The Missing Piece

Living a life of meaning and purpose isn't for the extraordinary. It's for regular people who choose to find their unique strength and do something significant with their lives. It's about recognizing your inherent gifts, talents, and abilities within oneself, honing them, and channeling them toward meaningful pursuits. Whether it's through overcoming personal challenges, pursuing passions, or contributing to the betterment of others, each of us possesses a distinct set of strengths and superpowers that, when nurtured and utilized, can lead to a fulfilling existence. It's about embracing authenticity, aligning actions with values, and making a positive impact on the world around you. By tapping into your innate potential and striving to live with intention, you can unlock the path to a life rich in meaning, purpose, and fulfillment.

Join the conversation with your host, Paul Lyngso, and a special guest, Chad Metcalf, as he shares his life journey’s lows, highs, and adventures while striving to create a meaningful life for himself and how you can create more for yourself. Chad is a former Navy SEAL, professional athlete, and a best-selling author of Young Athletes’ Ultimate Guide to Mental Toughness. 

Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Intro and a bit about our guest, Chad Metcalf

[02:15] Chad's backstory and his wake-up call 

[11:20] Becoming aware of your superpower and Chad's experience 

[16:37] What sets Navy SEALs’ team apart and why Chad left the Navy

[20:20] Chad's goal skills and his desire to get into professional golf 

[25:55] How Chad's failure in professional golf ignited his entrepreneurial spirit

[35:37] The power of investing in your strength and superpowers 

[42:04] Learning to live a life of meaning and purpose

[44:41] Chad’s programs and how they help people live purposefully 

[48:48] How to figure out your superpowers and find your flow

[54:04] Becoming the best version of what you are gifted in

[57:04] Giving yourself permission to be pissed off, learn from it, and move on 

[58:01] Becoming a master of the things you are gifted in 

[01:03:03] Taking your stand and pivoting when it’s not working

[01:05:10] Being adaptable and Chad’s start-up experience 

[01:11:10] Getting clear, doing something hard, and attracting opportunities

[01:16:20] Chad’s upcoming online Cohort and how you can register 

[01:21:04] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• A lot of us put CEOs on a pedestal, and they are regular people who do something most people never do. - (10:53).
• If you are not specific, no one can help you; when you get specific, people know how to help you.  - (27:18)
• If you are doing something with somebody, do it better; don’t worry about beating them but about beating yourself; be better tomorrow than you were today. (49:50)
• It‘s fine to be pissed off; that means you cared about the outcome, but how can you take that and learn from it, and what can you do better. (57:38)
• You have to be committed to the path that you are on and also be willing to pivot when it’s not working. (01:03:40)

Resources Mentioned
https://www.mentaltoughnessandconfidence.com/waitlist-signup

Young Athletes’ Ultimate Guide to Mental Toughness: https://www.amazon.com/Young-Athletes-Ultimate-Mental-Toughness/dp/1961994011

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Did you know that your environment has the ability to propel you forward, pull the best out of you, or keep you stuck?  Finding the environment that brings out the best in you is the key to nurturing your strengths and amplifying your growth. It's about recognizing the connection between your environment and your inner self. Constantly putting yourself in environments that support you can help cultivate a sense of vitality and purpose and enable you to contribute positively to the world around you. Whether these are people, places, the ambiance, or the opportunities they provide, seek out spaces and environments that align with the energy you want to release and receive from the world. Your environment is not merely a passive backdrop to your life; it is a dynamic force that is capable of shaping your life’s path and experiences through various seasons of life.

Join the conversation with your host, Paul Lyngso, as he shares more about how you can find and cultivate a good environment that can help you create the results you want and get the most out of life. Tune in and learn how to pinpoint things, people, and places that align with your energy, aspirations, and values and can support your transformation.

Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Introduction to the show 

[00:33] How to identify a good environment 

[01:00] Going past what you see on the service level

[03:57] How what we process is projected and mirrored back to us

[05:31] How to use the project mirror equation to identify a good environment 

[08:52] Shifting from a low-vibration environment to one that works for you

[10:10] Putting yourself in a learning environment where you feel alive 

[12:40] Examples of environments that can call the best out of you 

[15:09] Taking the next step and changing your environment

[15:25] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• The right environment is unique to every individual, and every person at different times and seasons in their life is going to see and interact with the environment differently. - (01:06).
• What we process is what we project, and that gets mirrored back to us- (04:13)
• When we feel our best, we project that energy into the world, which is a two-way street, and not only do we feel like good contributors to the environment, but all the positive energy will be mirrored back to us, which is a win-win for us. - (07:40)
• If an environment, in any way, shape, or form, tends to make you gravitate towards a lower vibration and frequency, find a different environment. (08:53)
• Join some groups, get out of your day-to-day, put yourself in a circle of people who can call out the best in you just by your presence, and put yourself in environments that make you grow and vibrate in your highest. (12:17)

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Paul Lyngso 

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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Many people spend most of their lives operating from the point of judgment by default. However, it is not a personality trait but a learned behavior that can be unlearned. It all starts in your center of reasoning. Whatever you process internally is exactly what you will project to the world, and surprisingly, it’s exactly what the world will mirror back to you. Be positive, and you will receive positivity. Be judgemental, and that’s what the world will give back. Your rapport with people and relationships can take off when you grow from judging to accepting. But where do you begin? How do you start rewriting your story from one of judgment to a more optimistic life? 

Join the conversation with your host, Paul Lyngso, as he shares powerful lessons as a recovering judgey prick. Paul gives his personal stories of struggling with self-judgment and how he came to accept his uniqueness. He also shares valuable insights and tips that can make your life easier than you think.

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Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] The biggest lessons I learned from being a judgy prick

[03:22] Why you should not operate from the point of judgment

[04:11] Paul’s genesis of being self judgemental

[05:36] How the world mirrors back your judgemental personality

[07:18] How to embrace who you are without judging

[10:07] Events in the lineup you can be part of

[12:37] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• What you process is what you project, and what you project is what gets mirrored back to you- (03:30).
• Growth never happens as it should for most people because they never accept themselves. - (07:47)
• Growth is a by-product of acceptance. When you accept your flaws and accept yourself without judgment, you will work on improving them.-(08:30)
• The greatest contribution you can make to this world is to become the person you are capable of becoming by developing all the talents and skills given to you. (11:11)

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Paul Lyngso 

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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We have all fantasized about belonging to a circle of influential friends who could mentor us to greatness just as they achieved it. This is because genuine relationships, one of the most unseen yet crucial attributes to success, can propel us further and faster. However, the bitter truth is that such relationships, even with influencers, require investment. No matter how exceptional you believe yourself, no one will befriend someone who solely drains their energy. You can't expect them to expend their time, resources, and networks to validate your specialness. You must contribute in return. It is a give-and-take endeavor.

In this episode, your host, Paul Lyngso, shares more about this powerful principle of success and how he has used it to achieve most of his success in business and friendships. You will learn that no influential individual or desired mentor will simply appear. You must work and "pay" for their attention with your skills, time, resources, expertise, and genuine care. 

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Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Introduction to the show 

[02:32] Most unseen attributes of success

[04:55] Should you pay for genuine relationships?

[05:37] Paul’s fantasy as a young entrepreneur

[07:02] An attitude that keeps you away from influential people you desire

[08:25] Know when relationships become transactional

[12:25] The right way to pay for your friends

[14:43] A tangible example of how Paul has leveraged genuine relationships for success

[19:29] A world that values currency and competency

[20:19] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• Relationships that can help each other will get you far and fast. - (03:56).
• To succeed in any relationship, you must bring something to the table. - (07:43)
• As much as genuine relationships should be on a give-and-take basis, they should not be entirely transactional but equal contributions over time. - (08:25)
• If you are in a relationship that is constantly taking away from you and they are never bringing anything to the table, it is not a genuine relationship.- (12:16)
• Every successful relationship has some form of transaction, whether that is energetic or emotional payment. - (14:20)
• You can’t pay for trust in relationships. You have to follow all the principles of everyday relationships. - (17:44)

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Paul Lyngso (Host)

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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In this episode, your host, Paul Lyngso, shares the 5 skeleton keys to unlock your Freedom from societal conditioning, limiting beliefs, and fear to live a life of meaning and purpose. Listen and learn how to unbox yourself from the shackles of societal conditioning, limiting beliefs, and fear that often stifle our personal growth. 

