The Love Fix

Carla and Sherry start the show revealing they both have the same love language, words of affirmation. They then take a Love Fix question on what to do if you are rolling into “cuffing” season alone, and then welcome Dr. Diane Poole Heller to the show. Diane is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and expert in the field of attachment theory and trauma resolution. She talks with Sherry and Carla about what attachment style we are born with and how trauma can affect it, along with some hope for people looking to heal their attachment wounds. They discuss how to set healthy boundaries while still being available to love, some red flags to look for in dating or relationships, and how the different attachment styles need to feel stable and secure. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• What is your love language? For both Sherry and Carla, it’s words of affirmation. 
• Love Fix Question of the Day - I’ve dated all summer long and still have no one! What should I do? 
• What is cuffing season? 
• Dr. Diane’s signature series called DARe (Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience) helps facilitate more fulfilling adult relationships.
• Diane describes the different attachment styles and how they show up in our adult relationship patterns. 
• If someone has insecure or avoidant attachment, can they be healed? 
• What should you know if you are dating a different attachment style than yourself? 
• Check out Diane’s Free Attachment Quiz, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence. 
• How can trauma impact our secure attachment?
• What does ambivalent attachment style look like and how can a partner help when they shut down or become emotionally exhausted? 
• What are the ways to move through secure attachment and self regulate on your own if you aren’t in a relationship? 
• Avoidants want connection like everyone else, but it’s buried within neglect. 
• What can we do to cement our attachment bonds? 

Tweetables:

• “We need to learn to support each other in our insecure attachment. As we do, it keeps moving us to trusting the relationship back to secure attachment.” - Diane 
• “It’s very important to resonate on each other’s level and talk in each other’s language.” - Sherry 
• “Stay open for caring behaviors where they happen, no matter where they come from.” - Diane 
• “We always attract what we know.” - Sherry
• “If you want to cement your relationship, just be a regulating force in your partner's life.” - Diane 

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• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Diane Poole Heller  

Website | Books | Facebook | Columbine: Surviving the Trauma 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sherry and Carla start this week with the age old question - bikini or one piece? Then, they take a Love Fix question on if emotionally available men really exist before welcoming Confidence Therapist, Dating Strategist, and Kimmy Seltzer to the show. Kimmy is also the host of The Charisma Quotient podcast, and her signature formula for helping her clients feel confident leads to them radiating energy and self love from the outside in. Kimmy shares her own story from going frumpy to fabulous in her own life, and the red dress that changed it all. She gives her advice for building confidence and what men really notice about a woman on a date. She gives her advice for creating a foolproof “dating prep plan”, stepping into feminine energy, and showing the world that your cab light is turned on and you are ready for love! 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Bikini, Tankini, or One-Piece? Sherry and Carla both share how they are showing up this summer at the beach. 
• A Love Fix Question - are emotionally available men out there? How does one find one? 
• Kimmy defines confidence as having experience, so of course we aren’t confident in dating if we don’t do it often enough. 
• What exactly is a Confidence Makeover, and how can the way we dress and show up in the world affect our inner confidence? 
• Kimmy works from the outside in, helping her clients discover styles that flatter their figure and make them feel the best versions of themselves.
• How can you raise your style intelligence? 
• When we are in our feminine energy, we are able to receive the gifts of the universe, and the Law of Attraction is kicked into motion. 
• Both men and women have a responsibility to be approachable. When you are playful and open, people are more naturally drawn your way. 
• Looking for that push to get to the next level of self love? Kimmy shares resources to work with her, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• Need to learn how to flirt? Kimmy can help you with her Flirt Academy.  Even if you aren’t interested in dating, showing up in the world with confidence and curiosity is great for friendships and business. 
• Create a date prep plan for yourself, where you focus on getting into your best energy through all the senses. 

Tweetables:

•  “What you repress will be expressed.” - Sherry 
• “Sometimes when you shift your clothes and body language, it’s what actually helps the inside grow.” - Kimmy 
• “Instead of working from the inside out, I work from the outside in.” - Kimmy 
• “Create a dating prep plan.” - Kimmy 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

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Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Kimmy Seltzer 

