If the thought of anybody having happiness in a relationship pisses you off, you are not ready to choose someone or to be in a relationship with someone. If you're triggered by certain gestures or words or people saying, "hey, I can't come Friday"... I have something else going on and you think they're planning to lie about what they said they're doing you're not ready to choose.

The reality is so many of us are not ready to choose to be in relationships with other people or have sexual exchanges with other people and we bury it down deep and we put on this front like we're ready.

1. Take time with yourself
2. Be honest about your healing 

• 3. Who told you to hurry up?

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How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals? 

We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…

This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…

You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…

You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?

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How can you tell when you’re working against your needs, values and morals?

We knew better…was it love? Was it pride? Was it trying prove you had someone to others? Sometimes it’s self hate…

This person has shown/ told you by now emotionally, verbally or indirectly if they long term or short term what they want to do…

You chose to stay… is it your low standards?…

You know that you are working against your needs, when you feel ignored. What you want is never in motion. What they want is a given. How they want to be treated… easy. What about you tho?

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The Rest...

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 I would love for relationships to be as easy as I think it...Thats not real life.

The things that become uncomfortable after that breakup…

• Emotionally your just exhausted
• The shame you might feel remembering what you did that you shouldn’t or what you said
• You get irritated with other people because your mad at yourself, the situation

LETS BE REAL !!! YOUR ADDICTED TO LIFE WITH THIS PERSON !!!

You are actively working off a high, because its really setting in that… thats not your person anymore.

Stop listening to those old memories. The uncomfortableness is also the times where you knew better, the realization that they were right about some things they said in arguments… you really have self work to do, will you do it?

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Last bit.

Part 3

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Still At it.

Part 2

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Do I even want to feel feelings again? Right now? At all?

Too many ppl become okay masking “ I’m okay” or “ I’m over it”… if you aren’t… okay. if is okay to feel ya feelings, because if not now when? When are you gonna address what you need to come to terms with?

How did you come up with this?

• Hurting people
• Getting hurt & feeling how others have felt
• Getting sick of myself 
• Having a daughter
• Realizing that men don’t have “safe spaces” to heal

... My best was reserved and locked tf away. PRESERVES!!!!

What did we realize? 

The Inner Fight: 

Do I even wanna get better just to try this bs again?

Will I know when to pull out faster next time!?! 

Short answer no. Long answer: ain’t no short cuts in real bonding with ppl. Either you try or you die never knowing. 

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Part 2:

Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel....

Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become...

What did we realize? 

The Inner Fight: 

Do not mix up kindness, understanding and good intentions with they want me back !!!

1. Is it high effort?
2. Do they try to get physical with you in a more than friends way?
3. Do they contact you after hours on purpose, or demand your attention when they know you are working?
4. Did they tell you straight up, I want to be with you, im doing xyzzy, I love you and im going to put in the effort to show you?
5. Are they avoiding seeing other people and ask if you are dating or not?

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We back, Spring has Sprung. Hope yall good.

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Once a person spent months - years learning how to please you… it becomes addicting. You may have the same friends, or be around each others family... you might need to not show up to certain events if they are there. You cant think about doing anyone else, cuddling up with anyone else or going out to eat with anyone else. A lot of times how you bypass the fact that yall broken up is selfishly thinking about how good this orgasim might feel.... Guess what? you are now soul tied to a person who is not healthy for you and who you want to become.

-Reasons Why Dick Never Solves the issue? How does your Aint Shitness Work To your advantage? What does that do to the psyche?

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