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Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Societal conditioning and living below our potential 

[03:38] Five skeleton keys to break the chains and unlock your freedom

[06:13] 1# Nihilism: Define what is important to you

[08:47] 2# Unlearning social conditioning 

[12:40] 3# Emotional control: Learn to get yourself in a neutral place

[15:49] 4# Decision making: Be confident in your decision-making

[18:41] 5# Intentional lifestyle design 

[23:19] Paul’s parting words on the highest contribution you can make

[25:26] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• We can assign our own meaning to our lives, and we are free to reject any meaning that anyone else tries to push on us. - (07:42)
• We’re the creators of our lives; we decide what is important and what is not. - (07:53)
• Unlearning social conditioning is a process, and it starts with self-awareness. - (11:37)
• As human beings, we are generally happy when operating from a place of contribution, but this is often taken the wrong way as a false binary. - (23:38)
• The most important work you can do and the highest contribution you can make is to take care of yourself, understand yourself, put yourself first, and create the life you want. - (26:46)

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Paul Lyngso (Host)

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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During the New Year's excitement, so many of us often make the mistake of setting big resolutions because of the heat of the moment. The idea of a fresh start can make us commit to huge goals, thinking we need to change everything at once. But this can lead to losing momentum as the initial excitement wears off and we realize how tough those big goals are. The problem is not the desire to improve ourselves but the pressure to set too high goals. Instead of taking small steps, we end up broken and let down when things don't go as planned, making it tough to grow and improve.

In this episode, your host, Paul Lyngso, shares a different approach to New Year's resolution that will help you use your goals to create change, give your plans flexibility, and build a foundation of a consistent rhythm of life that allows your optimal flow to emerge.

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Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Introduction to the show 

[01:36] Making decisions in the heat of the moment and emotions

[05:13] False urgency that rushes us to make huge commitments  

[07:09] How creating a rigid system can lead to loss of momentum 

[08:49] Paul’s different approach to New Year’s resolutions 

[12:16] Paul’s experience and consistency with the approach

[16:40] The big idea: How over-commitment leads to systems breakdown

[17:19] How to use your goals to create change, flexibility, and consistency

[18:23] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• Committing to goals, having a schedule, and making your life rigid all of a sudden can leave you with no momentum or consistency and in a negative emotional state. - (08:03)
• Give yourself flexibility by not stressing about checking all the boxes at once, creating a perfect schedule, or arriving at a specific goal at a perfect time. - (16:20)
• Overly committing to your schedule and goals leads to rigidity and rigid systems break. - (16:44)
• Rushing into commitments because of the emotional state we are in at this time of the year can lead to poor decisions and loss of momentum. - (16:51)

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Paul Lyngso (Host)

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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While aiming high with clear and SMART goals seems like the path to success, sometimes it can trap us. The "specific" part, meant to keep us on track, can turn into a cage, trapping us in a rigid plan. We all know that life will always throw twists and turns that we may not have control over, even if our plan is perfect. If our goals are too inflexible, we miss opportunities to grow and become better versions of ourselves. Life is about adapting, and sometimes, the best way to live life to the fullest is to loosen our grip on those overly specific goals and let life open us to the amazing changes that make us even better versions of ourselves.

Join the conversation with your host, Paul Lyngso, as he shares more insights on why SMART goals might ruin your happy life. When you get too specific in a goal, you create a binary. Anything you achieve that does not fit into alignment is seen as a failure, which is dangerous to your subconscious mind. Additionally, such goals pin you to the wall and rip you off the power to make adjustments and changes that could lead to a better and more meaningful life. 

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Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] The flaws of the ever-hyped concept of SMART goals

[03:35] Two-part framework to shift your mindset on goals

[03:44] Focus on direction over destination

[07:08] Embrace soft offense

[09:50] How to have a better perspective on your health and fitness goals

[10:32] Takeaway tips from this episode

[11:39] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• As soon as you get strictly specific with your goals, you create a binary in your mind- (01:03).
• Sometimes, you need to take a new direction from your goals. When your perspective changes, you start seeing things from a different vantage point. -(07:35)
• Check your goals. There is so much you can’t control when achieving a specific outcome. You don’t want to tell yourself that you are failing continually. (10:36)
• Reserve the right to change your mind. If what you wanted yesterday is not what you want today, don’t just silence that voice, but have a conversation with yourself. - (10:47)
• The fountain of youth in our brain is flexible thinking and open-mindedness. - (11:23)

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Paul Lyngso 

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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Our words, beliefs, and behaviors are critical in attaining the outcome we want in our health and fitness journey. The language and words we choose reflect our perceptions and influence our attitudes and behaviors. Using words that reinforce the beliefs we are actively choosing that serve and align with our aspirations can enhance our ability to achieve our fitness goals. Putting ourselves down through negative self-talk or limiting beliefs may hinder our progress. Changing our self-talk and being intentional about our words can positively influence our behavior and change our mindset and beliefs over time. Working out is not enough. Our fitness outcomes are a product of the interplay between our words, beliefs, and actions. Adopting a holistic and positive approach in our health and fitness journey can empower us to achieve our goals with ease.

