You can't make another person responsible. If you're trying, you're likely doing it wrong. Here's why and how you can do better.

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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman

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The family systems concept of symmetry can help you observe and even predict patterns of functioning in a relationship system. It can also point toward where to find answers about system anxiety.

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Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman

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Relationship systems get stuck when surrounding togetherness pressure makes it difficult for people to disagree. Here's what that looks like and how non-anxious leaders can create a culture of healthy disagreement.

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Emotionally Intelligent People Use a Brilliant 2-Word Phrase to Speak Up and Get Results by Justin Bariso

Solomon Asch Conformity Line Experiment Study by Saul Mcleod, PhD

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What do you do when you respond to another in ways that are hurtful? This episode shows that you can not only repair the relationship, you can make it better.

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Becky Kennedy: The single most important parenting strategy | TED Talk

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Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like.

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Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen Smith

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Nobody lives in a vacuum. Surrounding togetherness pressure influences people in both negative and positive ways. Here’s how you, as a leader, can use it to make things better.

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The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life by Eric Barker

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Leadership through self-differentiation is counterintuitive. Here are five evidence-based reasons why it’s effective.

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5 insights from behavioral science that can make you better at influencing others from Fast Company

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

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A paradox in leadership is that we think we can control more than we actually can. This leads to micromanaging, which is more damaging than helpful. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation is different and more effective.

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How to Solve the Leadership Paradox | Inc.com by David Finkel

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The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

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Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.

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The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family.

Show Notes:

Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Daniel V. Papero.

Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website.

Check out the FREE Family Systems 101 Course.

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