The Mary Dee Show's 17th episode focuses on dealing with unresolved issues, particularly those involving toxic or deceased family members.

Mary suggests reflecting on positive lessons learned from negative behavior and considering the other person's story and trauma to gain insight and compassion.

Forgiveness is a key step for inner peace, and it does not mean forgetting or allowing the person back into one's life. Changing one's story and taking back power are also important. Various modalities, such as therapy, coaching, tapping, meditation, and yoga, can help regulate the nervous system and release emotions.

The key takeaway is that individuals have the power to control their emotions and responses to unresolved issues by surrendering to the unknown, reflecting on positive lessons, considering the other person's story, releasing the need to be right, forgiving, changing their story, and using various modalities to process emotions. 

Key Takeaways 

0:03:49 Tips for dealing with unresolved issues: remember that humans make mistakes 0:05:00 Healing and acceptance comes from within 0:05:45 Self reflection and finding the good in unresolved issues 0:11:34 Writing a letter and recording a video to process emotions 0:12:28 Forgiveness for inner peace and finding a lesson in the situation 0:14:02 Therapies and modalities for processing emotions 0:16:07 Different modalities work for different people 

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Today's guest is the remarkable Dr. Fern Kazlow. As a clinical psychotherapist with over 100,000 hours of experience, and is a pioneer in holistic approaches to business and mind-body health.

In this episode, she takes us on a journey into how your emotional, mental, energetic, and spiritual capacity is impacting your life. Dr. Fern Kazlow's insights on transference and resistance will reshape your perspective and show you how to harness their power for personal growth!

We’ll talk about how you can work with the energy of resistance to aid your growth, and the right time to surrender vs. push through these periods. We’ll address common emotional responses to tough situations, and the proper ways to integrate and address the underlying problems.

Get ready to embrace psycho-spiritual transformation today!

Key Takeaways:

• Difference between a psychologist, psychiatrist, and psychotherapist - [2:10] 
• Importance of developing emotional, mental, energetic, and spiritual capacity - [3:55]
• Integrating resistance to fuel growth - [9:50]  
• The connection between spirituality and mental health - [15:10] 
• The benefits of plant medicine in mental health treatment - [17:50]
• How to find a therapist that is right for you - [23:10] 
• The importance of making friends with resistance - [27:45] 
• The difference between intuition and impulse - [31:15] 
• Understanding the body's response to trauma - [36:10] 
• The dangers of trying to change mindset without addressing underlying trauma - [41:45]
• The importance of understanding defenses and resistance in psychotherapy - [50:00] 
• The power of somatic therapy in personal growth - [54:50] 
• The role of energy in personal growth and shifting energy to support growth - [58:45] 

About Dr. Fern Kazlow:

Dr. Fern Kazlow, founder of the Power Collaborative, has spent her career challenging high-performing entrepreneurs, CEOs, and other professionals to take the necessary risks to turn their ideas, passion, and mission into extraordinary outcomes. 

She created the Integrative Therapy methodology, and established one of the first holistic centers in the world, based in New York City. With over 100K hours researching, teaching, training, mentoring, consulting, and providing psychotherapy, she has spearheaded breakthrough integrative approaches to mind-body healing, peak performance, and business success. 

Dr. Kazlow is forging a New Power Paradigm™ that moves you away from disconnection, lack of self-trust, and limitation, and moves you into your full power, enabling you to be radically creative, cultivate courage, and explore infinite possibilities. She helps you develop extraordinary fortitude and become the leader the world so urgently needs. 

Dr. Kazlow is regularly cited in the media as the #1 authority in Peak Performer Resistance, and is the author of an upcoming book, The New Power Paradigm: Shattering Limitations and Creating Extraordinary Outcomes.

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Death is something you have no control over how or when it happens, but today on The Mary Dee Show, we have a little chat about death that will help you reframe death so that you can prepare, accept and even find joy at the end of life. 

Planning your funeral can be a difficult conversation to have with your loved ones, but it is a conversation that can save your family the heartache of trying to guess what you would have wanted during one of the most painful moments of their life. When you lose a loved one, it can be a gut-wrenching experience, so having a plan while you can make your desires clear, can make the process so much easier on your family and ensure that you are honored the way you want to be. 

In this episode, I share my near-death experience, which gave me clarity about life and rebirth. I don’t know what happens when you die, but I know that it is an opportunity to be reborn. Death is that one inevitable transformation every person will go through, so I hope to make the process a little less scary and give you the courage to live each day to the fullest. 