Ask Kimmy | Website | YouTube |Instagram  | Podcast 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Who doesn’t love strawberries in summertime? Carla and Sherry start off the show sharing their strong feelings over this fruit, and then encourage listeners to check out their new waitlist-only Love Fix Coaching Program.  Then they answer the Love Fix question- is there any way for an anxious-avoidant attachment style listener to become secure? Sherry shares an exercise anyone can do to focus deeply on their circle of love and practice receiving love.  Then, they welcome Amy Fiedler, Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Holistic Life Coach and Reiki Master Practitioner.  Amy shares insights into the trauma and childhood experiences that are often behind people pleasing, how to avoid getting into an unhealthy relationship with- or as- a people pleaser, and how to share all of yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Codependency starts in childhood, but that doesn’t mean it has to ruin your adult life and relationships. 
• People pleasing habits form when we try to overcome someone’s rejection by gaining their approval. 
• Knowing that you are enough is key to not worrying about pleasing others. 
• Do you know how to say no? That is the number one symptom of people pleasing. 
• Amy outlines the first step to un-doing the people pleasing- make your voice the loudest voice in your head.
• Stress and relationship wounds have to be healed before we can own our sense of self. 
• Inner child work can get difficult, but you don’t have to do the work alone. 
• Amy’s trauma certification helps her clients work through their fight or flight reactions during healing. 
• How to connect and work with Amy  either in a group or 1:1, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• People pleasing in professional settings is real, and have to be overcome with clearly defined boundaries. 
• What is the biggest hurdle in a relationship with a people pleaser?
• You are allowed to have a difference of opinion from your partner. 
• Other people’s insecurities are their issue, not yours.  Own every part of your badass self!
• Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you. 
• Be yourself so that someone can fall in love with all of you. 

Tweetables:

• “In order to have an intimate relationship, you’ve got to be intimate with yourself.”- Sherry 
• “If you’re seeking someone’s approval, then you’ve felt their rejection on some level.” -Amy
• “If you don’t even know what your preferences are, how can you possibly know what’s important to you in a relationship?” -Sherry
• “Playing small will only attract people who aren’t right for you.” -Amy

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Amy Fiedler

Website | Facebook | Instagram | Books 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good.  Thanks to Contagious Love for sponsoring this episode.

Carla and Sherry open the show talking about their favorite vacation spots.  From Hawaii and the Great Lakes to international dream destinations, the best part of any vacation is the people you spend it with. Then, they take a Love Fix question on the stigma around STDs and dating- when (if ever) is the right time to share the fact that you have an STD?  Finally, they welcome Dr. Diana Kirschner, PBS love expert, psychologist, and best-selling author of Love in 90 Days.  Diana has helped tens of thousands of singles and couples to find the relationship of their dreams.  She has a unique approach to help women and men heal from heartbreak, create high-value self-confidence, and find lasting, passionate love.  Diana talks about the chemistry behind lasting love, what you need to find in yourself before you start looking for a partner, and the secret weapon to finding true love- your very own fairy godmother.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question: What are your thoughts around the stigma of STDs and dating?
• Can marriage actually get hotter and better after decades together?
• What is the secret to a lasting, passionate love affair? 3 criteria to determine if you’ve found The One.
• Stop self-sabotaging your chances at true love with the help of your very own fairy godmother!

Dr. Diana’s Love in 90 Days coaching, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.

• Why would anyone consider dating three people at once, and why does it matter how they smell?
• Chemistry can happen in a heartbeat- don’t give up on new relationships and the potential for true love too quickly.
• Check in with your fairy godmother/coach/wingman about the new love interests in your life.
• What can a love coach offer you as you work through deep and big love issues?
• It’s true, we live by healing from the past and also creating new adventures for the future.
• Is Love in 90 Days really possible? Diana shares the amazing success stories that she’s witnessed from those who are willing to do the work and be coached along the way.
• Outer love comes when it matches your inner love and your willingness to give yourself a great relationship.
• Fun facts about finding love, including how to create the perfect photo for your online profile.
• Diana has an amazing gift for Love Fix listeners- a free 40 minute one-on-one consultation with one of the best coaches at Love in 90 Days.

Tweetables:

• “The key to a lasting, passionate love affair? Selecting the right person.” -Diana
• “Chemistry can happen in a heartbeat.” -Diana
• “The most important person to turn on is yourself.” -Diana
• “We live life by healing from the past and creating the future.” -Diana
• “Outer love comes because it matches your inner love and your willingness to give yourself a great relationship.” -Diana

Connect with Us!

•     The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast
•     Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership
• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Today’s episode is sponsored by the Amazon bestseller Love Smacked:  Stop the cycle of addiction and relationship codependency to find everlasting love.  Thanks to Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/

Find Out More:

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships 

 Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp

 Dr. Diana  Kirschner

Website | Facebook | Love in 90 Days| Free Consultation

Diana is offering Love Fix listeners a free consultation session! Sign up for your free 40 minute one-on-one consultation with one of the best coaches at Love in 90 Days right now, and don’t forget to note that Love Fix sent you!

