The Nitty Gritty

Today Schell and Danielle invite you into a conversation about conversations. Every day we have "Crucial" Conversations". Join us as we discover healthy tools to communicate clearly and fight well in our relationships.

Crucial conversation: a crossroads or defining moment with a given topic. Having a crucial conversation guided by the Holy Spirit builds the bridge between you and the other person who feel worlds apart in your perspectives. When we feel divided, God can use these conversations to bring freedom.

Biblical references by topic:

Scripture:

Possible ways to fight well:

1. Perspective- we are FOR each other

2. Forgive first.

2. Ask good questions.

3. One thing at a time.

4. Possibly write a letter before a conversation to get all your emotions and thoughts out first to see what's important. DON'T give the person that letter.

5. If a letter is helpful to send, write another letter with grace and prayer to discern if its beneficial to send.

6. Neutral 3rd party mediator

Quotable moments:

"It’s not our responsibility to change people, its our responsibility to obey God." -Danielle Kazarian

Join Schell & Danielle in Season 3 as we discuss Jesus in the here and now.

What does it look like to grieve, be angry, experience sadness and joy, hope, or the myriad of emotions God's way?

What does it look like to draw closer to Jesus and those walking with Him as we experience these hard circumstances?

What does God's Way say about how we feel?

Hint: How we feel is not who we are.

What happens in the middle space between acknowledgment and moving forward?

Scripture

Psalm 31:9- "Be merciful to me, Lord, for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief. (NIV)"

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭30‬:‭5‬ “Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning. (‭NASB1995‬‬)”

‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭53‬:‭3‬-‭5‬ “He was despised and forsaken of men, A man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; And like one from whom men hide their face He was despised, and we did not esteem Him. Surely our griefs He Himself bore, And our sorrows He carried; Yet we ourselves esteemed Him stricken, Smitten of God, and afflicted. But He was pierced through for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; The chastening for our well-being fell upon Him, And by His scourging we are healed. (NASB1995)”‬‬

Resources:

Book- Untangle your Emotions By: Jennie Allen

Song- Joy In the Morning By: Tauren Wells

On this episode of The Nitty Gritty, Danielle Kazarian encourages us that the best way to stop feeling out of control is actually giving up our need for it. 

Revival-wholeness-a restoration to health

Key Scripture:

Ezra 9

Additional Scripture References:1 Corinthians 6:19 “Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God?

Phil 4:6 "...through prayer and supplication, the peace of God will transform your heart and mind in Christ Jesus..."

Nahum 1:13 “I will break the yoke from your neck and tear your shackles away. “

Isaiah 10:27 “I will tear off their bonds…”

Isaiah 42:7-9 “I will free captives from prison and release those you sit in darkness.”

Galatians 5:1 "...for whom the Son sets free will be free indeed"

God's Refining Fire will:

1. Burn down

2. Refine

3. Warm and comfort

4. Be a tool to light the way for others

Call to Action: 2 Chronicles 7

1.  Cry out to the LORD: Crying out to God in desperation is a great place to start your journey to wholeness. "If my people will humble themselves"-surrender your will to His sovereignty.

2.  Pray: "and pray"-talk to God, recognize your chains and acknowledge what keeps you in bondage, let him burn down those idols

3.  Supplication: "Seek my face and turn from their wicked ways"- If we’re going to turn from sin, we need to turn toward something. “supplication”-to hit the mark, to turn your face toward Jesus and God’s Word is hitting the mark.

4.  Open His Word: (see scriptures above)

 “Jesus already broke the chains that keep you in bondage. It’s up to you to step out of them.”-Danielle Kazarian

-First time the Bible talks about Gods character is in EXODUS 34:6NLT “The Lord passed in front of Moses, calling out, “Yahweh! The Lord! The God of compassion and mercy! I am slow to anger and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness. “ This is His debut of his character, and he chooses compassion first! 

-John 8:1-11- ADULTEROUS WOMAN

-Ezekiel 33:11-TPT ”“Say to them, ‘As surely as I, Lord Yahweh, exist—I take no delight in the death of the wicked, but I delight in seeing them turn from their ways so they can live. So, repent and turn from your evil ways. People of Israel, why would you want to die? Turn and come back to me!’“ 

-Psalms 145:8-9 TPT -” You’re kind and tenderhearted to those who don’t deserve it and very patient with people who fail you. Your love is like a flooding river overflowing its banks with kindness. God, everyone sees your goodness, for your tender love is blended into everything you do. EVERYONE SEES! Not just the individual you are showing compassion to. The crowd of witnesses too 

-Galatians 6:2-3 TPT- Love empowers us to fulfill the law of the Anointed One as we carry each other’s troubles. If you think you are somebody too important to stoop down to help another (when really you are not), you are living in deception. 

