The Open Nesters

Buckle Up and Strap On (S5 | E202) Two Sex Educators, One Goal – Give Us All The Opportunity to Expand Our Sexual Horizons

In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, Amir and Tessa introduce the concept of “open nesting,” redefining the experience of becoming an empty nester as an opportunity to embrace new adventures, relationships, and passions in the third act of life. They dive deep into the topic of sexuality and personal growth, bringing back an exciting encore from Season 2 featuring sex educators Reed Mahalko and Allison Moon. This episode is distinctly aimed at adults, marked by its frank and humorous take on topics often laden with societal stigma.

Reed and Allison bring their expertise in sexual education to the conversation, shedding light on the notion that sex is a normal part of life, rather than something to be shamed or hidden. Their approach intertwines humor and education as they share insights into kink, submission, and other facets of sexuality. The duo’s dynamic interaction paints a vivid picture of their partnership, which works to break down barriers and normalize conversations around sexual exploration, especially for those in their later years.

EPISODE TIME CODE 1:16 A Humorous Encore Episode 2:25 Exploring Sexuality and Relationships 8:16 Workshops and Presentations 10:16 Understanding Pegging 15:38 Evolving Sexual Desires 29:44 Embracing the Journey of Growth Allison Moon, AuthorAllison Moon is the author of five books including the critically acclaimed sexual education guide Girl Sex 101 (Goldie Award for Nonfiction, Rainbow Award), Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex, and the erotic memoir Bad Dyke  (Publisher’s Weekly Starred Book). Allison is a popular sex educator, leading workshops on sexual pleasure and technique, polyamory, LGBTQ+ issues, and more. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and the Washington Post. Her other writing includes articles for Bustle, and stories for the RISK! podcast, Bawdy Storytelling, and various anthologies.

Allison was a 2011 Lambda Literary Emerging LGBT Authors Fellow. She has a degree in Neuroscience from Oberlin College. Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada.

Reid MihalkoReid Mihalko (He/Him) of ReidAboutSex.com, Relationship10x.com, and Sex10xOnline.com helps adults and college students create more self-esteem, self-confidence and greater health and satisfaction in and out of the bedroom using an inspiring mixture of humor, keen insight, and comprehensive sexual health information.

Using humor, insight and solid information, Reid appeals to audiences of all orientations, backgrounds, ages, and identities. He speaks pragmatically to nearly all areas of sexual self-expression, intimacy, dating and relating. Reid’s mission is to give men and women new tools to transform their love lives into fulfilling, satisfying, and sustainable expressions of self.

The episode explores personal stories and experiences, with both Reed and Allison sharing their journeys into the realms of sex and relationships. Reed recounts how his upbringing shaped his views on intimacy and communication. Meanwhile, Allison discusses her early days in sex education, targeting queer women and navigating her own evolving identity and desires. Both emphasize the importance of finding pleasure in exploration and learning without the pressure to conform to societal expectations.

Listeners are encouraged to engage in difficult conversations about their desires, especially those that arise as they enter new stages of life. The hosts emphasize that it’s perfectly okay to explore and question established norms. They advocate for an understanding that sexual pleasure does not have to be limited by age or by past experiences. Both Reed and Allison emphasize the beauty of the “beginner’s mind,” urging listeners to see the value in being new to experiences, especially later in life.

The episode also tackles the complexities faced by monogamous couples who wish to delve into polyamory or kink. Reed and Allison provide practical advice on navigating these waters while ensuring both partners feel safe and respected. They point out that it’s essential for individuals to understand their own boundaries and preferences, which may shift over time.

Listeners are left with tools and strategies to empower them in their journeys, whether in the context of romance, sexuality, or self-discovery. The conversation flows with laughter, warmth, and an openness that inspires listeners to embrace their own journeys without shame. As the episode wraps, both Reed and Allison highlight that it’s never too late to explore sexuality and connection, encouraging everyone to find joy in their evolving selves.