Carla and Sherry start off the show wishing that more people could accept differing opinions of others, and note the unfortunate nature of a lot of friendships ending during the pandemic because of this. Then, they welcome the “Relationship Help Doctor” aka Dr. Rhoberta Shaler to the show. Rhoberta is an acclaimed speaker, author, and Relationship consultant, and jumps in on the Love Fix question about abuse vs. anger. Rhoberta explains what a relationship hijackal is, and the red flags that we can look for when first dating to date them. She also shares how to express yourself without blame or shame, and to take accountability for your own self-growth and confidence. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• We should be allowed to disagree and still be civil and respectful to one another. 
• The difference between anger and abuse. 
• We can express and validate our emotions without stuffing them down. 
• Anger is healthy, it’s what we do with it that becomes unhealthy. 
• Rhoberta explains what she calls Hijackals, and how they end up causing a crazy-making relationship. 
• Resources for Rhoberta’s books, podcast, and coaching, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• Are you in a toxic relationship with a Hijackal? Or are you possibly one yourself? Rhoberta explains what to look for. 
• Why do codependent people seem drawn to Hijackals? 
• Why someone may want to work on themselves while still in a challenging relationship before leaving and repeating the pattern. 
• Learn to speak up for yourself without blame or shame. 
• How can you start to protect yourself so you aren’t open to hijackals, even in the dating phase. 
• A big red flag in the dating phase - future faking. They don’t “get you”, they “gotcha”.  
• Watch how a person treats the wait staff and refers to their past relationships. 

Tweetables:

• “Mean what you say, don’t say it mean.” - Sherry 
• “Anger is healthy. It’s a response to life, circumstances and having someone trample on your boundaries. It’s what you do with it that becomes unhealthy.” - Rhoberta 
• “Hijackals have to win, so they will be fault finding to keep themselves in a superior place.” - Rhoberta 
• “Hijackles paint a public picture of perfection, while at home they provide a private place of pain.” - Rhoberta 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler 

Website | Save Your Sanity Podcast | Facebook | Instagram | Books 

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Sherry and Carla start the show talking about how good it feels to have in-person meetups with friends again (taking safety precautions) and then take a Love Fix question about how to know when it’s right for your new love interest to see where you live. Then, they welcome coach and Marriage and Family Therapist Bree Jenkins on, where she talks about the current landscape of digital dating. Bree shares the important things to make sure you have if you are back out there online looking for love, and how to see ghosting as a blessing. Bree also gives us an easy way to spot red flags in both our own behavior and within our dates, and it leads to a discussion about disclosing a previous affair in a new relationship.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Whether you are out and about and back to normal activities or still chilling indoors, the pandemic has had a substantial impact on our stress levels. It’s important to take care of yourself now more than ever.
• A Love Fix question on when to invite your date to finally see where you live?
• Bree created her Diamond Dating League to help her students learn how to manifest a healthy committed relationship or marriage, and get what they really want out of life.
• What red flags should we look for in our own behavior that may show us we aren’t ready to date quite yet?
• Bree discusses the three “A”’s that we need to be aware of: addiction, abuse, and affairs.
• Do you need to let the person you are now dating know if you had an affair in your previous relationship? If so, how do you know when the right time is to share it with them?
• How to join Bree’s Diamond Dating Course, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• How can we learn to not overshare, especially on the first date?
• Yes, you may get judged after telling the truth about your life and previous relationships, but you may also get judged favorably for being open and transparent.
• So much of when you make disclosures is about your energy and your judgement about yourself.
• How can I tell the difference between love bombing and when someone is just very interested?
• Bree’s tips for success in the digital dating world. Yes, it means getting yourself a good profile!
• If 40% of relationships were initiated online before the pandemic, there are sure to be even more now.
• How can we recover after people ghost us, and is there a way to know if someone is about to ghost?

