The Partnership Podcast

In this sizzling episode of The Partnership Podcast, Lauren and Trey candidly explore the art of initiating sex in short-term to long-term relationships.

They kick things off with a hilarious tale from their own lives, recounting the time when a misguided attempt at sexual initiation went hilariously awry in their basement - a story you won't want to miss! Lauren also challenges the popular concept of the 5 Love Languages, arguing that everyone deserves each. The duo delves into the delicate subject of handling rejection and shares insights for when your partner turns down intimacy.

As the conversation unfolds, Lauren reveals her resistance to "Hurkle-Durkle" time on average mornings, shedding light on the 200-year-old Scottish term meaning to lounge in bed long after it's time to get up.

The episode concludes with a thought-provoking discussion on initiating sex in casual dating and between friends with benefits. Lauren and Trey explore the nuances of asking questions even in the context of a booty call, leaving listeners with valuable insights into the complexities of human connection and desire. Tune in for an episode that's equal parts laughter, vulnerability, and wisdom on The Partnership Podcast!

Listen to the hilarious basement story here: https://youtu.be/ItoI4w02tjk?si=kz9zjyCof_NMdLp4

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Join Lauren and Trey in Episode 61 of The Partnership Podcast as they dive into the viral video that's been making waves in both of their online communities. Female Pro Golfer, Georgia Ball, finds herself being "mansplained" by a stranger while she films a practice session. (Here’s the LINK!) Lauren and Trey share their perspectives on this incident and her chosen response - shedding light on the broader issues of gender dynamics and the plight of “being polite.”

Trey opens up about his own experiences on the golf course, recounting similar encounters and the challenges he's faced. Meanwhile, Lauren reflects on the feelings of fear and terror she has experienced when speaking up against unwanted attention by male identifying people in social spaces, drawing parallels to the golf course incident.

In the latter part of the episode, Trey takes on a coaching role as he guides Lauren through a question-asking technique to empower her during solo journaling sessions at her favorite local bar. The duo explores effective ways to assert oneself and navigate uncomfortable situations, providing listeners with valuable insights and strategies for handling challenging interpersonal dynamics. Tune in to Episode 61 for a candid and empowering conversation on navigating unwanted attention on the golf course or at the bar!

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

In this episode of The Partnership Podcast, hosts Lauren and Trey invite listeners into the intimate realm of their relationship as they recount the steamy playtime that unfolded upon Lauren's return from Washington, DC.

In this episode Trey surprises Lauren by diving deep into the lingering stigmas that heterosexual men often grapple with when it comes to seeking therapy. Together, they question generational patterns that have perpetuated the notion that seeking help is a sign of weakness.

Lauren and Trey shed light on the importance of giving partners the space they need to process emotions and challenges that arise during a private counseling session. They explore how breaking free from stereotypes, like crying, can lead to healthier relationships and personal growth.

As the conversation unfolds, they tackle traditional masculinity norms that hinder open communication. In a hilarious twist, Lauren takes on the role of "Dan" and asks Trey about the barriers he fears will get in his way if he too seeks help. This role-play segment adds a hilarious touch to the discussion, allowing listeners to giggle while grasping the very serious struggles that many men may encounter.

Join them they challenge preconceptions and encourage a new era of openness and self-care. Discover the power of breaking down the invisible barriers that hinder heterosexual men from embracing the transformative benefits of therapy. It's time to redefine masculinity!

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

In this scintillating episode, join Lauren and Trey as they invite listeners into the intimate realm of their long-term partnership. Delving deep into the dynamics of Longing & Anticipation, Violating Prohibitions, Searching for Power, and Overcoming Ambivalence, this episode unveils the secrets behind their enduring passion by exploring the profound influence of Jack Morin’s Four Cornerstones of Eroticism.

After a recent sexual encounter that felt slow, nurturing, and wonderful, Lauren and Trey decided to categorize the different types of sex they have in order to help you (and enjoy some shared laughter!)

This episode is a quickie, but we hope it titillates you in all the right places.

These are the categories they came up with, what would you add?

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own!  Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

TW: Spanking as child abuse.

They knew immediately that they could have done better. Episode 55 is a play-by-play of how a momentary problem turned into so much more. Watch or listen to hear how Lauren and Trey each take accountability for the individual roles they played in this brief conflict.

Trey shares how a resiliency check-in led, by Lauren speaking the words, “Jelly-Bear,” would have helped to dismantle the entire misunderstanding BEFORE it happened. They each expound on what this soft word means to them and how it would have helped them coregulate and love one another more fully.