Key Takeaways:

• How You Will Be Remembered [2:30]
• When Do You Talk About Death? [6:00] 
• Get Clear on Your Desires [8:00]
• How to Heal In Grief  [9:30]
• Honoring Your Loved Ones [11:20]
• Sometimes Death is A Mercy [13:30]
• Transition and Transformation [16:00]
• My Near Death Experience [17:30]
• The Prayer of Beautiful Ascension [24:00]

Sometimes, failing is the only true path to success. Today, on The Mary Dee Show, we unpack what it means to achieve success through making mistakes and rejecting perfectionism. 

Jen Kim, a brand futurist, and CEO of Master Brand Institute, shares her insights on the importance of failure as a path to success. Growing up in an Asian household, she was taught to pursue traditional and socially accepted careers that guarantee a successful future. However, when she became an entrepreneur, she quickly realized that failure is inevitable and should be embraced as a stepping stone towards progress. Jen advises her younger self and others to understand that failure is not something to fear, but rather a necessary part of the journey.

Just as in business, sometimes we fail in relationships, too. But learning how to align core values and have regular check-ins with your partner can ensure the relationship is still on track. Jen emphasizes that a successful relationship should be run like a business and requires planning, execution, and measurement. 

You can choose success by becoming comfortable with failure. Once you realize that the only true way to succeed is to learn from mistakes, you, too, will be on the path to success and align with your true purpose!

Key Takeaways:

• Failure is the path to success [1:47]
• Becoming entrepreneurial [3:35]
• Expanding our vision for life [6:30]
• Elevating the influence of women through empowered leadership [8:58]
• Designing your business around your desired lifestyle [10:41]
• AI and the future of business [15:02]
• Human intelligence vs. Artificial intelligence [17:29]
• Reflecting on love and relationships [21:49]
• Bringing entrepreneurship into relationship [25:35] 
• The importance of checking in [28:47]
• Trying on different roles [31:34]

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About Jen:

Jennifer “Jen” Kem is a San Francisco Bay Area-based brand-building and leadership expert who gets entrepreneurs seen, heard, and paid for being themselves. 

She’s the creator of the Master Brand Method: a framework to develop powerful brand archetypes that win customers’ hearts, leveraging Jennifer’s 20 years of corporate experience and her launching of multiple companies. She uses the Master Brand method in strategic consulting for emerging entrepreneurs, celebrity brands like Oprah Winfrey Network and Steve Harvey, and major corporations including Verizon, Blue Cross Blue Shield, and Bank of Hawaii.

What she is most passionate about in her work today is her legacy project: Femmefluence, a platform that supports women leaders to fully rise into their influence and affluence, so they can make an even greater impact in the world.

Jennifer serves up straight talk wrapped in love, because she understands entrepreneurs’ challenges: She built a retail business and became a millionaire at 32, only to lose it all in the recession two years later. She is now the successful owner of three million-dollar brand-building businesses and the mother of three children.

Do you know what you’re worth? Today on The Mary Dee Show, I share three observations that helped me assess and measure my value. It is easy to lose your identity in achievement, but in this episode, I teach you how to look deeper at your self-worth and acknowledge the miracle that you are. 

During my worst moments, I struggled to remember why I was special. I was ashamed of who I was without my job or my money. This framework will help you navigate the most difficult moments of your life and help you remember just how special you are. I encourage you to pause and reflect on your life, and although you may discover some room for improvement, I believe you will find that you are a beautiful soul with boundless ambition.

Your perception of yourself will become your reality, so you must pause life and reflect on who you are. Once you have a clear picture of yourself separate from emotions, you will be able to change what needs to be changed and grow the beautiful parts of you too! Join me to discover just how amazing you are!

Key Takeaways:

• What I Wish I Knew [2:00]
• It Does’nt Matter What Other People Think [3:40]
• Pause and Reflect on Who You Are [4:50]
• Don’t Give Away Your Power [6:00]
• Your Perception Creates Your Reality [7:50]
• You Are a Miracle [11:20]

Do you have a healthy relationship with fear? Today on The Mary Dee Show, we unpack the deeper meaning behind your fear and give you the tools to find courage even when fear is still in the room. Today's guest is Allyson Byrd, CEO, profit accelerator, and creator of Guided Success. She shares how she evolved her understanding and relationship with fear to shift into loving leadership and create space for positive results. 