Tweetables:

• “People who don’t match don’t matter.” - Bree
• “Rejection is protection.” - Sherry
• “Love is inevitable. It will find me.” - Bree
• “There is always more love.” - Bree
• “Ghosting can also be a people-pleasing response.” - Carla
• “If you don’t take accountability for what you did, then you are likely to do it again.” - Bree
• “We also judge people favorably, and no one complains about that.” - Bree
• “Never take ghosting personally, because it’s never about yourself.” - Carla

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Sign up for a Connection call with Sherry https://sherrygaba.com/coaching/life-coaching/ 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Bree Jenkins 

Website | Instagram | Diamond Dating 

Dating Someone with Anxiety 

Dr. Laura

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Carla and Sherry open the show talking about if opposites attract when it comes to love, and take a Love Fix question on eradicating shame around divorce, especially when you want to try again. Then, they welcome Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford, Gay has written more than 40 books including bestsellers such as The Genuis Zone, The Big Leap, and Conscious Loving. Gay talks about working with his co-author and mate for more than 40 years, Dr. Kathyn Hendricks, and their commitment to take criticism and blame out of their marriage and home. Gay also talks with Sherry and Carla about the power of intention, how we can address our upper limit problems and get into the flow of our genius zone. 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix Question: I’ve been divorced, maybe even multiple times. How do I get rid of this shame? 
• What are “upper limit problems”, and how do we work on our personal ones so we can show up more fully with our partner? 
• How do our upper limit problems also affect our issues with codependency and love addiction? 
• How to get in the genius zone and stay there! 
• The importance of tuning into our body and listening to the signals we get on a daily basis. 
• Why are emotions such as sadness and fear often repressed, and what is the cost? Sex problems are never about sex, money are problems are never about money. They are about unexpressed key emotions along the way.
• Resources for finding your calling and taking The Big Leap to get there with Guy, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence. 
• It’s true, Gay and his wife Dr. Kathryn decided to run their relationship on positive energy rather than blame, and it freed them up to create more and live a healthier life. 
• The way to get unstuck is to make a heartfelt commitment to something better. 
• Practical tips for getting out of the blame/drama triangle and the “ha” move. 
• The difference between blaming yourself and taking full accountability and responsibility. 
• Most of us are a few 10 minute sweaty conversations from having a breakthrough with our loved one.

Tweetables:

• “If you can cultivate more body awareness, it will always tell you the truth.” - Gay 
• “Every transformation project begins with heartfelt commitment.” - Gay 
• “Every day of my life, I get to live on a steady diet of miracles.” - Gay 
• “Relationship change starts with one courageous person taking a stand for something better.” - Gay 

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Guy Hendricks 

Website | Facebook | The Big Leap | The Genius Zone 

Carla gets ready for a big move, and it brings up the topic of safety and security. Then, she and Sherry take A Love Fix question on when to know if it’s time to call it quits, or if you should keep on trying. Then, the ladies welcome Caryl Westmore, the Break-Free Goal Success EFT Tapping Coach and Author, who empowers women to become a “sparkling Unicorn in a sea of sameness” in three key areas. Caryl talks about manifesting awesome love, choosing the right partner, and how energy healing modalities can help you love the life you have, whether you are finding love or just enjoying it on your own.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• How we can use the 70/30 ratio to determine if our relationship is headed in the right direction, or if we may think about breaking it off.
• Caryl talks about how the hardest thing she needed to fix in her own life was a fear of commitment and limiting beliefs around love.
• Caryl shares the traumatic fire that left her broke and brokenhearted. She had to rise from and go on a journey to heal herself from the ground up.
• Resources for Caryl’s Online Dating Success Secrets, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• What EFT, or the Emotional Freedom Technique is, and how it can help us clear blocked energy.
• The biggest blocks that people have towards finding love.
• The work where people can imprint new beliefs and ultimately remove a lot of stress and trauma from our energetic and physical bodies.
• What is past life regression, and how can it help us cut the energetic cords we need to move forward and manifest healthy love?
• We must know what we don’t want, so we can be clear about what we do want.
• How Caryl manifested her own love, and how they made it work both coming from two different parts of the world!

Tweetables:

• “It has to be fluid, there has to be flow.” - Sherry
• “I had to clear my own belief that you can be committed and not a prisoner of the commitment.” - Caryl
• “Know what you don’t want, so you can get clear on what you do want.” - Caryl

