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Mastering Awareness – How To Go from Chaos To Calm. Episode 137 on The Mojo Maker Podcast.

Checkpoint 2 in the #adulting the rally of life checkpoints is the ability to go within and be self aware.

To understand the 3 vital and immediate steps you can do at any given moment to bring yourself back into the present and apply the NOW, THEN and NEXT trilogy.

Overwhelm., stress, anxiety, fear and panic override our personal GPS and cause a sense of chaos, feeling unanchored and severely reduce our decision making abilities.

In this video I teach you how to stop at any given moment when you have recognised the signs of overwhelm.

1. Breathe

2. Focus – Shift your perception – fear to curiosity

3. Define what the NEXT best thing to do is – without creating 10 other steps from that.

[Check out the previous video on SURVIVAL MODE]

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TMM136 How to Trust All The Time

A little musing on why it’s so important that you trust the universe and the feelings at ALL times ⭐️⚡️ not just when it’s easy and going well.

The greatest gains come when you’re trusting in the most challenging moments.

Even though right now we feel like we have no control over the outside world and some of the decisions that are happening around us, this is your opportunity to really blur the background and go within.

* To think about what is important to you.

* To let go of the walls of discomfort (well “comfort” as usually people refer them to ) and really go out and chase what makes your heart sing because you will never regret it.

Come join me on the Mojo make a Podcast Vitality Coach TV on YouTube or blog on my website More on how to be fearless and do that sustainably is in my book ADULTING THE RALLY OF LIFE – link in bio – message me if you want more tips but most importantly you are in the driver’s seat!

Don’t let fear rule your world.

* TMM148 How To Stop Gaslighting – 3 crucial steps

* TMM147 How to stop overwhelm and master Winning Weeks©

* TMM146 How to master Self Control

* TMM145 Stop Self Sabotage

* TMM144 How To Recover From Making Mistakes

* TMM143 How To Make Your Goals A Reality

* TMM142 How To Build Trust in yourself and others.

* In The Driver’s Seat With Alex Cormont

* TMM140 How To Take Control In Your Life

* TMM139 How To Take Action And Stop Procrastination

* TMM138 Accountability

* TMM137 Mastering Awareness – How To Go From Chaos to Calm

* TMM136 How to Trust All The Time

* TMM135 Survival Mode

* TMM134 Courage #4 LEAPING TO LANDING – HOW TO TRUST THE SPACE BETWEEN

* TMM133 Courage #3 The Fun Factor

* TMM132 Building Wealth with Ben Griffith

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TMM135 Survival Mode – How To Recognise the Signs Of Overwhelm

Survival is not a strategy for happiness and sustainable success. Nor is it something we have to feel we need to do to “get by and cope with change”. Part of #adulting is to sort of be a kid in a way and just have a go and take a leap of faith on things – like the last 4 series on Courage.

It also means recognising when you’ve hit overwhelm. In a 7 part series I will be taking you through the 7 Checkpoints in my new book #adultingtherallyoflife.

The first of these will be Survival Mode.

Remember : life is a rally not F1 – there is no slow lane at the start line. Maybe it’s time to press pause and make sure you’ve checked your engine and your reserves before you keep trying to push your way through un-chartered territory.

A reminder from last week:

– The world needs you to courageous.

– It needs you to step up, suit up and command a higher consciousness for your decision making.

– To not stay stuck for fear of failure and the past but to realise you are probably being triggered and push to break free of all of that and pave your own way.

That immediately translates into being accountable for your own oxygen mask first. If you keep pushing through overwhelm and don’t stop when you start to recognise the signs it’s like continuing to drive at full speed on a wonky wheel. It is only going to end in disaster.

1. Your wellbeing and happiness is no one else’s responsibility but your own. If you’re stuck take a moment to press pause and do a health check – see the traffic light worksheet below from the book.

2. Check martyrdom at the door. Always drawn to stories of suffering, keen to help others and lift them up but not really happy in your own skin? Hmmmm – putting attention onto giving out to other people when you’re not taking care of your own side of the street is a deflection tactic. Face your fears – look in the mirror and show up for yourself first. You will have 10 x the energy and give-ability once your own cup is full. No more HOPE PROJECTS. Believe me – I have full experience in having to make this shift so I know what I’m talking about.

3. Show up at the start line. By dropping the pin and pressing pause in your world you get to review exactly where you are at, what resources you have around you and how healthy that chassis of yours really is.

You are the master of your destiny.