This episode is an invitation for those entering the open nesting phase to reclaim their vitality, explore their desires, and engage in meaningful conversations that can lead to newfound pleasures and deeper connections. Resources for You We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:

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In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve deep into the incredible journey of resilience and growth through immense tragedy with our guest, Audrey Carlson. A mother, grandmother, and a source of inspiration, Audrey shares her poignant story of navigating profound loss while cultivating a life filled with gratitude and purpose. We explore the concept of open nesting—embracing the freedom and opportunities that come in the later stages of life rather than viewing it as a transition into emptiness.

Audrey opens up about the tragic murder of her 24-year-old daughter, Elizabeth, which occurred nearly two decades ago. Through honest reflection, she discusses the lasting impact of this loss on her family and how they have chosen to respond with love and strength. Instead of allowing grief to define them, they have cultivated space for healing and ongoing connection, affirming their commitment to each other during their darkest days. Audrey emphasizes that healing is a continuous process, accentuated by her mantra of choosing happiness as a conscious decision—an approach she adopted after extensive personal reflection and therapy.

As we dialogue, Audrey reveals the transformative power of gratitude in her life. She acknowledges that, despite the heartache, she finds herself surrounded by blessings each day. Her journey leads her to become a lifelong learner, where she actively engages in personal development and initiatives that uplift others. She founded the Happiness Club, a supportive community dedicated to exploring positive psychology, reinforcing her belief that happiness can be cultivated and shared.

Throughout our conversation, we also touch on the importance of emotional resilience and the mindset needed to navigate life’s challenges. Audrey recalls her own experiences with cancer and her unwavering faith throughout the process. Her insight into healthcare collaboration, particularly with her daughter, who works in the medical field, invites listeners to understand the deeper connections that can emerge from adversity.

Audrey shares vital lessons on listening, the delicate balance of nurturing versus fixing others, and the importance of allowing individuals, especially our children, to solve their own problems. We uncover her approach of leading by example rather than through words alone, revealing how her daughter, Leslie, has embraced the values she instilled, creating her own legacy of care and compassion for others.

The episode culminates with powerful reflections on nature, personal growth, and the necessity of self-care. Audrey emphasizes the significance of dedicating time to one's own happiness and the role of community in fostering a supportive environment. With insights from notable thought leaders, like Dr. Bernie Siegel and the philosophies shared within the Happiness Club, Audrey encourages us all to trust the process of life and find joy amidst our trials.

This episode is a testament to the power of resilience, love, and faith in the face of unimaginable loss. Tune in for an inspiring discussion that challenges the notion of emptiness, inviting all to embrace the fullness of life available in the act of open nesting.

In this episode, we revisit a compelling conversation with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a prominent sex therapist and author of "Open Monogamy." I had the distinct pleasure of discussing the dynamic landscape of relationships, particularly the concepts of polyamory and open relationships, and how they can lead to deeper happiness and fulfillment for some individuals, especially women. Dr. Nelson provides insightful perspectives on the evolving definitions of monogamy and emphasizes that non-monogamous arrangements are not for everyone, but they warrant discussion and exploration.

Dr. Nelson shares her personal journey, revealing how her experiences as a therapist over 35 years have informed her understanding of relationships. As we discuss her latest book, I encourage her to define "open monogamy," which she describes as a commitment to a primary partnership that allows for flexible relationships with others. This concept reframes traditional ideas about monogamy, acknowledging that the landscape of love and intimacy has significantly changed, particularly over the past few decades.

We delve into the societal shifts that have led many couples to reconsider their relationship structures. Particularly striking is Dr. Nelson's observation that women have increasingly taken charge of their sexual and relational needs, often acting as gatekeepers in discussions around opening relationships. This dynamism contrasts with previous eras where non-monogamous arrangements frequently involved secrecy and deception.

Dr. Nelson describes various exercises from her book that can help couples navigate these conversations openly. She explains how foundational honesty and integrity are to any relationship, and she urges couples to examine what monogamy means to them, emphasizing that definitions may vary greatly. Each couple's journey is unique, filled with opportunities for enhancing intimacy and connection through open dialogue about desires and boundaries.