In this episode, your host, Paul Lyngso, shares his most annoying trait, the interplay between words, beliefs, and perceptions, and how this dynamic trio influences our behavior and outcome in our fitness journey. 

Tune in and get insights on what you can actively do to change your beliefs and steer your journey toward achieving your goals.

Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Introduction to the show 

[00:20] Paul’s most annoying trait on how he uses words 

[02:08] How the words we use work for us in a two-way street 

[02:53] Aligning and executing our behaviors to get the outcome we desire

[05:21] A case study of a phrase that will destroy your life, “it must be nice.”

[09:02] How to change and reinforce your beliefs and be in control

[15:17] Choosing words that reinforce beliefs that are serving you

[16:49] What words, beliefs, and behaviors have to do with fitness

[18:00] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• Beliefs work in tandem with action; they go hand in hand, and over time, your beliefs change. - (12:01)
• Be aware of your language patterns, recognize when those patterns contradict your new belief, and come up with a substitute.- (13:42)
• Our perceptions and beliefs of the world inform our behaviors, and our behaviors influence our outcomes. - (15:19)
• Our language can be used as windows into our souls or the souls of others to uncover beliefs and perceptions that could be holding us back. - (15:56)
• Our words can reinforce a belief, so let’s ensure that our words reinforce beliefs that we’re constantly choosing and that serve us rather than reinforcing unhelpful patterns that are working against us. - (15:56)

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Paul Lyngso (Host)

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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Getting in shape and maximizing fitness outcomes goes beyond just physical exertion. One crucial element is the sense of community, where individuals bond and work together towards common fitness goals, fostering motivation and accountability. Knowledge plays a pivotal role, empowering you to advocate for yourself by asking the right questions and understanding the rationale behind exercises. It's not just about being told what to do but comprehending the "why" behind each action. Approaching fitness with an understanding of the “Whys” is the key to making informed choices and optimizing your efforts for better results. Success in fitness is what we all want, and community, understanding the why, and expert guidance form a comprehensive strategy for achieving and sustaining optimal health and well-being.

In this episode, your host, Paul Lyngso, shares tips and strategies on how to get in shape and maximize your fitness outcome for the long term. He expounds on the transformative power of a community, self-education in advocating for yourself, having a guide, knowing the why behind what you are doing, and more. 

Tune in and get the tools you need to navigate your fitness journey with purpose and resilience!

Key Highlights from the Show

[00:01] Introduction to the show 

[00:43] How Paul operated his fitness venture and the lessons he learned 

[04:10] Getting unstuck and out of the fitness success box  

[04:47] The benefits and drawbacks of group training 

[06:32] Personal training and the cost and benefits that come with it

[08:02] Apps popularity in the fitness space and what to expect from them

[09:46] Why community is an integral part of a successful fitness program

[10:28] Investing in your education piece and learning to advocate for yourself

[12:35] Having a guide on your path vs. hand-holding 

[13:25] What Paul has going on and in store for you in 2024

[16:15] Wrap-up and end of the show

Notable Quotes 

• The main benefit of a group training type of program is the community and the team environment. - (04:47).
• One piece that is important in fitness is community because guys bond shoulder to shoulder, which is when they have a task to complete together. - (09:47)
• The more that you know, the more you can advocate for yourself, and the more you can ask the right questions to get you more value out of a coaching relationship. - (11:01)
• If you want to get in shape, you can’t have somebody telling you what to do but why you are doing it.- (11:14)
• Guidance goes a long way; having a guide on a path will help you move down that path faster. - (12:36)

Resources Mentioned 

Gaining Mass: https://www.amazon.com/Gaining-Weight-Training-Dieting-Accelerated/dp/0970385935#:~:text=Gaining%20Mass!

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Paul Lyngso (Host)

Website: https://thegoodshit.info/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paul-lyngso-b3963120b/

Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1923456&

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paul.lyngso/

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