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COURAGE #4. LEAPING TO LANDING – HOW TO TRUST THE SPACE BETWEEN

How to back yourself in the dark before the road is clearly lit when you have the courage to change

Welcome back to another Monday Mojo© 

Thank you so much for connecting. As a heads up I write all my content and try to put all the tools into one spot on this weekly Mojo so you can have it all in one bite size chunk. Links are there if you want a deeper direction. I trust that with each video, blog, email newsletter I write or podcast you can take something away that you just needed to hear at that given point in time.So let’s get into this weeks message. 

Are you trusting the space between leaping and landing? Anyone who runs a business, wants more for themselves and their family, has a vision for life and is connected to making your time here one of impact,  will know that there is only so much time you can run on autopilot before you KNOW you need to do something different.Many leaders I work with have the courageous task of not just shifting the parameters in their own lives, but making changes that will result in future generations no longer sitting in destructive co-dependent and stifled belief systems. The changes you create in yourself will be reflected in your outside world. This takes bravery. In the LEAP MATRIX™ as part of my coaching models (and it’s been a recent Mojo (click here to revisit) I talk about the walls of (dis)comfort and how staying stuck in stories, expectations and not taking action due to blame, shame and guilt is the falsest sense of security we can ever have.– The world needs you to courageous. – It needs you to step up, suit up and command a higher consciousness for your decision making. – To not stay stuck for fear of failure and the past but to realise you are probably being triggered and push to break free of all of that and pave your own way. So if this is you and you’re reading this  – even if it’s a bumpy, veiled and painful step that you’re going through – congratulations for stepping up and showing up for yourself. That is where all the magic lies, when we actually realise there is more available to us than we could ever fathom. In today’s Mojo I’ll give you the 3 things to be aware of as you ascend and transcend old limiting beliefs and 3 ways to lean in to this rally of life and your growth.What can happen when you let go of the walls of (dis) comfort? 3 things to be aware of as you ascend and transcend old limiting beliefs: 1. Triggers and tests. As you evolve in your personal and commercial world no doubt there are a myriad of triggers, tests, highs and lows and a stack of unknown.2. SOS (Shiny object syndrome) you’ll probably get presented with people being suddenly nice to you again as they sense you are creating healthy boundaries and beginning to think for your sovereign self. Remember the truth series  – ANYONE who has your best interest will encourage you to sort your own side of the street out and not control you or your ideas. Hold your line. 3.  Darkness – the space where all the lights on the road are not well lit as yet and you wonder if you have taken a wrong turn.  It may also feel like you have no support. Don’t be afraid of what you don’t see yet – and the feeling of I can’t go back and I don’t know what’s in front of me.This is the natural feeling when you start to truly make decisions based on your needs and wants and not other peoples. You’ll get used to lighting up the runway yourself...

TMM131 Building Wealth with Ben Griffith

The Business Of Building Your Wealth – How To Step Up and Into Managing Your Money With A Fresh Perspective with Ben Griffith of ViewPoint Private

The Business Of Building Your Wealth – How To Step Up and Into Managing Your Money With A Fresh Perspective with Ben Griffith ViewPoint Private

* The 5 Core Questions you should ALWAYS Ask when investing* What is High Net Wealth and how do you own define your success matrix around money* Relationships matter – why your financial planner is like family* 3 Immediate things you can do right now to get in the drivers seat.

There has never been a more exciting time to be involved in financial services. As a tech savvy self-starter Ben has positioned himself to benefit from the positive disruption and change the way consultancy and advice is perceived.

Director of ViewPoint Private – Ben is a specialist adviser to high net wealth families and organisations. Formerly with UBS and Crestone Wealth advisors – Ben is Vice President ECM of LoftusLane Capital Partners and an Investment Consultant with Seneca Financial Solutions.

An entrepreneur and opportunist. His main focus is to cultivate meaningful relationships through linking people and businesses with opportunities of value. He is passionate about pursuing new concepts with a fresh approach and enjoys solving problems with logical planning, strategic implementation and tactical response.

Ben works well with high net worth individuals and organisations that are interested in deeper relationships with their advisors.

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Courage #2 Taking the Unpaved Road

How to take and create the alternative route in life and work

When you want to do things differently from anyone else, how do you take the steps to back your ideas, set parameters to stay true to you and create a pathway that is totally new?

Last week on the Mojo we kicked off the courage series with daring to pioneer. The against all odds (& others), harnessing the feeling that we need to overcome those roadblocks to start backing ourselves.

This week is #2 in the Courage Series – taking and creating the alternate route. It’s the Action matrix™:– what to do to take the steps to actually be the change and identify the roadblocks as they arise.– then go around those rather than get stuck at checkpoints that really don’t matter.

Now more than ever, many of you are feeling like you have to “give up everything to gain everything” if that makes sense ….

It’s the choice between fear and curiosity – the steps between idea and result…. lean in.