-Hebrews 4:14-15 MSG” Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but sin. So, let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take mercy, accept the help.

 -Psalm 40:1-3 TPT “I waited and waited and waited some more, patiently, knowing God would come through for me. Then, at last, he bent down and listened to my cry. He STOOPED down to lift me out of danger from the desolate pit I was in, out of the muddy mess I had fallen into. Now he’s lifted me up into a firm, secure place and steadied me while I walk along his ascending path. A new song for a new day rises up in me every time I think about how he breaks through for me! Ecstatic praise pours out of my mouth until everyone hears how God has set me free. Many will see his miracles; they’ll stand in awe of God and fall in love with him!“ 

-Psalm 116: 1-6 TPT “I am passionately in love with God because he listens to me. He hears my prayers and answers them. As long as I live I’ll keep praying to him, for he STOOPS down to listen to my heart’s cry. Death once stared me in the face, and I was close to slipping into its dark shadows. I was terrified and overcome with sorrow. I cried out to the Lord, “God, come and save me!” He was so kind, so gracious to me. Because of his passion toward me, he made everything right and he restored me. So I’ve learned from my experience that God protects the vulnerable. For I was broken and brought low, but he answered me and came to my rescue!“ 

 -Luke 23:28-43 NLT- JESUS GOING TO THE CROSS 

-Philippians 2:3 Be free from pride-filled opinions, for they will only harm your cherished unity. Don’t allow self-promotion to hide in your hearts, but in authentic humility put others first and view others as more important than yourselves. Abandon every display of selfishness. Possess a greater concern for what matters to others instead of your own interests. And consider the example that Jesus, the Anointed One, has set before us. Let his mindset become your motivation. “ 

-John 13:7-8 NLT - JESUS WASHES DISCIPLES FEET

-Colossians 3:12-14 MSG “So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It’s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.“ 

Join Schell and Danielle as they wrap up season two of The Nitty Gritty Podcast-discussing the spiritual discipline-Sabbath.

Key Scriptures:

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭4‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭TPT‬‬

“Those who first heard the good news of deliverance failed to enter into that realm of faith’s rest because of their unbelieving hearts. Yet the fact remains that we still have the opportunity to enter into the faith-rest life and experience the fulfillment of the promise! For God still has ordained a day for us to enter into called “Today.” For it was long afterwards that God repeated it in David’s words, “If only today you would listen to his voice and do not harden your hearts!””

‭‭Hebrews 4:6-7 ESV

“Since therefore it remains for some to enter it, and those who formerly received the good news failed to enter because of disobedience, again he appoints a certain day, “Today,” saying through David so long afterward, in the words already quoted, “Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts.””

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭12‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭NASB1995‬‬

“Therefore, since we have so great a cloud of witnesses surrounding us, let us also lay aside every encumbrance and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

Quote:

“True rest is happening when we pause regularly amid dailyy routines to sort out the truths and commitments by which we are living.” Gordon MacDonald- ordering Your Private World

Podcast:

Fight Hustle, End Hurry-John Mark Comer Jefferson Bethke

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fight-hustle-end-hurry/id1480300467?i=1000456787959

Bible app devotional:

@YouVersion plan 'Sabbath - Living According to God's Rhythm'

https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/28812

Reflection Questions:

Join Schell & Danielle as they discuss the Spiritual Discipline that is commanded many times by Jesus-Prayer. Good News: You can pray confidently because Prayer is NOT about YOU. Prayer is communion with your Creator.

Scriptures Mentioned:

Matthew 7:24-29- Prayer is a command, Jesus says, "put into practice".

Matthew 12:34- "...For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks. (NKJV)"

1 Peter 5:7- "Cast your cares on Him..."

Matthew 6:9-13 NIV-

9 “This, then, is how you should pray:

“‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name,10 your kingdom come, your will be done,    on earth as it is in heaven. 11 Give us today our daily bread.12 And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.

Matthew 5:44-45 NASB1995-

"44 But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may [⁠a⁠]be sons of your Father who is in heaven; for He causes His sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous."

