Do you feel intense guilt after pulling back from a relationship with your mother, even when you know the relationship is harmful? You’re not imagining it, and you’re not doing anything wrong.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we dive deep into why guilt shows up when daughters of emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers begin reducing contact. We explore how internalized obligation, family pressure, flying monkeys, and societal conditioning keep women trapped in abusive dynamics, and why guilt, while normal, cannot be where you stay if you want to heal.

You’ll learn why stepping back often causes your mother’s behavior to escalate, how family members are pulled in to pressure you back into compliance, and why you cannot heal in the same environment that harmed you. This episode validates the guilt while naming the hard truth: unprocessed guilt keeps women stuck in pain, obligation, and self-betrayal.

If you’ve struggled with guilt, anxiety, rumination, or fear after setting boundaries or reducing contact, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening—and why choosing yourself is not selfish.

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You’re not wrong for stepping back. You’re choosing healing.

Do you feel anxious after setting a boundary, like you need to explain, justify, or defend yourself just to keep the peace? If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, over-explaining may feel automatic… but it’s not a communication problem. It’s a trauma response.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we unpack why daughters of emotionally immature mothers over-explain their boundaries, how guilt and fear keep the pattern alive, and what boundaries actually need in order to work, without emotional exhaustion or collapse.

You’ll learn how childhood conditioning, fawning, and responsibility for your mother’s emotions trained you to over-justify your needs, why over-explaining hands your power away, and how to interrupt the guilt spiral that follows setting a boundary. This episode focuses on nervous system regulation, internal rewiring, and reclaiming your right to say no without proving your worth.

If you struggle with people-pleasing, fawning, guilt after boundaries, or fear of disappointing others, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening and how to start breaking the pattern.

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You don’t owe anyone an explanation for protecting your peace.

The silent treatment can feel like torture, especially if you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother. In this episode, we break down why the silent treatment hurts so deeply, what it reveals about the psychology of the person using it, and how to respond in a way that protects your nervous system, your self-worth, and your identity.

You’ll learn how the silent treatment activates old attachment wounds, triggers panic in your body, and reinforces childhood conditioning like over-apologizing, chasing, and people-pleasing. We’ll also unpack how repeated withdrawal and stonewalling can cross the line into emotional abuse, especially when paired with blame-shifting, playing the victim, and using distance as punishment.

From there, you’ll get a clear, practical framework for how to respond without abandoning yourself: you’ll learn how to regulate before you react, name what’s really happening, stop chasing, set calm boundaries, and step out of the control dynamic. We’ll also explore what it means when the silent treatment is a long-term patter, and how to start building an “exit strategy” from the dynamic, even if you’re not ready (or able) to leave the relationship right now.

If you struggle with: feeling like you’re “too sensitive,” walking on eggshells in relationships, collapsing into shame when someone pulls away, or feeling responsible for fixing everyone else’s emotions, this episode will help you see the pattern clearly and start responding from your empowered adult self, not your scared inner child.

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Your worth is not defined by someone else’s silence. This episode will help you remember that and start living from it.

People Pleasing Isn’t Love, It’s Survival Mode Why Saying Yes Feels Safer Than Being Yourself

Do you struggle with people pleasing, over-apologizing, or putting everyone else’s needs before your own, especially with family, partners, or authority figures?

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, host Tandi breaks down the hidden psychology behind people pleasing and explains why it’s not a personality trait, it’s a trauma response known as fawning.

If you were raised by an emotionally immature or critical mother, this episode will help you understand why:

• Saying no feels terrifying
• Disagreement triggers anxiety
• You feel responsible for other people’s emotions
• Your needs feel “too much” or unsafe to express
• Love feels conditional and earned

We explore the nervous system roots of people pleasing, how childhood emotional neglect and criticism shape adult relationships, and why you can’t “just stop” without working with the body, not against it.

You’ll learn:

• What the fawn response is and why it develops
• How people pleasing disconnects you from your true self
• Why it attracts emotionally unsafe relationships
• The link between people pleasing, anxiety, and resentment
• What real healing looks like, without forcing boundaries or guilt

This episode is especially for daughters of emotionally immature mothers who are ready to stop performing for love and start rebuilding safety, identity, and self-trust.

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You are not broken. You adapted to survive. And now—you get to choose something better.

If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, boundaries didn’t keep you safe—people-pleasing did. And somewhere along the way, you started disappearing inside her expectations, her moods, and her guilt trips. This episode is how you stop that cycle… for good.

Today on The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we’re diving into 25 powerful boundaries every daughter needs to protect her peace, rebuild self-trust, and stop being the emotional caretaker in her family system.

You’ll learn:

• The real definition of a boundary (and why most daughters unknowingly try to use boundaries as emotional negotiations)
• The exact phrases that shut down guilt trips, passive aggression, and manipulation
• How to set boundaries around contact, conversations, privacy, holidays, emotional labor, money, and your home
• Why your mother will likely push back and how to hold firm without collapsing into guilt
• The internal shift every daughter must make: you stop trying to earn your mother’s approval

These boundaries aren’t about punishing her. They’re about finally choosing you.

Whether you’re dealing with criticism disguised as concern, the silent treatment, emotional dumping, triangulation, or constant invasiveness, this episode gives you the tools to reclaim your life one boundary at a time.

If your nervous system has been running in survival mode for years, this episode will feel like oxygen.

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If your mom has ever said, “I’m just trying to help” while your stomach drops and your chest tightens… this episode is for you.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down how emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers use criticism disguised as concern to control, shame, and manage their daughters. We’ll talk about why she comments on your parenting, your body, your house, your life choices—and why it never actually feels supportive, no matter how “innocent” it sounds.