It’s worth it.

This video today will take you through the Action Matrix™ what 3 steps do you need to commit to take and create the alternate route.

* How to take grounded steps to build a solid foundation when you’re the one designing landscape of what success looks like and how you get there.* Recognise the perceived hurdles and write every limiting thought down so that you get to identify if it requires an action or if it is just a perception that needs to be overcome.

Please remember, it’s just the first few steps that matter, we must have a sense of the wild unknown and allow there to be intrigue otherwise nothing would ever be ventured into.

Be prepared for space between past and future alignments

For many of you who have taken a stand to say no, or to try something different, to identify behaviour that is not ok or set clear boundaries –  well done and I’m sure that has left you feeling incredibly exposed and unsupported when you may have needed support the most.

Remember people’s lack of reaction is not a rejection of you being worth it

– > it is a direct reflection of their own values and fears

– >  it takes strength to stand by others who take the road less travelled.

* Be courageous – the world needs leaders who stand true.* Be patient as you will find those who resonate, it just might mean there is a little darkness between one road before the other is lit up for you.

Never lower your standards to suit others insecurities.

We need to be the change we want to see not just talk about it. ⚡️

The LIVE session for today is now on YOUTUBE  – full video is below along with the previous episodes. Thank you so much for subscribing, liking and joining me this week.

ps giving away copies of the new book #adulting for new subscribers on my channel over the next 8 weeks so come join!

TMM127 Truth #4 Communicate With Clarity & Calm

The 4 Quadrants Of Conscious Communication

WHAT’S YOUR SAFE WORD AND HOW TO BE GROUNDED WITH CONSCIOUS COMMUNICATION

“Fields of green”!  That’s a safe word I have with my partner in crime when there is information overload  – it immediately defuses any conflict or triggers and allows the dust to settle a bit to absorb what is important. It also ALWAYS creates a fun way to say “enough for now”. 

I’ve been told there is an article out there somewhere where it’s recommended you “whistle” to stop the flow of conversation…. not sure about that as an approach unless this was to my dog Roxy – but each to their own.

What’s your safe word and do you have one that enables a situation to go back to neutral? 

The overall point of today’s Mojo is a very important one – knowing the right thing to do is one thing – DOING the right thing takes great courage, clarity and calm. We need more of the DOING the right thing.

ANXIETY CREATES INSTABILITY

There are mounting and severe levels of anxiety in our world at present –  that are displayed in a variety of reactions and responses from those around us:– Whether it comes out in peoples impatience when they are driving or in a super market, or just in conversation. – The degree of uncertainty (fuelled by the ever mounting fluffy versions and fear mongering in the news) means that no one is feeling stable and on course.

When anxiety levels are high (for what ever reason) it creates an instability in our thinking, our responses and how we view the world and others. 

Anxiety also has a chemical and very physical effect on our body – which in turn links back to reducing our ability to respond clearly when intellect and emotions are combined. 

​​The smallest thing can garner a rather alarming reaction when people are feeling on edge.

As I add this final episode to the mini #TRUTH series  – I want to reiterate again knowing the truth is not enough, standing up for that is.  Therefore: I want to guide you through actually HOW to do that.

KEEP YOURSELF GROUNDED

I just sent an email out to my private coaching clients, and in particular 6 very remarkable CEO/founders who are jointly responsible when combined for well over $350m worth of revenue between them.

That is a LOT of responsibility not only within their own ecosystem but as a whole for our markets and communities.

I said “this is not the time to sit back and forget your daily rituals, your best practice and to slip back to old programming – now more than ever this is where the rubber hits the road”. 

Time to suit up and look at what we need to do next to ensure their personal and professional rituals and best practice are in place to lead from a place of grounded authentic authority and truth. No Winging It. 

BE AWARE OF WHERE YOU SIT BEFORE YOU ACT

I urge you if you are reading this to be aware of any subconscious shift to be “busy again” overthinking energies and being caught up in a whirlwind of a week and realising that is not an excuse to not be on purpose and slow your thinking down to ensure you are present.

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Part 3 in the Truth Series for Monday Mojo© How to create a safe place for the truth

Are you prepared to hear the truth, provide a safe place for significance of others to share theirs and realise that honouring others truth empowers you to do the same thing for yourself.

Truth is freedom, it provides the real information that others can make their own informed decisions, it provides choice, it takes much less energy than trying to uphold anything else.

Episode 123 The Truth Series Part 2 – How to share and communicate without conflict

Today’s Blog & Video is part 2 in the TRUTH Series

Learning how to share yours with grace and integrity and holding the space for yourself and others.

Often we feel that to be assertive is to be aggressive – however it is not that at all.