Our enlightening discussion also touches on the age-related dynamics accompanying open relationships. Dr. Nelson categorizes couples into two groups: those experiencing a resurgence of vitality in their relationships as their children grow older, and younger couples rediscovering their identities apart from familial obligations. She elaborates on how these life stages often prompt individuals to seek new experiences, which can lead to fulfilling open relationships.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Nelson highlights the importance of transparency in navigating fears about non-monogamy. She encourages listeners to engage in "what-if" conversations that allow couples to explore potential scenarios and their emotional repercussions proactively. By setting boundaries rather than rigid rules, couples can create a more fluid understanding of their relationship agreements, fostering exploration while maintaining emotional safety.

As we conclude our conversation, Dr. Nelson offers to share a complimentary ebook containing starter questions for those interested in opening discussions about their relationships. Her insights encourage listeners to embrace curiosity and vulnerability, reminding us that evolving needs in relationships require periodic reassessment and open communication.

This episode serves as a platform for exploring the intricate details of modern relationships, inviting listeners to reflect on their own paths and consider possibilities beyond traditional norms. The conversations around open monogamy open avenues for understanding and expanding love, prompting couples to engage deeply with each other as they navigate the changing tides of intimacy in their lives.

In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, Amir takes the reins to share his personal journey regarding aging and dating as he reflects on turning 70. He expresses both excitement and a touch of nervousness at the prospect of hosting an episode solo for the first time. With Tessa, the usual guide and producer, cheering him on, Amir dives deep into the emotional landscape of aging, unveiling his transition from fearing his age to embracing it.

As Amir recounts his experiences leading up to his 70th birthday, he reveals a transformative year filled with introspection. At the cusp of this milestone, he faced existential questions about mortality that loomed large. However, as he approached the day, those fears slowly morphed into a profound sense of gratitude for the life he has lived and the person he has become. This newfound joy isn't just a product of age; it’s a reflection of deeper relationships and a blossoming creativity, both personally and professionally.

Throughout the episode, Amir candidly shares insights into the world of dating as an open nester, especially in a time when societal norms around love and relationships are evolving. He recalls his experiences navigating dating apps, detailing both the challenges and the humorous realities of attempting to connect with others. Amir’s reflections on dating as a senior highlight a significant shift; he discusses the changing dynamics in dating culture, noting a marked increase in older adults seeking romance and intimacy online.

Amir also addresses the loneliness that often accompanies aging and how the dating landscape can provide a remedy for those feelings. He sheds light on statistics revealing that many adults over 65 are single and open to fulfilling new relationships, debunking the misconceptions tied to companionship in later life. Challenging the narrative that dating is primarily for younger individuals, Amir discusses how open nesters light the way for how love can flourish at any age.

Further, Amir shares anecdotes from his own past, including a memorable dating ad he placed in New York Magazine back in 1988, which generated an overwhelming number of responses. He reflects on the different social norms of dating in his youth compared to today’s swipe culture. As he revisits memories of handwritten letters and face-to-face connections, he contrasts them with the impersonal nature of modern dating apps, inviting listeners to appreciate the depth of connections fostered in previous generations.

As he concludes his reflections, Amir offers advice for listeners who may be hesitant to venture into the dating scene again. He encourages embracing one's age with confidence, emphasizing that each year brings wisdom and valuable experiences that contribute to being a more interesting partner. Urging open nesters to be bold in their pursuit of love, he advocates for honesty and authenticity when presenting themselves to potential matches.

With clarity and warmth, Amir inspires listeners to seize the potential of their next chapter, reminding them that true connections can happen when courage meets opportunity. This episode serves as a heartfelt reminder that age should never be a barrier to exploring love and companionship, indeed reshaping the empty nest into an open nest filled with possibilities.

