November 16, 2025

The Mindset Shift That Makes Dating Easier: With Julie Lokun

28 minutes

A Candid Conversation on Modern Love with Julie Lokun

This week’s episode flips the script. Instead of hosting, I’m the one being interviewed. Julie Lokun, host of the Get Obsessed podcast, sits down with me for an honest, heartfelt conversation about what dating really looks like today. If you’re starting over, navigating dating apps, or trying to make sense of modern connection, this conversation was created to give you clarity, strategy, and a renewed sense of hope.

Julie and I explore the questions so many singles quietly struggle with:

• Does real love still exist
• Do dating apps actually work
• How do you recognize red flags early
• What should you do differently on a first date
• How do you stay open to love without lowering your standards

We discuss:

• How love evolves from early romance to meaningful partnership
• Why belief in love matters at every stage of life
• How to use dating apps strategically instead of reactively
• The difference between chemistry and compatibility
• Red flags, green flags, and the signals people reveal immediately
• Texting etiquette, ghosting, first-date dynamics, and connection basics
• How presentation and profile photos influence attraction and success

You’ll also hear how my background as a celebrity photographer influences the way I guide people through dating—especially when it comes to creating an authentic, compelling online presence that truly reflects who you are.

If you’re overwhelmed by today’s dating landscape or looking for practical strategies you can use right now, this episode offers clear takeaways and mindset shifts that make modern dating feel more manageable.

ABOUT TODAY’S GUEST
Julie Lokun is the creator and host of Get Obsessed, a podcast centered on growth, possibility, and helping people elevate their lives and relationships. She is a dynamic interviewer and a passionate advocate for empowering others.

WHERE TO FIND KERRY
Website:
www.shotatlovebook.com
www.kerrybrett.com

Podcast:
Shot At Love on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and BLEAV

Instagram:
@kerry_brett
@shotatlovepodcast

Facebook:
Shot At Love Podcast

TikTok:
@shotatlove

LinkedIn:
Kerry Brett

Substack:
https://shotatlove.substack.com

YouTube:
Shot At Love with Kerry Brett

Book:
Shot@Love: A Celebrity Photographer’s Lens on Dating and Finding Love, available on Amazon

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