The Married Life

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What are you going to do when your marriage has to get rid of waste?

Having a healthy outlet is important. Counselors and pastors are always great resources if you are not able to communicate properly with your spouse. But what we should never do is vent and complain to our friends and family about our spouses. They will most likely take your side in each situation but also you will transfer your bitterness and frustration to them as well.

Take some time right now to decide where your safe places are for you and your spouse. Do you have a counselor that you have both decided on? If there are elders or pastors in the church for the both of you to talk to together and separate? Decide now so that WHEN arguments and disagreements happen, you know exactly where you are going to turn.

Take some time right now to pray and ask the Lord these first questions separately.

What are my passions? If money wasn’t an object, what would I do every day?

What do I want to say I’ve accomplished at the end of my life?

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Step 1: Research and hire the building team

One of the most important decisions in building the home of your dreams is choosing the right team for what you want to build.

If you want a strong healthy marriage, you need to surround yourself with a good support system. Since the 5 people (or marriages) you surround yourself with are who you will be in the future, who are the friends that you are going to hang around? Will you see a counselor regularly? Who are you going to talk to when you need to? Are you going to get plugged into a church and a small group? Talk about these things now. List names and frequencies.

Step 2. Clear the property, level the site, and prepare the foundation

Before you build a house, the land that you purchase must first be cleared and removed of any debris, vegetation, trees, bush and rocks.

In your marriage, forgiveness and the things from the past need to be cleared out and up rooted before you can build a vision and future. Use this time right now to humble yourself, ask for forgiveness and really talk about the issues that are holding you back from moving forward in your marriage. Allow your spouse to share anything that has caused them to have unforgiveness in their hearts too. Create a safe place where you can share your thoughts and feelings.

Step 3. Pour the Foundation

Your home will have either a slab foundation, a crawlspace, or a full basement poured or constructed. The concrete will also go through a curing process to reach maximum strength.

You will need to decide what the foundation of your home is. What will the basic foundation of your marriage be when everything you thought you had control over, falls apart, what are you going to lean on when you feel like life is crushing you, or if everything is stripped away from you, what do you want to have left? Our life is not set in stone, and we do not have control over our lives. So what is the foundation in your marriage?

For us, it’s scripture and prayer. We believe the whole Bible in its entirety. We have certain scripture that we hold on to when life gets hard, jobs are uncertain or our children are not looking like the fruit of the seed we planted. If you are a bible believing Christian, we believe that this is something that should be essential in your marriage. 

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The Blueprints of Marriage:

A blueprint is a guide for making something — it's a design or pattern that can be followed.

This Blueprint isn’t just for your marriage, it’s for your children. This is an investment that you’re going to pass down from generation to generation. You teach what you know, but You duplicate who you are. So the blueprint of your marriage isn’t just for you to follow, but your children and your children’s children.

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Struggling to get your spouse a gift? Do you know their love language? Today we break down each language and what gift that language would enjoy the most! 

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The No. 1 thing that makes relationships successful (From a psychologists who studied 40,000 couples)

A psychologist has studied more than 40,000 couples about to begin couples therapy. 

In a lab study they were able to predict with 94% accuracy whether a marriage would last — after observing the couples for just 15 minutes. One of the biggest determining factors was how often a couple “turned toward” their partner instead of “turning away.”

What does that mean? To turn towards and not away? When would we do that? 

Today we break it down and what that looks like. 

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Live Q&A // Questions you're asking yourself but don't know what to do. 

The 4 Killers of Marriage are easy to see, but hard to stop. We have to recognize them and hold ourselves accountable. Here are the 4 and ways to fight them. 

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Pastor Shannon O'dell has a new book out and Krissy and I are diving into it to invest in our own marraige. He hits on 10 ways to honor your spouse and we want to share that with you. 

Honoring your spouse is easier said than done especially when you’re at the end of your rope. So how do we honor? Here are 10 practical ways to honor your spouse and see God move in your marriage!

This content is from Pastor Shannon O'dells new book "40,000 Words on Marriage and Parenting". 

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