In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive deep into the transformative journey of redefining what it means to be an open nester, guided by the insights of Dr. Bill Thomas and his daughter Jude Thomas. We explore the multifaceted dimensions of aging, tackling the misconception that this stage of life is marked solely by decline. Instead, we present it as an opportunity for growth, adventure, and enrichment in every aspect of life, including relationships, spirituality, and creativity.

Dr. Thomas, an influential figure in geriatric medicine and the founder of the Eden Alternative, shares how his life's work has been driven by the belief that aging can be seen through a positive lens. Rather than managing decline, he encourages us to cultivate environments where growth and vitality can flourish. Together with Jude, they reflect on personal experiences that shaped their understanding of elderhood, including the poignant lessons learned from their daughters, who have navigated life with extraordinary challenges. Their stories emphasize the wisdom acquired through love, adversity, and the uncompromising value of each moment.

As we discuss what it means to embrace the open nesting stage, we reflect on the joys of discovering new passions and redefining relationships. The hosts, Amir and Tessa, share their personal narratives of how this transition allows for creative expressions—be it painting, writing, or music—while fostering deeper connections with people of various ages. Dr. Thomas highlights the importance of playfulness and intentionality in our lives, encouraging listeners to explore interests that reignite joy and curiosity previously overshadowed by obligations.

The conversation also tackles significant topics such as anti-ageism and the necessity for a cultural shift in how society perceives the aging process. By sharing practical insights based on decades of collaborative work in elder care, they prompt reflections on how we can create supportive communities that recognize the vitality of older adults while breaking free from conventional, limiting narratives. 

Lastly, there's an invitation for listeners to engage with this idea of creating a life filled with purpose and openness. Whether it's through cultivating friendships across generations, exploring new hobbies without hesitation, or participating in ecstatic dance, the message is clear: this chapter of life is filled with potential and creativity. 

Tune in as we unravel these inspiring ideas, challenge societal norms about aging, and celebrate the open nester lifestyle—proving that life, in all its complexity, remains rich with possibility.

This episode features an enlightening conversation with Shakti Sundari, who shares her transformative experiences as a single mother and her journey into self-discovery and conscious dating. Living in Glastonbury, UK, Shakti brings a unique perspective on parenting, relationships, and personal growth after dedicating over twenty years to teaching sexual and spiritual awakening for women. As her children have grown into young adults, she embraces her transition into a new phase of life, emphasizing that the empty nest is not a void but a space of endless possibilities.

Shakti and I delve into the intricacies of relationships between parents and adult children. She refers to her children as her "soulmates," highlighting their deep bond formed through conscious communication and radical honesty. This dynamic has fostered an environment where both her son and daughter feel comfortable giving and receiving advice. Shakti describes their relationship as unconventional yet fulfilling, asserting that open dialogue has helped them navigate the complexities of life, including the challenges she faces in the dating world.

Throughout our discussion, Shakti opens up about experiencing disappointment in dating, specifically her recent encounter with ghosting. She shares the emotional rollercoaster that ensued after an encouraging date turned into silence, leading her through a process of examining her feelings and allowing herself to experience heartache without judgment. By integrating somatic practices and self-inquiry techniques, Shakti emphasizes the importance of being present with our emotions, allowing them to flow rather than suppressing them.

As she reflects on her journey, Shakti encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability as a strength in dating and relationships. She introduces the concept of "dating as devotion," suggesting that each encounter offers a chance to cultivate love, awareness, and connection both with oneself and with others. This perspective invites individuals to engage genuinely, shedding self-consciousness and fear, and instead, living fully in the moment with open hearts.

Our conversation also addresses the prevalence of ghosting in modern dating and the need for greater honesty and communication. Shakti emphasizes the importance of understanding one's feelings, processing them with compassion, and striving for emotional transparency in relationships. This approach not only benefits personal growth but enhances the overall quality of connections we forge with others.

The episode culminates in Shakti's passionate plea for cultivating more love and awareness in the world. She offers insight into her writing journey and the resources available through her blog, where she shares personal experiences and reflections on intimacy and relationships. Shakti envisions a community of individuals willing to redefine their narratives around love and connection, ultimately contributing to a kinder, more understanding world.