The hardest element is really anchoring in your truth and backing yourself when we have spent most of our lives unwittingly waiting for the approval or acknowledgement of others.

This powerful series will guide you through understanding that it is vital to connect with what you feel and need and have those elements as a priority and that by doing so you hold space to empower others to show up in truth as well. To do this you must surrender control over what that may bring, convincing others or trying to manage a situation, person, place or project.

Truth brings liberation if handled correctly and congruently. You may not get the delivery of it right the first, second or third time but it will flow and you will find your grounding and the freedom it brings will be game changing.

Find the light for yourself and it will shine for others regardless.

Here in this podcast and video are 3 simple steps to begin sharing the who, what and why things really matter without conflict.

SHARING YOURS WITH GRACE & COMMUNICATING WITHOUT CONFLICT

Today’s blog and video is part 2 in the TRUTH Series from my Monday Mojo’s – Learning how to share yours with grace and integrity and holding the space for yourself and others.

Grab a quiet spot or a moment and come on this journey with me – it’s worth it.

As I was writing this Mojo, I had to reflect on the many conversations with clients lately around the undoing of programming around truth in communication and that coming into that place took a great deal of courage.

Often we feel that to be assertive is to be aggressive – however it is not that at all.

In actual fact I have some wonderful friendships where the truth is the very best approach. It creates such a sense of respect and demonstrates way more care than avoiding it.  

Truth is not aggressive or pushy. It just is. It does not claim or manipulate. It holds its own energy.

The point is we were never taught to really stay in this space of truth. From a young age mostly were were taught to be ‘good’. To blend in, fit in, people please and comply to some degree or another. We were taught that with truth comes conflict.

Even if you thought you were a rebel chances are you were sticking to a stereotype of that as well. All so exhausting trying to retain the mask….

This powerful series will guide you through understanding that it is vital to connect with what you feel and need and have those elements as a priority. That by doing so, you hold space to empower others to show up in truth as well.

* To do this you must surrender control over what that may bring, surrender the habit of convincing others or trying to manage a situation, person, place or project.

Truth brings liberation if handled correctly and congruently.

* The hardest element is really anchoring in your truth first of all and then backing yourself. Especially when we have spent most of our lives unwittingly waiting for the approval or acknowledgement of others.

TMM122 The Truth Series – Part 1 – How To Discover Yours

In this months series of 3, I talk about the power of truth without confrontation but from a place of clarity and calm.

Why it is game changing when we can learn to discover what our core values and truths are and then feel safe and empowered to stand by those with a sense of peace knowing it’s not about convincing or ‘selling’ and idea to anyone – but those who naturally want to see you shine and be authentic will want you to be your genuine self.

How being in your truth empowers others to be in theirs Why being in truth is better than people pleasing and being “good” Because doing things to be accepted erodes at your self worth and is not a place of love but not not feeling enough.

The 3 pillars to work out what really matters to you and how to sit with that before you worry about having to share it with the “world” and your ecosystem.

Defining Your Truth

Leadership for the world we are in now means there is no hiding. No masks. No excuses on other people or patterns. 

It will demand the best of you more than ever before and in doing so reward you so completely you will wonder why you didn’t fully embrace this change and growth earlier. 

You’ll be reading this because you are a pioneer in some way or another so you’re here for a reason. So let me just reiterate the drivers seat position. Change is not a choice – it’s a chance to really evolve. Lean in. The more you resist it the greater the energy you will loose, the more unrest you will feel and the less your life will flow.

In this series of 3, I talk about the power of truth without confrontation, but from a place of clarity and calm. 

Why it is game changing when: 

a) we can learn to discover what our core values and truths are 

b) then feel safe and empowered to stand by those with a sense of peace knowing it’s not about convincing or ‘selling’ and idea to anyone

c) and those who naturally want to see you shine and be authentic, will want you to be your genuine self

+ How being in your truth empowers others to be in theirs

+ Why being in truth is better than people pleasing and being “good”

+ Because doing things to be accepted erodes at your self worth and is not a place of love but not not feeling enough. 

Phew! That was a bunch of truth bombs just there. 

There is No New Normal – We are Defining Our Own First

Please remember the new world landscape requires us to be conscious of our own actions and decision making frameworks – it is challenging the status quo and former belief systems that built the very foundations which are being torn down one after another at the moment. 

From old family patterns, corporations exposed, leaders spotlighted and our systems and policies being turned upside down.

There is no New Normal as yet. Before we even worry about that we are being urged to take stock, deconstruct old patterns and beliefs and write a new script as leaders for our own lives. 

From truth comes freedom, it takes less energy, is more congruent and provides those around you with choice.

From truth comes a sense of peace and acceptance R...