Lauren shares an intimate memory of abuse from when she was 13-years-old; and how by demanding blind obedience, she was robbed of opportunities to practice how to disagree and argue from a place of respectful agency. She asks Trey if they can renegotiate this traumatic memory through play this week and he enthusiastically agrees.

They both discuss how, at times, forging new neural pathways can feel like tremendous work and the temptation to throw in the towel can be HUGE, but they end this episode encouraged by the ways they each are growing THROUGH these challenging opportunities.

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock

Episode 54 is a follow-up to Episode 53! Make sure you listen to that HERE. Trey and Lauren dive right into the concept of anxiety as a form of sexual arousal. This is directly connected to Jack Morin’s Erotic Equation: ATTRACTION + OBSTACLE = EXCITEMENT.

Lauren talks about how it turns her on to have sex when other people are somewhere in the house. Trey surprises her by sharing that the spicy sexual encounters they have in public spaces are because SHE is aroused by the sneakiness, NOT because it is enticing to him. This shocks her and is precisely why we should have these conversations with our partners!

Trey explores the sexual benefits of creating a life that allows him the freedom and space to be turned on. He expounds on why he has eliminated porn this week to allow more space for sexual arousal. Lauren smiles, and at minute 9:58 says her favorite phrase, “We turn ourselves on.” Our desire for our sexual partners has so little to do with them and so much to do with us!

Trey talks about protecting Lauren’s space to come into her sexual body and Lauren segways into the concept of desirability. She shares that it’s important to cultivate a life that makes us FEEL DESIRABLE - even our friendships and the types of fun we have outside of the home affect the sex we have. She shares that she gets really turned on thinking about Trey’s choice to begin therapy and the meditation practices he makes time for daily.

At minute 16:15 they unpack their game changing practice of Nightly Check-Ins that includes just two simple questions. “Any ouches today? What brought you joy today?” This modality has given them so many new tools! Lauren was never given permission to have opinions of her own, and this tool of sharing an “ouch” has given her a new and playful tool to express her own voice and thoughts. Trey wants her to share her opinions and this gives her a way to do so! No more appealing here. Watch at minute 24:00 as Trey directly addresses partners whose first instinct is to say things like, “stop being ridiculous.” He questions traditional households where men are in charge simply because of their gender.

They close out Episode 54 discussing the 2023 “Peace on Earth” Christmas Card trend. Lauren shares why she feels this joke is harmful and disgusting. Trey shares how jokes like this don’t even deserve our time or opinions.

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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠

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Happy Holidays! Lauren and Trey kick off this episode with a long conversation about arousal and erections! Lauren gives a quick anatomy lesson - sharing what IS and is NOT normal for a penis in a sexual encounter! Then they accidentally stumble into a hilarious discussion about porn, film sets, and fluffers. When Trey expresses doubts that fluffers even exist, Lauren gets SO embarrassed. It’s worth the watch for sure.

After normalizing different levels of “hardness” and the various things that can lead to lack of an erection, Lauren and Trey discuss the role of attraction and the wisdom of our bodies that we may sometimes be ignoring, just to get laid.

Trey tells of a few sexual encounters where an erection was hard to maintain, but as he likes to say, "sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good."

They discuss the critical importance of hygiene in sexual encounters and reveal Lauren’s lack of love for showering! Trey asks her if there’s anything on his body that can repel her, and Lauren admits that a scratchy 5-o’clock shadow or bad breath can be a big turn off.

Trey shares that if his feelings have been hurt, his penis is not going up, after Lauren asks him if there’s anything she’s ever done to turn him off emotionally. They then explain that they do not have a transactional sexual relationship in which either of them is required to “drop trou.” Lauren rounds out the topic sharing that criticism is a major turn-off for her, because it makes her question her own comfort in her own skin.

After spending the majority of the podcast discussing arousal of the penis, Lauren spends a few minutes describing what a lack of arousal can feel like in the vulva and in the body of the vulva owner. She describes the most recent time she experienced dry mouth while in a sexual relationship she should have left.

They close out this episode talking the smallest bit about vaginismus and dyspareunia, but that conversation will be continued next week!

If you would like to learn more about sexual arousal and response, click here to request a FREE 15-Minute Consult today! www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult!

Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator.

Looking to expand your own sexuality education in the new year? Check out Lauren's monthly membership program, HEMLOCK. At only $10 a month you'll have access to the tools you need to begin to reclaim your sexuality for yourself!⁠ https://sexedforyou.com/hemlock ⁠

Want to make your own podcast? We cannot recommend Spotify for Podcasters enough. Visit⁠ https://podcasters.spotify.com/ to launch your podcast today.