Listeners are invited to explore Shakti's work through her website and Substack, where she shares her thoughts on dating, embodiment, and personal empowerment. This engaging conversation serves not only as a testament to Shakti's journey but also as an inspiring call to all to embrace the fullness of their experiences, learn from them, and connect more deeply in this phase of life known as Act 3.

As children leave the home, parents often find themselves at a new life stage, ripe for rediscovering themselves and their relationships. This is the essence of being an "open nester," a mindset that embraces new adventures and possibilities in love, intimacy, and connection. Sumati, our guide, highlights the importance of releasing outdated beliefs and societal programming. She encourages a deeper understanding of personal desires and the freedom that can come with exploring consensual non-monogamy. Sumati carefully distinguishes between open relationships, swinging, and polyamory, dispelling common misconceptions and emphasizing the potential for deeper emotional bonds.

Sumati shares her personal journey from traditional monogamy to engaging in ethical non-monogamy, detailing transformative moments that shaped her approach and insights. She addresses the crucial skills needed to navigate jealousy, insecurity, and the inevitable triggers that can arise when expanding relationship boundaries. Through real-life examples, including a case study of a couple seeking to enhance their intimacy while exploring outside connections, she illustrates the gradual and intentional process of transitioning into alternative relationship structures.

Listeners will gain valuable advice on creating a safe space for honest conversations between partners. Sumati emphasizes the significance of understanding each other's emotional responses and allowing space for discomfort. This approach fosters greater intimacy and cooperation, ensuring both individuals feel heard and respected. She provides practical steps for couples considering an open relationship, including initiating non-sexual encounters with potential romantic interests to gauge emotional readiness.

The episode concludes with a thorough discussion of self-awareness and communication. Sumati guides the audience through exercises designed to help partners articulate their needs and boundaries, reminding us that vulnerability is a strength when opening up to new experiences. For those considering this new phase in their relationship, she encourages reflection on desires and suggests coaching or counseling as supportive resources.

Whether you're exploring the idea of open relationships or simply seeking deeper intimacy with your partner, join us as we navigate the exciting, sometimes challenging, terrain of love in later life, guided by Sumati's expertise and warmth.

Bella Brooks: How Divorce Led to Self-Discovery and Open Relationships (S5 | E195)

[Tessa]

In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve into the transformative journey of open nesting and the richness of personal relationships with Bella Brooks, a sexuality educator and intimacy coach. Bella shares her compelling story of rediscovery following her divorce in 2017, which became a pivotal moment that propelled her into exploring her identity as a part-time empty nester. This experience opened a new chapter in her life, leading her to embrace polyamory and to learn how to navigate relationships as part of her journey towards self-discovery.

TIME CODE4:56 Navigating Post-Divorce Life 13:49 Trust and Vulnerability in Relationships 29:50 Parenting and Role Modeling 39:50 Embracing Opportunities in Act 3 We explore how Bella’s shift in dynamics, especially post-divorce, laid the groundwork for her to redefine intimacy, connection, and pleasure. She discusses the benefits of engaging in diverse relationships that allowed her to “speed date herself,” thus gaining clarity on her personal desires and boundaries while also considering the emotional impact on her now-adult children. Bella sheds light on how she balanced co-parenting with a nesting arrangement, providing continuity and stability for her children during a significant family transition.

Much of Bella’s transformation stems from her commitment to sexual education and empowerment, which she undertook through an extensive program to become a certified sexuality coach. This educational journey deepened her understanding of intimacy and strengthened her connection with herself, ultimately benefiting her romantic and familial relationships. We discuss how she has always embraced a sex-positive approach with her daughters, emphasizing the importance of open dialogue about sexuality, which contrasts with her upbringing. Through sharing stories and insights, Bella advocates for teaching young individuals about healthy relationships and the significance of body autonomy.

