The Pam Carey Show

By Pamela Carey

Each Monday we will dive into ideas big and small: from psychology to philosophy, and from economics to fitness. Each episode is designed to spark curiosity and connection. The goal is to explore a

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March 20, 2025 Improve Focus and Productivity & Get ACTUAL time OFF with the ON and OFF Rule
Have you ever finished a LONG workday without much to show for it? One reason for this is being stuck in a "productivity limbo state" where you are in between working and relaxing. You may start to get a task done and then check a text. You then get back to work and then find yourself reading a news article soon after. A few more minutes of work then you are watching a video on social media. You end the day tired AND feeling like you didn't get much done because you didn't have any true focus or true rest. In this episode we discuss this phenomenon and a policy we can set with ourselves that may hold the solution.
🔑 The ON or OFF rule💡

Links mentioned in this episode:
Channel on ADHD: https://www.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD
Cal’s work shutdown routine - I believe he wrote this in 2009 the blog says so it likely has changed some over the years in terms of systems but the principles would stay the same: https://calnewport.com/drastically-reduce-stress-with-a-work-shutdown-ritual/
More on the Pomodoro technique: https://www.todoist.com/productivity-methods/pomodoro-technique
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March 09, 2025 If Your Life Feels Empty and Repetitive… Here are 9 Reasons Why
If you have been feeling like something is missing lately - like a spark or a sense of excitement. Or if your life feels lacking in meaning -- empty, or dull. This episode dives into these feelings. I share a story about going through this recently and the 9 reasons I found this to be the case through exploration - with potential action steps.
1) Purpose -- not just having one but working it into your day to day life and routine
2) No longer putting off being full IN life until we get "there" - some place in the future - and within this setting more authentic goals vs goals rooted predominantly in ego
3) Checking in with our habits - are they fueling us or draining us? Within that, specifically checking in on certain habits such as health.
4) Reflecting on being vs consumption.
5) Checking in with our categories of life - and creating this list together if you have never done so.
6) Adding more fun, play, wonder, and appreciation.
7) Do we have adequate amounts of community, time around people, and close relationships
8) Journaling on what else could be at play - for example is comparison the root of these feelings?
9) Taking action.

Links and resources:
Video referenced about purpose and if something is missing in your life part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8fe4tpkA2s
If you feel you keep putting off life and pushing the goalpost further and further: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mbI_HfHjUMQ
More on the Thích Nhất Hạnh "I have arrived" quote: https://www.stillwatermpc.org/dharma-topics/i_have_arrived_i_am_home/
Video on listening to and caring for your body: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lwq1X1kX38s&t=2s
Ali Abdaal short version of the video on what would this look like if it were fun? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPo5yrry6nw
Awe and wonder podcast episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2XamHh9zCpoeJRq4SQUL6U
Artist way video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nUYBsmnwXI8
Building Community video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcTkM4g9uaU
If you relate to living through fiction at times - episode on Book Hangover: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ljPjvDskPWo
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February 28, 2025Do you feel very sad after finishing books or shows? On Reclaiming Purpose and Connection in our own Lives- On "Book hangover"
Have you ever finished a book or show and felt an overwhelming wave of sadness—like you’ve just lost a friend or left a world you loved behind? That’s book hangover (which can also happen with TV shows)—an emotional cocktail of grief, longing, and nostalgia that can hit harder than we expect.
In this episode, we explore:
Why stories leave such a lasting emotional imprint and why they feel so real to our brains
How living vicariously through fictional worlds can reflect a deeper longing for purpose or meaning in our own lives
The bittersweet experience of saying goodbye to characters and worlds we grew to love

Whether you’re reeling from a fantasy epic or mourning the end of a favorite series, this episode unpacks the emotional weight of book hangovers and why they resonate so deeply with many.

If you’ve ever felt this way, drop a comment or shoot me a DM or message on my website with the book or show that left you with a story hangover—I’d love to hear your picks!

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Show notes / resources:
article on experience of it and some on the brain: https://www.rd.com/article/book-hangover/
video referenced on "If you feel like something is missing in your life" - a video on purpose - https://youtu.be/G8fe4tpkA2s
Video referenced about how we can each make a contribution even when that feels hard at times: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9-uuzUHxUUc

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February 21, 2025 How to listen to your body & tune in to what it needs
In this episode we are discussing how to listen to the cues your body is sending you, so that you can care for it. Your body will often tell you exactly what it needs -- and hearing this, and acting in accordance with what it needs, is a skill we can grow. If you have a hard time knowing if you are hungry or full, if you have a hard time motivating yourself to eat well or meditate, if you have a hard time resting, or other forms of self-care this podcast episode is for you. I have been a personal trainer and health coach working with clients in NYC for over 10 years and this is what I do for a living. We will go over several examples and exercises so you can start applying these principles today. Would love to hear from you in the comments - what are your thoughts on this topic? Thanks for listening!

Book I wrote on this subject: Fit Intuition: Listen to Your Body and Never Diet Again - https://www.amazon.com/Fit-Intuition-Listen-Never-Again/dp/1735920509

Video version of the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lwq1X1kX38s

Podcast can be found at these links:
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4NMMtC7Y6nTy5Gnf6BSLpH
Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-pam-carey-show/id1732129494

