generational trauma and their family tree?

Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.

Sherry and Carla kick off the week with a Love Fix question from a listener who is not feeling totally heard or listened to in their relationship. They then welcome Katelyn Baxter-Musser, LCSW in private practice whose areas of expertise include the treatment of trauma, PTSD, depression, anxiety, grief, intimate partner violence and relationship issues. Katelyn talks about what physical abuse and domestic violence can look like, how to begin to get help, and she shares some shocking statistics showing that abuse does not dscriminate.

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Katelyn Baxter-Musser

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Safety planning involves a couple of key components. It has to be victim centered and also personalized.
• Up to 10 million people each year can experience intimate partner violence.
• What constitutes domestic violence and physical abuse?
• Physical Abuse does not discriminate against any race, ethnicity, social class, etc. Katelyn shares some shocking statistics on abuse.
• What are some red flags that can indicate abuse or violence?
• Abuse is not always predictable.
• Check out Katelyn'sTrainings and Resources, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Is there a certain timeline of when a relationship starts to become physically abusive or is it really just dependent on the perpetrator and the victim?
• How trauma bonding and being addicted to the peptides of love can be contributing factors that keep people stuck.
• Katelyn gives her thoughts on how addiction and narcissism can play a role in abuse, but do not excuse it.
• The first step of getting help is reaching out for support. That hopefully means a trained mental health professional, but even just one person in your world can be a first step.

Sherry and Carla kick off the show talking about how pizza can be used in negotiation, and take a Love Fix Question from a listener who keeps attracting unavailable men, even though she doesn't feel she has father issues. They then welcome in Kyle Benson, a self proclaimed relationship nerd who provides practical research-based tools to build long-lasting and intimate relationships. Kyle explores how you can stop settling for less and how to get over the illusion that you can fix, control, or manipulate someone.

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Kyle Benson

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What really blocks us from seeing our role in our relationships and the patterns of the partners we pick?
• It takes vulnerability to look at the role we play in our relationships.
• It starts with the relationship you have with yourself.
• What if the partner doesn't see the role they play?
• Check out Kyle's Intimacy Questions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What are some things to look for when deciding if this partnership can be long term?
• Kyle explains how couples can get stuck in a pattern of not being emotionally open and vulnerable with each other. It's about working through escalation to get to that softer place.
• Some ways to tell if therapy is working, and how to bring it up with your therapist if you feel as though it's not.

Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about strip clubs and then take a Love Fix Question on how to lessen the tension in a relationship, which leads to a conversation on the need for mental health more than ever since the pandemic. They then welcome Alina Frank and Craig Weiner, Directors of the EFT Tapping Institute. These life and business partners talk about what EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is, how to begin using it as a tool in your life, and how it can help us get out of toxic relationships and heal from trauma.

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Alina Frank and Craig Weiner

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What exactly is EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique?
• How is EFT different from other therapy or trauma healing techniques?
• Alina and Craig talk about how they discovered EFT and the ways it has developed over the years.
• Some signs you are in a toxic relationship.
• Toxic relationships also can result in long-term health effects such as migraines or digestive disorders.
• Join the tapping community with Craig and Alina, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What are the steps that someone might take if they really need to leave a toxic situation, and how can EFT provide a powerful resource?
• EFT can help us learn to accept ourselves and notice the patterns that stem from our trauma. It provides full ownership over our own choices which makes a person feel empowered and less codependent.
• Toxicity usually has a history of where it came from.
• Alina and Craig name some green flags, along with a four-letter word synonymous with a good relationship.

Sherry and Carla talk about their first jobs and other career paths they went on before meeting each other, and how it helps them out today. They take a Love Fix question on getting out of a toxic relationship, even if your family and friends don't recognize the need to leave, and then welcome Lisa Sonni. Lisa is a Certified Life and Relationship Coach, who helps clients of all genders and walks of life. Lisa herself is a survivor of domestic assault and narcissistic abuse, and she launched the Stronger Than Before Coaching Practice in 2011. Lisa talks with Sherry and Carla about what trauma bonding is, how it is similar and different to love addiction, and a few crucial tools to start the process of leaving a trauma-bonded relationship.

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Lisa Sonni

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question - I've been dating someone for 2.5 years and I feel like it's getting toxic! My friends and family don't see it though, and I feel too bad to break up. Should I make this relationship work?
• What is trauma bonding?
• How is trauma bonding part of narcissistic abuse?
• Gain access to Lisa Sonni's Trauma Bond Recovery Workbook, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• It's not just co-dependents that can fall from a trauma-bonded relationship.
• Trauma bonding feels like love but creates an unhealthy attachment between a victim and abuser.
• What does it take to create a trauma bond?
• Why is no contact and taking the relationship off the table important when dealing with a trauma bond?
• Trauma bonds aren't just for romantic relationships but can be with family members as well.
• Narcissists may not mean to hurt you, but they often aren't even aware of their actions or don't care about how it affects someone else.
• How long does it take somebody typically to get out of a trauma bond?
• The difference between a toxic and abusive relationship: intention.

It's all about codependency this week as Carla and Sherry start the episode with a Love Fix question about how to grow even further in your relationship as you are in codependency recovery and in therapy. They then welcome Nancy L. Johnson, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed substance abuse treatment practitioner in private practice in Lexington, VA. Nancy gives some sage insight from her over 44 years of clinical experience on bringing awareness to our patterns, and why she prefers to look at codependent behaviors on a continuum. Nancy also talks about self-recovery, self-attunement, and how we can begin looking internally for validation.