A significant part of our conversation also revolves around the challenges of intimacy, vulnerability, and communication in relationships. Bella provides valuable insights into her practices around consent and boundaries, stressing the importance of fostering an environment of safety and trust in romantic and platonic interactions. Techniques such as “hugging till relaxed” and guided improvisational games help establish deeper connections between individuals, promoting emotional vulnerability in a safe setting.

Furthermore, Bella introduces the concept of cuddle parties, where participants engage in consensual, platonic touch, creating a space for healing and connection. This emphasis on touch, she argues, is crucial in our increasingly isolated world and serves to alleviate stress and anxiety. Our dialogue expands to consider how this practice not only benefits individuals but also enhances relationships by encouraging authentic communication and reducing the societal stigma surrounding touch.

As we conclude, Bella reflects on her current chapter in life and her new romantic relationship, emphasizing the sacred devotion that characterizes this bond. She highlights the significance of modeling openness and authenticity for her children, reinforcing the idea that adults can continue to learn, grow, and reimagine their lives even in Act 3. The conversation resonates with a broader message: open nesting is about embracing change and fostering connections that enrich our lives.

Listeners eager to engage further can connect with Bella via her website, where she offers resources on relationships, intimacy, and the joys of open nesting. This episode promises to inspire those navigating similar journeys of self-exploration and personal growth in their relationships.

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How to Celebrate Your Hot Flashes (S5 | E194) Beyond the Hot Flashes: Embracing the “Open Nester” Life Through Menopause and Beyond

[Tessa]

Welcome back, Open Nesters! Tessa here, and I’m thrilled to take you on a journey revisiting one of our most impactful episodes to date: Episode 33, where we dove deep into the often-misunderstood world of menopause. This conversation was truly special, and it resonated with so many of you, so I felt it was essential to bring some of those powerful insights back to the forefront.

Our incredible guests for that episode were none other than Bridget Garrett and Colleen Rosenblum from the fantastic podcast, “Hot Flashes and Cool Topics.” Their candor and wisdom truly illuminated the crucial need for open dialogue around menopausal changes – topics that, for far too long, have been shrouded in societal taboo.

TIME CODE7:48 Reinventing Ourselves 10:33 Embracing Happiness 18:14 Changing Cultural Norms 29:10 Celebrating Midlife Achievements 37:35 The Role of Men in Menopause From Empty Nest to Open Nest: A New Chapter Unfolds

One of the beautiful threads woven throughout our discussion was the concept of transitioning from “empty nesters” to “open nesters.” It’s more than just a phrase; it’s a mindset shift that invites new adventures, strengthens relationships, and fosters incredible personal growth in our later years.

Bridget and Colleen beautifully articulated their personal journeys through motherhood, sharing how their children’s growing independence has, in fact, created more space for them. Space for self-care, for pursuing personal interests, and for simply being. They passionately emphasized a point we can all take to heart: prioritizing ourselves isn’t selfish; it’s a vital act of self-empowerment in midlife. It’s about recognizing our own needs and giving ourselves permission to flourish.

Dispelling Myths and Finding Your Voice: The Menopause Conversation

Of course, we didn’t shy away from the more sensitive subjects surrounding menopause. We confronted common misconceptions and the emotional challenges so many women face. Our guests were a powerful reminder that menopause is a significant life event that deserves recognition and resources, which are often woefully lacking.Through their own experiences and conversations with various experts, Bridget and Colleen are on a mission to dismantle the stigma. Their message is clear: find your voice, advocate for your health, and never feel alone in this journey.

Redefining Visibility: Embracing Age and Defying Stereotypes

A particularly poignant part of our conversation touched on the concept of invisibility that can accompany aging, especially for women. This can profoundly influence our self-perception and societal roles. Bridget shared so passionately how she and Colleen have actively sought out and uplifted overlooked narratives of women in their 50s and 60s. They’ve highlighted empowering stories of those who are defying ageist stereotypes and carving out incredible new paths for themselves.

This really drives home a core belief of “The Open Nesters Podcast”: menopause is not an endpoint. It’s a significant milestone that can open doors to new opportunities, reignite old passions, and spark entirely new ones.