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February 13, 2025 If you feel behind in life - it's not too late (free verse)
In this free verse poem, I explore the feeling of being "behind in life" and the frustration of missing opportunities, while talking about something that happens to all of us - missing the bus. But what happens when we stop chasing the past and start embracing what lies in front of us now? Life isn’t linear, and sometimes the most meaningful growth comes from missed chances, detours, and the lessons learned along the way. Even though we may feel too late, there’s always another opportunity ahead—sometimes one that’s even better for us. Through this poem, I encourage you (and it serves as a reminder of what I need to remember too!) to release regret and embrace another path, no matter where it takes us. Join me in exploring what it truly means to be here and now, without the weight of “what could have been.” Themes in this video: self-reflection and growth, letting go of perfectionism, embracing the present moment, overcoming regret, and finding hope after missed opportunities.
Video version will be posted here - https://youtu.be/qCx1qS0iYks
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February 06, 2025 Overcoming Procrastination: Stop holding yourself back
This episode is for anyone struggling with procrastination and feeling stuck in their own life. If you know what you want to achieve but keep putting it off—hitting snooze on your goals—this is for you. We'll explore practical ways to overcome procrastination including many journaling prompts, and start turning your big dreams into actionable steps. Grab something to write with as we ask powerful questions to help you tap into your intuition, break free from analysis paralysis, and finally take action on your biggest goals this year. It’s time to stop waiting, stop over-planning, and start moving forward with clarity and purpose. I've been in that limbo-land before, and these are my thoughts on how to shift your mindset and reclaim your motivation.
Video version of the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/N2E7T1BgEww

Related but different take on the topic (the top one is a blog post but the rest are videos):
A blog post on acceptance of fear: https://www.pamcarey.com/post/overcome-fear-and-go-for-what-you-truly-want
If perfectionism is what is holding you back: https://youtu.be/vNB2x1ULLec?si=R_LyvptpvHryUiOY
If regret is holding you back: https://youtu.be/l4InI2MzEEQ?si=OQhO9EGmgQ6008d5
How to say yes to your mission: https://youtu.be/hYpOFVmFKBs?si=UWHtYGko4onkc9A5
How to start writing even if you are afraid: https://youtu.be/HOuA64KRUl0?si=dnd-eCYk-cFjCeGF
Why our goals are harder than we think they will be: https://youtu.be/7vFFkWr_2r4?si=F30JuItb9ROY3jA9
If you are stuck daydreaming: https://youtu.be/Gy_bO-xC6dc?si=y3BPJq9lG1RAtD8B

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January 30, 2025How to grow community: Why we feel lonely and disconnected
In this episode, we explore how to build community and address why so many of us feel isolated and disconnected today. We dive into the concept of the atomization of society—how the traditional webs of connection have been broken—and discuss the so-called loneliness epidemic. Is it caused by increasing social isolation, or are we just more open about our feelings now?
Key topics we cover include:
The loss of the third place and its impact on community
How consumerism, capitalism, and individualistic cultures contribute to disconnection, featuring insights from sociologist and philosopher Zygmunt Bauman, writer Oliver Burkeman, and many other thinkers - both linked below and discussed in the episode
The crucial link between community and mental/physical health
And many practical strategies to create and foster connection in your life
Join us for an in-depth conversation about rebuilding meaningful community and finding belonging in today’s fragmented world.

YouTube version of the episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DcTkM4g9uaU

Show notes links, citations, and attributions: :
I want to give credit to the YouTube channel AfterImage linked here: https://www.youtube.com/@After_Image/videos for their work from this linked video that I shared a quote from - thank you for your breakdown of the atomization of society through this story - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yx2C1rmjXpo
Article about collective action being needed vs individual actions: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2021/aug/23/big-oil-coined-carbon-footprints-to-blame-us-for-their-greed-keep-them-on-the-hook
Braver angels - brings people together across the political divide: https://braverangels.org/
Oliver Burkeman’s book Four Thousand Weeks: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/fourthousandweeks
Are we more lonely these days or simply discussing it more? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lonely-not-alone/202305/are-we-really-lonelier-than-ever
Thread on liquid modernity - a bit different than what I discussed here but what I discussed was inspired by this: https://www.reddit.com/r/sociology/comments/kfz38b/liquid_modernity_discussion_in_first_comment/
Short on social isolation cycle and fear: https://youtube.com/shorts/5VocqKKTyyY?si=nFAYv09Ud-aSHFbt
This is not the original video I watched on people living together in community but it is just as good so here it is! https://www.youtube.c
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January 23, 2025 UPDATE new topics we will cover here and new YouTube Channel
In this episode we discuss some additional topics that will be discussed on the podcast now from economics to sociology, from technology to the environment and more. This is somewhat of an update / housekeeping episode but it also has the first episode of a new YouTube channel I launched baked into it.

New YouTube channel on these broader topics: https://www.youtube.com/@ContemplationsOnTheInternet

YouTube channel on psychology related topics: https://www.youtube.com/@PamelaCarey

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January 16, 2025 How to put your work into the world: Conquer perfectionism
Here we will discuss how to actually finish work and "SHIP IT" - in the words of Seth Godin. So many of us hide behind revision after revision. Or we start a project and completely abandon it because it does not meet the standards we had in our minds. Or we do finish it and polish it but then it sits in a desk drawer. In this podcast we will discuss how to actually put your art or business ideas into the world - even if you feel nervous to take that step.

Also! Announcement - I will be posting here on the podcast every Thursday now. See you in a week!

New YouTube Channel on external / macro ideas (most of these will also be posted on the podcast in audio format but in case you ever like to see the visual components as well)
https://www.youtube.com/@ContemplationsOnTheInternet

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Podcast with Adam Grant and David Duchovny referenced in this episode
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/worklife-with-adam-grant/id1346314086?i=1000654720827
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October 16, 2024 You are so much more than your beauty: a free verse poem to women
I wrote this free verse poem because when I was 22 I feared getting older. Society makes us feel as women, that we will lose our value, or have less to offer as we age. But the older I get the more I see the opposite is true. I hope this helps some women lean into the idea of getting better over the years. Would love to hear your thoughts on this idea in the comments where you are listening if the app allows or on the YouTube channel here https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pf1CrsE5lo
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