In this episode, I chat with Jiveny Blair-West. Jiveny is a Dating & Attraction Coach whose mission is to help people navigate the modern dating scene with more clarity and insight. In particular, her passion lies with relationship education and empowering the next generation of parents to love better.
Her ultimate goal as a coach and relationship mentor is to empower people to navigate the modern dating scene with confidence and insight, so they can make better decisions, waste less time with the wrong people, find true love, and avoid the heartbreak of divorce.From her leafy home office, Jiveny works one-on-one to help people attract a healthy, sustainable and passionate relationship with a quality partner - someone who brings out the best in you (and you in them).
Jiveny is also the author of the upcoming book How to Make The Biggest Decision of Your Life: Unlocking the secrets to a healthy, lasting relationship co-written with her psychiatrist & relationship therapist father.
If this episode brings up any issues for you, then please contact Kids Help Line on 1800 55 1800, Lifeline on 13 11 14 or Relationship Australia on 1300 364 277 or visit their website at http://www.relationships.org.au/
Jiveny's Socials and Website:
Website: https://jiveny.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jivenyblairwest/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jivenyblairwest
Some interesting points and topics of our chat.
Minute 10:14: Jiveny talks about not trusting people when she was younger and not necessarily having much trust in others, but how her travels help with that.
Minute 11:42: Some of the keys to a great relationship
Minute 12:45: Having mutual respect and having time invested in a friendship reciprocated.
Minute 13:27: Knowing how/when someone respects you.
Minute 14:21: The 5 Love Languages https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
Minute 17:02: Vulnerability that builds connection. Knowing the difference between offloading the dramas of our world vs asking for help when it’s needed.
Minute 19:04: Different stages of friendship.
Minute 22:59: Boundaries, trusting our gut feelings and sensations that might come up when you feel like a boundary is being crossed.
Minute 25:26: People Pleasing, what that is and what it looks like.
Minute 26:38: Accepting ourselves flaws and all. It’s our imperfections that make us loveable and relatable.
Minute 28.52: Making friends & building relationships when you actually find it really difficult.
Minute 30.46: Healthy romantic relationships. Find someone who you can be yourself around and who gets you. It often doesn’t work when we are trying to ‘impress’ people we want to date.
Minute 32.20: Remember that others do just want connection, fun and to feel understood. Mutual Respect.
Minute 33:40: Sex and reflecting on how when we can stay true to ourselves and not rush into anything we are not ready for, that in itself is more attractive than doing it ‘just because’ others your age are.
Minute 34.49: You might find you make longer term connections when you do things at your own pace.
Minute 36.32: The relationship you have with yourself is the longest relationship you will have.
Minute 38:00: Value your relationships.
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