The Power of Connection: Podcasting and Community

It was truly inspiring to hear Bridget and Colleen recount their own journey into podcasting. They spoke of the immense joy and continuous learning that comes from engaging with an incredible array of women who are actively reshaping their lives in midlife. Our discussion illuminated how countless women are taking charge of their narratives, reinventing themselves as entrepreneurs, authors, and advocates. This is a testament to the incredible strength and resilience that defines women in this vibrant phase of life.

Through their podcast, “Hot Flashes and Cool Topics,” they’ve made it their mission to normalize conversations around everything from mental health challenges during menopause to the crucial importance of sexual health care. Bridget and Colleen’s enthusiasm for sharing insights from their interviews is infectious, and it’s clear their platform has cultivated a vital community where women can feel less alone and more understood.

Stay Curious, Stay Open: A Vibrant Vision for the Future

As we wrapped up that enlightening episode, we emphasized the importance of remaining curious and open-minded as we navigate this exciting stage of life. Both Bridget and Colleen stressed that this period should not be marred by preconceived notions or outdated ideas. Instead, it should be celebrated as a time where women can truly thrive, explore new facets of their identity, and foster connections with like-minded individuals.

Their passion for empowering women to embrace their age and life experiences truly reflects a vibrant and inspiring vision for what it means to be an open nester. It’s about growth, discovery, and connection, no matter where you are on your journey.

What were your biggest takeaways from Episode 33, or what aspects of menopause and midlife are you currently navigating? Let’s keep the conversation going!

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[Tessa] In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive into the transformative journey of aging gracefully while embracing our sexuality and vitality. As open nesters, we explore the notion that life is full of possibilities beyond the constraints of a traditional empty nest. Our guest, Dr. Carol Remz, an inspiring 80-year-old author, shares her rich insights from her critically acclaimed book, “The Best Sex Ever After Menopause.” We discuss the myriad ways women can reclaim their sensuality after significant life changes such as menopause, chronicling both the challenges and the revelatory experiences along the way.

Dr. Remz candidly recounts her own sexual awakening during her 40s when she remarried and faced the reality of perimenopause, leading to difficulties such as low libido and vaginal dryness. She emphasizes that sexual pleasure is not narrowly defined by conventional intercourse, but rather encompasses a spectrum of experiences that can foster connectivity and joy. This redefinition opens up conversations about intimacy and communication that resonate deeply within our lives.

Throughout our conversation, Dr. Remz highlights important scientific research that shows how our brains evolve during pivotal life stages, including menopause. She discusses the work of neuroscientists who illuminate how transitions like puberty, pregnancy, and menopause can enhance emotional intelligence and self-awareness. This reshaping of our mental framework encourages women to embrace their new identities, deriving confidence and pleasure from age-related changes rather than viewing them as losses.

A significant point of our dialogue revolves around the notion of erotic aging. Dr. Remz elaborates on how women can ignite their sexual energy, which may simmer down as hormones decline. She identifies plant medicines such as sea buckthorn and even cannabis as potential allies in reigniting a woman’s sexual vitality and combating discomfort during intimate moments. The conversation challenges societal norms that often silence discussions around aging and sexuality, inviting listeners to expand their understanding of pleasure at every stage of life.

We also touch on the significance of self-exploration and masturbation as key components of sexual health, providing women with essential tools to reclaim their bodies. Dr. Remz encourages women to cultivate self-love and confidence through personal exploration, reminding us that pleasure doesn’t solely arise from another person but significantly from within oneself.

In addition to her personal narrative, Carol shares practical takeaways for enhancing intimate relationships, including the importance of open communication and vulnerability with partners. She urges listeners to view aging not as a decline but as an opportunity for growth and reinvention, fostering joy and connection in both their physical and emotional lives.

We want to provide you with support and many many resources for your own Open Nesting Journey. Our resource page has so much to offer as does our private discussion group on Facebook about queerness and other topics of interest:

Open Nesters Resource Page

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