Our conversation teaches you to accept that fear is feedback, not a prediction of your outcome. Allyson models a constructive way to reframe your fear so that you can stop acting on your judgments and move into heart-centered leadership for yourself and your business. 

How you treat your employees, family, and even yourself is a consequence of the emotional paradigm you have accepted as the standard for communication. If you want to avoid becoming an a**hole CEO, you must acknowledge your negative tendencies that impact your ability to lead with love. Allyson teaches you to take radical responsibility of your actions to make the changes necessary to show up as the best version of yourself!

You can choose to show up differently! Allyson's Guided Success Model empowers you to reframe your judgments, so you can stop acting out of fear and align with your purpose. Join us as we redefine fear and establish a better leadership framework.

Key Takeaways:

• Fear is feedback, not final [1:00]
• Your relationship with fear [3:00]
• Taking full ownership [7:00]
• Asking for a 10-second miracle [9:00]
• Radical accountability of your tendencies [11:30]
• The Psychology of Parenthood [15:00]
• Choosing to show up differently [18:00]
• Slow down and be with what is [24:50]
• Self-care and quieting your mind [30:00] 
• Treating judgment with compassion [32:45]
• Become a Better CEO with Guided Success [37:00]
• Offering grace to yourself [45:00]

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

AllysonByrd.com

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About Allyson:

Allyson Byrd is also known as the “Profit Accelerator,” and she is celebrated as one of the world's most trusted leadership advisors and sales experts for entrepreneurs and small business owners.

She exists to create inspiring moments that shock, awe, surprise, and delight herself and others. This comes as naturally to her as breathing. She has used this gift to help 10,000+ students in 47+ collectively create over $330 million in sales! Her journey is incredible. But she hasn’t always lived life awake. It took her years to embrace the unexpected and step fully into her power.

Allyson’s press features include CNN, USA Today, NPR, Time Money, Forbes, Yahoo Finance, Business Insider, CNBC, MSN, Black Enterprise, Essence, and Entrepreneur.com.

Today, I share my recent experience with scanxiety, that fear of the unknown that paralyzes you when you’re waiting for your next medical scan. When I found a lump after my recovery, my mind turned to the worst-case scenarios, and I spent that time waiting, resisting my self-care, healthy foods, and even the things I loved. The shift into fear can happen instantly, but I’m giving you some tools to recover from anything that life throws at you on today’s episode. 

When you allow fear and anxiety to rule your experience, it takes away your power. To truly overcome your anxiety, you need to give yourself the space to process your emotions and get to the root of your fear. I’ll teach you how to use journaling as a constructive tool to question yourself and ask why you are afraid so that you can reclaim your sovereignty. 

Pain is unavoidable, but living in indecision only prolongs your anguish. In these moments, I encourage you to be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to make mistakes and make them quickly. You can always pivot, but without taking a leap of faith, you will get stuck worrying about the consequences of actions you haven’t even taken. You are not alone, to fear is to be human, but today I show you a new way to cope with fear so you can live a life of joy no matter even under the worst circumstances. 

Key Takeaways:

• Scanxiety: a new class of anxiety  [1:00]
• Not every bump is a bad bump [4:00]
• Opting for a double mastectomy [5:30] 
• Facing resistance and emotional eating  [8:00]
• Be willing to make mistakes  [11:40]
• Processing and releasing my scanxiety [15:30]
• Releasing with the full moon [18:45]

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Camp Breasties 

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Today on The Mary Dee Show, we have an inspiring conversation with Dana Bledsoe, founder of Mysterious Bodies. Looking at her, you would never know that she is living with stage four metastatic breast cancer. Dana shares how she has shifted her mindset since her diagnosis and reclaimed her power to be the creator of her experience. Your life does not revolve around your diagnosis. Dana teaches you the secret to self-love and acceptance so you can live a joyful life even in uncertain circumstances. 

The cliche that breast cancer is a battle reinforces the notion that you are not in control of your outcome. Dana admits that before her diagnosis, she had a habit of negative self-talk and doubt that she believes contributed to her illness. We discuss how your mindset translates to every cell in your body and how you can develop a self-love routine to shift you into a more positive mental and physical state. 