Scriptures By Topic:

Types of prayers- 1 Timothy 2:1

Definition Link

Pray at all times in the Spirit verse- Eph 6:18-20

Jesus makes intercessions for us- Romans 8:34

Don’t pray on the corner for everyone to hear you-Matthew 6:5 

Quotable moments:

“Prayer is not powerful, the God we pray to is powerful.” -Danielle 

"We are trying to play God when we decide to pray a certain way. Holy Spirit is going to do what Holy Spirit is going to do." -Schell

"If we are really praying to God, through His Spirit, we don't need to worry about confusion. God won't create confusion...We need to remove the fear from prayer. The more we say yes to God privately, the more readily we will say yes publicly." -Danielle

“Expectations say, 'God I’m asking this and you’ll perform XYZ.' But expectancy says, 'I don’t know how you’ll do it, but I know you are good and you will take care of this.”' 

-Schell

LIES people believe about prayer:

"I'm not good at it."

"I need to say the right things."

"I need to fill the space."

"If I pause to think, it's not from God."

"Prayer needs to sound different with kids so they can understand."

"I need to pray differently with unbelievers."

"God's Word says to not pray in front of others, and only pray to myself."

"If I pray out loud it will give the enemy power over my thoughts."

"My prayers need to always sound different."

Resources:

Book- ⁠⁠The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry ⁠⁠ By: John Ortberg 

Podcast- ⁠⁠⁠The Daily Grace Podcast⁠⁠⁠- It’s all about God it’s not about us. They talk about prayer too! 

Quote- "We are all being formed by something." -Pastor Shane Carrol

Different types of prayer:

Join Schell and Danielle as they continue the discussion with guest co-host Cole Williams in Pride Part 2. They explore God's word and uncover that if we know how much love God has for us, we won't operate out of insecurities, trying to be better, comparison__the place that desires to be affirmed.

Scripture:

Scriptures by Topic:

Jesus' Compassion

Going straight to Jesus

Armor of God

What God says about you-Identity

Plans

Pride (NIV)

Practical ways to turn from pride:

1. Sit with Jesus

2. Praise-list God's qualities, put on worship music

3. Gratitude-start listing what you're thankful for

4. Ask-Who can I pray for?

5. Reach out-to a friend or a stranger; make eye contact with another human and get outside yourself and into the present moment.

6. Look up various versions of the above verses on pride

Scripture prayed:

Quotable Moments:

"If you don't feel seen, see someone else."-Danielle

"The more we understand our identity in Him, these qualities of pride will diminish. You won't function out of a place of insecurity, you'll function from a place of affirmation and validation."-Cole

"When you get outside yourself, you'll watch the chains break off!"-Schell

Join Schell and Danielle as they welcome guest co-host, Cole Williams. In this episode we discuss the faces of pride and the simple ways we can shut the voices off that want to puff us up or tear us down.

Cole's ministry Word for words: "seeing words in 3-D"__defining words God's way for a deeper understanding

P-ersonally 

R-esisting 

I-dentity

D-epending on

E-ternity

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P-ersistently

Scripture:

Proverbs 16:18-

Scripture through topics:

Die to self-

Luke 9:23- "Then he said to them all: 'Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me."'

God with us-

Matthew 1:22-23- 22"All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: 23 “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel”[a] (which means “God with us”)."

Marriage-Two become One8 and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

Longing for belonging misplaced

Psalm 84:2

"My soul longs, yes, faints for the courts of the Lord; my heart and flesh sing for joy to the living God. (ESV)"

Matthew 5:6-

Join Schell and Danielle as they activate the Armor of God teaching us to pray Ephesians 6:13-18:

13 Therefore, take up the full armor of God, so that you will be able to resist in the evil day, and having done everything, to stand firm. 14 Stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 in addition to all, taking up the shield of faith with which you will be able to extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

18 With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints, 

Additional scripture:

Join Schell and Danielle as they explore what scripture has to say about spiritual warfare and discuss how do I know if it's a battle or just hard circumstances?

Key Scripture:

Ephesians 6:10

Terms:

See Strong's Concordance via⁠ BibleHub.com⁠ for further study of these terms that were mentioned

Flesh-our physical body or human nature (physically or morally) and its frailties and passions

Blood- other people

principalities, powers...-the character of Satan and his demonic forces

world forces- current time period in history

Topics through scripture:

Scriptures prayed:

Quotes:

Bill Johnson-

Timothy Keller- "The first step to putting on your armor is humbly surrendering your will to God's."

Book-

Armor of God- By Priscilla Shirer

Fervent -By Priscilla Shirer- "...hands-on, knees-down, don't-give-up action guide to practical, purposeful praying."

Song-

Surrounded By Michael W. Smith- "This is how I fight my battles..."