You’ll learn the psychology behind this pattern: identity enmeshment, image management, and externalized shame. We’ll walk through the telltale signs it’s not help but covert criticism, what happens when you confront her (hello, “you’re too sensitive” and DARVO), and how to finally trust your body’s response instead of gaslighting yourself.

You’ll also get practical scripts and tools:

• How to tell the difference between real support and control
• Non-engagement, boundary, and exit lines that keep you out of the drama
• Simple nervous-system tools to re-regulate after a triggering comment
• Mindset shifts to stop internalizing her judgment as truth

By the end of this episode, you’ll be able to say: “Her criticism is not a reflection of my worth, it’s a reflection of her unresolved shame.”

Ready to go deeper with this work?

🔹 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit Get grounding practices, nervous-system tools, and powerful scripts for navigating criticism, guilt trips, and emotional manipulation.

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When you go low contact with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, no one tells you what really happens next. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down the real-life reality of what it looks like to set boundaries with a toxic mom—and how it can trigger guilt, escalation, and emotional chaos before peace finally comes.

You’ll learn: 🌪️ Why emotionally immature mothers see boundaries as threats, not limits. 📞 What “low contact” actually looks like in practice—less calls, fewer visits, and more peace. ⚡ How behavior escalates when she realizes you’re stepping back—guilt trips, flying monkeys, and victim narratives. 💔 The hidden emotional cost of protecting yourself (grief, doubt, and family backlash). 🧘‍♀️ How to stay grounded through it all with scripts, affirmations, and support systems that keep you centered and calm.

Tandi also shares her personal story of how going low contact led to gaslighting, guilt trips, and scripture weaponization—and how she learned to hold her ground and heal.

If you’ve ever wondered why protecting your peace feels so painful, this episode will help you understand you’re not the problem—you’re breaking the pattern.

✨ Mentioned in this Episode: → Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit (boundary scripts + emotional regulation tools): www.themotherwoundproject.com

→ Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for live coaching, community, and healing support. → Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session for guidance on navigating guilt and boundaries.

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🕊️ “You’re not cruel for creating distance—you’re courageous for protecting your peace.”

If your mother has ever said, “After everything I’ve done for you…” and you felt your stomach drop, this episode is for you. You’ve spent years being conditioned to keep the peace, avoid conflict, and carry the emotional load for everyone around you. So when guilt trips show up, your nervous system reacts before you even realize what's happening.

In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to recognize a guilt trip in real time, the subtle phrases emotionally immature mothers use to pull you back into compliance, and why your body reacts the way it does. You’re going to learn how to respond without over-explaining, without defending yourself, and without getting sucked into the argument she wants you to have.

This is the moment you start reclaiming your voice. This is the moment you learn, “I’m not responsible for her feelings about my choices.”

What you’ll learn today:

• The most common guilt-trip phrases and why they hit so hard
• How guilt is used as emotional manipulation
• The psychology behind why you freeze, panic, or comply
• Simple responses that protect your peace
• How to stay grounded after the conversation ends
• Why breaking this pattern is key to healing the mother wound

If you’re ready for deeper support, here’s where to start:

👉 Grab the Mother Wound Survival Kit: scripts, tools, and nervous system support to break the guilt cycle.

👉 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle: the 12-month healing container for women who are done carrying generational pain.

👉 Work with me 1:1: hypnotherapy + coaching to rewire guilt, calm your nervous system, and rebuild your identity from the inside out.

Everything is at www.themotherwoundproject.com and daily support is on Instagram @themotherwound.project

In toxic family systems, someone always has to carry the blame, and if you were the family scapegoat, that someone was probably you.

In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi exposes the truth behind scapegoating in emotionally immature and narcissistic families. You’ll learn how mothers offload their shame, guilt, and insecurity onto one child, the truth teller, the sensitive one, the empath, and why you were never the problem.

✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:

• What scapegoating looks like in emotionally immature and narcissistic family systems.
• Why daughters become the “identified problem” or “too sensitive one.”
• The painful psychological effects that carry into adulthood, self-doubt, guilt, and feeling like you don’t belong.
• Real-life examples from Tandi’s story that show how this dynamic plays out in families.
• How to heal from being scapegoated through inner child work, hypnotherapy, and nervous system regulation.

You’ll walk away understanding the psychology behind scapegoating, how to set boundaries with flying monkeys, and the exact tools to reclaim your truth, your voice, and your peace.

💡 Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit → www.themotherwoundproject.com 💫 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for deep healing, coaching, and sisterhood. 💛 Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session to finally release the guilt and reprogram the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck. 📸 Follow on Instagram → @themotherwound.project

🕊️ “You were never the problem—you were simply the one brave enough to see the truth.”

When your mom suddenly becomes sweet, loving, or overly affectionate after an explosion, don’t mistake it for real change. This episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast unpacks the love-bombing cycle used by emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers to fake repair and keep you trapped in confusion and hope.

You’ll learn: 🌪️ What love-bombing really looks like in mother-daughter dynamics. 💔 Why the “calm” after conflict isn’t growth, it’s manipulation. 🧠 The psychology behind the pattern and why it feels so confusing. 💬 How to spot it in real time and protect your emotional boundaries. 💪 Practical tools to stay grounded, respond calmly, and stop being pulled back in.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe she’s finally changing,” only to end up hurt again, this episode is for you.

💡 Resources Mentioned: → Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit for scripts and tools to navigate guilt trips, love-bombing, and emotional manipulation:

www.themotherwoundproject.com →

Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for live coaching, community, and healing: www.themotherwoundproject.com →

Follow on Instagram for daily support: @themotherwound.project →

Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session to rewire guilt and emotional triggers.

✨ “The sweetness doesn’t erase the storm—it’s just part of the weather. Learn to stand tall in both.”