A breast cancer diagnosis can be terrifying, and transitioning to life after a mastectomy or reconstruction can be difficult. We discuss how women can offer support by breaking down the stigma of showing their surgical scars. Sometimes all you need is to know that you are not alone and to have a visual of the road ahead. Join us to discover the keys to acceptance and living a full and happy life in spite of your circumstances.  

Key Takeaways:

• Thriving with breast cancer [2:00]
• Coping with acceptance [4:00]
• The heroes journey [7:00]
• A visual can give you hope [9:00]
• Mental preparation for surgery [12:00] 
• Amplify your voice [13:30]
• Write yourself a love letter [16:00]
• You are the creator of your life [19:00]
• Learning to face death [22:00]
• Death is a transformation [26:00]
• Experience your emotions [30:00]
• Amplify Voices [37:00]

About Dana:

Dana Bledsoe is the Seed Planter and Co-Founder and has lived and thrived with breast cancer for 15 years; for the last 7 years, Stage 4 metastatic breast cancer.  She founded Impermanence and Mysterious Bodies, an art campaign to reshape how the world views breast cancer and breast health awareness.

Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

DanaBledsoe.com

AmplifyVoices.com

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We all struggle with confidence in some aspects of our lives. Confidence can be dualistic; you can be confident in public but hesitate to ask out your crush. It all comes down to the fear of failure. Most people learn to fear failure, but confidence is a muscle, and the only way to get better is to be ok with making mistakes and learning from them. 

Today, I reveal how you can let go of fear and grow your confidence muscles. I often say we spend twenty-five years learning, and the next twenty-five unlearning. Confidence is congruent with resilience. The more you shelter your children from experiencing loss and failure, the more it destroys their natural ability to persevere. Allowing them to fail builds those confidence muscles, and that skill will carry them far in life. 

You can build resilience at any age if you decide that it is ok to fail. You can learn to laugh at yourself and accept that not every moment of your life is perfect. By giving yourself permission to be human, you can start small and work out your confidence muscles to develop a sense of personal freedom untethered by fear. If you are ready to step into your sovereignty, join me for this week's episode of The Mary Dee Show!

Key Takeaways:

• Confidence is a muscle [2:30]
• Instilling Confidence in Children [4:00]
• Pretending to be brave [6:00]
• The Wonder of energetic love [8:00]
• Love is the first lesson [11:00]
• You can choose your family [13:00]
• The duality of confidence [16:00]

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Today on The Mary Dee  Show, we welcome Zion Kim to discuss what it takes to be an effective leader. He is the founder of 1MT and Atlas Assistants, a platform for you to connect with top-performing virtual assistants so you can focus on the bigger vision of your company. We dissect the paradox of growth and community-building, and Zion reveals the simplest way to accomplish more. 

Zion brings attention to a common problem facing CEOs today. CEOs can tap into the possibilities of the future and manifest new ideas, but problems arise when they can’t focus on a singular mission. Every idea becomes a new endeavor that distracts from the company's original values, often derailing your team from their creative output. 

The solution is curiosity. Zion teaches you how to get curious about your team's needs. Your team requires a leader who acts with integrity. When you introduce overwhelming projects that divert your team's resources, it strains them and prevents them from producing their best work. You may want to accomplish everything all at once, but Zion shows you how to achieve more by staying committed to one project at a time. 

If you have a vision that needs to become a reality, this episode will help you on your journey as Zion teaches you the basics of leadership, curiosity, and community. 

Key Takeaways:

• Cultivating your community [3:30]
• The paradox of growth [7:00]
• The excitement of new [10:00]
• The impact of your words [12:40]
• Faster compared to what? [18:00]
• Working with integrity [21:00]
• Committing to the process [26:00]
• You don’t always see the garden [34:00]
• Sitting with uncomfortable truths [37:12]
• Learning to listen [41:20]
• Plant medicine and leadership [47:30]

About Zion Kim

Zion is the founder of 1MT, a digital venture studio and Atlas Assistants, where he helps people find their dream Executive Assistants and VAs. Zion launched his first company at 19, making custom clothing for students and while that endeavor earned him the prestigious Rutgers University Entrepreneur Award, it also taught him exactly how not to build a business.

Today, Zion and his team at 1MT help entrepreneurs to feel fulfilled by their work in the world. He is on a mission to support 1000 online companies who are focused on changing their relationship to their work so that they can do more of what they love.

Find more from Zion Kim:

1mt.com

AtlasAssistants.com

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