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Caryl 

Online Dating Success Secrets 

Caroline Dawson

Sherry gets ready for a fun staycation, and then she and Carla take a Love Fix question about what to do when you think the person you are seeing is also seeing other people. Then, they welcome Dr. Deb Hirschhorn, Ph.D., Marriage & Family Therapist. Deb has a specialty in trauma healing and helps couples learn to first love themselves and tame their triggers before learning how to communicate with their partner. She talks with Sherry and Carla about how to parent your inner child, what the Internal Family Systems model is, and what to look for when picking a trusted therapist.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• A Love Fix question — what do you do when your intuition tells you the person you are seeing is also dating other people? How does our attachment style also play a role in what we do next?
• The conversations that you have with your partner are the conversations about unhealed work in your childhood. Our partners provide a mirror for us to look at what needs to be healed.
• Communication is a necessary step in your relationship, but working on your own internal trauma and triggers takes precedence.
• Dr. Deb explains some indicators of what may look like abuse vs. when you feel the triggered feeling is coming from inside you.
• The Internal Family Systems model is one tool that Dr. Deb uses with her clients. It helps people learn to heal and negotiate with the family living inside of you, so you can learn to respond rather than react.
• Resources to Deb’s Love Yourself, Love Your Marriage Masterclass, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• What about if one partner is ready to face their triggers, but their partner isn’t ready?

• When does it become more mature love? Is there a certain age, or is it more of a state of mind?

• What are some ways that we can both create safety within ourselves, and safety within our relationship?
• The power of taking 20 minutes to calm down when things get heated with your partner.
• It’s important to have a therapist or trained coach guide you through the healing process.
• Yes, even therapists need to manage their inner child!

Tweetables:

• “Your marriage is like a hotbed of all the problems that you had growing up and you need to work it out within yourself. It’s not going to happen from the person you are with.” - Dr. Deb
• “Most people don't know who they are, and they don’t know why they are triggered.” - Dr. Deb
• “You are allowed to have your line in the sand. You don’t have to accept unacceptable behavior.” - Sherry

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

• Wake up Recovery for Codependency, Love Addiction, and Toxic Relationships — $1 trial membership

• The Love Fix Relationship Quiz

Get professional online counseling with BetterHelp by clicking here. Thanks to BetterHelp for sponsoring this episode.

Join Sherry’s free webinar, “How to say no without feeling guilty”. Free Masterclass — How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty 

Find Out More: 

Sherry

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Love Smacked | Wake Up Recovery for Codependents and Toxic Relationships  

Carla

Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp 

Dr. Deb 

Website | Facebook Group

Sherry and Carla start the show talking about the importance of listening to your gut, and then take a Love Fix question on how to recover after getting dumped and ghosted by someone with little to no empathy or compassion. Then, they welcome Katherine Woodward Thomas, award-winning licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Master Teacher, and New York Times Bestselling author, whose books Calling In “The One”, and Conscious Uncoupling have helped millions of people across the world navigate love with more self-love and confidence. Katherine shares her own personal journey of moving away from limiting beliefs in love towards deep and lasting commitment. She shares a few mindset shifts she used to create a template for the love she wanted to call in. Then, Katherine talks with Sherry and Carla about how our love style is fluid and not fixed in stone.

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

• Yes, even your therapists and coaches are people too, with their own triggers!
• A Love Fix question on how to recover after getting ghosted and dumped by someone who has no empathy or compassion for your feelings.
• Why trying to get closure after a breakup, especially from a narcissist, is never a winning game.
• Katherine shares how she went from unhappy and alone to practicing the steps in her book Calling in The One to attract the love which was perfect for that level of her life.
• The power of setting an intention will get you what you desire rather than worrying about the future or ruminating in the past.
• Katherine shares her advice for people who feel hopeless in love and like they are always forgotten about and left behind.
• Resources to Katherine’s Conscious Uncoupling, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency and gaining confidence.
• How much of our love and attachment style is determined by how we are brought up as a child and is it really something we can change?
• Katherine talks about the decision to consciously uncouple with her first husband, what that term means, and how it became known by the world after Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin modeled how it could be done.

• Calling In The One will be re-released as a new edition, but still has the powerful ways to look at our own beliefs and what could be standing in the way of getting the love we truly desire.

• Even if the breakup is 97% the “other person’s fault”, we can still look at our own 3% and learn and grow.
• Katherine works with her clients to really get in their bodies and learn not to give their power or energy away.

Tweetables:

• “Follow your damn gut.” - Carla
• “Healing is not linear.” - Carla
• “What we think is what we expand.” - Sherry
• “It is my destiny to love.” - Katherine
• “I discovered when I was 41, the power of setting an intention.” - Katherine
• “I look at breakups as an inside job. There is no reason you need to talk to your ex after a breakup.” - Carla
• “The identity that you formed in response to relational trauma is not who you actually are.” - Katherine
• “My love life is blessed. Not cursed.” - Katherine
• “Show me the face you had before you were born.” - Buddha

Connect with Us!

• The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast

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