The Motyv Podcast

This episode of the Motive podcast features Shayden Bertagnolli discussing a therapy session he had with a client named Joe who opened up about his struggles with mental health. Shayden shares Joe's lengthy list of negative and self-defeating thoughts to illustrate how writing them down and vocalizing them can be incredibly liberating. The hosts discuss common issues men face in seeking help, the impact of repetitive thoughts in shaping beliefs, and how finding compassion through shared vulne...

This podcast discusses how understanding opposites can help overcome problems like anxiety, shame, and a lack of belonging. The hosts explore how the true opposite of anxiety is trust in God, and how vulnerability can help men overcome shame instead of constantly seeking approval. They discuss the importance of vertical principles like belonging to God rather than horizontal fitting in. The hosts encourage developing self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentionally designing routines that p...

Shayden interviews his friend Eric Thompson about his experience living with ALS. Eric discusses how his diagnosis has changed his perspective, making him more compassionate towards himself and others. He shares his struggles with loss of independence and maintaining hope in the face of ongoing suffering. Eric emphasizes the importance of living in the present moment and finding gratitude for what he can still do. The discussion explores themes of masculinity, serving others, and the balance ...

In this episode, the speakers discuss their daily routines and the importance of small disciplines in building structure and focus over time. They explore the relationship between busyness, worry, and avoidance, emphasizing the need for self-care, rejuvenation, and downtime. The speakers share personal strategies for prioritizing family, work, and rest while maintaining boundaries. They encourage listeners to reflect on what truly matters and find solutions rather than dwelling on problems.

Shayden and Blake sit down and talk about the new direction of the Motyv Men program.

In this episode, Shayden Bertagnolli sits down with his friend Erik Thompson to have an open and honest conversation about Erik's experience living with ALS. Erik shares powerful insights he has gained about finding meaning through hardship by focusing on gratitude, acceptance and living in the present moment. He discusses the lessons he has learned about relationships, toughness and embracing life's challenges. This raw and emotional discussion provides perspective on making the most o...

In this episode, licensed therapist Shayden Bertagnolli delves deeply into the nuances of shame and how it can hold men captive. He discusses shame as an emotion, a state of being, and a thought process ("shaming") used to falsely atone. Shayden offers insight on how shame becomes a lens through which many men view themselves and the world. He challenges listeners to become aware of shame and shaming in order to break free from its grip. Shayden also announces an intensive year-long program t...

In this episode, hosts Shayden Bertagnolli and Blake discuss how resentment and blame can hold people captive in unfulfilling relationship patterns. They guide listeners through an exercise of identifying the benefits of resentment and the disadvantages of accountability and empathy. Their goal is to help listeners gain insight into their own resentments so they can be liberated from those unhelpful patterns.

In this episode, Shayden shares lessons from a men's group discussion about trusting God's timing for healing past wounds. He encourages listeners to slow down and experience God's love and presence now rather than waiting for full healing. Shayden challenges people to thank God for miracles not yet received and to consider what differences their lives would show if miracles occurred.

Shayden Bertagnolli hosts a discussion on betrayal trauma with Sadie and Phyllis. They discuss the impact of betrayal such as infidelity or pornography use on relationships from the perspective of women. Key topics include common feelings and messages women internalize after betrayal, the difference between simple and complex trauma, rebuilding trust over time, and finding hope through focusing on personal healing and choosing to make the relationship work if both partners are willing.