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Nancy Johnston

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• There are red flags, and it's important to explore them and follow your gut, but don't look for them, because you can always find a red flag.
• Nancy discusses how we can differentiate between codependency in general and how it relates to someone who's an addict or alcoholic.
• Why Nancy defines codependency itself as a loss of self in someone else.
• Gain access to Nancy's book Disentangle and her events, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• Codependency is about being externally focused and the core recovery dynamic is becoming aware of the external focus and bringing it back to the self.
• How is self-recovery different from self-care?
• Nancy describes some behaviors that fall under a codependency continuum.
• Nancy discusses Parts Work and Internal Family Systems and how they can help us bring awareness to different parts of ourselves and how we can feel multiple ways about a situation.

Carla finds out she is a lifestyle guru during a Google search, and she and Sherry take a Love Fix question on recognizing true manipulation versus trendy buzzwords. They then welcome Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, a Psychotherapist in anxiety, gaslighting, narcissistic abuse, and ADHD. She is also the author of six books, one workbook, and a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She talks about the key factors that can make someone susceptible to being gaslighted, what truly defines gaslighting, and how to disengage and get out if you are in a relationship with a gaslighter. Stephanie also gives us a glimpse into her new book, Healing from Toxic Relationships.

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Carla

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Dr. Stephanie Sarkis

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• What is gaslighting in relationships, and how did we get to a 1944 movie to it being used so much in popular culture now?
• Everyone is susceptible to being gaslit, even if you've had a history of healthy relationships.
• We are extra susceptible to falling prey to a gaslighter if we have a physical or mental issue, even ADHD.
• Word weaseling is picking apart words and using semantics so that the attention gets deflected and the partner becomes distracted, confused, and focused on something else rather than the gaslighter.
• People that are true sociopath narcissists can get a dopamine boost from controlling people.
• Ego dystonic means that what you're doing and what your beliefs are, are not mixing. Ego syntonic behavior is when you think that you're fine, but everyone else has the problem.
• Gain access to Dr. Stephanie's new book Healing from Toxic Relationships, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What can someone do when you are in a trauma response?
• Your brain goes to whichever option it thinks is the one that's most unlikely to ensure your survival, so don't beat yourself up over your trauma response.
• What can we learn from how our partner treats the waiter or someone they see as lower than them?
• How can you fully break away from the never-ending loop of trauma and get back together?

Carla and Sherry first start out with some eyebrow tips if you want to look like Brooke Shields, and then take a Love Fix question from someone struggling with self-love at certain times during arguments in their relationship. They then welcome Dr. Margaret Paul, best-selling author, relationship expert, and co-creator of the powerful inner bonding self-healing process. Dr. Margaret first talks about the process of inner bonding, and how it can help co-dependents learn to love themselves and rely on their own validation and acceptance. She explains how what we eat affects us on a large scale, and why cutting out junk food can help us eliminate junk thoughts and actions.

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Dr. Margaret Paul

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• Self-love is not a one-stop destination, but a constant journey.
• Dr. Margaret shares her own self-love journey and how she worked so hard to get to the point where she treats her body with respect and nurturing. She is now 82 and has amazing energy, health, and vitality!
• When you eat junk food, you have junk thoughts. Dr. Margaret talks about the many mental and emotional benefits that come with eating clean and how food affects our mood.
• Not sure what to do in your relationship? Unless you are in an abusive or harmful relationship, Dr. Margaret recommends hanging in there until you are responsible for yourself and making yourself happy.
• Gain access to Dr. Margaret's Inner Bonding book that has sold millions, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• What is the process of inner bonding and why is it important for everyone, especially co-dependents?
• Many times, we feel like if we take care of ourselves, people won't love us because we aren't giving to them.
• What does self-abandonment look like? Dr. Margaret shows four examples of how we tend to abandon our needs.

Carla and Sherry first talk about how we can use Taylor Swift songs to recognize attachment styles, and they take a Love Fix question on how to get back in the dating scene after a toxic relationship. They then welcome Ronia Fraser, internationally certified and multi-award winning Trauma Recovery Coach, clinical hypnotherapist, and one of the leading experts in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery. Ronia talks about how to start the process of becoming unstuck from being in a loop of codependency in a toxic relationship, why no contact is crucial for healing, and the difference between natural courting and love bombing.

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Carla

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Ronia Fraser

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Today's episode is sponsored by Carla's book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry's book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

What You'll Hear In This Episode:

• How did Ronia heal from her own experience in a toxic relationship with a narcissist?
• Why is it so hard for even smart and successful people to leave toxic and abusive relationships?
• For Ronia to work with someone, they must be in no contact in their relationship.
• Gain access to Ronia's e-book How to Heal From Narcissistic Abuse, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.
• How can a toxic relationship erode someone's identity?
• How do we become physically addicted to love?
• Not every narcissist loves bombs!
• No contact is literally the most important rule for recovery because what we need to do is really create a safe space to allow for the healing to happen.
• When you really cut off the contact with an abuser, you're cutting off your drug.
• What is the difference between normal courting and love bombing?