The Motyv Podcast

For men who feel stuck: here’s how to tell if you’re actually growing.

How do you know if you’re actually making progress—especially when it doesn’t feel like it? In this episode, Shaden breaks down the difference between real growth and emotional noise, and gives you practical ways to measure progress without spiraling into shame.

We talk about why progress often feels slow, what to track (and what not to), and how to stay consistent when your results aren’t obvious yet.

In this episode:

• What “real progress” actually looks like (and why it’s easy to miss)
• The difference between growth and perfectionism
• How emotions can lie to you—and what to use instead
• Simple ways to track progress without obsessing
• How to keep moving forward when you feel stuck

Takeaway: Progress isn’t always loud. Sometimes it’s quieter thoughts, faster recovery, better choices, and staying in the fight.

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Men dealing with lust and p*rn are busy and stressed. Time is hard to find, and therapy is hard to afford. The same men also feel numb, infuriated with relapse, and go through an endless cycle of pain and shame. They need tools, but don’t know where to get them. This episode is a deep explanation of the entire Liberate course, built to solve all those problems.

In this powerful episode, men’s mental health expert, Shayden Bertagnolli, explores the profound impact of gratitude on men's mental health. Drawing from personal experiences, biblical insights, and the inspiring story of Holocaust survivor Eddie Jocko, he reveals how focusing on what we have—rather than what we lack—can heal bitterness, strengthen faith, and lead to personal wholeness. The episode challenges men to practice gratitude as a spiritual discipline and a pathway to deeper mental and emotional well-being.

In this episode Shayden Explains a core struggle so many men face — feeling like love has to be earned. That belief creates shame, emotional isolation, and can lead to addiction and self-destruction. But there’s a way back.

My mission is simple: Help men rediscover who they are, heal what’s been hidden, and walk in real freedom. If you’ve felt stuck, numb, overwhelmed, ashamed, or unsure who you’re supposed to be — this is for you.

This episode of the Motyv podcast features Shayden Bertagnolli discussing a therapy session he had with a client named Joe who opened up about his struggles with mental health. Shayden shares Joe's lengthy list of negative and self-defeating thoughts to illustrate how writing them down and vocalizing them can be incredibly liberating. The hosts discuss common issues men face in seeking help, the impact of repetitive thoughts in shaping beliefs, and how finding compassion through shared vulnerability is empowering. Overall it promotes the message that facing inner demons and mental health challenges is made easier by embracing truth and connecting with others who understand.

This podcast discusses how understanding opposites can help overcome problems like anxiety, shame, and a lack of belonging. The hosts explore how the true opposite of anxiety is trust in God, and how vulnerability can help men overcome shame instead of constantly seeking approval. They discuss the importance of vertical principles like belonging to God rather than horizontal fitting in. The hosts encourage developing self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentionally designing routines that promote well-being and meaning over temporary relief or pleasure-seeking.

Shayden interviews his friend Eric Thompson about his experience living with ALS. Eric discusses how his diagnosis has changed his perspective, making him more compassionate towards himself and others. He shares his struggles with loss of independence and maintaining hope in the face of ongoing suffering. Eric emphasizes the importance of living in the present moment and finding gratitude for what he can still do. The discussion explores themes of masculinity, serving others, and the balance between strength and gentleness.

In this episode, the speakers discuss their daily routines and the importance of small disciplines in building structure and focus over time. They explore the relationship between busyness, worry, and avoidance, emphasizing the need for self-care, rejuvenation, and downtime. The speakers share personal strategies for prioritizing family, work, and rest while maintaining boundaries. They encourage listeners to reflect on what truly matters and find solutions rather than dwelling on problems.

Shayden and Blake sit down and talk about the new direction of the Motyv Men program.

 In this episode, Shayden Bertagnolli sits down with his friend Erik Thompson to have an open and honest conversation about Erik's experience living with ALS. Erik shares powerful insights he has gained about finding meaning through hardship by focusing on gratitude, acceptance and living in the present moment. He discusses the lessons he has learned about relationships, toughness and embracing life's challenges. This raw and emotional discussion provides perspective on making the most of each day and finding happiness even in the face of adversity.